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I had been dating my boyfriend for the past two and a half years. We both graduated from college in May and he entered dental school in August...3,000 miles away. He applied to five schools, and this one was the only one he got into. He didn't want to wait another year to go closer to home and I didn't get in the way of his decision. Anyway, we were extremely devoted to each other. We were best friends above anything else. When he decided to go to this school, he told me he wasn't going unless I came with him. With that, he said he wanted to propose to me over the summer since I didn't want to move across the country for someone who was only my boyfriend. The summer came and went, but no engagement. He said he felt like if he did propose, it would be overshadowed by him starting school and not knowing what to expect from it. Although I was devastated, I understood, and in turn, he promised me an engagement no later than Christmas of this year. I was to stay home until then and move out there to be with him in January.
In any case, about a month after he started school, I called him one night and was particularly upset because I was missing him so much and questioning his commitment to our relationship. Since he got my hopes up this summer, I was scared he would do it again, and I told him that. To make a long story short, he blew up at me and ended our relationship on the spot. I got an email from him two days later telling me to move on because he couldn't stand the "pressure" anymore. I called him a couple of times since then, but he didn't want to work it out. To make matters worse, I had already bought a plane ticket...at HIS request...to go see him for Thanksgiving and he told me not to come. I couldn't get my money back from the airline because of the effects of Sept. 11 and he told me it was "my loss."
I am heartbroken and devastated. Nothing could have prepared me for this because it was so unexpected. I know what dental school is like and I knew what I was getting myself into (I'm planning to go to medical school myself). Not only that, but he did give me an engagement ring this summer before he left, promising me that everything was going to work out. It wasn't an "offical" engagement though, so we didn't make it out to be that way.
I guess I'm trying to ask you guys for some insight. Did any of you go through similar situations? What do I do and where do I go from here? I love this man very much. Not only have we been a couple for over two years, but we've known each other since we were both 10 years old! He'll be coming home for the holidays in two weeks, but I'm not even sure if he'll contact me (it's been 5 weeks since we last talked, and that didn't go well at all). Any advice, suggestions, words of encouragement would be so appreciated. Thanks a bunch.
In any case, about a month after he started school, I called him one night and was particularly upset because I was missing him so much and questioning his commitment to our relationship. Since he got my hopes up this summer, I was scared he would do it again, and I told him that. To make a long story short, he blew up at me and ended our relationship on the spot. I got an email from him two days later telling me to move on because he couldn't stand the "pressure" anymore. I called him a couple of times since then, but he didn't want to work it out. To make matters worse, I had already bought a plane ticket...at HIS request...to go see him for Thanksgiving and he told me not to come. I couldn't get my money back from the airline because of the effects of Sept. 11 and he told me it was "my loss."
I am heartbroken and devastated. Nothing could have prepared me for this because it was so unexpected. I know what dental school is like and I knew what I was getting myself into (I'm planning to go to medical school myself). Not only that, but he did give me an engagement ring this summer before he left, promising me that everything was going to work out. It wasn't an "offical" engagement though, so we didn't make it out to be that way.
I guess I'm trying to ask you guys for some insight. Did any of you go through similar situations? What do I do and where do I go from here? I love this man very much. Not only have we been a couple for over two years, but we've known each other since we were both 10 years old! He'll be coming home for the holidays in two weeks, but I'm not even sure if he'll contact me (it's been 5 weeks since we last talked, and that didn't go well at all). Any advice, suggestions, words of encouragement would be so appreciated. Thanks a bunch.