Interesting story. I am sorry about your father. You've definitely had a rockier road than most.
Others on here are going to give you more targeted advice, but I'm sure everyone else will say - you need to add many more schools for a realistic shot at MD if you don't want to reapply. If you really, really don't want to reapply, I would add all the DO schools of your choosing.
As for your schools, what is the rhyme and reason for you selections? Your #1 choice UNC has an in-state bias, #2 has a strong in-state bias, #4 has an in-state bias, #5 and #6 have an in-state bias, and #7 has a strong in-state/region bias. I see that you grew up in Wyoming. You should definitely have UW on there! That's your number one shot imo!
Have you claimed residency elsewhere for college?
Don't spend the money on the secondary for LSU and FSU.
Add all the schools on your "panic" list except FAU and UCF.
Off the top of my head, add Vermont, Thomas Jefferson, Quinnipiac, Creighton, Loyola, and Rosalind Franklin.
You have an interesting story for sure with your hardships. Your employment and volunteering is impeccable. But with the mediocre stats you can never be too sure! Add those schools to make sure. Good luck!