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Confession: I can't stop watching Community. I'm addicted and I haven't done anything in the last few days other than go to work, come home, play WW while watching Community, go to bed. The even more sad part is that the only reason I even started watching it is because it's an upcoming WW game theme. 😳

My life always becomes more hermit-like while I count down the days until interview invites go out. :laugh:

Community is a great show. I'm catching up on the current episode today. 🙂
 
I just googled "Jesus dog butt" because I was told there was a picture of a dog's butt that looks like Jesus. :lame:

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This happens to me sometimes... My husband and I got super into Downton Abbey recently. And I couldn't stop. I would think about it all day at work, then come home and watch three episodes. We ended up watching all three seasons in less than two weeks. 😎

Oh man, I watched all three seasons in six days... and two of those days I worked 13-hour shifts, so I pretty much watched all three seasons in four days. I am slightly ashamed. But not really. At least I got a lot of studying done while watching, right? 😀
 
Just got into a fight with the bf... And it came to a climax when I had a Real Housewives of New Jersey moment and threw the coffee table over when it had all my study materials and the laptop and iPad on it.

I'm thoroughly embarrassed, but with the stress of school and it being that time of the month I couldn't handle it...
 
Just got into a fight with the bf... And it came to a climax when I had a Real Housewives of New Jersey moment and threw the coffee table over when it had all my study materials and the laptop and iPad on it.

I'm thoroughly embarrassed, but with the stress of school and it being that time of the month I couldn't handle it...

It happens. It happened here the other night. Not to the point of throwing tables, but it wasn't pretty. Fights happen. It's about how you handle the after effects that make the difference.
 
Just got into a fight with the bf... And it came to a climax when I had a Real Housewives of New Jersey moment and threw the coffee table over when it had all my study materials and the laptop and iPad on it.

I'm thoroughly embarrassed, but with the stress of school and it being that time of the month I couldn't handle it...

This is me lately, too. I skinned half of my thumb off with a lemon zester last week. Apparently that was my breaking point, because I proceeded to lose my **** with such intensity that my bf straight up left for the night 🙁
 
This happens to me sometimes... My husband and I got super into Downton Abbey recently. And I couldn't stop. I would think about it all day at work, then come home and watch three episodes. We ended up watching all three seasons in less than two weeks. 😎


😍 😍 😍

I watched most seasons before they came out in the US; many episodes were available to stream online since they aired every season earlier in the UK. I simply couldn't wait. I felt so guilty but I just couldn't stop... Not to mention I had to keep my mouth shut when I was around any other US Downton fans 😀
 
My mother handles her relationships like a 15-year-old. Honestly that alone is sometimes enough to make me want to move out before vet school, even if cutting costs by living here and saving money is a part of what's going to allow me to afford my living costs later on down the line.
 
I reall don't like our new neighbors, and my roomate does.

They were over the other night and all I wanted to do was leave but didn't want to be rude. The wife isn't bad but the husband is super abrasive and tried to tell me he was great at training dogs...this was right after he told me that the best way to train a dog never to leave the yard is to walk it around the outer parimeter on a choke chain and beat it. I wish I was kidding.

I didn't respond because I didn't feel like being told again that I have no idea what I'm talking about.

And against my wishes the husband went and got his 2 huge dobermans to meet my dogs. My lab can be a bit of a jerk to new dogs, especially in her house. Luckily everything went okay and I got the whole "you overreacted" speech from abrasive husband. I wanted to scream.

Roomate asked me what I thought and I was honest. Roomate understands but said "well he just got back from Iraq blah blah". Is it terrible of me to not care? Him being a veteran doesn't erase the fact that he is abrasive.
 
I reall don't like our new neighbors, and my roomate does.

They were over the other night and all I wanted to do was leave but didn't want to be rude. The wife isn't bad but the husband is super abrasive and tried to tell me he was great at training dogs...this was right after he told me that the best way to train a dog never to leave the yard is to walk it around the outer parimeter on a choke chain and beat it. I wish I was kidding.

I didn't respond because I didn't feel like being told again that I have no idea what I'm talking about.

And against my wishes the husband went and got his 2 huge dobermans to meet my dogs. My lab can be a bit of a jerk to new dogs, especially in her house. Luckily everything went okay and I got the whole "you overreacted" speech from abrasive husband. I wanted to scream.

Roomate asked me what I thought and I was honest. Roomate understands but said "well he just got back from Iraq blah blah". Is it terrible of me to not care? Him being a veteran doesn't erase the fact that he is abrasive.

As someone who is engaged to an Iraq vet I can tell you that the abrasiveness could VERY well be from that. When my fiancé came back from Iraq, he was defensive, abrasive, overly assertive, and always on edge. 4years out of it, he still has his moments but has returned to "normal" ( 😉 ). It could very well be that the guy is just a douche (and he clearly is if he beats dogs 🙄 ), just offering a different perspective. But I've also seen guys use it as a big arse excuse for being terd buckets so who knows.
Depending on what they did over there, you have to remember they just spent the last 9-13 months constantly looking over their shoulder, and worrying about how to defend themselves in an instant. The transition to back to the civilian world is much harder than you can think. And obnoxious for their SO 🙄
 
A few of you already know this, but I guess I should make my public announcement, and I will sneak it in this thread instead of making a big deal out of it.

I have taken a leave of absence (again) from vet school. 1st semester was a struggle for me, but I guess I could have gutted it out again for another semester, but MrsSOV needing my help with her own health issues was the final straw. I really couldn't make it to many classes, and I didn't have the time to study at home like I usually did.

So my second attempt at second year has been prematurely terminated.

This thing is now dragging on, and I have serious doubts about returning at this point. School has been much more of negative to my life than I imagined it would be, not to mention becoming a longer term financial drain.

I do know that I am happier when I am not in school, although I miss certain aspects of it, and it is hard to imagine walking away from vet med, but not impossible.

I have been so busy with helping MrsSOV, I still have no idea what the future holds.... even if I come back, I have almost a whole year to wait.

Anyway, my misfortune is my own, and in no way is meant as a cautionary tale to anyone else.

SOV out.
 
🙁 Sorry SOV. I hope things turn around for you and Mrs. SOV
 
🙁 I hope things start getting better for you SOV.
 
I hope things are gonna get better soon for you two. 🙁 :luck:
 
I reall don't like our new neighbors, and my roomate does.

They were over the other night and all I wanted to do was leave but didn't want to be rude. The wife isn't bad but the husband is super abrasive and tried to tell me he was great at training dogs...this was right after he told me that the best way to train a dog never to leave the yard is to walk it around the outer parimeter on a choke chain and beat it. I wish I was kidding.

I didn't respond because I didn't feel like being told again that I have no idea what I'm talking about.

And against my wishes the husband went and got his 2 huge dobermans to meet my dogs. My lab can be a bit of a jerk to new dogs, especially in her house. Luckily everything went okay and I got the whole "you overreacted" speech from abrasive husband. I wanted to scream.

Roomate asked me what I thought and I was honest. Roomate understands but said "well he just got back from Iraq blah blah". Is it terrible of me to not care? Him being a veteran doesn't erase the fact that he is abrasive.

Yeah, some bad behavior is expected, but that's too much
 
SOV, I really hope things get better for you soon. I have dealt with health issues with my spouse before and it's not easy 🙁
 
SOV, I really hope things turn around for you and MrsSOV soon 🙁.
 
We are all here for you, SOV and MrsSOV.
 
Sending lots of 😍 and healing thoughts to you and MrsSOV. 🙁
 
Well sheet SOV. I'm sorry to hear it, but at least the loss of vet student misery will keep your spirits better for Mrs. SOV. Life generally works itself out, so I'll send my well wishes and sunbeams your way, there's some to spare over here.
 
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I haven't spent a lot of time in this thread, but I'm really sorry to hear that, SOV. Sometimes it seems like the tougher you are the more life decides to throw at you. I don't know what her health issues are, but it sounds like a big deal - as you know (hell, I don't have to tell you this, but it bears reiterating for everyone) that your spouse should always trump school when issues such as this arise. Not a single person here would look down on your decision.
 
Confession: I feel so behind in boards study. This is not your friendly neighborhood NAVLE. This is a monster 3-day exam with a 40% national first time pass rate....and you only have to get 60% on each of the four sections to pass. I'm currently studying 4 hours a day, 6 on weekends (the exam is in September) and need to double that at least, working around my clinic duties.

First level of hell: Gross Path. You are shown a picture for 30-60 seconds. All you get is "tissue from a dog" or "tissue from a fish" or "tissue from a rhesus macaque" and you have to come up with a complete morphologic diagnosis (not to mention identifying the organ, which can be difficult with many cancers), cause and often pathogenesis as fast as you can. Eg I need to be able to differentiate, say, a Mycoplasma pneumonia from a Histophilus pneumonia on sight. Don't even get me started on the random effing things like elephant herpesvirus, carp pox, verminous encephalitis in dolphins, etc.

Second level of hell: Microscopy. You are given a flat of slides and have approximately 12-15 minutes per slide to completely describe each and diagnose it. You are given no history at all, not even the organ. Again, only "tissue from a horse" or whatever. That sounds like a lot, but our descriptions are often at least two paragraphs. We do mock board exams and after 6 slides my hand is cramping like a mofo.

Third and Fourth levels of Hell: Veterinary Pathology and General Pathology. Extensive knowledge of about half a dozen different multi-volume book sets (Robbins, Jubb and Kennedy, McGavin, etc) with insanely detailed multiple choice questions. Everything about immunology, biochemistry, basic clin path, genetics of neoplasia, mouse models, etc. Extensive knowledge of every abstract/main points in almost every article in about 6+ different journals going back 2-3 years each (or about three thousand articles, on which they will ask you detailed multiple choice questions).


Love your pathologists when you get into practice, guys. 🙁
 
That's a super bummer SOV 🙁 ... But your health and the health of your family (physically, emotionally, financially, etc) are so so so much more important than vet school and don't let anyone tell you otherwise (though you don't strike me as someone who would!). I wish you all the best and I hope you'll stick around SDN!
 
So sorry to hear SOV.... 🙁

Health issues and SO's always have to come before schooling..... as I am sure you know, so although your choice I am sure was not easy, it was the right one. With the time off from vet school you will be able to focus on Mrs SOV's health and hopefully once that is all resolved (or under control depending on what is going on) - you will be able to figure out what is right for your situation..... and if returning for another go is what you want. Either way I hope you stick around here. 🙂
 
Sorry to hear your news, SOV. I will hope for the best for you and MrsSOV.
 
As someone who is engaged to an Iraq vet I can tell you that the abrasiveness could VERY well be from that. When my fiancé came back from Iraq, he was defensive, abrasive, overly assertive, and always on edge. 4years out of it, he still has his moments but has returned to "normal" ( 😉 ). It could very well be that the guy is just a douche (and he clearly is if he beats dogs 🙄 ), just offering a different perspective. But I've also seen guys use it as a big arse excuse for being terd buckets so who knows.
Depending on what they did over there, you have to remember they just spent the last 9-13 months constantly looking over their shoulder, and worrying about how to defend themselves in an instant. The transition to back to the civilian world is much harder than you can think. And obnoxious for their SO 🙄

Your input is very valuable, thank you! I've done some thinking after reading this and I am willing to give him another try but I need to learn how to deal with it. I'm an introvert and don't really like confrontation(rather it be laid back) but I feel like its never going to happen and if I don't fire back I will just get trampled over. He told me he got out a little over. Ayear abo but suffered a significant back injury. He was also drinking A LOT that night...I didn't realize until I took the patio garbage out. He polished of an 18 pack of bud light by himself. What is the best way to deal with this behavior?
 
Confession: I feel so behind in boards study. This is not your friendly neighborhood NAVLE. This is a monster 3-day exam with a 40% national first time pass rate....and you only have to get 60% on each of the four sections to pass. I'm currently studying 4 hours a day, 6 on weekends (the exam is in September) and need to double that at least, working around my clinic duties.

First level of hell: Gross Path. You are shown a picture for 30-60 seconds. All you get is "tissue from a dog" or "tissue from a fish" or "tissue from a rhesus macaque" and you have to come up with a complete morphologic diagnosis (not to mention identifying the organ, which can be difficult with many cancers), cause and often pathogenesis as fast as you can. Eg I need to be able to differentiate, say, a Mycoplasma pneumonia from a Histophilus pneumonia on sight. Don't even get me started on the random effing things like elephant herpesvirus, carp pox, verminous encephalitis in dolphins, etc.

Second level of hell: Microscopy. You are given a flat of slides and have approximately 12-15 minutes per slide to completely describe each and diagnose it. You are given no history at all, not even the organ. Again, only "tissue from a horse" or whatever. That sounds like a lot, but our descriptions are often at least two paragraphs. We do mock board exams and after 6 slides my hand is cramping like a mofo.

Third and Fourth levels of Hell: Veterinary Pathology and General Pathology. Extensive knowledge of about half a dozen different multi-volume book sets (Robbins, Jubb and Kennedy, McGavin, etc) with insanely detailed multiple choice questions. Everything about immunology, biochemistry, basic clin path, genetics of neoplasia, mouse models, etc. Extensive knowledge of every abstract/main points in almost every article in about 6+ different journals going back 2-3 years each (or about three thousand articles, on which they will ask you detailed multiple choice questions).


Love your pathologists when you get into practice, guys. 🙁


It will all be worth it. I feel like specialists are often taken for granted but I have the utmost respect for what you're going for. Awesome job!
 
I hope so. I was never good at studying. I was a crammer all through vet school (confession 2). It actually worked, though - I think it was the stress that made the info stick in my head.

But this is way, WAY too much to even think of cramming for. You are supposed to begin studying hardcore at least a year in advance. The last 4 or so months should be anywhere from 8-12 hours a day studying (they give you less clinic duty to accomodate this). Hell, last year's third year residents didn't even show up to work for the last month or two unless it was for seminar, duty, or rounds because they studied at home .

To an (unmedicated....maybe I should reconsider it, heh) ADHD person like me, that's hellish. I'm allowing myself one hour of TV a night right before bed, but my biggest problem is getting distracted on the internet (since I can't afford all these books and journals, I have digital copies).

I'm probly going to try the Pomodoro technique and see if it works. Seems like a good idea for distractable people like me.

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/productivity/the-pomodoro-technique-is-it-right-for-you.html
 
...I am sorry to hear this, SOV. I wish you and your wife well.
 
SO has no idea why I love Breaking Bad so much (other than like, everything about it)




I would totally break bad with Jesse Pinkman (Aaron Paul) :naughty:
 
So random. Lol. Why? Other than the awful tribal hand tattoo in breaking bad.

I dunno! It's not the tattoo. Maybe it's the way he carries himself and his hands exaggerate that or something. Lol, like I said, idk!
 
I know I'm a little late.. but I'm so sorry to hear SOV! 🙁
Sending good vibes your way :luck:
what's meant to be, will be!
 
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