How important is to build a dating resume in college?

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mipp0 said:
Man some of the scumbags on this forum...

Women aren't notches on your bed post or marks on your belt.

If you go on a date, don't be looking to go in her pants.

You freaks are the last people to be giving advice.

Here's some tips for you buddy:
1) Respect women--they're people, not sex objects.
2) Be patient, don't force a relationship.
3) Chemistry, chemistry, chemistry.
4) Sense of humor is always a plus, as is good manners and "gentlemanly" qualities (genuine gentlemanly qualities I might add)
5) Be honest with her.
6) Find a place where you can find a girl with similar interests (school club, dare I say library...)
7) Learn to hold an interesting conversation or even start one.
8) Smile, take care of yourself, and have good hygiene.
9) Don't be mean.
10) Nice guys don't finish last.

And most importantly, remember that this isn't some race. College isn't a time to have rampant, whorish sex. It's a time for growth and understanding. Self actualization if you will.

That's it. I'm off my soap box.

Scumbags...
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And all this advice is preceded by rule #1:

Rule #1: Never learn how to pick up women from women.

Women say they want one thing and end up going for something completely different ALL the time.
 
Can anyone graph this information and provide a link? I feel like it will be easier to commit the relevant facts to memory that way.

Seriously though, I normally don't post but this thread is ridiculous. I need to stop reading SDN...
 
I just feeling sad about you, tennisball.
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Yeah. I feel really sad for him. He has MarinaS offering him 1 vs. 1 advice. That's rough man. How do you manage to get by?
 
Well, at least graduate schools don't require a semester of dating experience as a prereq course.

I am going back to pre-read my college algebra textbook.

And I PMed MarinaS.
 
greatnt249 said:
Because it almost seems as if he's going out of his way to be overly analytical of a process that just needs a natural flow to it.
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I think he's just yanking our chain. On the other hand, he has at least one woman asking him to send him a personal message, so there may be a clever strategy here...
 
FYI... Not sure how it came across, but I have no intention on dating tennisball 😱... Just felt bad that you guys were offering him such horrible advice.
 
MarinaS said:
FYI... Not sure how it came across, but I have no intention on dating tennisball 😱... Just felt bad that you guys were offering him such horrible advice.
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WHAT??!!?? You mean you don't go around randomly dating people you meet on internet forums?

Tennisball, let this be your first lesson: Women are teases.
 
Trexate said:
WHAT??!!?? You mean you don't go around randomly dating people you meet on internet forums?

Tennisball, let this be your first lesson: Women are teases.
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lol..You such a funny guy! I can't wait to see you in real life if I ever have a chance...:meanie: sToP sarcasm plz! rolf.

But Tennisball, it's a goood opportunities special for you to talk to a girl you don't know in real life. Ask anything you want, however, keep in mind that she may say " aww...weird. lol". It never hurt you since you don't know her in real life. Enjoy~ hahaha:meanie:

But I DO believe that someday, somehow, things will work themselves out, you just gotta be hopeful and let your wild side come out every now and again; but a whole other level of balancin'. LIFE BALANCIN'
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Agree! The most useful advise I found on this thread so far.
 
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Ok so I've been sitting here with myself debating for quite a while now on whether I should proceede with some witty comment or just plain out speak my truth. I have decided to go with the latter.

*puts on philosphy hat*

Ok so here's what I think, I think that all things in life happen for a reason... I think that you can't force anything... and I think that things tend to happen when you least expect them too. Consequently, I would suggest to stop over-analyzing the situation and to just be yourself and let yourself socialize and enjoy other things in life (aside from studying). Remember that the key, and I think this may be the hardest thing for all of us, and I respect very much those who have achieved it: BALANCE. Not the same kind of balancing you do to chemical equations 😛 but a whole other level of balancin'. LIFE BALANCIN' ... it ain't easy but that's what we are all strivin' to achieve in order to be happy! It's ongoing dilemmas where you can't just flip a coin in order to solve the issue... sometimes you gotta dive, head first. But I DO believe that someday, somehow, things will work themselves out, you just gotta be hopeful and let your wild side come out every now and again 😉

Good luck!

Mel:luck:
 
mipp0 said:
Man some of the scumbags on this forum...

Women aren't notches on your bed post or marks on your belt.

If you go on a date, don't be looking to go in her pants.

You freaks are the last people to be giving advice.

Here's some tips for you buddy:
1) Respect women--they're people, not sex objects.
2) Be patient, don't force a relationship.
3) Chemistry, chemistry, chemistry.
4) Sense of humor is always a plus, as is good manners and "gentlemanly" qualities (genuine gentlemanly qualities I might add)
5) Be honest with her.
6) Find a place where you can find a girl with similar interests (school club, dare I say library...)
7) Learn to hold an interesting conversation or even start one.
8) Smile, take care of yourself, and have good hygiene.
9) Don't be mean.
10) Nice guys don't finish last.

And most importantly, remember that this isn't some race. College isn't a time to have rampant, whorish sex. It's a time for growth and understanding. Self actualization if you will.

That's it. I'm off my soap box.

Scumbags...
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What does balancing reactions have to do with relationship success? :meanie:
 
Hope no graduate school requires a semester of dating experience.
 
Kaushik said:
What does balancing reactions have to do with relationship success? :meanie:
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Haha well then I guess it might have something to do with it after all if you factor in the chemistry aspect of things... haha I just thought of a cheezy and corny and nerdy pick-up line... and it's probably been thought of before... it goes a little something like this: "I'll balance your equation if you balance mine 😉"
Yup, it reads just like it sounds, corny and cheezy. Haha it gets you thinking, honestly, like who actually uses pick-up lines aside from joking matters?!

Mel:luck:
 
BerlinDude said:
👍Preach on brother, preach on.

There's a saying "You'll lose a lot of money chasing women, but you'll never lose a woman chasing money". Replace 'money' with 'MD' and it still holds.
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just keep telling yourself that 🙄

MDs have reasonably high rates of divorce (check out the NOVA series) due to the stresses of the job. All relationship take work, and everyone should spend time becoming a well rounded person in college. Don't just put off the dating until you are done with school as you'll be less flexible and able to become someone dateable.
 
This thread is from August. How did I miss it? Better question is...how did it last 3 pages!?
 
The advice on here is some of the worst I've ever seen.
 
It is important to always have a few cute girls that you can call and ask them to make you company at some event or vacation. Hopefully they are not hookers.
 
Not sure why I'm even contributing to this... but 'dating' is not the same as 'hooking up'. It might be super easy to go and hook up with someone in college, but dating someone and ending up in a real relationship is hard and doesn't happen to often. You can't really force those things, they just sort of happen. All you can do is keep meeting people and hope you click with one! Whether or not this thread is serious or not, good luck to all the single premeds 🙂
 
wow, i can't believe i missed this thread too. I love tennisball, for realz.

btw, for my 2 cents: why is it that everyone on this thread thinks its a dichotomy between acting like a jerk or acting like a nice guy? Lets face it: there are trashy women out there who just want a guy in a flashy beamer, and there are beautiful, intelligent, self respecting women who dont want to waste time with trashy men?

Or, better yet, there are men out there who, ideally, would like to be in a loving romantic relationship, yet are too blinded by just trying to land a pair of DD's, just like there are women out there who ideally would like romantic respecting relationships yet get too distracted by mr. 12 pack. We're all human after all.....

So, wouldnt good advice be: treat each situation uniquely and be on your toes. In the end, everyone wants that excitement of a person who is just a tad hard to get, yet can also present to them a trusting place to be themselves. Ultimately,the best advice is that you need to learn from each experience, but DONT OVERLEARN from each one. Some people (myself included) swing WAY too far one way or another after a failed relationship.

She thought you were too emotionally unavailable? Dont go weeping to the next Female that walks by. You'll be too emotional for their tastes. In reality its somewhere between .


the BEST advice that anyone can give, and i think all guys and women can agree (for things that you can control, anyways), is to be hard to get. NOT act hard to get, but actually be hard to get because you are such a fascinating, interesting person that involves yourself in everything life has to offer. Women start becoming less and less important, until the important ones come along, and she will want to be with you since, well, your interesting.

tada...
 
mipp0 said:
Man some of the scumbags on this forum...

Women aren't notches on your bed post or marks on your belt.

If you go on a date, don't be looking to go in her pants.

You freaks are the last people to be giving advice.

Here's some tips for you buddy:
1) Respect women--they're people, not sex objects.
2) Be patient, don't force a relationship.
3) Chemistry, chemistry, chemistry.
4) Sense of humor is always a plus, as is good manners and "gentlemanly" qualities (genuine gentlemanly qualities I might add)
5) Be honest with her.
6) Find a place where you can find a girl with similar interests (school club, dare I say library...)
7) Learn to hold an interesting conversation or even start one.
8) Smile, take care of yourself, and have good hygiene.
9) Don't be mean.
10) Nice guys don't finish last.

And most importantly, remember that this isn't some race. College isn't a time to have rampant, whorish sex. It's a time for growth and understanding. Self actualization if you will.

That's it. I'm off my soap box.

Scumbags...
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worst.post.ever.

go out and get some. as much as possible....screw dating
 
Here's some tips for you buddy:
1) Respect women--they're people, not sex objects.

True. They are people, and because they are people, they probably like sex and value sex appeal, just like you. Thus, sex and lovemaking are important.

2) Be patient, don't force a relationship.

True. Women always lead the way. Wait for them to lay down the cookie crumbs, and its men's job to recognize those and grab them. Too often, Men never learn how to go and grab those crumbs, and thus why there is so much emphasis on "being assertive", when in reality, being assertive is just doing what you are supposed to be doing given the correct situation. Getting her to lay the crumbs, however, is another story altogether

3) Chemistry, chemistry, chemistry.

N/A. Chemistry is an end, not a means. You can have chemistry with someone totally different than you.

4) Sense of humor is always a plus, as is good manners and "gentlemanly" qualities (genuine gentlemanly qualities I might add)

True. However, the funniest people can be a bit deutschebagish, while the most polite people can come off as the most boring and uninteresting. This is a fine line that requires alot of work. This is why the first impression of "gentlemanly" is so important, as then it allows you to be funny because you are already considered a gentleman. The reverse is much harder.

5) Be honest with her.

Depends on what honest means. And honest probably does nto mean entirely honest. Lets face it, deception is a part of life, and leads to happiness. Therefore, "be honest" as a policy is absolutely false. What, should you tell a girl that: OMG! DO LOOK FAT IN THAT DRESS! your job is to make her feel like a better person around you. That is #1. Sometimes, that means being honest. Other times, it means telling her selective truths. Sorry, but its true.


6) Find a place where you can find a girl with similar interests (school club, dare I say library...)
avoid pre-med clubs at all costs OP. Lord knows you need to grow in other areas.


7) Learn to hold an interesting conversation or even start one.False. Instead, learn to be an interesting person. Conversations become easy after that.

8) Smile, take care of yourself, and have good hygiene.
true

9) Don't be mean.
dont be mean, but also be nice, gracious, and interesting to everyone that you meet. That means that she wont get all the attention, which means that she will have to try just a bit harder to get a bit more of that attention from you. Also dont be afraid to speak your mind in a professional setting, or if personal, in a well worded statement, even if this creates short term conflict. Reasonable people always come around.
10) Nice guys don't finish last.
nice guys with nothing else to offer do finish last. NIce guys who are also interesting, funny, l!ve, and are spontaneous and creative, do not finish last.
 
When you refer to it as a "dating resume," you should just give up right now.
 
mipp0 said:
Man some of the scumbags on this forum...

Women aren't notches on your bed post or marks on your belt.

If you go on a date, don't be looking to go in her pants.

You freaks are the last people to be giving advice.

Here's some tips for you buddy:
1) Respect women--they're people, not sex objects.
2) Be patient, don't force a relationship.
3) Chemistry, chemistry, chemistry.
4) Sense of humor is always a plus, as is good manners and "gentlemanly" qualities (genuine gentlemanly qualities I might add)
5) Be honest with her.
6) Find a place where you can find a girl with similar interests (school club, dare I say library...)
7) Learn to hold an interesting conversation or even start one.
8) Smile, take care of yourself, and have good hygiene.
9) Don't be mean.
10) Nice guys don't finish last.

And most importantly, remember that this isn't some race. College isn't a time to have rampant, whorish sex. It's a time for growth and understanding. Self actualization if you will.

That's it. I'm off my soap box.

Scumbags...
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wow i'm pretty sure the OP could have asked his MOM if he wanted this advice. (OP this is your chance to say "i did...last night")

nice guys are fun, but they aren't much of a challenge so a lot of women don't give them the time of day past the first date.
 
I'm really tired of men polarizing themselves as being a "nice guy" or a "jerk". Neither of them is a particularly attractive category.
 
This is one of the funniest threads i've ever read. Here are 3 things that attract me in men, so a guy should be:
1. Smart
2. Kind (always welcome to help)
3. Good looking (hygiene/stylish)
 
Yudid said:
This is one of the funniest threads i've ever read. Here are 3 things that attract me in men, so a guy should be:
1. Smart
2. Kind (always welcome to help)
3. Good looking (hygiene/stylish)
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You and everyone else on the planet.
 
curbye said:
wow i'm pretty sure the OP could have asked his MOM if he wanted this advice. (OP this is your chance to say "i did...last night")

nice guys are fun, but they aren't much of a challenge so a lot of women don't give them the time of day past the first date.
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Wait, it sounds like you are encouraging an incestuous innuendo. Not cool. :laugh:
 
Wow, if OP wants to know why he can't get dates, he should read the title of his own thread. :laugh:
 
Why is this thread active again? 😕😕😕

By the way, I've solved my dating problem already.
 
tennisball80 said:
Is it really that important?

I never had a date in life. Is it important to have dating experiences in college so I can get a woman later on in my life?

Is it really a skill I need to learn in college or I can always learn during reisidency/fellowship?

Obviously, I have a low GPA in women and I never any done ECs toward getting a girlfriend either.

And, I am asking this seriously.

Update December 28, 2009 : I have solved my dating problem already.
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Between this and your depressing ass Christmas threads... seriously?
 
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