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I hope so! This whole situation makes me sort of depressed to be honest..
Regardless of what you choose, people will always criticize you.
Who knows, you might change your mind
Anybody here that does not want to get married and have children? I´m currently studying medicine, and I would like to become a neurosurgeon. I just don´t know if I´m capable of being a mother as well.
I'm in the grandparent phase of life, and I don't like kids. Nope. There it is. I said it. Ah. That felt good. This type of thinking was off-kilter a few years ago, and there are plenty of guys who didn't want kids, but it was: "The thing to do," for so many generations, it was just done. Damn, do I sound like a curmudgeonly, selfish old coot, but hey, the things we ignored, but knew intuitively do, have a way of turning out just as we imagined. My adult children are complete f***-ups, maybe I should have been mindful of these things at your point in my career. Eh, maybe not.I would like to get married, but it´s not that easy to find a guy who doesn´t want kids..
Hell's wherever you hang your hangover. Stay alert, stay alive, and stay anonymous.This thing says your location is Two Steps from Hell lol..not surprising.
Anybody here that does not want to get married and have children? I´m currently studying medicine, and I would like to become a neurosurgeon. I just don´t know if I´m capable of being a mother as well.
Damn, do I sound like a curmudgeonly, selfish old coot, but hey, the things we ignored, but knew intuitively do, have a way of turning out just as we imagined.
I'm in the grandparent phase of life, and I don't like kids. Nope. There it is. I said it. Ah. That felt good. This type of thinking was off-kilter a few years ago, and there are plenty of guys who didn't want kids, but it was: "The thing to do," for so many generations, it was just done. Damn, do I sound like a curmudgeonly, selfish old coot, but hey, the things we ignored, but knew intuitively do, have a way of turning out just as we imagined. My adult children are complete f***-ups, maybe I should have been mindful of these things at your point in my career. Eh, maybe not.
Shots firedSo what you're saying is that you were too lazy to raise kids?
I didn't mean it like that. It's just a troubling post that's all. I think there are certain people that shouldn't have kids yea, and it's a dangerous world. But once you have them, how can you be so callous?Awww leave Croak alone..he doesn't deserve to be tortured any more lol
I don't know if you're joking to an extent or not, but I appreciate the honesty. And it bothered me that you would call them **** ups, as it's a reflection on you. If you can recognize your flaws now, why not be unselfish now? Are you?Thank you for your defense. Nonetheless intellectual dishonesty stinks, but emotionally dishonest statements are much worse. Lazy? Yes, of course, but to be more precise I was much too selfish. Very much so. I think that I can dispense with any facade of BS under the shield of anonymity. I hope that answers your questions. Lazy, selfish, and probably a handful of other things, but I did raise them. Maybe overcompensated. Oh, and the comma rule? Come on, this is a forum what am I supposed to be some sort of writer? Then again I'd been told my op reports read like science fiction.
My issue isn't with telling the truth, but it's just a tale of someone giving up. There's a reason you're not supposed to say things. You give off the impression that it's ok to be a bad parent. It's not and you should feel bad and ashamed.On being callous: Time makes heels of us all. Artificial, unauthentic comments, saying what's "expected," or "what you're 'supposed' to say defeats the purpose of describing the emptiness which accompanies years of dedication to work, patients, career, and all the me me me. Am I joking? Why? Certainly I'm aware of the flaws, yet aware there's one timeline, and that, if you care to reflect on it, it's often overlooked through life's intervening necessities. Necessities which may turn out to be merely derivatives, distractions, or erroneous. You want the straight poop, or some scrubbed clean perfect life glimpse for public consumption? Am I selfish now? To a degree yes, but to a greater degree I am mindful of many things which eluded me earlier in life.
I don't know if you're joking to an extent or not, but I appreciate the honesty. And it bothered me that you would call them **** ups, as it's a reflection on you. If you can recognize your flaws now, why not be unselfish now? Are you?
My issue isn't with telling the truth, but it's just a tale of someone giving up. There's a reason you're not supposed to say things. You give off the impression that it's ok to be a bad parent. It's not and you should feel bad and ashamed.
Uh huh, because this person didn't admit being crappy parent...and apathy towards it. Sorry I missed that psych rotation that would make me an expert of child development and the human psyche.You are aware that there are numerous other factors besides parenting that affect how someone turns out, right? Have you even been through a psych rotation? You should feel bad and ashamed.
My issue isn't with telling the truth, but it's just a tale of someone giving up. There's a reason you're not supposed to say things. You give off the impression that it's ok to be a bad parent. It's not and you should feel bad and ashamed.
You should really try to improve everyday, regardless of age. You're just using excuses, like I said- laziness.
Uh huh, because this person didn't admit being crappy parent...and apathy towards it. Sorry I missed that psych rotation that would make me an expert of child development and the human psyche.
Too many INTJs.
It sounds like he feels bad but can't change it now, so he accepts it for what it is. He can't go back in time and make his children not be disasters. Nothing wrong with owning up to your mistakes and calling things like you see them. I'll take it over the dishonest BS you hear from most people any day.My issue isn't with telling the truth, but it's just a tale of someone giving up. There's a reason you're not supposed to say things. You give off the impression that it's ok to be a bad parent. It's not and you should feel bad and ashamed.
To each their own. Everyone here judges, and they do so most of the time based on status and specialty. He shared something personal, and I chose to judge on that. There's very little I will argue on these forums. The incessant bitching of first world problems? Not so much. This, sure.Might want to come down off your high horse for a bit, Gandhi. That's a whole lotta judgement you're dishing out to someone you don't know.
Be careful if you're the "I love kids" type and you're not having them for your career though. You might find neurosurgery to be not all that fulfilling in the end, with all the changes that are coming down the pipe in medicine. Then you'll have nothing.That's great to hear! I love children, I really do, but I don't think I'm cut out to be a mum. I'm way more interested in becoming a successful neurosurgeon, as selfish as that may sound..
Precisely.It sounds like he feels bad but can't change it now, so he accepts it for what it is. He can't go back in time and make his children not be disasters. Nothing wrong with owning up to your mistakes and calling things like you see them. I'll take it over the dishonest BS you hear from most people any day.
Except there's the part where you learn from your mistakes, which is why I asked you some questions about what you do now. I have kids myself and there are times where you fail as a parent, yes. There's a chance almost everyday to be a better parent, and like you said there's intuitive notions on what you should do. Any parent can tell you that there are moments that you think, "I'm wrong on that." It doesn't take years to figure out. Although it may take years to see the damage. Even if it does, you can still try and rectify these things. I hope I never get to the point where I look at my kids as **** ups. But to each their own.Precisely.
Which brings this thread to its beginning: Questioning bringing children into the world, surgery, and regrets. I specifically avoided the nature of the f'*** -ups, their specifics, gravity, or whether they were banal, or a function of my perpetual duties. Nonetheless, no one bothered asking the nature, or my definition—I'd expect more from one of my surgical residents. Ask before you judge. A millimeter can kill, and judgement lacking due thought is reflective of maturity-in-absentia. The children unfortunately had sex change operations, married outside their race and religion, and joined a commune. Yeah, right.Except there's the part where you learn from your mistakes, which is why I asked you some questions about what you do now. I have kids myself and there are times where you fail as a parent, yes. There's a chance almost everyday to be a better parent, and like you said there's intuitive notions on what you should do. Any parent can tell you that there are moments that you think, "I'm wrong on that." It doesn't take years to figure out. Although it may take years to see the damage. Even if it does, you can still try and rectify these things. I hope I never get to the point where I look at my kids as **** ups. But to each their own.
Which brings this thread to its beginning: Questioning bringing children into the world, surgery, and regrets. I specifically avoided the nature of the f'*** -ups, their specifics, gravity, or whether they were banal, or a function of my perpetual duties. Nonetheless, no one bothered asking the nature, or my definition—I'd expect more from one of my surgical residents. Ask before you judge. A millimeter can kill, and judgement lacking due thought is reflective of maturity-in-absentia. The children unfortunately had sex change operations, married outside their race and religion, and joined a commune. Yeah, right.
That's great to hear! I love children, I really do, but I don't think I'm cut out to be a mum. I'm way more interested in becoming a successful neurosurgeon, as selfish as that may sound..
That's great to hear! I love children, I really do, but I don't think I'm cut out to be a mum. I'm way more interested in becoming a successful neurosurgeon, as selfish as that may sound..