Knowing that doctors find these things gross and are judging patients is the most surefire way to destroy that trust. When talking about pelvic exams, openly discussing how gross they are in a public forum (that now has over 7,000 views) is going to make some women feel self conscious and avoid getting a pelvic exam, or seek treatment for something that is very wrong, or worse: feel embarrassed, nervous, or ashamed while getting a pelvic exam. Finally, you realize that people have to go to the doctor right? As in, doctors can fix and solve problems that would otherwise end a persons life, severely disable them and/or cause enormous amounts of pain. People are totally dependent on medical doctors for their health. It should be understood that publicly gossiping about and judging their conditions is a massive abuse of power.
you think that being embarrassed during an exam is worse than avoiding an exam all together? I'm sorry.... This is one of the most demented things I have ever heard.
1. if this was in any way even remotely rooted in reality, the patient would hopefully have the brain power to avoid the "worse" situation and just not go. Your logic precludes your own situation. I havent often seen someone contradict themselves in a single statement. Bravo
2. You lost your poker face.... or at least showed your hand. You are responding emotionally to this, which is the only explanation for claiming that some embarrassment is somehow worse than avoiding the screen which may save your life. "embarrassment" is an abstract concept. Please do not try to quantify it. Since it is not universally constant among individuals it has not place in speculation about individuals.
I've watched a family member die from cancer and it is the absolute worst thing I have ever experienced in my life. Knowing that people like you are talking about something this serious and horrible on a message board because of the drama of story makes me want to vomit or cry. Not sure which. I'm done with this thread. This seriously bothers me.
aaaaaaaaaand here it is. I knew there was something causing you to over react. SDNers, check it out: it always happens this way. If someone is going off the wall for no apparent reason, chances are the subject matter is hitting some exposed nerve that nobody did (or should) know about... Sorry about your family member. Losses suck. But personal, anecdotal, and emotional explosions like this will make you a crappy doc. You need to be able to handle adult situations like an adult. Your reaction here is the equivalent of crying to the teacher because johnny said a dirty word. Get over it.
You know, medical schools are looking for compassion in people. I now understand how so many applicants get rejected every year.... They're all right here immaturely gossiping about serious things and ripping me apart for actually having empathy.
Oh and by the way, you're wasting your time shadowing and desperately trying to get clinical experience. It demonstrates that you didn't read the admissions requirements at most schools and have spent your free time getting perfunctory experience. But keep doing it-- it only makes me look better and stand out in even more.
How's that for being illogical? Peace out mutha f*****s!
You don't have empathy..... and here is where I will over react a little.... This is a concept that gets confused all the time and misappropriated by people to a very irritating extent.
having a bleeding heart is not empathizing. Also, not whole-heartedly accepting the emotional state of another as appropriate is not the same as lacking empathy. To empathize you need only to understand the situation the other is in. "I feel bad for you" is not empathy. I'm not even entirely sure what it is other than useless in most situations. By empathizing I can potentially understand the emotions that another is feeling, or understand the series of internal events that lead to those emotions. I can potentially offer insight, advice, counseling, or help. Because I have empathized.
By reciprocating an emotion, I cannot really do any of these things..... I am not saying I am barred from doing them, but this particular facet of your definition of empathy has no direct impact on the actions i listed above. Feeling the same way offers nothing to your patient. By that logic I should be shooting healthy people in the trauma ward in order to help my patient.
While we are at it... "compassion" also is not synonymous with "being nice"... $*^# pre-meds.... sometimes.... i swears
get over your idealism. Join the real world and smell the roses. Little hint - they smell like freaking plants. Enough with the disillusionment.
I agree that it's not appropriate to be divulging patient information on an internet forum, but I think it's a stretch to claim that women will start to avoid getting a pelvic exam because of one poster's comments. This a forum for healthcare professionals - I highly doubt your typical female patient will be navigating these threads, and if she is, it's rather foolish to let what an 18 or 19 year old pre-med has to say have that significant an effect on you.
even if the typical patient WAS on this board, whose to say that she didnt read this and say "yeah... there ARE some really gross ones out there!"