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Hey guys, is this a good idea or no lol...I'm an intern currently doing prelim year before going into radiology :laugh:
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youthinasia said:
Hey guys, is this a good idea or no lol...I'm an intern currently doing prelim year before going into radiology :laugh:
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I think this falls into the don't $&@/ where you eat category. I know a few residents who spent the latter part of their residency always ducking into stairwells and not ever able to go to the cafeteria because they had too many exes they didn't want to run into.
 
If you really, really think you have a connection, go for it.

Otherwise it'll bite you on the ass.
 
As an intern? Sure, why not, you're usually only in one place for a month or a few months. If it goes south (and it usually does...) you won't have to be around each other.

This is one of those things that people always say "Terrible idea" but everyone does it. Let's face it... you're spending most of your time at work in the hospital and the nurses are looking for young, single docs to bag. It's a recipe for doc/nurse relationships that are usually intense and short lived.
 
youthinasia said:
Hey guys, is this a good idea or no lol...I'm an intern currently doing prelim year before going into radiology :laugh:
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I was just talking about this with one of my prelim interns and a M4. Generally, my rule is if you are there for an extended period, do not. However, as a prelim, especially if you rotate at multiple sites for minimal periods, I strongly encourage dipping the pen in the company ink for the lone fact that it is such a generous well and you are nearly guaranteed not to have residual issues at that hospital as you may not be back after your rotation and certainly won't be back after your prelim year is finished.

I declare it open season for you.
 
neusu said:
I was just talking about this with one of my prelim interns and a M4. Generally, my rule is if you are there for an extended period, do not. However, as a prelim, especially if you rotate at multiple sites for minimal periods, I strongly encourage dipping the pen in the company ink for the lone fact that it is such a generous well and you are nearly guaranteed not to have residual issues at that hospital as you may not be back after your rotation and certainly won't be back after your prelim year is finished.

I declare it open season for you.
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Especially if you are gonna be in radiology next year. Do as much damage as you can this year. Happy hunting.
 
neusu said:
I was just talking about this with one of my prelim interns and a M4. Generally, my rule is if you are there for an extended period, do not. However, as a prelim, especially if you rotate at multiple sites for minimal periods, I strongly encourage dipping the pen in the company ink for the lone fact that it is such a generous well and you are nearly guaranteed not to have residual issues at that hospital as you may not be back after your rotation and certainly won't be back after your prelim year is finished.

I declare it open season for you.
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Ya, really depend if you will rotate at the same hospital or department again. If there is even the slightest chance that the nurse(s) involved can make your life a living hell in the future, don't. It's tempting but don't. The nurses in my team have been a blessing for me for the past couple weeks, showing me around, reminding me to fill up forms and orders, etc. Some of them are quite cute, even cuter with their little French accents but my life depends on them at least for a couple a months each year for the next 4 years......

If you are a prelim, go do as much damage as possible. Have fun.
 
One of our prelims last year was dating a nurse before he left to go to his advanced program. Didn't seem to be any problems there.
 
Substance said:
With emphasis on YOUR OWN.
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Definitely.

I knew more than one male resident who left the contraception up to the woman and ended up being a father much sooner (and in more than 1 case, with someone they barely knew) that they wanted to be.
 
Winged Scapula said:
Definitely.

I knew more than one male resident who left the contraception up to the woman and ended up being a father much sooner (and in more than 1 case, with someone they barely knew) that they wanted to be.
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Was this a case of "forgot to take my pill" or screwdriver through the condom?
 
Winged Scapula said:
The former as I recall (but at least in one case, I wouldn't doubt the latter. She was reportedly well known for talking about her desire to snag a doctor.)
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This is the sort of thing in my worst nightmares
 
Nurses have sisters, friends, room-mates and whatevers who are.....drum roll please.... also nurses.

Remember that little fact when your two-week relationship goes south and you have moved on to your next rotation and it seems like every nurse in the hospital wants your head on a silver platter.
 
just b careful, because if the nurse ends up disliking you, he/she can ruin your life as a resident if they want to. e.g. report you to program director for minor things, get you terminated, act like they were harassed by you etc. sometimes they have a lot of pull in the hospital or have friends that do. maybe you can date a nurse from another hospital, thats another story.
 
What about like a physical therapist or the girl who serves dinner trays and runs the nurse's errands? There is this banging brunette that makes the hours pass by so much faster and has me looking forward to bumping into her when I have to go to the floors.
 
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AngkorWuT said:
What about like a physical therapist or the girl who serves dinner trays and runs the nurse's errands? There is this banging brunette that makes the hours pass by so much faster and has me looking forward to bumping into her when I have to go to the floors.
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the lower on the totem pole and/or the further from your field of endeavor is better.

AngkorWuT said:
or the girl who serves dinner trays and runs the nurse's errands?
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Great. Go for it. :laugh:
 
Law2Doc said:
I think this falls into the don't $&@/ where you eat category. I know a few residents who spent the latter part of their residency always ducking into stairwells and not ever able to go to the cafeteria because they had too many exes they didn't want to run into.
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Do not, I repeat do not do it.

Two of the residents in my previous residency program hooked up during intern year.
Then within a month one of the residents involved hooked up with another resident in the program. Let's just say it became really, really awkward.

Same reason I refused to date anyone in my med school class. The potential for years of awkwardness (or worse) to follow.

Go to a bar, sit next to some cute girl and say you're a doctor.
 
That seems more like an argument against random hookups than against dating a nurse you might actually like.
 
Hey, dipping into the cookie jar at work always risks awkwardness or worse. That's no different in medicine. In a prelim position going to a new hospital as a radiologist next year, that's as close to above the law as you can get. As long as you don't do anything egregious, you should be good to go.
 
DocDanny said:
That seems more like an argument against random hookups than against dating a nurse you might actually like.
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Nah, we arent talking about random hookups. Most at work relationships start out with people thinking they might actually like the other. Most don't pan out, and awkwardness still ensues.
 
Always have to laugh when I read soon-to-be interns asking about dating nurses. Not to comment on this guy since I've never seen him, but I knew plenty of newly-minted docs who thought they were gonna tear it up with nurses once they started internship. Thing is, most didn't have game before they started their internship, and things didn't suddenly change when they got the mythical doctor stamp. These aren't the days of House of God where a nerdy psych resident is pulling nurses right and left. You're gonna have to have more than just the doctor tag. Plus, there aren't that many good looking nurses in the hospital anyway, and chances are, the good looking ones (the ones who all the doctors TRY to go for) are either married or banging the hot ortho guy (or both). So to make a long story short: for most interns, the "problems" with dating a nurse never materialize!
 
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Agreed. You have to have confidence, learn to "flirt" while not really flirting too inappropriately and just be a nice guy. Also, I've discovered that yes, a lot of the nurses are already married or just not interested in being a stereotype, but the nursing students, physical therapists, patient advocates, respiratory therapists and medical students are a much riper field to play.

Oh these students tend to be younger too 😉 (over 18 of course)
 
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AngkorWuT said:
and medical students are a much riper field to play.

Oh these students tend to be younger too 😉 (over 18 of course)
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And one day that cute med student might be in your chain of teaching-management-command


Dip the wick the in company pool but stay away from those who might become a sexual harrassment complaint.
 
StevieStud said:
And one day that cute med student might be in your chain of teaching-management-command


Dip the wick the in company pool but stay away from those who might become a sexual harrassment complaint.
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Any med student can end up making a harassment complaint. It's not the direct chain of command that's the issue, it's whether it creates a hostile work environment. That could extend to issues outside of your department since the whole hospital is the work environment. Bad idea and a lot of hospital handbooks forbid this fraternization for exactly this reason.
 
AngkorWuT said:
Agreed. You have to have confidence, learn to "flirt" while not really flirting too inappropriately and just be a nice guy. Also, I've discovered that yes, a lot of the nurses are already married or just not interested in being a stereotype, but the nursing students, physical therapists, patient advocates, respiratory therapists and medical students are a much riper field to play.

Oh these students tend to be younger too 😉 (over 18 of course)
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talk about medicine being an art form 😳
 
haha, an art it is indeed. A friendly smile with appropriately injected humor (but not dirty) can go a looooong way! btw I'm married and have no intention on cheating or anything like that...it's just fun to play the game sometimes 😉 nothing wrong with having some fun at work

i've amassed quite the pile of post-it notes with hearts, smiley faces and numbers in my short time as a "real" doctor so far...my wife finds them quite amusing
 
some of you scare me by wanting to date others of opposite gender while at work during work hours. i remember a guy that was married with a kid and wanted to leave his wife and tried to feel me up during work hours. i was so appalled and it was so awkward to deal with someone sleazy like that. i felt harassed, but i didn't know if i should file charges against him and complicate my life even more. i don't think anyone has time for that in residency. it is way too distracting and annoying,. life is not like Grey's Anatomy or scrubs, is it? i hope not. if so, gross. 😛
 
Reaganite said:
Always have to laugh when I read soon-to-be interns asking about dating nurses. Not to comment on this guy since I've never seen him, but I knew plenty of newly-minted docs who thought they were gonna tear it up with nurses once they started internship. Thing is, most didn't have game before they started their internship, and things didn't suddenly change when they got the mythical doctor stamp. These aren't the days of House of God where a nerdy psych resident is pulling nurses right and left. You're gonna have to have more than just the doctor tag. Plus, there aren't that many good looking nurses in the hospital anyway, and chances are, the good looking ones (the ones who all the doctors TRY to go for) are either married or banging the hot ortho guy (or both). So to make a long story short: for most interns, the "problems" with dating a nurse never materialize!
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well said!!!
Earning a doctorate will not make you suave all of a sudden... if you throat clogs up in front of a beautiful woman, and you had no game before graduating, (unfortunately) the MD diploma wont make it go away...
It will still work on a gold digger though( male or female)
 
tartesos said:
It will still work on a gold digger though( male or female)
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YES!!!

Seriously though. I've made changes and gotten pretty good at talking to people. One of the nurses even invited me to a potluck.

So I'm social and popular. Kinda stuck on the next step.
 
Just keep at it man. In terms of finding a girl, you just gotta play it by the numbers. Unless you are a Brad Pitt or regular Don Juan, increasing the women you meet and maximizing on the ones that become interested are the way to go. So you don't snag a nurse/hospital employee, then go the potluck and meet more women until you hit the right one. Dating's a huge Ponzi scheme anyways. You keep the multiplicative factor going and hope that you aren't the one at the bottom of the pyramid.
 
I completely agree. The "status" of MD will get you nowhere with most normal women or men. However, it's the social opportunities that present themselves that you can take advantage of when you are a MD in a hospital. Just like being a MD will get you nowhere in a law firm, being a JD suddenly gives you access to the paralegals, secretaries, summer interns, food cart ladies/men, janitors, etc.
 
Winged Scapula said:
Definitely.

I knew more than one male resident who left the contraception up to the woman and ended up being a father much sooner (and in more than 1 case, with someone they barely knew) that they wanted to be.
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OMG sounds like one of my attendings in residency. He had his wife pregnant(a doctor), girlfriend #1 pregnant (nurse at the hospital), and girlfriend #2 pregnant with twins (another nurse at the hospital)

To make matters worse his wife is the daughter of one of the surgeons and brother to one of the urologists. Yikes, plus he hit on every female med student that came through.


There was a male intern in our residency class who slept with just about every nurse in the building and was sleeping with another intern who was engaged to a resident in the next town over. Now that got really interesting walking in on them in the call room.

JUST DON"T DO IT.
 
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OtoHNS said:
Sounds like a one way ticket to child-support payments... :laugh:
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hahahaha harsh...

sella turcica said:
Do not, I repeat do not do it.

Two of the residents in my previous residency program hooked up during intern year.
Then within a month one of the residents involved hooked up with another resident in the program. Let's just say it became really, really awkward.

Same reason I refused to date anyone in my med school class. The potential for years of awkwardness (or worse) to follow.

Go to a bar, sit next to some cute girl and say you're a doctor.
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I hope i would never have to do this 🙁
 
cabinbuilder said:
OMG sounds like one of my attendings in residency. He had his wife pregnant(a doctor), girlfriend #1 pregnant (nurse at the hospital), and girlfriend #2 pregnant with twins (another nurse at the hospital)

To make matters worse his wife is the daughter of one of the surgeons and brother to one of the urologists. Yikes, plus he hit on every female med student that came through.


There was a male intern in our residency class who slept with just about every nurse in the building and was sleeping with another intern who was engaged to a resident in the next town over. Now that got really interesting walking in on them in the call room.

JUST DON"T DO IT.
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We need more details to evaluate and analyze this please..... of course it is only for the education of young naive pre-MDs on this board 😀
 
tartesos said:
well said!!!
Earning a doctorate will not make you suave all of a sudden... if you throat clogs up in front of a beautiful woman, and you had no game before graduating, (unfortunately) the MD diploma wont make it go away...
It will still work on a gold digger though( male or female)
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Well, there's no hope for me then I guess.

After residency is over, which will probably be at least 9 years down the line, I plan to go out to clubs multiple times a week to game chicks. Hopefully I may someday end my forever-aloneness.
 
I will say this though, being forced to interact with a bunch of people in social settings is essential for what you're going to do and will be a part of your training and job from clerkships on. It's just like any other skill set, it gets better as you use it. So the MD might not automatically raise your game but the earning it might help you some. Personally I think it's douchey to play the doctor card up front.

The chair of our department met his wife in residency and they've been married forever, she's a professor in the department now. Apparently it's not always an issue. Reality usually lies somewhere in between the perfect scenario and what corporate wants.
 
cabinbuilder said:
OMG sounds like one of my attendings in residency. He had his wife pregnant(a doctor), girlfriend #1 pregnant (nurse at the hospital), and girlfriend #2 pregnant with twins (another nurse at the hospital)

To make matters worse his wife is the daughter of one of the surgeons and brother to one of the urologists. Yikes, plus he hit on every female med student that came through.


There was a male intern in our residency class who slept with just about every nurse in the building and was sleeping with another intern who was engaged to a resident in the next town over. Now that got really interesting walking in on them in the call room.

JUST DON"T DO IT.
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I think I know that guy!!!
Lol
Had an attending with the same quota of pregies but no twins.
His wife left him and now he is literally working for alimony and child support.
Even locums Hospitalist on all weekends.

Condoms are priceless( and effective).
And if you are going to be a man *****, stick to outside hospital, or with other floors( psych, social workers or Peds nurses and such, very institution dependent. )

I saw, what you have enjoyed, no one can take away from you, so go wild, but be careful and try not to hurt anyone. Be honest, and don't falsely lead women into thinking you are ready to settle...
 
Mattchiavelli said:
I will say this though, being forced to interact with a bunch of people in social settings is essential for what you're going to do and will be a part of your training and job from clerkships on. It's just like any other skill set, it gets better as you use it. So the MD might not automatically raise your game but the earning it might help you some. Personally I think it's douchey to play the doctor card up front.

The chair of our department met his wife in residency and they've been married forever, she's a professor in the department now. Apparently it's not always an issue. Reality usually lies somewhere in between the perfect scenario and what corporate wants.
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Does playing the doctor card even work? Women probably meet lawyers, Ibankers, and doctors all the time...
 
I don't think it works if you go out to the bar with your white coat on and expect the panties to start flying at you. It doesn't hurt, though, when you are having a nice conversation with a girl and she finally asks you what to do. The fact that you are a doctor means you are relatively smart and will make decent income with great job security. Not exactly bad attributes, especially if you aren't cocky about it.
 
cpants said:
I don't think it works if you go out to the bar with your white coat on and expect the panties to start flying at you. It doesn't hurt, though, when you are having a nice conversation with a girl and she finally asks you what to do. The fact that you are a doctor means you are relatively smart and will make decent income with great job security. Not exactly bad attributes, especially if you aren't cocky about it.
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Also you are responsible, likely to not be a giant flake, don't have a huge criminal record, probably aren't living with your parents still, and can take care of thing under pressure a little better than avg joe on the street. As you get into your later 20's early 30's the contenders in the dating game really start to separate out more based on one these qualities
 
HughMyron said:
Does playing the doctor card even work? Women probably meet lawyers, Ibankers, and doctors all the time...
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If it's your only card, then no, it doesn't work. If you're awkward, disheveled, woefully out of shape, and prefer to talk about whether or not Han shot first, then it's not going to help if you're a doctor.

If you're otherwise a decent guy, and you're trying to meet someone, and you tell them you're a cardiologist when they ask what you do, of course it's going to help.
 
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