Can this still be a lifestyle job?

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There's more and more overlap between being an emegency doctor and a high-end stripper. Some locations are highly lucrative, the future is questionable, work more while you're young to reduce how much you need to work later because old strippers and old ED docs look about the same

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Completely correct

This idea of "Forever PRN" and/or "oh, I'll just work 80 hours per month part-time and make less but have more time" is a fantasy for the reasons stated above.

No director keeps their bench full of part-timers; you're generally the first to go once they fill with full-timers and people willing to work FT or more than FT.

So now you're forced to keep credentials at 5-6 places, which is expensive if you work part-time. And now you're, by definition, doing locums except semi-locally.

The only way to do this reliably is to be a part-time nocturnist, which entirely defeats the purpose. Nocturnist work, by definition, is not lifestyle work based on health and schedule disruption.
We have a number of partners that work an 8-10 shift per month schedule and they don't really look for extra shifts. I'm not sure how that plays out as our medical insurance costs keep creeping up and annual retirement account limits go up as our reimbursement does not. Eventually they have to work more or contribute less. But their jobs aren't at risk.
 
Every shop goes through cycles of needing PRN and not needing PRN. No director has a bench without PRN (except maybe high paying SDGs in desirable locations- unicorns).

August/Sept/October tends to be lean months because of new grads (for me). Nov/Dec/May/June/July tends to be all you can eat buffet (for me). Jan/Feb/March/April (except for Spring break time period) tends to be ehhhh. Also, a large portion of new grads quit their first job within the first year. Or an older doc wants to go on vacation last minute and wants out of their shift. Guess who fills that gap?

If you have creds at 6 shops, you will have plenty of spread to fill your schedule with the shifts you want.

The crappy thing is having to turn down a 2x pay shift because you are already working a 1.5x pay shift. I feel so bad… and it happens often.
We don't use any locums. We keep our doc roster heavy so it's pretty rare to have a shift someone wants out of that someone else won't pick up. The flip side is that I'm about 20-30 hours shorter than planned the next few months, but there are worse problems to have and I have side work anyway.
 
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So these kinds of "lifestyle jobs" still exist but it's getting harder and harder to find them these days.

Personally speaking for me a lifestyle job means:

- competitive level of compensation (250+ HR rate)
- low monthly required hours (100 HRS a month)
- well staffed and functional (1.5 PPH on shifts)
- simple process for admits or transfers
- responsive and helpful consultants
- minimal admin duties off shifts

The end result = choose to work 10 x 10 hour shifts a month and make 300K and have lots of free time for a life outside medicine.

Sadly nowadays its nearly impossible to find this in a desirable major city and especially in a city that has a residency program.

The bottom line is that unless you're willing to relocate to rural middle america its not likely you'll be successful finding jobs.
 
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So these kinds of "lifestyle jobs" still exist but it's getting harder and harder to find them these days.

Personally speaking for me a lifestyle job means:

- competitive level of compensation (250+ HR rate)
- low monthly required hours (100 HRS a month)
- well staffed and functional (1.5 PPH on shifts)
- simple process for admits or transfers
- responsive and helpful consultants
- minimal admin duties off shifts

The end result = choose to work 10 x 10 hour shifts a month and make 300K and have lots of free time for a life outside medicine.

Sadly nowadays its nearly impossible to find this in a desirable major city and especially in a city that has a residency program.

The bottom line is that unless you're willing to relocate to rural middle america its not likely you'll be successful finding jobs.
I don't agree with this assessment but those jobs are probably hard to find.
 
There's more and more overlap between being an emegency doctor and a high-end stripper. Some locations are highly lucrative, the future is questionable, work more while you're young to reduce how much you need to work later because old strippers and old ED docs look about the same
I would venture to guess most old strippers look better than most of the old ED docs i see.
 
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We have a number of partners that work an 8-10 shift per month schedule and they don't really look for extra shifts. I'm not sure how that plays out as our medical insurance costs keep creeping up and annual retirement account limits go up as our reimbursement does not. Eventually they have to work more or contribute less. But their jobs aren't at risk.
I mean depends on how much money they have. I save a stupid amount of money now. I am making hay while the sun is shining. We have some of our older docs who are financially set so they dont care. This is pretty frequent. It is the mid career non planner who is screwed. Imagine being 45 and not thinking about your financial well being.. Those people exist.. they work a mediocre job and dont see or hear the freight train coming….. i worry for them..
 
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So these kinds of "lifestyle jobs" still exist but it's getting harder and harder to find them these days.

Personally speaking for me a lifestyle job means:

- competitive level of compensation (250+ HR rate)
- low monthly required hours (100 HRS a month)
- well staffed and functional (1.5 PPH on shifts)
- simple process for admits or transfers
- responsive and helpful consultants
- minimal admin duties off shifts

The end result = choose to work 10 x 10 hour shifts a month and make 300K and have lots of free time for a life outside medicine.

Sadly nowadays its nearly impossible to find this in a desirable major city and especially in a city that has a residency program.

The bottom line is that unless you're willing to relocate to rural middle america its not likely you'll be successful finding jobs.
There was a prior thread on all this.. I am much more of the work hard, stay busy and make good money. It is rare that i leave a shift and feel tired or anything like that. IMO max income with minimum hours. I work about 100 hours a month and I wonder if/when i should work less. It has little to nothing to do with work itself on shift. It is the hours switching, it is wanting to be around more for my kids. I work less in the summers and try to work more when they are in school and ideally during the hours they are in school or early morning so i only miss them for a few hours in the morning which IMO isnt “quality” time anyhow.
 
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Yeah. Get it while you can. Cmg pay is gonna plummet. Pockets are seeing this already. My opinion is and the smart thing for a capitalist to do is overhire. Let’s say I needed 200 shifts a month in coverage. I’ll hire for 225 plus get some prn folks. I’ll eventually get the opposite of what locums is doing. I’ll let the docs eat themselves while I offer them hours only at lower and lower rates.

It’s surely worked well for you. It’s an option. I am saying if I was a new grad I wouldn’t play that game. You could end up with no reasonable employment options. Smart move is get a ft job work minimal hours there then pick up to supplement the money so when the whole thing collapses you have your foot in the door and have guaranteed income.

If you think you’ll be done in 3-5 years you’ll be able to squeeze it out especially if you are willing to move and work flexible stuff.
Both SCP and Team health down here in South Florida have said that the direct orders from the regional leadership is to staff about 0.5 full time equivalents beyond your need AND to have enough prns on staff to potentially absorb 3 concurrent full timers resigning at once. That works out to having about 6 prns... Which we all have.

Exactly what you just laid out, and it's nearly identical amount of excess staffing coming from two different companies... So this is a trend for sure
 
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Both SCP and Team health down here in South Florida have said that the direct orders from the regional leadership is to staff about 0.5 full time equivalents beyond your need AND to have enough prns on staff to potentially absorb 3 concurrent full timers resigning at once. That works out to having about 6 prns... Which we all have.

Exactly what you just laid out, and it's nearly identical amount of excess staffing coming from two different companies... So this is a trend for sure
Bro south Florida is a damned waste land medically. If my family wasn’t here I’d be gone for good. I have a new grad friend who just signed for FT at $155/hr with no RVU component. Palmetto hospital is so bankrupt they stopped paying for PCI supplies and they lost their STEMI accreditation. Northshore is so broke they sold the land underneath the hospital and now have to lease it back lol.

I just signed my locums contract for EM+ICU and am getting the heck out of dodge.
 
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Bro south Florida is a damned waste land medically. If my family wasn’t here I’d be gone for good. I have a new grad friend who just signed for FT at $155/hr with no RVU component. Palmetto hospital is so bankrupt they stopped paying for PCI supplies and they lost their STEMI accreditation. Northshore is so broke they sold the land underneath the hospital and now have to lease it back lol.

I just signed my locums contract for EM+ICU and am getting the heck out of dodge.
Only well paying job in the area is Jackson North which WILL grind you into a defeated burned out powder within a few months.

Got a Baptist job for the stability and happy patients but the panhandle keeps offering me king's ransoms to consider doing 1.7 pph there. So tempting.
 
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Only well paying job in the area is Jackson North which WILL grind you into a defeated burned out powder within a few months.

Got a Baptist job for the stability and happy patients but the panhandle keeps offering me king's ransoms to consider doing 1.7 pph there. So tempting.
Maybe the same job, a good friend of mine took one of the locums contracts in the Florida panhandle for 350/hr.

His first week he delivered/intubed TWO 24 week premie twins in the ED waiting room.

I told him he should be asking for $1000/hr if it’s a job where that can happen.
 
Maybe the same job, a good friend of mine took one of the locums contracts in the Florida panhandle for 350/hr.

His first week he delivered/intubed TWO 24 week premie twins in the ED waiting room.

I told him he should be asking for $1000/hr if it’s a job where that can happen.
Did he quit right after?
 
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Maybe the same job, a good friend of mine took one of the locums contracts in the Florida panhandle for 350/hr.

His first week he delivered/intubed TWO 24 week premie twins in the ED waiting room.

I told him he should be asking for $1000/hr if it’s a job where that can happen.
i am almost 100% certain i know what job that is because I considered applying but I work at its competitor in the same town (and surrounding cities) and asked around and everyone was like 'oh no man. that place is the wild west'. I'll take 300/hr (sure, low for travel) and expenses covered in order to help pad the schedule at high functioning hospitals with multiple person concurrent coverage that are pleasures to work at.
 
Have near-unicorn job. Still feel like ****. Probably because I have a kid and my spouse has a similar ****ty schedule (slightly more normal hours though) so the childcare dance is getting old. And expensive. And I’m getting older and thinking more about my health doing all these shifts. And every year I seem to hate people more and more.

I recently got an offer doing utilization management paying 160k for 20hrs/wk all remote with no weekends/holidays. I turned it down for a lot of reasons but at the risk of turning this thread into an alternative non clinical careers discussion, anyone venture into UM, pharma, etc? Cause those sound like lifestyle jobs to me.
 
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I plan to work hard for 10 years. Stop and go part time or just continue my PRN status (max 5 shifts a month), and switch to telemed/insurance work for 5-10 years. Then ride the telemed/insurance work for retirement. Puts me at 52 for full retirement and millions in the bank. By then ER will be completely destroyed and watered down.

I have tooled around with the area of starting an urgent care (just to be medical director and have midlevels run). I figure it would just supplement my telemed/insurance income. But who knows, it sounds like a lot of work and risk at that stage of my life.
 
Have near-unicorn job. Still feel like ****. Probably because I have a kid and my spouse has a similar ****ty schedule (slightly more normal hours though) so the childcare dance is getting old. And expensive. And I’m getting older and thinking more about my health doing all these shifts. And every year I seem to hate people more and more.

I recently got an offer doing utilization management paying 160k for 20hrs/wk all remote with no weekends/holidays. I turned it down for a lot of reasons but at the risk of turning this thread into an alternative non clinical careers discussion, anyone venture into UM, pharma, etc? Cause those sound like lifestyle jobs to me.

I have a thread on utilization review when i applied for those jobs. Had quite a few very interesting and helpful responses from people who were doing it, you might wanna dig through the forum and search for that thread.
 
Maybe the same job, a good friend of mine took one of the locums contracts in the Florida panhandle for 350/hr.

His first week he delivered/intubed TWO 24 week premie twins in the ED waiting room.

I told him he should be asking for $1000/hr if it’s a job where that can happen.
Um wtf.
 
Both SCP and Team health down here in South Florida have said that the direct orders from the regional leadership is to staff about 0.5 full time equivalents beyond your need AND to have enough prns on staff to potentially absorb 3 concurrent full timers resigning at once. That works out to having about 6 prns... Which we all have.

Exactly what you just laid out, and it's nearly identical amount of excess staffing coming from two different companies... So this is a trend for sure
It will extend to every single large city and eventually to the outlying places that no one currently wants to work at. I love the concept of locums but in EM it’s not a long term strategy and you could end in a spot where you won’t be able to find a normal job in a location you want once you can’t find locums.

My main point is don’t get caught with your pants down.
 
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It will extend to every single large city and eventually to the outlying places that no one currently wants to work at. I love the concept of locums but in EM it’s not a long term strategy and you could end in a spot where you won’t be able to find a normal job in a location you want once you can’t find locums.

My main point is don’t get caught with your pants down.
Thankfully I've only ever done locums part time. I like to work 180ish hours a month so its not hard to tell my full time that ill do the contracted minimum of 120 (or even less if theyll let me) and i fill the rest with whatever locums job pays the best. But never lose the home base even if its harder work for less pay - its harder work for less pay near my home and family.

I just hate that my major city is a sea of free standing jobs at 190-220/hr, full time jobs at 200-245 an hours and one, completely soul crushing, job at like $275. And I worked the soul crushing job, but theyve burned through everyone in south florida (me included) and now basically staff exclusively with travelers because they cant find anyone who sticks around for more than 1 contract length because of how brutal it is for the money. Pay has only dropped here, and its crazy that it hasnt risen back to pre-pandemic levels even 4 years after covid.
 
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Here's one issue I don't see discussed often here: Task switching. In Ortho, you get to do one hip arthroplasty at a time. Yeah you might have 4 of them to do in a day and maybe be you're at the hospital from 6am to 8pm, but generally you concentrate one one patient at a time. Maybe a PA or someone comes into the OR to discuss a consult with you, whatever.

In EM, you are constantly task switching. See an ankle sprain, get interrupted for an EKG, write half a note get interrupted for a zofran order, sign another EKGs, resume the note you were on, interrupted for patient that you DC already that now "has more questions", see an abdominal pain that has a billion tangents, go back to note #1, interrupted by a "stroke alert" that's really a febrile altered 90 year old, wait where was I on note #1?, sign another EKG, answer BS phone call from radiology about patient they don't want to give contrast to, sign another EKG, pulled to see dying toddler for 2 hours. Repeat repeat repeat.

Spoiler alert: no matter how good you think you are at "multi tasking", you are not good at multi tasking. We know this from science. It's been studied. Humans are not wired for this.

But guess what? You're still expected to be perfect. And be fast. And provide a good "patient experience." If you think good, fast, nice are three factors that you cannot feasibly maximize, you'd be right, because the system is designed so that you can it possibly maximize all three. You can do 2/3 at best.

Task switching makes you more agitated, at work and at home. It decreased your attention span, at work and at home. It decreases your short term memory recall, at work and at home.

If you have good nurses they can shield you from some of this, but not all. Certain geographic setups can also help, like being in an enclosed docbox, but again, not perfect.

Add to this the constant soundtrack of patients screaming, gomers letting out their animal calls, and monitors alarming to signal nothing, and it's a cacaphony of bull crap. Yet, you are tasked with picking out the 1% signal through all that noise, every time, with perfection.
You have perfectly summed up a large reason why I, a PGY-16, am seeking a fellowship next year and getting out of the EM grind. And I'm someone who works 70-80 hours a month and pulls in about 250K. When driving to work fills you with anxiety, you have to take stock. Luckily, I have a big interest outside of EM (hence the fellowship).
 
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Maybe the same job, a good friend of mine took one of the locums contracts in the Florida panhandle for 350/hr.

His first week he delivered/intubed TWO 24 week premie twins in the ED waiting room.

I told him he should be asking for $1000/hr if it’s a job where that can happen.

WTF is right
 
You have perfectly summed up a large reason why I, a PGY-16, am seeking a fellowship next year and getting out of the EM grind. And I'm someone who works 70-80 hours a month and pulls in about 250K. When driving to work fills you with anxiety, you have to take stock. Luckily, I have a big interest outside of EM (hence the fellowship).

Holy smoke.
Haven't seen you in here in ages.
 
You have perfectly summed up a large reason why I, a PGY-16, am seeking a fellowship next year and getting out of the EM grind. And I'm someone who works 70-80 hours a month and pulls in about 250K. When driving to work fills you with anxiety, you have to take stock. Luckily, I have a big interest outside of EM (hence the fellowship).
You’re making 250k working 70-80hrs/week of EM? Hell man I'd be the first one out the door too.

I can do 80 hours a week of ICU and still be more or less functional as long as I don’t get woken up at night much when on call. In the ED though? He’ll na.
 
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You’re making 250k working 70-80hrs/week of EM? Hell man I'd be the first one out the door too.

I can do 80 hours a week of ICU and still be more or less functional as long as I don’t get woken up at night much when on call. In the ED though? He’ll na.
A month, not a week!
 
Holy smoke.
Haven't seen you in here in ages.

Hi! 👋 It's nice to be remembered!

I honestly thought I would have to start over with a new handle, but turns out I reuse a lot of passwords. Got back into my account pretty quickly. Ha.
 
You’re making 250k working 70-80hrs/week of EM? Hell man I'd be the first one out the door too.

I can do 80 hours a week of ICU and still be more or less functional as long as I don’t get woken up at night much when on call. In the ED though? He’ll na.
Works out to about 250/hr..
 
Every so often I chime in and say EM can be a more of a lifestyle specialty – if you're willing to take a pay cut and move to NZ (or AUS).

No nights. No anxieties.
 
80 hrs per week * 250/hr = $1,040,000 per year.

If he’s doing 80 hrs per week to make $250,000 annually that’s like $60 per hour which I don’t think is possible in the US.
She clarified that she meant 80 hours a month which by that math would be about 240k per year.
 
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Every so often I chime in and say EM can be a more of a lifestyle specialty – if you're willing to take a pay cut and move to NZ (or AUS).

No nights. No anxieties.

So how much does NZ pay?

Why is lifestyle better?
 
He clarified that he meant 80 hours a month which by that math would be about 240k per year.

Yes to all of this, except I'm a woman.
 
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So how much does NZ pay?

Why is lifestyle better?

Looks like I worked about 875 clinical hours last year for a little over NZD$300k taxable income. The NZD is Not Strong right now.

No nights, tho – and the 10 weeks of vacation + holiday + CME leave accumulation that made that ~8-9 shifts per month on average a reality (... and I still have 300 hours of unspent leave accumulated after four years!).

I do spend approx a day a week doing "non-clinical work", akin to the responsibilities of being at an academic center in the U.S.
 
Looks like I worked about 875 clinical hours last year for a little over NZD$300k taxable income. The NZD is Not Strong right now.

No nights, tho – and the 10 weeks of vacation + holiday + CME leave accumulation that made that ~8-9 shifts per month on average a reality (... and I still have 300 hours of unspent leave accumulated after four years!).

I do spend approx a day a week doing "non-clinical work", akin to the responsibilities of being at an academic center in the U.S.

That’s very respectable income actually for the number of hours. Based on the math i just did, that’s actually still $210/hr USD. That sounds great.

What’s cost of living like?

I often fantasize about leaving the US and either never working again or working minimally on passion projects only.

Are you in a major city or far away in the boonies?

Edit: just saw that there was yet another school shooting yesterday. Ugh…the US is so unsafe -_-
 
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Every so often I chime in and say EM can be a more of a lifestyle specialty – if you're willing to take a pay cut and move to NZ (or AUS).

No nights. No anxieties.

Might be unpopular opinion, but I think that the evening swing shift (any shift ending after 11pm) is just as bad, if not worse than the overnight.

At least on the overnight I can eat dinner with my partner and see my kid.

The evening swing shift is the most socially isolating and depressing of all (and busiest).
 
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Might be unpopular opinion, but I think that the evening swing shift (any shift ending after 11pm) is just as bad, if not worse than the overnight.

At least on the overnight I can eat dinner with my partner and see my kid.

The evening swing shift is the most socially isolating and depressing of all (and busiest).
Disagree I love them lol. Gives you the option to wake up early or sleep in a little late. Maybe get some errands done, hit the gym, maybe sneak in a little 1 hour nap before heading out and getting your shift done. It’s still dark when you get home so can fully sleep with night outside the window. Give me a 3 or 4pm shift anytime :). Just my thoughts.
 
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Disagree I love them lol. Gives you the option to wake up early or sleep in a little late. Maybe get some errands done, hit the gym, maybe sneak in a little 1 hour nap before heading out and getting your shift done. It’s still dark when you get home so can fully sleep with night outside the window. Give me a 3 or 4pm shift anytime :). Just my thoughts.

Agree it's definitely good for getting stuff done and going to the gym. But I find them to be very socially isolating.
 
Agree it's definitely good for getting stuff done and going to the gym. But I find them to be very socially isolating.
I like them; can exercise, get some errands done, etc. before work – but I only ever do one a week (unless I'm on for the weekend, and then I'd do Sat/Sun of them). If they were relentless, I might grow weary of them, but they're a lesser evil than night shifts.
 
That’s very respectable income actually for the number of hours. Based on the math i just did, that’s actually still $210/hr USD. That sounds great.

What’s cost of living like?

I often fantasize about leaving the US and either never working again or working minimally on passion projects only.

Are you in a major city or far away in the boonies?

Edit: just saw that there was yet another school shooting yesterday. Ugh…the US is so unsafe -_-
COL varies depending on where you live. There's only one true City in Auckland, and you can find neighbourhoods with NZD$5-10M houses as much as you can find cheaper places further out from those desirable areas. Other small "cities" (Wellington, Hamilton, Christchurch) tend to be more affordable, again, with variation. Rural places can be even further less expensive for housing, but then inherit some additional costs relating to distribution due to their isolation.

I'd say the COL isn't actually terrible if you're willing to buy what's available – which can be limited due to geographic isolation and lack of purchasing power. Groceries don't seem any more expensive than the U.S., but you won't have the entire spectrum of choices. Kiwifruit are cheap, for sure. :D

I'm in Christchurch. I think it's probably the best trade-off between cost, weather, good food, outdoors activities, things to do, and airport connections. We just bought a house, so we're planning to stay for a few more years. Auckland and Wellington each have their merits as far as cities go, and if you're really looking for a quiet life, there's a lot of great places to live (and corresponding quiet sort of critical-access hospitals).
 
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Every so often I chime in and say EM can be a more of a lifestyle specialty – if you're willing to take a pay cut and move to NZ (or AUS).

No nights. No anxieties.
Any primers on convincing my wife to take the family around the world and away from the extended family?
 
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Any primers on convincing my wife to take the family around the world and away from the extended family?

The tone of this is not meant to be adversarial:

I absolutely do not understand the "extended family keeps me here" nonsense.
Is it YOUR family?
Are YOU the head of your household?
Do YOU call the shots?

No, I don't care what Tia or Abuela (or whatever their equivalents are) has to say. They don't go to work and pay your bills.
 
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The tone of this is not meant to be adversarial:

I absolutely do not understand the "extended family keeps me here" nonsense.
Is it YOUR family?
Are YOU the head of your household?
Do YOU call the shots?

No, I don't care what Tia or Abuela (or whatever their equivalents are) has to say. They don't go to work and pay your bills.

It's not that you're letting extended family make your decisions for you, it's that you're asking your spouse to move halfway across the world, to a different country and culture, away from family and likely any immediate support structure, which is compounded if kids are involved. That isn't a small thing for many people. My wife and I have entertained the idea of moving abroad, but you can bet that if I up and said "I'm the earner here, and we're doing this, get on board or not" that I'd 1) be an a**hole, and 2) probably rightfully have a divorce on my hands, not because of the job or the move, but because of point #1.
 
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The tone of this is not meant to be adversarial:

I absolutely do not understand the "extended family keeps me here" nonsense.
Is it YOUR family?
Are YOU the head of your household?
Do YOU call the shots?

No, I don't care what Tia or Abuela (or whatever their equivalents are) has to say. They don't go to work and pay your bills.

I’ve never understood it either. Hell, I hear it very often in the context of not moving for a better job *inside America*. “Well, yeah I get I’m stuck at some job where I’m paid and treated like crap, but Grammy (or wife’s Grammy) is here and that means I have to stay here”. As if being near Grammy is worth getting paid and treated like garbage at your job.

Moving abroad is a bit of a different story (that would be a big change, and a hard pill to swallow for many), but people should be willing to move within the country for a better job. Bring Grammy with you if you must. Your spouse should also realize that it’s unfair to tell you that you need to eat **** at your job because they don’t feel like moving.
 
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It's not that you're letting extended family make your decisions for you, it's that you're asking your spouse to move halfway across the world, to a different country and culture, away from family and likely any immediate support structure, which is compounded if kids are involved. That isn't a small thing for many people. My wife and I have entertained the idea of moving abroad, but you can bet that if I up and said "I'm the earner here, and we're doing this, get on board or not" that I'd 1) be an a**hole, and 2) probably rightfully have a divorce on my hands, not because of the job or the move, but because of point #1.

Yeah, I was omitting the "halfway around the world to NZ" item in my brain.

I often hear: "We won't move a few counties away because of family."
 
Yeah, I was omitting the "halfway around the world to NZ" item in my brain.

I often hear: "We won't move a few counties away because of family."
Being on the opposite side of the world is a big annoyance, to put it mildly.

There were some huge conveniences with being in the same city as my parents. By the time we get back (if we get back), it'll be "grandkids take care of grandparents" almost as much as "grandparents take care of grandkids".

BUT – the alternative, and the best way to "sell" it, short of a school-closing pandemic, is to just make it into a one- or two-year fixed-term adventure where you have ample time to travel to places you'd never otherwise see. Very common for U.S. docs to come over on one-year or two-year contracts to cover maternity or sabbaticals, have a relaxing couple years, do some hikes, see Australia, Pacific islands, Singapore etc. head back to reality.

And then a small percentage of those folks decide it's not worth going back until at least they hit the NZ citizenship milestone. Kind of how we ended up sticking around.
 
The tone of this is not meant to be adversarial:

I absolutely do not understand the "extended family keeps me here" nonsense.
Is it YOUR family?
Are YOU the head of your household?
Do YOU call the shots?

No, I don't care what Tia or Abuela (or whatever their equivalents are) has to say. They don't go to work and pay your bills.
Honest question: do you have kids? I used to think the same way but I understand the pull of family and it's tough. Especially when you get to see your kids interact with their cousins and develop relationships with their aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc. There are certainly difficulties and challenges with being a dual income household with kids and no relatives close by.
 
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