There are some people on this forum that think you can’t or shouldn’t have kids if you’re going to med school, or that if you already have kids and want to be in medicine, you should think about pa or whatever.
If you want to have kids and be present at every meal, game, recital, etc, then yes. You should avoid pretty much any job except a straight 9-5er.
But missing stuff doesn’t make you a bad parent, and your kids aren’t going to hate you if you spend the time you are together actually being a parent.
I haven’t started med school yet, but I do have almost 4 years of experience being a parent in the military. I was gone for 6 months out of my older daughter’s first year. Not I left early and came home late and didn’t see them much. I was not around. I was at sea or on deployment. She didn’t even recognize me when I got back. When I did get back, I was gone 1-2 weeks every month, and the weeks I was there, I was gone 1-2 nights per week.
Guess what. We have a great relationship. I’m fortunate to be able to just be a student now, and despite needing to study and be in class, we get a lot more time together. She never resented me or anything.
And my coworkers who have older kids have the same experience. When you are actually present the times you can be with them, you will bond. It’s when you ignore your family and check out mentally that people have issues with their kids.
Obviously there are exceptions. But this has been my experience so far.