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Greetings
M1 here. My roommate seems to have it all together. I failed an exam recently while they got an A. At home, they always talk about school, but usually downplay their knowledge or make it seem like they're so behind and often ask how its going for me (not from interest in me, but to compare their progress). I have no prior experience from our current course content and they do (often bragging about having learned X and Y concept in college)--but still complain about feeling behind?? On the other hand, Ive heard them complain to physician family members about how hard school is/how little free time there is. This person stays up very late to study and wakes up early as well.
I want my dwelling to be a stress-free zone if possible. I do not study at home to avoid interactions and prefer coffee shops or the library. Roommate does not know how I did on the exam. How do I get on the right path to feeling more confident in my abilities? Do I/how do I confront this person about not talking about school while it's dinner time?
Sincerely,
T
Greetings
I want my dwelling to be a stress-free zone if possible. I do not study at home to avoid interactions and prefer coffee shops or the library. Roommate does not know how I did on the exam. How do I get on the right path to feeling more confident in my abilities? Do I/how do I confront this person about not talking about school while it's dinner time?
Tell your roomate that you do not wish that they discuss school with you (but the advice above of utilizing your roommate to help you IS a great idea).Greetings
M1 here. My roommate seems to have it all together. I failed an exam recently while they got an A. At home, they always talk about school, but usually downplay their knowledge or make it seem like they're so behind and often ask how its going for me (not from interest in me, but to compare their progress). I have no prior experience from our current course content and they do (often bragging about having learned X and Y concept in college)--but still complain about feeling behind?? On the other hand, Ive heard them complain to physician family members about how hard school is/how little free time there is. This person stays up very late to study and wakes up early as well.
I want my dwelling to be a stress-free zone if possible. I do not study at home to avoid interactions and prefer coffee shops or the library. Roommate does not know how I did on the exam. How do I get on the right path to feeling more confident in my abilities? Do I/how do I confront this person about not talking about school while it's dinner time?
Sincerely,
T
yep...."I have great resource for passing all my classes literally sitting around in my home. How do I make sure to burn this bridge to the ground in the most spectacular way possible?"
having doc parents explain everything at night on the phoneMaybe ask your roommate how and what they are studying.
Thank you for your advice. This person often talks about getting honors, if I am studying with someone in the common area they interrupt and give away the answer, things like that. Gunner was just the closest word I suppose. I will reach out to the learning center and/or professors.Unless you have strong evidence to the contrary, assume the best of your roommate -- That s/he really does feel overwhelmed and behind and that they're not asking how you're doing to put you down, but rather because they either do care or are just making random conversation. It sounds like maybe you're projecting your own insecurities onto your roommate's actions and hearing 'gloat' or 'gunner' where it may not exist.
If you think you might benefit from studying with your roommate, then ask. Or ask what they do that's working well for them because what you're doing is working less well for you. And of course, DO follow through on the advice about the learning center and getting more information about your own learning style and what does and doesn't work for you.
having doc parents explain everything at night on the phone
It surely wouldn't hurt to possibly pick their brain but the two bigger issues are:
1. Why are you performing like you are? Fix this fast.
2. Give absolutely zero f***s about what other people are doing around you. Welcome to the arena of high achievers. There's always going to be someone doing more than you; you unfortunately just happen to live with one haha. Focus on your goals and what you want out of your education and future.
Plus, they'll calm down mid-year/a little after anyway...there's a certain point where everyone's knowledge-base starts evens out (unless they were previously like a PA or something lol).
You're capable.
not possible at alot of schools where your loan money for housing etc assumes you have to have a roomateLive alone. Worth every penny.
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Il Destriero
tru. hope school is going well for unot possible at alot of schools where your loan money for housing etc assumes you have to have a roomate
came to post exactly thisRoommate is not a gunner. Roommate is succeeding in school while you are not. Pick their brain instead of being self-conscious about your scores.
You can't control your roommates.
Color me skeptical of your reading skillsThat roommate of yours is probably lying. To get an A on a medical school exam requires significant amount of time commitment. And if he is spending more time hanging out with friends then studying then he didn't get an A as he said he did. If you get an A on a med school exam, and party 24/7 and 'barely studied' for it (which implies you didn't look over it at all) then you cheated.
Just focus on yourself. Don't compare yourself to them.
On the other hand, Ive heard them complain to physician family members about how hard school is/how little free time there is. This person stays up very late to study and wakes up early as well.
Wrong. Had my loser college roommate wrapped around my finger way back in the day.
Excellent thread contribution.
Color me skeptical of your reading skills
I love my school, but struggling along with you !!! Hang in there !tru. hope school is going well for u
"I have great resource for passing all my classes literally sitting around in my home. How do I make sure to burn this bridge to the ground in the most spectacular way possible?"
lol thank you for understandingNah, I super get it. Some people like to be able to separate where they work and where they play. I'm astonishingly unproductive when I'm home, but I'm a productivity champ in the library. I wouldn't want to have some reminder of what I need to do gnawing at me when I'm home. Face down, bass up, that's the way I like to fry some fish.
Roommate doesn't really doing like a gunner. If they're studying a ton it's probably because they feel behind.
Become more confident by doing better. Do better by studying smarter/more.
Yes you can just ask your roommate not to talk about school at that time, it doesn't have to be some big confrontation dude
90%, really? That sounds unhealthy...Yes I did really well in school and felt behind/always catching up. I think it's impossible to not think this way. It's hard to not talk about school with someone going to the same school when studying should occupy 90% of your time. Learn from him and stop failing exams.
90%, really? That sounds unhealthy...
No, only 18, max.Wait... You mean I shouldn't be studying for 21 hours a day?
To be fair, I don't really consider reading through a few textbook chapters (for fun, no notes or cards or attempt to nail down details) 'studying', but it'll get me by most of my day-to-day med school requirements until exams pop up every few months.
Yeah, more or less. This block is 14wks long, for example. Our next one is about the same, but with 3wks of vacation interspersed throughout for the holidays.You get exams every few months?
Yeah, more or less. This block is 14wks long, for example. Our next one is about the same, but with 3wks of vacation interspersed throughout for the holidays.
Haha, fairly certain you do know, come to think of it. Honestly, it's incredibly chill though. No memorizing minutiae (or minimal), and I'm only at school 6-8hrs per week most weeks. Just had a week off, in fact! All I have to do is buckle down and prep Step and I'll be fine.I'm fairly certain I know which school you to go, and I'm sure it's a fantastic school, but dang I am glad I didn't get accepted there.
Haha, fairly certain you do know, come to think of it. Honestly, it's incredibly chill though. No memorizing minutiae (or minimal), and I'm only at school 6-8hrs per week most weeks. Just had a week off, in fact! All I have to do is buckle down and prep Step and I'll be fine.
Yeah, more or less. This block is 14wks long, for example. Our next one is about the same, but with 3wks of vacation interspersed throughout for the holidays.
Yeah I guess every system has its advantages! We have an exam every other week here, and while it's very much not chill (although we do get afternoons off after the exams), it's nice because it's impossible to fall behind.
Some of it is actually easier to learn in a few passes. We tend to learn a few systems separately and then spend the last few weeks of the block integrating them. For example, we learned basic cards, pulm, and renal separately, but then the last month or so of that block were things that integrated all of those systems, like shock or acid/base, etc. It helped reinforce the individual concepts, and it let us learn the complex ones once we had all the basic building blocks already. GI, nutrition, and biochem combined similarly well.Oh wow, that's interesting
And yes, I like to be over and done with the material haha
To be fair, I don't really consider reading through a few textbook chapters (for fun, no notes or cards or attempt to nail down details) 'studying', but it'll get me by most of my day-to-day med school requirements until exams pop up every few months.
Haha, fairly certain you do know, come to think of it. Honestly, it's incredibly chill though. No memorizing minutiae (or minimal), and I'm only at school 6-8hrs per week most weeks. Just had a week off, in fact! All I have to do is buckle down and prep Step and I'll be fine.
Whoa, not trying to be a jerk here, sorry. My school has a really different setup than most, which Lannister implied they were aware of...trust me if you know my school (which is no secret given my post history but I'd prefer that people not blatantly post everywhere if they can help it) you know that it's far more the way it's run than anything an individual does that leads to the loose schedule.IIRC, didn't you score 40+ on the MCAT? What works for you may not necessarily work as well for the rest of us mere mortals...