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Hello! I’m a freshman premed student in college. When I was visiting the campus few months ago, I met this kid that was very quiet. We had a lot of things in common, so I asked him if we could room together if we decide to commit to the college we are visiting. Now that we are officially roommates, I regret my choice. He is so evil minded. It might be due to his quietness or how he is in general. So this girl, who is a sophomore, gave him a bunch of her notes and books for free, and he never mentioned it. She then told me that she gave him the notes and that I should ask him if he could share it with me. When I asked him I could make a copy, he said no. So I was a bit sad and knew what type of person he is. Then we both wanted to volunteer in a clinic and when I asked him if he emailed them he said no. And when I told him that I was about to email them, he said that was a bad idea. So I did not email them. After waiting for a while, I called the clinic and asked them if I and my roommate could volunteer there. Then the woman from the hospital told me that he already arranged his volunteer times with them through an email. That was when I obviously knew he is such a bad person.

On top of all these, he constantly asks me where I am going, if I’m going to study or not, stands behind me and looks at my computer when I’m doing homework, if I want to drop a class, and a bunch of other negative things. And the worst part is, everyone thinks he is such a lovely person.

I am starting to feel discouraged with my academics because of his constant remarks on how I should drop few classes. How do you cope with this type of discouraging people/roommate?

Please, I need your help! Any advice will help.

Thanks in advance!
 
Mikedavis said:
Hello! I’m a freshman premed student in college. When I was visiting the campus few months ago, I met this kid that was very quiet. We had a lot of things in common, so I asked him if we could room together if we decide to commit to the college we are visiting. Now that we are officially roommates, I regret my choice. He is so evil minded. It might be due to his quietness or how he is in general. So this girl, who is a sophomore, gave him a bunch of her notes and books for free, and he never mentioned it. She then told me that she gave him the notes and that I should ask him if he could share it with me. When I asked him I could make a copy, he said no. So I was a bit sad and knew what type of person he is. Then we both wanted to volunteer in a clinic and when I asked him if he emailed them he said no. And when I told him that I was about to email them, he said that was a bad idea. So I did not email them. After waiting for a while, I called the clinic and asked them if I and my roommate could volunteer there. Then the woman from the hospital told me that he already arranged his volunteer times with them through an email. That was when I obviously knew he is such a bad person.

On top of all these, he constantly asks me where I am going, if I’m going to study or not, stands behind me and looks at my computer when I’m doing homework, if I want to drop a class, and a bunch of other negative things. And the worst part is, everyone thinks he is such a lovely person.

I am starting to feel discouraged with my academics because of his constant remarks on how I should drop few classes. How do you cope with this type of discouraging people/roommate?

Please, I need your help! Any advice will help.

Thanks in advance!
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Ignore it. Grow some skin. Move out.

Sorry, just being realistic. These'e people exist in the world, and you need to be stronger than them.
 
Mikedavis said:
Hello! I’m a freshman premed student in college. When I was visiting the campus few months ago, I met this kid that was very quiet. We had a lot of things in common, so I asked him if we could room together if we decide to commit to the college we are visiting. Now that we are officially roommates, I regret my choice. He is so evil minded. It might be due to his quietness or how he is in general. So this girl, who is a sophomore, gave him a bunch of her notes and books for free, and he never mentioned it. She then told me that she gave him the notes and that I should ask him if he could share it with me. When I asked him I could make a copy, he said no. So I was a bit sad and knew what type of person he is. Then we both wanted to volunteer in a clinic and when I asked him if he emailed them he said no. And when I told him that I was about to email them, he said that was a bad idea. So I did not email them. After waiting for a while, I called the clinic and asked them if I and my roommate could volunteer there. Then the woman from the hospital told me that he already arranged his volunteer times with them through an email. That was when I obviously knew he is such a bad person.

On top of all these, he constantly asks me where I am going, if I’m going to study or not, stands behind me and looks at my computer when I’m doing homework, if I want to drop a class, and a bunch of other negative things. And the worst part is, everyone thinks he is such a lovely person.

I am starting to feel discouraged with my academics because of his constant remarks on how I should drop few classes. How do you cope with this type of discouraging people/roommate?

Please, I need your help! Any advice will help.

Thanks in advance!
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You have just run into your first Gunner. Welcome to the cutthroat world of pre med. Having said that, time to look into getting a new roommate. Run your own race and be careful who you ask for help. Not all premeds are like that, find them
Good luck and best wishes
 
Mikedavis said:
Hello! I’m a freshman premed student in college. When I was visiting the campus few months ago, I met this kid that was very quiet. We had a lot of things in common, so I asked him if we could room together if we decide to commit to the college we are visiting. Now that we are officially roommates, I regret my choice. He is so evil minded. It might be due to his quietness or how he is in general. So this girl, who is a sophomore, gave him a bunch of her notes and books for free, and he never mentioned it. She then told me that she gave him the notes and that I should ask him if he could share it with me. When I asked him I could make a copy, he said no. So I was a bit sad and knew what type of person he is. Then we both wanted to volunteer in a clinic and when I asked him if he emailed them he said no. And when I told him that I was about to email them, he said that was a bad idea. So I did not email them. After waiting for a while, I called the clinic and asked them if I and my roommate could volunteer there. Then the woman from the hospital told me that he already arranged his volunteer times with them through an email. That was when I obviously knew he is such a bad person.

On top of all these, he constantly asks me where I am going, if I’m going to study or not, stands behind me and looks at my computer when I’m doing homework, if I want to drop a class, and a bunch of other negative things. And the worst part is, everyone thinks he is such a lovely person.

I am starting to feel discouraged with my academics because of his constant remarks on how I should drop few classes. How do you cope with this type of discouraging people/roommate?

Please, I need your help! Any advice will help.

Thanks in advance!
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Change all your passwords. Study outside the room. Don't share any future plans. Say you're changing to [some easy major] because your classes are too hard. Learn the lesson that it's best never to tell anyone you're a premed.
 
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Now that you've seen his true colors, you have to assume he is feeding you disinformation, and independently verify anything he tells you.

I would minimize my contact with him (as much as possible). This dude sounds toxic. See if you can put in a request to be transferred out of the room ASAP. If not this semester, maybe next semester. People drop out or whatever, and vacancies may open up elsewhere. Don't tell him you're moving out, just do it at your first opportunity.
 
Wahed said:
Now that you've seen his true colors, you have to assume he is feeding you disinformation, and independently verify anything he tells you.

I would minimize my contact with him (as much as possible). This dude sounds toxic. See if you can put in a request to be transferred out of the room ASAP. If not this semester, maybe next semester. People drop out or whatever, and vacancies may open up elsewhere. Don't tell him you're moving out, just do it at your first opportunity.
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This 100%.
If it were me, right after I moved out, I would tell him I knew all about his backstabbing ass.

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Yup, gunner. You will meet many of these on your pre-med journey. They go through undergrad with the mentality that in order for them to be successful, it's not sufficient for them to do well--other people have to do poorly.

As mentioned above, get out of this situation ASAP. As Catalystik mentioned, it's best to not tell anyone you're pre-med. Unless you're certain the person you're telling will help you become a better applicant somehow.
 
@Catalystik and @Wahed are right.

If your roommate is a super gunner, though, chances are he's reading this *right now*

Hey gunner roommate - if you're reading this, just know that your antics won't go unnoticed forever. One day you'll cross the wrong person and you'll be majorly screwed (but, then again, who knows, you might enjoy that).
 
And the worst part is, I told him that he doesn’t have to buy the chemistry textbook since I already bought one. I also gave him the pdf version of it. I seriously don’t get why he is like this. He also hides a bunch of academic opportunities and encourages me to join a bunch of unimportant clubs.

But y’all are amazing! Thank you for the best advices and all the positive feedback! I highly appreciate it!
 
Find new friends. Get involved with good people. You can be a happy and productive pre-med without hanging out with other pre-meds. In the meantime, focus on your plans and don't treat this person like a friend.
BTW, some unimportant clubs are the most fun. Same with gen Ed classes. I loved philosophy and cultural literature classes. Remember that undergrad is not just about pre-med. Volunteer with disadvantaged populations and realize non-clinical volunteering may be more beneficial than just hospital volunteering
 
raiderette said:
Find new friends. Get involved with good people. You can be a happy and productive pre-med without hanging out with other pre-meds. In the meantime, focus on your plans and don't treat this person like a friend.
BTW, some unimportant clubs are the most fun. Same with gen Ed classes. I loved philosophy and cultural literature classes. Remember that undergrad is not just about pre-med. Volunteer with disadvantaged populations and realize non-clinical volunteering may be more beneficial than just hospital volunteering
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I was thinking of the same thing about volunteering in a non-clinical environment. I’ll make sure to give that a consideration. Thank you so much for the suggestion and advice!
 
Thank you all so much! I am really happy with all your support and encouragement! It makes me regain the energy I had coming here as a premed for the first time. You all really deserve to be doctors as doctors help others! Sending you all my deep
 
wow, that really sucks o.o
on the other hand though i just wouldn't trust other undergrads/premeds to give me advice, even if they had good intentions. verify everything yourself with reliable sources.
 
I agree with all of the above, but I am a spiteful person and I would troll this kid back. Trust me, there will be a point when he needs your help. You can choose to take the moral high ground, or crap on him. As you can tell, I would choose the second option :laugh:
 
DPTinthemaking15 said:
I agree with all of the above, but I am a spiteful person and I would troll this kid back. Trust me, there will be a point when he needs your help. You can choose to take the moral high ground, or crap on him. As you can tell, I would choose the second option :laugh:
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Yup, that’s what I’m thinking!
 
If I could redo my years of being premed, the biggest thing I would change is not telling anyone that I was one. Besides running into horrible people like this you'll also have people contacting nagging you. "What'd you get on the MCAT?" "What's your GPA?" "Do you have any interviews yet?" Those are just some of the many annoyingly nosy questions I've gotten from other premeds that I would never share in person unless they were close friends or family. It's super awkward avoiding those questions. The worst part is even after telling people directly you don't wanna talk about it or just clearly avoiding answering it doesn't seem to help at all. I've had to start answering very vaguely and just leaving most things out because of this.

My answer to the gpa question "it's good enough". To the MCAT question "I'm happy with my score". To the interviews question "I have an in state one coming up". Most at my school are out of state so they won't care about that and it keeps it so that I won't have to mention any of the other ones without lying about it.

I don't like random people knowing my personal business and I wish I did a better job of keeping it that way overall because if you think this is bad wait until you're filling out applications and the gunners out there try to mislead you into messing that up. I've had someone try and feed me a bunch of BS while filling out secondaries and I just acted stupid and pretended I believed them then just totally ignored everything their said. I can't believe these people wanna be doctors and I just hope they get filtered out at some point.

Sorry for the long rant, I think I've needed to rant about this for the past 3 years.
 
I can't believe these people wanna be doctors and I just hope they get filtered out at some point.

Sorry for the long rant, I think I've needed to rant about this for the past 3 years.[/QUOTE]
Exactly! That’s what I was thinking! I can’t believe he will become a doctor with this type of nasty heart. As I was writing this, he just asked me if I got all of the questions correct on a pretext we took 10 minutes ago and I told him I don’t know.

I have never been disgusted by a person’s manner like this ever in my entire life!

Ughhh...and not to mention the fact that it has only been 15 days since we started living together.

Oh, he just asked me how my calculus class was and I said good. Then he replied, do you like your math teacher, then I replied back saying that I am planning on changing my major to computer science. He asked me why, and I told him that I can’t handle premed and that the specific reason is something I don’t want to disclose. I’m hoping I did a very good job of just distracting him so that he would just leave me alone.
 
Mikedavis said:
I can't believe these people wanna be doctors and I just hope they get filtered out at some point.

Sorry for the long rant, I think I've needed to rant about this for the past 3 years.
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Exactly! That’s what I was thinking! I can’t believe he will become a doctor with this type of nasty heart. As I was writing this, he just asked me if I got all of the questions correct on a pretext we took 10 minutes ago and I told him I don’t know.

I have never been disgusted by a person’s manner like this ever in my entire life!

Ughhh...and not to mention the fact that it has only been 15 days since we started living together.

Oh, he just asked me how my calculus class was and I said good. Then he replied, do you like your math teacher, then I replied back saying that I am planning on changing my major to computer science. He asked me why, and I told him that I can’t handle premed and that the specific reason is something I don’t want to disclose. I’m hoping I did a very good job of just distracting him so that he would just leave me alone.[/QUOTE]
He constantly asks me questions about my academics and I don’t feel comfortable answering them. What a disgusting person he is! Ughhhh I’m so !
 
Go to student affairs or your dean or whoever now (TODAY) and demand a room transfer. Lay it on thick and say you don’t feel safe and can’t sleep at night. Request transfer to another roommate. People drop out and there will be an opening. You only get to be a freshman in college once. It’s early enough you can still fix it. Don’t let it be ruined by this asshat.
 
Agree with the above. You should be focused on your studies and the cute co-ed down the hall. Living in the dorms freshman year was such a great experience.

College should be fun. It should be productive. It will be stressful for most people at times, but that stress should be from your studies, relationships, and learning how to live without as much support/money as you had access to in high school.

Why add more stress with a crazy roommate? I'd move to another room/dorm. If my college said no, I'd push back.
 
Make sure to tell him that he can buy his own Chemistry textbook. I agree with everyone: make sure to switch rooms as soon as possible. Also, some universities have dorms in several locations on the campus. If this is the case with your university, see if you can switch into one that is not near him. Otherwise, he will just come around a lot.
 
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Mikedavis said:
Hello! I’m a freshman premed student in college. When I was visiting the campus few months ago, I met this kid that was very quiet. We had a lot of things in common, so I asked him if we could room together if we decide to commit to the college we are visiting. Now that we are officially roommates, I regret my choice. He is so evil minded. It might be due to his quietness or how he is in general. So this girl, who is a sophomore, gave him a bunch of her notes and books for free, and he never mentioned it. She then told me that she gave him the notes and that I should ask him if he could share it with me. When I asked him I could make a copy, he said no. So I was a bit sad and knew what type of person he is. Then we both wanted to volunteer in a clinic and when I asked him if he emailed them he said no. And when I told him that I was about to email them, he said that was a bad idea. So I did not email them. After waiting for a while, I called the clinic and asked them if I and my roommate could volunteer there. Then the woman from the hospital told me that he already arranged his volunteer times with them through an email. That was when I obviously knew he is such a bad person.

On top of all these, he constantly asks me where I am going, if I’m going to study or not, stands behind me and looks at my computer when I’m doing homework, if I want to drop a class, and a bunch of other negative things. And the worst part is, everyone thinks he is such a lovely person.

I am starting to feel discouraged with my academics because of his constant remarks on how I should drop few classes. How do you cope with this type of discouraging people/roommate?

Please, I need your help! Any advice will help.

Thanks in advance!
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dude this is not NEARLY as bad as I thought it was going to be 😛

everything you described is manageable - honestly just tell him to stop looking over your shoulder; everything else you can ignore. Why do you need his permission to email a volunteer place??
 
TheBiologist said:
dude this is not NEARLY as bad as I thought it was going to be 😛

everything you described is manageable - honestly just tell him to stop looking over your shoulder; everything else you can ignore. Why do you need his permission to email a volunteer place??
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It would be better if you say this is not that bad if it happened to ME. I wouldn’t expect you to understand the situation since you are not in my shoes. And please understand that this is how huge fights begin and I’m sure it will get worse very soon. I just needed an advice on how I can curb the issue from the beginning. Don’t assume everyone is like you. People have different opinions, and it would be better if you are not judgemental.

Thanks!
 
Look, get out and get out now. You'll be setting yourself up if you don't. I have a cousin that I'm a year older than and she always tried to out do me in terms of grades and other stuff. I used to get so annoyed and weirded out when she'd ask my mom what my grades were like on my report card when I was in her grade just so she could see if she beat me out. I've had 15? :shrug: years of experience so take my advice, get out NOW because it's gonna get bad. I mean, it probably won't take long before they start sabotaging other stuff like your homework, projects, computer (they will). You won't be in a good place vibe wise either, I got cranky and bitter when that girl was around cause I knew I had to keep my guard up. I decided it was best to keep my distance and it's been rainbows, butterflies, and sunshine ever since.
 
But, we are part of a scholarship that is called like a family. And everyone in the scholarship think that we both are genuinely nice. Him because he is very quiet and don’t say much, me because of the service I have to my community. If I move out, people will think I’m the problem since he won’t say anything. He can pretend like he’s the good kid and throw me under the bus. I don’t want others to think I’m a bad person just because he acts oblivious to what is going on. Few minutes ago, he kept asking me questions that are directed to what I’ll do, it I’m going to see my friend or something like that, and I responded saying that he keeps asking too many questions. I was very nice about it and did not want to hurt his feelings. He then responded that he asks because he wants to start a conversation. That is a complete bogus response. He asks questions because he compares himself to me and cause he is a extremely curious about my life. He believes that just because I fail, that might make him succeed. His questions are extremely insincere and reflect his evil head. Even when I respond to his answers, the way he says ahhh...is so annoying, sounds like when a man who wants to kill you and got a nifty information about you.

I do not think I’ll have the courage to move out because of keeping my reputation as it is. I guess I have to suck it up and hold my breath for 4 months until this semester ends.
 
How can I just block him from my life and not be bothered by him while still living with him?
 
Sorry about my extremely hard text. I get so furious when I think about him and can’t even think properly and that is reflected on my texts. Hope you all understood my points.
 
Catalystik said:
Change all your passwords. Study outside the room. Don't share any future plans. Say you're changing to [some easy major] because your classes are too hard. Learn the lesson that it's best never to tell anyone you're a premed.
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The best way to be a premed is to stay completely uninvolved in the premed community, it's extremely toxic
 
Mikedavis said:
I do not think I’ll have the courage to move out because of keeping my reputation as it is. I guess I have to suck it up and hold my breath for 4 months until this semester ends.
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Mikedavis said:
How can I just block him from my life and not be bothered by him while still living with him?
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You need to grow some thicker skin dude. No one cares if you move out. And if anyone does ask, you tell them your old roommate was a douche bag.

And until you move out, when your roommate bothers you, you tell him to **** off.
 
Mikedavis said:
But, we are part of a scholarship that is called like a family. And everyone in the scholarship think that we both are genuinely nice. Him because he is very quiet and don’t say much, me because of the service I have to my community. If I move out, people will think I’m the problem since he won’t say anything. He can pretend like he’s the good kid and throw me under the bus. I don’t want others to think I’m a bad person just because he acts oblivious to what is going on. Few minutes ago, he kept asking me questions that are directed to what I’ll do, it I’m going to see my friend or something like that, and I responded saying that he keeps asking too many questions. I was very nice about it and did not want to hurt his feelings. He then responded that he asks because he wants to start a conversation. That is a complete bogus response. He asks questions because he compares himself to me and cause he is a extremely curious about my life. He believes that just because I fail, that might make him succeed. His questions are extremely insincere and reflect his evil head. Even when I respond to his answers, the way he says ahhh...is so annoying, sounds like when a man who wants to kill you and got a nifty information about you.

I do not think I’ll have the courage to move out because of keeping my reputation as it is. I guess I have to suck it up and hold my breath for 4 months until this semester ends.
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I had a similar issue. My ex roommate and I were part of an exclusive scholarship as well. Made up of only 6 people in the whole university. I moved out. No one cared. Plus, you’re an adult, you shouldn’t give a **** what other people think of you. Let your actions (community service as you say) speak for themselves.


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I don't think I would want someone like OP's roommate near any patients..... hopefully, his application (PS or secondaries or interviews) can weed him out from even getting through the door into medical school. Not against hard-work ethic/competitiveness between premeds, but once one competitive premed does something just to mess up the life of another premed, I can't stand it. How would they expect someone like that to work together with a diverse group of health professionals to treat patients?
 
Mikedavis said:
How can I just block him from my life and not be bothered by him while still living with him?
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I can see that you are a nice person but I also see that you are quite naive and are too willing allow what people think of you to supercede your own personal well-being.

Who gives a rat's f'ing ass what people think of you??? Because you moved out you're the bad guy???

You look out for yourself and get out of that room ASAP. Otherwise, your roommate is going to make your college life a living hell...because I can see you want to be Mr Nice Guy. Stop being a victim, starting now. He isn't going to magically get nicer, nor is he going to go away. So sstop engaging in self-sabotaging behavior.

Reputation indeed.
 
OrthoTraumaMD said:
I had a similar issue. My ex roommate and I were part of an exclusive scholarship as well. Made up of only 6 people in the whole university. I moved out. No one cared. Plus, you’re an adult, you shouldn’t give a **** what other people think of you. Let your actions (community service as you say) speak for themselves.


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Couldn’t agree more! I’ll let my actions speak.
 
Mad Jack said:
The best way to be a premed is to stay completely uninvolved in the premed community, it's extremely toxic
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This is one of the major reasons I elected to drop my pre reqs as an engineering student and undeclare pre med. I went back a few years later as a non trad. College premed life is super toxic. Terrible terrible people, most of whom won’t make it into med school.
 
There are ways to minimize your time with him. Study in the library, wear headphones in the room, make plans with people when you want to relax. It is possible to live with someone who isn't a friend. If you can move out at the end of the semester, it would be easier for you to move in with someone who is a friend, rather than saying you are moving away from him.
 
If you cannot move out, I would suggest to separate your academic matters and your dorm life. Choose a private study space away from your room and do all of your studying there. Don't tell him your plans or anything. When you go back to your room, do not discuss anything academic related. He's not going to tell you anything useful, so there is no point talking about that.

If he asks you questions that you are uncomfortable of, it is okay to respond "I don't want to talk about that." It's okay to say no.
 
Reading all of your comments made me realize something. Ever since I understood how evil-minded he is, I started studying in the library and not spending time in the dorm. This has made me finish studying all my classes weeks before my exam. Getting angry at him also made me such a competitive and motivated person. I’ll do anything to show him that I will succeed no matter what he does. I will also make myself anonymous from all the premed drama and tell everyone I’m a pre-engineering major or a bio major not following the premed track. At the end of this semester, I will mov out of the dorm and never talk to him ever again! I can’t believe people like him want to save other people’s lives! How disgusting and fake can someone be?

Than y’all so much for the love and support you showed me. I’ll definitely take all of your advices and prove him wrong.
 
Mikedavis said:
Reading all of your comments made me realize something. Ever since I understood how evil-minded he is, I started studying in the library and not spending time in the dorm. This has made me finish studying all my classes weeks before my exam. Getting angry at him also made me such a competitive and motivated person. I’ll do anything to show him that I will succeed no matter what he does. I will also make myself anonymous from all the premed drama and tell everyone I’m a pre-engineering major or a bio major not following the premed track. At the end of this semester, I will mov out of the dorm and never talk to him ever again! I can’t believe people like him want to save other people’s lives! How disgusting and fake can someone be?

Than y’all so much for the love and support you showed me. I’ll definitely take all of your advices and prove him wrong.
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I feel like saving people’s lives is not at the top of his priority list. Could be wrong though.
 
Mikedavis said:
But, we are part of a scholarship that is called like a family. And everyone in the scholarship think that we both are genuinely nice. Him because he is very quiet and don’t say much, me because of the service I have to my community. If I move out, people will think I’m the problem since he won’t say anything. He can pretend like he’s the good kid and throw me under the bus. I don’t want others to think I’m a bad person just because he acts oblivious to what is going on. Few minutes ago, he kept asking me questions that are directed to what I’ll do, it I’m going to see my friend or something like that, and I responded saying that he keeps asking too many questions. I was very nice about it and did not want to hurt his feelings. He then responded that he asks because he wants to start a conversation. That is a complete bogus response. He asks questions because he compares himself to me and cause he is a extremely curious about my life. He believes that just because I fail, that might make him succeed. His questions are extremely insincere and reflect his evil head. Even when I respond to his answers, the way he says ahhh...is so annoying, sounds like when a man who wants to kill you and got a nifty information about you.

I do not think I’ll have the courage to move out because of keeping my reputation as it is. I guess I have to suck it up and hold my breath for 4 months until this semester ends.
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It doesn't have to be that way. You can play nice too. I mean, you don't have to say something negative about him in order to move to another room? Will there be other reasonable "excuses" that you can use to change your room?
 
Mikedavis said:
Hello! I’m a freshman premed student in college. When I was visiting the campus few months ago, I met this kid that was very quiet. We had a lot of things in common, so I asked him if we could room together if we decide to commit to the college we are visiting. Now that we are officially roommates, I regret my choice. He is so evil minded. It might be due to his quietness or how he is in general. So this girl, who is a sophomore, gave him a bunch of her notes and books for free, and he never mentioned it. She then told me that she gave him the notes and that I should ask him if he could share it with me. When I asked him I could make a copy, he said no. So I was a bit sad and knew what type of person he is. Then we both wanted to volunteer in a clinic and when I asked him if he emailed them he said no. And when I told him that I was about to email them, he said that was a bad idea. So I did not email them. After waiting for a while, I called the clinic and asked them if I and my roommate could volunteer there. Then the woman from the hospital told me that he already arranged his volunteer times with them through an email. That was when I obviously knew he is such a bad person.

On top of all these, he constantly asks me where I am going, if I’m going to study or not, stands behind me and looks at my computer when I’m doing homework, if I want to drop a class, and a bunch of other negative things. And the worst part is, everyone thinks he is such a lovely person.

I am starting to feel discouraged with my academics because of his constant remarks on how I should drop few classes. How do you cope with this type of discouraging people/roommate?

Please, I need your help! Any advice will help.

Thanks in advance!
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Sounds like a typical wanna-be ivy league medical student.

Once he gets into his coveted top 20 medical school, he will have to deal with a whole classroom of himself.
 
Have you tried being honest with him though (like “hey I know you really want to go into medicine and so do I, and my success doesn’t take away from yourain”). I can understand that freshman premed mentality a lot.
 
Turkishking said:
He's probably on SDN. Be-careful he doesn't recognize this post. I'm sure a gunner would know about this site.. I mean, I started actively posting before I was a freshman 😛
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I was such a gunner that I didn't have time to post on here until after I earned a masters.
 
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