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Well with previous girls, I tend to not get as attached as the one I had issue with. First, I am usually very playful around females. The ones I am physically attracted to I have no trouble talking to, and eventually I form an emotional attachment and date them. I guess the good thing about this is that physical attachment comes first, then emotional. That way, when I get rejected, I don't feel as bad. But with the other girl, I just feel like crap because I am both emotionally and physically attracted. What's worst is that after being rejected by her and finding out she has a boyfriend, I lost sense of my confidence. Meeting other girls and having fun with them only reminds me that at the end of the day, she's all that's matter.
So yes, I do put her on the pedestal, but only because she has a hold on me. As I said before, she is everything that I am looking for, and until I find another lady who makes me feel the same, I don't think I can ever the be same. Also, people tend to think that she takes advantage of me, which sometimes I don't quite get, especially when I work with her and not my teammates on our therapeutic assignments. Maybe I am in denial.
Also, I said I have the hots for SHC1984, its just an internet crush and nothing more, I am in no way interested in meeting the actual SHC1984 in real life as I mentioned before. Sheesh.
Now, hold up. From your other thread - you just hung out with her and creeped around her and helped her with schoolwork. This means:
You never dated her.
You never fooled around with her.
You never slept with her.
If these things are true, then what the crap is this deep "emotional and physical attachment" you are talking about?
A simple analogy is that you played the best game of your life, and you want to emulate that experience once more, but can't seem to because your teammates are different than the ones you had.
If what you described in the other thread is the "best game of your life," it's not wonder we all suspect you of being a virgin. Because what you described is NO GAME at all.
My thought is that you are so inexperienced (emotionally and physically) that a simple crush has mushroomed into something so much more in your mind, and you've developed an obsession. It's unhealthy and abnormal. It will scare off the few women out there who might be willing to date you. Work on giving it up. And stop playing video games so much.