LOL, haha, ” kids these days ” - I bet you're a 100 years old grown-up full of wisdom.drama drama drama. Kids these days. OP just keeps spinning in circles.
LOL, haha, ” kids these days ” - I bet you're a 100 years old grown-up full of wisdom.drama drama drama. Kids these days. OP just keeps spinning in circles.
Thanks, I will look forward to read those books !I feel I get a lot of reading. I realize you don't have much time but these two books may help you change how you frame things.
Mindset by Carol Dweck:
About the Growth vs Fixed Mindset which from your original post you seem to have a fixed mindset on the externals.
Meditations by Marcus Aurelius:
You get to see what the Roman Emporer (who pretty much ruled most of the known world) did to deal with stress in the last ten years of his (which were while he was at war).
You can choose how you perceive this world. If you dig meditations look at reading more of the Stoic philosophy. I think it parallels a lot of Christianity.
LOL, haha, ” kids these days ” - I bet you're a 100 years old grown-up full of wisdom.
Yes, I know this is pathetic, but I just had my first week in Med School and I feel miserable already.
I know Med School is the place where everyone is smart, but in my opinion, I don't lack intelligence : all my life, I've been told that I'm intelligent. Do I think otherwise ? No, not really. However, I'm aware that I probably have more inner demons than other people can imagine and this is what often times sends me into darker places than others end up being.
For example, every student faces some anxiety at the beginning of Med School, but for me is more : it is a threat to my whole identity, it's a self-bullying question of whether I deserve to be alive or not if I can't be so great as I want to be, it's an existential claustrophobia in which I constantly feel like I'm choking.
It's hard to tell what makes me to be so edgy, but I think it's a combination of never feeling peace inside myself, never feeling good in my own skin, never feeling like I'm comfortable in this world or that my life would be reflection of inner harmony, never being truly able to relax.
It just breaks me down to see everyone around me happy, my parents so proud and so happy that I'm studying what they studied also ( they are also doctors ) , but they did it with so much joy, while I'm ashamed by the horror that I see around myself all the time.
I just can't enjoy living this experience, I see only fight wherever I look, for me every day is a day for survival, a day to prove my competence ( which I always feel that is lacking ), I simply CANNOT find joy in it, I just see a cold world and nothing more.
I know one thing and that is that I'm not going to give up - I'm damn too proud to do it and life is not worth it anymore if I can't pull this out. I'd better be dead than to live on like a disappointment. I'm not so delusional to admit that yes : if I'm a weak person, then I truly don't deserve to survive and I just use up the air unnecessarily on this planet.
However, I would like to find a way to hide my misery from others. My parents don't deserve to know that I'm such a messed-up person deep inside. They couldn't help and no one could actually. I have way too many shadows and I'm way to skeptic to let anyone help me.
I just want to live the best way I can and not hurt others. I don't want to make them suffer because of my pain, but I can't control myself sometimes. I simply don't know how to not show all the pain toward my parents and friends whom I love, I also want to not let it affect my performance as a student, I just want to handle it like a man ( I'm a woman, but you get the idea ).
Thanks for your time.
Thanks all for your kind words, but it seems like some of you don't get it : I can't and I won't seek any professional help.
Do you know what's the chance of finding someone who can help with this ? Close to zero.
Do you know how much time I have licking my psychological wounds ? Close to zero.
Thanks, but no thanks - I'm skeptic about "mental health professionals" anyway. Don't tell me you aren't.
The thing is, I know very well Med School is not the problem. My own mind is the problem. However, I can't just put it in a jar and buy a new one. All the demons I have going inside my mind are going to be there even 10 years from now, the question is what I do with my time. I'm sure it's not an obstacle to achieve success in Medical School, let's face it : many doctors have serious mental issues also, yet they made it through. In an ideal world, we would all be psychologically healthy, but this is not an ideal world and there are way too many factors to consider and even if one would manage to "cure" himself ( if there is such a thing at all ), life would probably pass him by.
This is what I see right now : if I give in to this psychological game that my mind plays on me and I "accept" that I need help and comfort and understand and bla bla , I would wake up one day and realize my whole life passed by and I'd wish I'd just toughen up and achieve my goals instead of getting soft on myself.
As I wrote, I don't want kind words or empathy, I want real effective advice to shake me up, to make me pull myself together, if anyone has experienced this and can talk from experience, because I don't think that " healthy " people can understand - they lack perspective. Not that I would wish them to have perspective.
It's good to be mentally balanced, but you can't possibly understand someone who is not and " go seek professional help " is not the best advice. You all know this. 90% of us never seek professional help, because we know there is no such thing anyway.
I just want to handle my life in spite of my mental disadvantages.
I just happen to not be a hypocrite when it comes to what's going on in the real world.
Most people don't ever get cured - they just get treated.
No one figured out a way to cure OCD, or schizophrenia, or PTSD, or Major Depression, or any serious mental disease.
Still sounds like I'm devaluing "professionals" ?
I respect the intention of these people, but the reality is different. Wanting to help doesn't equal with actually succeeding at help.
The best help is often times the one that a person can give to himself. Nothing more, nothing less. I don't believe in putting my faith in others to fix my life.
What can they teach you in your first week that caused you to doubt yourself to this extreme? I don't believe this has anything to do with medical school, seems like your using it as an excuse for other problems you've always had.