Average age of marriage for physicians

This forum made possible through the generous support of SDN members, donors, and sponsors. Thank you.
SilverCat said:
You can't use one example and claim that this is the case most of the time. It depends upon the people in the marriage.
Click to expand...

I think it's a valid concern when one partner makes significantly more than the other, or is significantly more educated. The main problems are the feelings of superiority/inferiority that will develop. The side with more money will start to think of themselves as superior, "above" the other person. The side with less money will wonder what the other person is doing with them.

People would do best to date and marry within their socioeconomic status.
 
HughMyron said:
I think it's a valid concern when one partner makes significantly more than the other, or is significantly more educated. The main problems are the feelings of superiority/inferiority that will develop. The side with more money will start to think of themselves as superior, "above" the other person. The side with less money will wonder what the other person is doing with them.

People would do best to date and marry within their socioeconomic status.
Click to expand...

👎thumbdown👎
 
HughMyron said:
I think it's a valid concern when one partner makes significantly more than the other, or is significantly more educated. The main problems are the feelings of superiority/inferiority that will develop. The side with more money will start to think of themselves as superior, "above" the other person. The side with less money will wonder what the other person is doing with them.

People would do best to date and marry within their socioeconomic status.
Click to expand...

That would limit my dating pool *significantly*.

I would venture that people with superiority/inferiority regarding salary or education need to work on their own issues before burdening others with those insecurities.
 
HughMyron said:
People would do best to date and marry within their socioeconomic status.
Click to expand...

I absolutely agree with what you have to say. But for me - and I know I am going to get called out for this - I really greatly value success and intelligence in someone over looks, and on top of that, I don't think I'd be comfortable dating anyone else besides a doctor. There would be nothing more awesome-er to me than being able to have deep discussions about medical things, and not have to repeatedly interrupt myself while telling my significant other about what happened at work with dumb downed explanations of things because they don't understand medical jargon/stuff (InB4WifeCheatsWithMarkSloan). And I'd appreciate someone who is competitive because I'm that way also. I guess that this is probably because I'm an ENTJ.

Also, I honestly don't also see myself getting in a relationship during undergrad unless I meet someone really special (which is extremely low considering the way my undergrad college is), and I want to save that for med school/residency/fellowship.

I'm also a guy btw.
 
IvyHopeful20 said:
A friend of mine (med student) wears scrubs to bars because 'it's too much hassle to change'. We all know it's BS but he gets so much tail that it's not even funny. And I knew him in college - the guy would have had trouble getting girl in the red light district.
Click to expand...

I think wearing scrubs everywhere is pretty hilarious/obnoxious. I have a friend who did her shadowing for undergrad in the OR and would wear her scrubs ALL day! She also claimed she didn't need to study for the MCAT because she had a photographic memory and ended up with a 20 :laugh:.
 
hughmyron said:
well, they last a lot longer than american marriages 🙂

tbh, there are pros and cons to the practice. But most people seem to like them. I think the latest numbers i read said that 74% of indians (urban, educated indians, because who else would respond to an english-language poll) favored the practice of arranged marriage over other alternatives.
Click to expand...
+1
 
HughMyron said:
Actually, the parents decide when "ready" is. Usually it's when the guy has a stable job, which ends up being in his late 20s.


As for what happens if the son doesn't like the girl:

The thing to remember is that if the son is a "catch" (defined as physically attractive, from a wealthy family, working a high-status job, and other things), he'll have girls lined up and down the block for him. He'll be able to pick what he wants.

It seems like you think that the system pits the son against his family. It doesn't. The arranged marriage is a way for the family to help the son find the highest quality woman possible.


And that's why people choose to participate in the system. Look at it from my perspective. I'm a quiet, nerdy, foreveralone guy. American girls either hate me, or think I'm invisible. Anyways, I can do one of two things: 1) I can get into PUA or whatever it is called, study seduction throughout medical school, and eventually find a 6/10 to marry. Or, 2) I can study even harder throughout medical school, get into a better specialty, and get a 9+/10 from India, because I'm a tall, physically attractive physician from a good family. The arranged marriage gives me a much better chance of securing a high quality wife.
Click to expand...
So you're only looking to get married to a girl from India? What if she's an Indian girl living in the states? Just curious...
 
Ryu17 said:
I think wearing scrubs everywhere is pretty hilarious/obnoxious. I have a friend who did her shadowing for undergrad in the OR and would wear her scrubs ALL day! She also claimed she didn't need to study for the MCAT because she had a photographic memory and ended up with a 20 :laugh:.
Click to expand...

Not to mention unhygenic. :barf:
 
princessBP said:
As a girl I am def interested in this. As a guy you can go out to a bar in college and tell some girl you are applying to medical school and they are intrigued and you probably getter hotter in their heads instantly. I have honestly stopped telling guys I meet that im applying to medical school bc they say "ohhh" in an intimidated voice and usually walk away or end the covo. So I can't wait to hopefully one day be around people who don't care that I am in medical school. I don't know if other girls have this problem but I have.
Click to expand...
Yeah I know what you mean! Who knew some guys found it intimidating to date a girl that's actually educated! I guess it's because they can't sit on the couch all day scratching their balls asking for a sandwich! hahaha.
 
Recently broke up with my GF of three years because she didn't want to wait an additional 4.5 years for me to finish medical school... and she disliked my mother. This whole arranged marriage thing seems pretty swell right now :-/
 
Last edited:
princessBP said:
As a girl I am def interested in this. As a guy you can go out to a bar in college and tell some girl you are applying to medical school and they are intrigued and you probably getter hotter in their heads instantly. I have honestly stopped telling guys I meet that im applying to medical school bc they say "ohhh" in an intimidated voice and usually walk away or end the covo. So I can't wait to hopefully one day be around people who don't care that I am in medical school. I don't know if other girls have this problem but I have.
Click to expand...

I have also come into contact with so many gold digging men.
 
Probably after residency/fellowship. I really can't see a doctor, whether it be male or female, getting married during residency/fellowship. If you are already married before residency, then it would probably work.

Personally, I plan to start looking for a serious relationship after my fellowship/residency.
 
Ask your mom if you should marry the person you're with. If she says no, then dump them. Average age of marriage is irrelevant. Use the Mom Method and your future will be golden.
 
Rik1111 said:
Ask your mom if you should marry the person you're with. If she says no, then dump them. Average age of marriage is irrelevant. Use the Mom Method and your future will be golden.
Click to expand...

Depends on the mom.


In my family I am considered the go to person for realistic opinions about my siblings significant others.


My mother is one of those wonderful people who loves everyone and always thinks the best of them even when there is very little to appreciate.
My sister-in-law told me that when she and my brother got serious she was nervous about meeting our mother. She was quickly straightened out by my brother who told her that I was the one she needed to be worried about. 😉
 
I'll never understand guys who want to get married so young, like in their early 20's or even 18 or 19 sometimes.

r7WdL3v.gif
 
Be careful with the whole marriage thing. Especially if you are a guy. There really aren't a lot of advantages to getting married but you really put your ass on the line.
trap.jpg
 
Ryu17 said:
I think wearing scrubs everywhere is pretty hilarious/obnoxious. I have a friend who did her shadowing for undergrad in the OR and would wear her scrubs ALL day! She also claimed she didn't need to study for the MCAT because she had a photographic memory and ended up with a 20 :laugh:.
Click to expand...

It's common here for residents to wear scrubs to the university gym. This is #1 gross because you are spreading patient contact all over workout machinery and #2 an obvious attempt by 33 year old residents to pick up college freshman.
 
ichor said:
I'll never understand guys who want to get married so young, like in their early 20's or even 18 or 19 sometimes.

r7WdL3v.gif
Click to expand...

Wow, the late 20s are not kind to women. That's a pretty precipitous drop, even for a totally made up graph. But otherwise it's accurate. It's established that females have the bulk of their sexual partners earlier in life and guys accumulate the numbers later. To get female interest as guy in his late teens meant working really hard for it, even if you were attractive. As a 30 year old attractive fit guy with a good job, the tables are totally turned and now it's like you're the hot 19 year old girl. Girls are always really upset about getting older and no longer being desirable and think that guys have it so much better. Well remember when it was easy for you earlier in life, it was really hard for us. We mature later and more slowly. The skinny lanky 18 year old boy with acne can transform into a chiseled adonis in only about 7 years while a hot 18 year girl can get fat and age facewise dramatically. Of course, mens' time in the sun is limited too. We'll all be 50 at some point, and by then who cares we're all falling apart.
 
Wonton Soup said:
Lmao! Did you just make this in Excel? :laugh:
Click to expand...

Wasn't me, but someone out there did. Hint: you can right-click an image and search google for it.

thefritz said:
Wow, the late 20s are not kind to women. That's a pretty precipitous drop, even for a totally made up graph. But otherwise it's accurate. It's established that females have the bulk of their sexual partners earlier in life and guys accumulate the numbers later. To get female interest as guy in his late teens meant working really hard for it, even if you were attractive. As a 30 year old attractive fit guy with a good job, the tables are totally turned and now it's like you're the hot 19 year old girl. Girls are always really upset about getting older and no longer being desirable and think that guys have it so much better. Well remember when it was easy for you earlier in life, it was really hard for us. We mature later and more slowly. The skinny lanky 18 year old boy with acne can transform into a chiseled adonis in only about 7 years while a hot 18 year girl can get fat and age facewise dramatically. Of course, mens' time in the sun is limited too. We'll all be 50 at some point, and by then who cares we're all falling apart.
Click to expand...

I saw it online before and, yeah, I sort of question how this study was conducted, but I don't think it's totally made up. But I could be wrong 😛

The point still stands that early marriage for guys tends to be a bad idea.
 
thefritz said:
Wow, the late 20s are not kind to women. That's a pretty precipitous drop, even for a totally made up graph. But otherwise it's accurate. It's established that females have the bulk of their sexual partners earlier in life and guys accumulate the numbers later. To get female interest as guy in his late teens meant working really hard for it, even if you were attractive. As a 30 year old attractive fit guy with a good job, the tables are totally turned and now it's like you're the hot 19 year old girl. Girls are always really upset about getting older and no longer being desirable and think that guys have it so much better. Well remember when it was easy for you earlier in life, it was really hard for us. We mature later and more slowly. The skinny lanky 18 year old boy with acne can transform into a chiseled adonis in only about 7 years while a hot 18 year girl can get fat and age facewise dramatically. Of course, mens' time in the sun is limited too. We'll all be 50 at some point, and by then who cares we're all falling apart.
Click to expand...

Pretty much,
 
Are any men worried that looking for a serious relationship in your 30's means the pool of desirable women is all dried up? Even in medical school, it feels like EVERY moderately attractive girl is already taken. Meeting a cute girl when you're young (early 20's) and then maturing together really seems like the best option in life.
 
Last edited:
ichor said:
Wasn't me, but someone out there did. Hint: you can right-click an image and search google for it.
Click to expand...

Is this for real? It isn't working for me. That would be supercool.
 
rudziutki said:
Are any men worried that looking for a serious relationship in your 30's means the pool of desirable women is all dried up? Even in medical school, it feels like EVERY moderately attractive girl is already taken. Meeting a cute girl when you're young (early 20's) and then maturing together really seems like the best option in life.
Click to expand...

:smack:
 
Overmjnd said:
the current science explains a bimodal relationship between age and related...

hahahahah get out of here, are you guys serious?
Click to expand...

Its actually not that outrageous. Social science PhD's study relationships between age, marriage, gender, level of education, race, income, ect
 
Man, doing research into options for getting married during medical school is alarming. Looks like MS1-MS2 summer or bust.
 
akaMondo said:
Man, doing research into options for getting married during medical school is alarming. Looks like MS1-MS2 summer or bust.
Click to expand...

Your best option would probably be to follow through with what you have in your title. You wouldn't even have to do med school at all if you wifed up Aaron.
 
TheWeeIceMan said:
Your best option would probably be to follow through with what you have in your title. You wouldn't even have to do med school at all if you wifed up Aaron.
Click to expand...
I wish. I feel like "I'm a doctor" isn't as impressive to Rodgers as it is to most people. A little bit out of my league...
 
akaMondo said:
I wish. I feel like "I'm a doctor" isn't as impressive to Rodgers as it is to most people. A little bit out of my league...
Click to expand...

Well, he is dating a waitress named "Destiny", so doctor has to be a step up.
 
princessBP said:
As a girl I am def interested in this. As a guy you can go out to a bar in college and tell some girl you are applying to medical school and they are intrigued and you probably getter hotter in their heads instantly. I have honestly stopped telling guys I meet that im applying to medical school bc they say "ohhh" in an intimidated voice and usually walk away or end the covo. So I can't wait to hopefully one day be around people who don't care that I am in medical school. I don't know if other girls have this problem but I have.
Click to expand...

In my experience, it seems more so likely that the fact that premed and medical student females complain about the inferiority complex is that they don't chase men made of the same cloth- the ones that do are the ones that get married early and don't hit the wall at 30. Men that go into medicine are typically intelligent and understand that marrying a woman in medicine in some way shape or form is the best way to gain empathy for the long hours of the job. The problem i've been seeing on the male end is a sheer lack of interest in medical student and premed males. But once that man dons the title "Doctor" suddenly he's infinitely more attractive. So i say to you, instead of wasting time looking for your husband in bars and nightclubs, endear yourself to the hard working guys in your class early on.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.

Similar threads

B
Would a gap year be better because of my age?
Replies
4
Views
716
Goro
Goro
WildWing
[Announcement] Physicians of Tomorrow Scholarship (for Pre-Meds)
Replies
10
Views
2K
WildWing
WildWing
M
Shadowing Physicians at the NIH
Replies
2
Views
789
mimixx
M
A
Physician offering help for this cycle
Replies
1
Views
542
stew_md
S
A
How to discuss one semester/year of lower than average sGPA
Replies
3
Views
800
LindaAccepted
LindaAccepted
Top