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Hi all,
I recently received news of three acceptances, two to relatively local public medical schools and one to my top choice since making my school list at the beginning of the cycle, a T20 medical school in the perfect location with a mission that aligns exactly with my own career goals and has the collaborative environment and the diversity in both student body and leadership that I was looking for. I felt and still feel incredibly grateful for this opportunity to become a physician; I was in shock for weeks and I still keep logging in to check the portal because honestly I can't believe it.
The drawback comes when telling friends and mentors about my acceptances; as I went to an HYPSM undergrad, many have commented that I should wait for other "more highly ranked" acceptances besides my top choice and asked if I have heard back from other T5 schools (seeming disappointed that I haven't, although I am waiting on my alma mater's decisions which release in March). They basically insinuate it would be a huge drop in prestige to attend my top choice, are confused that I'm not 'doing better this cycle' and one even went so far as to say I should definitely attend a higher ranked school elsewhere. I have my heart set on my top choice as I honestly feel there is no school better for me, but I am waiting on some other interviews to see if I can get financial aid to leverage financial aid at this choice. How do I prevent people's comments from getting to my head? I was honestly miserable at my undergrad and am tired of the prestige game; I am proud of the school that I got into, but I think I have low self esteem and such which prevents me from brushing off comments like this. As a low income student, I feel special pressure to continue to try to do the best for myself and my family as I can, so as to not let anyone down but this pressure from others is exhausting and making this acceptance bittersweet although initially I was walking on air for weeks.
Any advice? I know this is a good problem to have but all these comments to most of the people I told about my acceptance (good friends and close research mentors) have been making me quite sad.
I recently received news of three acceptances, two to relatively local public medical schools and one to my top choice since making my school list at the beginning of the cycle, a T20 medical school in the perfect location with a mission that aligns exactly with my own career goals and has the collaborative environment and the diversity in both student body and leadership that I was looking for. I felt and still feel incredibly grateful for this opportunity to become a physician; I was in shock for weeks and I still keep logging in to check the portal because honestly I can't believe it.
The drawback comes when telling friends and mentors about my acceptances; as I went to an HYPSM undergrad, many have commented that I should wait for other "more highly ranked" acceptances besides my top choice and asked if I have heard back from other T5 schools (seeming disappointed that I haven't, although I am waiting on my alma mater's decisions which release in March). They basically insinuate it would be a huge drop in prestige to attend my top choice, are confused that I'm not 'doing better this cycle' and one even went so far as to say I should definitely attend a higher ranked school elsewhere. I have my heart set on my top choice as I honestly feel there is no school better for me, but I am waiting on some other interviews to see if I can get financial aid to leverage financial aid at this choice. How do I prevent people's comments from getting to my head? I was honestly miserable at my undergrad and am tired of the prestige game; I am proud of the school that I got into, but I think I have low self esteem and such which prevents me from brushing off comments like this. As a low income student, I feel special pressure to continue to try to do the best for myself and my family as I can, so as to not let anyone down but this pressure from others is exhausting and making this acceptance bittersweet although initially I was walking on air for weeks.
Any advice? I know this is a good problem to have but all these comments to most of the people I told about my acceptance (good friends and close research mentors) have been making me quite sad.