I wouldn't be so quick top brush off day care. My daughter is in one and we all absolutely love it. Granted there are day cares out there that you wouldn't put your family pet in, but there are definitely lots of really good quality day cares. For my girl, it's her only opportunity to interact with kids and adults other than my husband and I. Plus, they do so many more activities than I would do with her when I'm at home. A friend of mine has her boy with a nanny and is always having problems with it. Just recently, she discovered that the nanny keeps the TV on all day, which is potentially contributing to the boy's attention problem. You really have to investigate to find a good day care, but when you do, it's golden. One thing that helps at ours is that the center offers the employees fairly good benefits, which encourages them to stay around for a long time. We've been there almost a year and have had zero turn-over. Also, day cares are almost always cheaper than nannies.rgporter said:A question for those of you who have much more experience than myself. I am married, will be starting school in August. We don't have any children currently but we definitely don't want to wait until school is over to start having children. My question is this, how were you able to handle child care? We don't really want to use a day care, my spouse doesn't trust them (apathetic employees, etc.) plus they're so expensive. The solution we keep coming back to is that my spouse will have to stay home with the children (it's what she wants to do anyway), but the finaid package won't allow us to survive this way.
How did you manage your time/money? any advice is greatly appreciated.
That's what I was thinking. There is sooooo much to know, and even if I was a hermit monk I wouldn't be able to know it all. Hopefully I too can find some balance in this 'game.'midlifecrisis said:An MD friend with a cool balanced life and husband and kids (one came during first year finals) gave me some great advice. She said to get used to not knowing everything and be cool with that. Learn what you need to and more and be happy with that. Med school is hard but doesn't have to be insane.
Hopefully she's right. I'd like to stay married through this too.