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Hello,
I'm wrestling with some concerns about my family that will come up over the next 12 years. These concerns are making me really question the HPSP path. If anyone else out there has dealt with similar issues while in the military, please share with me how you handled it.
1) My parents are old. They're independent and everything right now, but they may need me around eventually.
When I finish medical school my dad will be 76 and my mom will be 73. I luckily got into a medical school close to where they live, which has made them since I was out of state for the last 10+ years. I have to move several states away if I do the Army Pathology Residency for ~4 years. Then another ~4 years somewhere else to finish the active duty.
By the time I fulfill my obligation to the Army, my dad would be 84 and my mom, 81...
I was considering trying to get a civilian pathology residency in the same state as them so at least i would be near them for another 4 years after school in case they need me.
Then I would leave to do the 8 years when they were 80 and 77...which also sounds a little ...
2) My spouse is not in the military. He's just a regular guy with a regular crappy corporate job, which luckily was able to transfer him this first time near the medical school. I'm am concerned about uprooting him so often--for the Army residency and at least one more time when i get stationed somewhere. Has anyone else been married while doing the HPSP and had to move your spouse around?
Do I have too much family baggage to do this military thing?
I'm wrestling with some concerns about my family that will come up over the next 12 years. These concerns are making me really question the HPSP path. If anyone else out there has dealt with similar issues while in the military, please share with me how you handled it.
1) My parents are old. They're independent and everything right now, but they may need me around eventually.
When I finish medical school my dad will be 76 and my mom will be 73. I luckily got into a medical school close to where they live, which has made them since I was out of state for the last 10+ years. I have to move several states away if I do the Army Pathology Residency for ~4 years. Then another ~4 years somewhere else to finish the active duty.
By the time I fulfill my obligation to the Army, my dad would be 84 and my mom, 81...
I was considering trying to get a civilian pathology residency in the same state as them so at least i would be near them for another 4 years after school in case they need me.
Then I would leave to do the 8 years when they were 80 and 77...which also sounds a little ...
2) My spouse is not in the military. He's just a regular guy with a regular crappy corporate job, which luckily was able to transfer him this first time near the medical school. I'm am concerned about uprooting him so often--for the Army residency and at least one more time when i get stationed somewhere. Has anyone else been married while doing the HPSP and had to move your spouse around?
Do I have too much family baggage to do this military thing?