When I think of STEM careers, I think of work that is largely happening alone. Even if you’re in a lab with a bunch of other people physically present, actively working on something with a partner, or have the ability to converse with a team.
Doing clinical work in psychology more akin to 1-on-1 tutoring IMO. I think you mentioned having kids. Or even if you don’t, maybe you’ve done some tutoring in the past. If you hate this, it might be important to consider why and if those elements will manifest in a clinical career.
Whereas you can largely do science on your own timeline and to your own preferences, clinical work means you’re essentially trapped with your patient(s) for the duration of the appointment. And they are going to have a lot of influence on how that time is spent and their pathology will also very much manifest during that time (unpleasant interpersonal stuff with clients who have personality disorders, avoidance behaviors with trauma disorders, feeling the air is being sucked out of the room with deep depression, etc).
The cool thing is that like tutoring, sometimes you can help this other person from a basis of scientific evidence to have something click and then work with them to apply what they just learned/realized to the rest of their life, which may even eventually move towards eliminating them meeting criteria for that pathology.
And sometimes that doesn’t happen at all and you’re stuck potentially feeling some degree of annoyed/disappointed/incompetent.
The dynamic is somewhat different if you’re doing pure assessment instead of therapy but what I’ve experienced and tried to describe above is still pretty relevant for me when I’ve been assessment focused.
Interesting comparison to tutoring. I do have stepchildren, and I love to tutor them and other people. I would like to conduct therapy as well as neuropsychological assessments and such, because I really want to help those with these illnesses/conditions learn to manage themselves successfully. Especially the pediatric population, as I think that by them learning skills to help themselves early on, it will set them up for a more successful life. I think I may be realizing what the right path is for me right in front of your very eyes... lol
I know this might be a frustrating thing to hear since you’ve been working to figure out your ideal path, but you do have so much time! I was genuinely helped so much by working in a few different fields after undergrad because it 1. helped me narrow down my research focus and 2. convinced me that I wanted a PhD. I’m not sure I would have been able to confidently choose this path without exploring other options. You’ve likely had so much more exposure to academia than to other careers and it can be hard to know whether you’ll like the 9-5, more corporate (most places) lifestyle without trying it. I love the flexibility of academia because it lets me work more than 40 hours a week, but on my own schedule, I have both the freedom and responsibility of selecting my research projects. It’s imo a harder life than many careers but it’s one that I know is the best fit for me.
This might be a bit extreme, but I generally recommend only pursuing a PhD unless you’re SURE it’s what you want despite hearing all the negatives and having people in your life repeatedly tell you not to do it. For the right person, it’s amazing but it’s statistically unlikely that’s true for any one person.
Thank you for this
I'm 22 now, and I feel so old in regards to where I'm at in school! I think it's simply because I see these 18 year old juniors at my school who did the things I should have realistically done in high school (dual enrollment to get my AA before I graduate) and I kick myself for that. I know a girl who is 23 and about to defend her dissertation in I/O psych, absolutely crazy to me! I'm graduating in fall of '24 and I plan to take a gap year to explore different avenues and beef up my application since I'm going to have less than 2 years of research experience and I don't have any clinical or shadowing experience yet.
I should be starting my PhD at 26 (or 27 if I can't get in the cycle after my gap year and have to wait another year), which isn't bad, I know, but I feel so behind in comparison to my peers. Everyone I know has already secured a respectable job, or is in medical school, or vet school, or their PhD or masters. I'm still working on my bachelors, and I work at a crummy retail job with nothing to show for myself except for all the talk that I want to become a psychologist and get my doctorate. Sorry for the little rant!
I very much remember feeling similar to you when I was figuring out my path (started on a research-focused path and pivoted strongly towards clinical focus a couple of years into graduate school). I received feedback/advice along these lines from several mentors along the way: You can't predict any of your path with that much certainty, you can give your best guess and go with your gut and gain knowledge and then move in the direction that seems like the best fit with what you're drawing from. Data sources to draw from might be how you feel when you imagine the path, what your "gut" tells you, talking extensively with people in the field to make your imagined scenerios for your future-self slightly more accurate, etc. While it sounds great to somehow achieve 100% certainty regarding something that is such a high-stakes choice, this is almost certainly unattainable for literally everyone. We can't know for certain how we will feel in the future or exactly what will happen to us along the way. Life isn't that certain.
All of that said, if I had to pinpoint an experience that was most illuminating for me with helping me decide, it was falling in love with therapy (and later consultation, assessment, other parts as well). I had always guessed that I would enjoy therapy, but until I had the opportunity to actually experience providing it while on practicum, I didn't really know for sure. Once I had those experiences, I fell in love with the art of it and made a slightly more educated guess that I could do this work as a career for a long time. It has worked out for me so far, and it also helps that when therapy gets tiresome, I am lucky to be in a job that has many other duties as well that help keep things more varied and interesting.
Thank you, I'm happy I'm not alone in being confused about my future. These comments also made me consider taking an undergrad practicum. I was originally going to, but I wasn't sure if I could fit it into my schedule. I really think that I should though to get experiences like these.
I definitely feel inspired and motivated when I think about my potential life in this field, what it could be like and how I could be helping so many people (hopefully I'm that good, lol). The work life balance amount seems perfect for me, and by the time I finish my doctorate and fellowship my stepchildren will already be teenagers/young adults, so I could hopefully be a source of inspiration to them to continue their education and pursue their interests (or they could be rebellious teens, who knows).
I have been told by every mentor I've had in life to go into psychology, before I even thought myself of going into the field. They have all said I have a natural talent for talking to others, but that only covers the therapy side, right? I am wondering if I'll be good at the other parts of clinical work, or if I'll be good at research, or just so many other things that don't involve therapy. I like research so far from what I have done, but it's been so minimal. I get a lot more experience starting next semester, this is only my first semester in my R1 university and in the fall I'm joining a lab. I'll probably have a clearer understanding of what I want to do then.
I was actually choosing between these clinical and neuroscience PhDs when I applied. My undergrad coursework had a bit more of a neuroscience bent. At the end of the day, becoming a tenured professor in some fields is akin to becoming a rock star or a professional athlete. So, I would compare the careers outside of academia and see what you like to do. If you make it great, if not have a backup plan. I once had a mentor tell me, you can either have your weekends to yourself or be a well-known researcher. I knew, early on, that I could only work so many hours and took myself out of the competition early as I most enjoyed teaching and clinical work. I loved the process of research, but I hated the grind of publishing and grant funding. In the end, my choices had more to do with the life I wanted outside of my work. For example, I make double what my first academic mentor makes. He is a great guy and very smart, but stuck in the lower/ non-tenure academic ranks. I also have much more geographic flexibility, which means that if my wife gets a good job offer I can support that. If I were making the decision today, my choices might be different. However, that is mostly due to my interests in data mining, neural networks, and AI. The industry jobs were not there 20 years ago as they are today.
Nice to meet someone who was in a similar boat, and thank you for the insight! I definitely want to work outside of academia, and that is what made me wary of a neuroscience PhD. While it is extremely interesting, I've learned through more research and reading of this forum that it probably is not for me. I do, however, most likely want to pursue neuropsychology, because I think it would put my interest in neuroscience to very good, applied use. And I DEFINITELY want my weekends to myself, I haven't had a weekend to myself since I started working once I graduated high school, lol. I have a family to take care of, and I eventually want a child of my own, so grueling over work in a lab all day is probably not something I'd be happy doing. I need a career that suits my interests as well as pays the bills, and hopefully gives me a little cushion. Although, considering the fact that the stipends for the schools I'm looking at are nearly double what I currently make, it can't get much worse, can it...
Can I ask you all a question? Once you are in your career, do you have time to study interests outside of work? Like, for instance, if you have an interest in physics, or a certain math concept, do you have the time to self-study this for your own personal gain? Or do you go as far as to take a class on the subject? I'm just wondering how much free time you actually have as a practicing psychologist, and I've got a lot of interests that I might not get to explore while I'm in school.