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This is a shameless attention seeking style of please help me note.
Please note brief life story will follow - annoying, I know, but I would appreciate the read and comments, please bear with me.
I'm 25, long story short, standard dead mother by 7, evil step mother by 11, kicked out at 16, left school and got a full time waitressing job same year, second job in a bar next year, met a guy 12 years older (I dare anyone to say daddy issues!) moved in together by 18, pregnant at 19, first one turned out so good I had another at 21 (having been alone in the world and always knowing I wanted a sibling for any kid I would and did have and it just making sense to get on with it whilst I had all the stuff, was in the routine of not having a routine etc).
I don't regret any of the things I have done, I just wish that I had done more as well.
When I was 16 all my friends were worried about what they were going to do at A level, I was worried about whether I could afford electricity and food. When the choice came between continuing school or getting myself a very low paying but full time job - it never was a choice at that moment in time and I accept that.
I did very well in clawing my way up from waitressing to office admin work, progressing to reception and eventually a PA for a director of a very successful company.
I have always been very artistic, I lost my job of 3 years the same week I informally told my boss I was pregnant but figured, hey, I always wanted to be there for my kids before they started school, it just means I don't get the security of maternity pay.
My kids are now starting school.
I figured now its my turn to do something for me. I told my partner I wanted to go to university and get a degree, good job and do something with myself instead of returning to a low sector job. He supported this idea and since I was always drawing, suggested I do something in an arts field.
I got in and did really well for my first term but, it kind of became apparent I was doing that because I was good at it, not because I wanted to do it. Sounds daft I know but there it is.
So I left my course.
I want to be a fertility specialist.
I want to study medicine.
No one has ever expected anything from me in my life and I think that I'm slightly embarrassed to admit that I expect something from myself?
I have recently done a two week stint in a Veterinary surgery and done a lot of cool things (my leaving present was stitching up a dead dog - not many people would get it but it was amazing). So I, maybe naively don't think squeamishness will be an issue.
My partner isn't the most supportive and doesn't think a lot of me in certain respects. But he isn't working and that isn't going to change any time soon. Both my kids are going to be in full time education.
I know a lot of people do but I have the drive and passion to succeed at this.
I just want someone to please say who gives a f*ck about your age?
So what you had kids young?
Yes you have kids, yes it will be hard finding balance - but not impossible
Stop whining and looking for an easy out on what you want to do.
You go do you and screw everything/one else.
Sort of.
please?
Please note brief life story will follow - annoying, I know, but I would appreciate the read and comments, please bear with me.
I'm 25, long story short, standard dead mother by 7, evil step mother by 11, kicked out at 16, left school and got a full time waitressing job same year, second job in a bar next year, met a guy 12 years older (I dare anyone to say daddy issues!) moved in together by 18, pregnant at 19, first one turned out so good I had another at 21 (having been alone in the world and always knowing I wanted a sibling for any kid I would and did have and it just making sense to get on with it whilst I had all the stuff, was in the routine of not having a routine etc).
I don't regret any of the things I have done, I just wish that I had done more as well.
When I was 16 all my friends were worried about what they were going to do at A level, I was worried about whether I could afford electricity and food. When the choice came between continuing school or getting myself a very low paying but full time job - it never was a choice at that moment in time and I accept that.
I did very well in clawing my way up from waitressing to office admin work, progressing to reception and eventually a PA for a director of a very successful company.
I have always been very artistic, I lost my job of 3 years the same week I informally told my boss I was pregnant but figured, hey, I always wanted to be there for my kids before they started school, it just means I don't get the security of maternity pay.
My kids are now starting school.
I figured now its my turn to do something for me. I told my partner I wanted to go to university and get a degree, good job and do something with myself instead of returning to a low sector job. He supported this idea and since I was always drawing, suggested I do something in an arts field.
I got in and did really well for my first term but, it kind of became apparent I was doing that because I was good at it, not because I wanted to do it. Sounds daft I know but there it is.
So I left my course.
I want to be a fertility specialist.
I want to study medicine.
No one has ever expected anything from me in my life and I think that I'm slightly embarrassed to admit that I expect something from myself?
I have recently done a two week stint in a Veterinary surgery and done a lot of cool things (my leaving present was stitching up a dead dog - not many people would get it but it was amazing). So I, maybe naively don't think squeamishness will be an issue.
My partner isn't the most supportive and doesn't think a lot of me in certain respects. But he isn't working and that isn't going to change any time soon. Both my kids are going to be in full time education.
I know a lot of people do but I have the drive and passion to succeed at this.
I just want someone to please say who gives a f*ck about your age?
So what you had kids young?
Yes you have kids, yes it will be hard finding balance - but not impossible
Stop whining and looking for an easy out on what you want to do.
You go do you and screw everything/one else.
Sort of.
please?