If you have never told someone they are wrong when they are wrong you need to start putting on your big boy pants and stick up for yourself (which your doing right now, just in a situation which you are very wrong). There are certainly not merits to every opinion, and unfortunately for you there is little merit to what you have been saying in this thread.
I need to adjust professionally? Nope, I do pretty well professionally. I deal with jerk customers all the time, I know perfectly how to kiss ass after they were mean for no reason whatsoever (well, usually unhappy over my companies policies that cost them lots of money). I used to fail in these interactions, but as you must do, I learned from them and now do quite well.
I've been dealing with nurses for years now in both my civilian careers, I know perfectly the tiptoe through the tulips game you have to play with them.
I know there is a time and a place to be a Sergeant, after all, I am one, and I am often commended on how good of one I am. You telling me how to be one to a civilian is further evidence that you speak to and about things that you have no clue.
You have been everything I am telling you to be? Nope, if you were, I wouldn't be telling you you need to be them. Again, right now you are in the "it's them, not me" phase of your life. You will get past that (hopefully) and realize what you once were.