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.......I guess it takes more than just a good heart
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Sucky situation. Even when parents are stupid you just have to do your best to maintain a positive relationship with them. It's much the same with inlaws.
Here's my solution: Lie to them. Apply where you want to apply and where you will get in. Then make a fake html page that shows your school ranking in the top 25. Maybe not #1, because I good lie has to be believable.
Next, if they mention to somebody else that you are at a top 25 school and the person refutes them- launch into a tirade about how the othe person has no idea what they are talking about. Probably a good idea to save your fake html page because I visual aid could come in handy here. Try to play to your parents weaknesses by appealing to their sense of honor or just laughing off the other person as ignorant.
Finally, if this relationship-wrecking intruder seriously presses the not-top-25 issue with your parents, you have two drastic options: Kill the intruder or seriously injure yourself. In all honesty, killing the intruder will be a more permanent solution, but medical licensing could get tricky with a first degree felony. Plus, if more than one person brings the not-top-25 issue up to your parents this could get complicated. That's why I recommend option number two. The perfect serious injury will take everybody's minds away from whose what is in the top how many. And note that I said "injury" - you're going to want to make this one recoverable.
Okay- my real advice is to try and maintain an even keel. Getting too excited or too bummed about anything can cause excessive anxiety before the fat lady has sung. Be patient, rational, and understanding. Remember that you love them and that they love you and that there is almost always a compromise. Good luck.
PS- you might try to explain to them how silly those "rankings" can be. Find a reason to convince them that YOUR school is the best.
Here's my solution: Lie to them. Apply where you want to apply and where you will get in. Then make a fake html page that shows your school ranking in the top 25. Maybe not #1, because I good lie has to be believable.
Next, if they mention to somebody else that you are at a top 25 school and the person refutes them- launch into a tirade about how the othe person has no idea what they are talking about. Probably a good idea to save your fake html page because I visual aid could come in handy here. Try to play to your parents weaknesses by appealing to their sense of honor or just laughing off the other person as ignorant.
Finally, if this relationship-wrecking intruder seriously presses the not-top-25 issue with your parents, you have two drastic options: Kill the intruder or seriously injure yourself. In all honesty, killing the intruder will be a more permanent solution, but medical licensing could get tricky with a first degree felony. Plus, if more than one person brings the not-top-25 issue up to your parents this could get complicated. That's why I recommend option number two. The perfect serious injury will take everybody's minds away from whose what is in the top how many. And note that I said "injury" - you're going to want to make this one recoverable.
Okay- my real advice is to try and maintain an even keel. Getting too excited or too bummed about anything can cause excessive anxiety before the fat lady has sung. Be patient, rational, and understanding. Remember that you love them and that they love you and that there is almost always a compromise. Good luck.
PS- you might try to explain to them how silly those "rankings" can be. Find a reason to convince them that YOUR school is the best.
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When I was a kid, I used to read this educational comic book series about Western countries and how they are different from my own. One of the big differences was the idea of community in Asian countries and individualism in Western society.
I went to elementary school and middle school back in Korea, we'd clean up the classroom after school as a whole class. And if some kids were slacking off and the whole cleaning got delayed, everyone as the whole class would get detention. Or better yet, the classroom leaders (I was one of them) would get coporal punishment in front of everyone else - including the slackers. If the similar scenario happened to take place in Western society, the parents would complain why their kids who had nothing to do with the slacking had to get detention/get corporal punishment. (When I say corporal punishment, I mean actually getting spanked with a gigantic wooden stick that reminded me of Exodus from the Bible.)
That's just one of many examples of the emphasis on "group" in Asian cultures. Needless to say, this concept overrules pretty much other values in Asian families as well. It goes beyond the respect for your parents. It's more of honouring your own family by being a good yet obedient person who would do anything for your family values, not for your values.
Capiche? 😀
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