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Congrats!!! We are doing a lot of compromise. Originally, he was supposed to be applying to law school simultaneously, which is why I applied to so many schools (and primarily ones within an hour of top 20 law schools). Then his lsat score was a little lower than expected, so we decided it would probably be best for him to take another year to improve that and strengthen his app. So we will be going wherever I want to go this year, and for the next year he will be applying to schools nearby (if there's one he's interested in). This is a pro for Hopkins since Georgetown is his top pick and GW is also good. This would also be a pro for NYU since they're highly ranked in international law. However, if he decides to wait until my program is done-- either so that we always have one income or if he prefers to go to another area-- then we will move to wherever he gets in since it's his turn for a career move. Luckily all his top picks are in hubs of public health, which will hopefully make it more likely that I'll land a job! This is also a pro for me of going to a top program-- making myself more marketable in any location right out of school.
It's complex and subject to change, but we are doing the best we can to stay in the same place!
I'm in a very serious long-term relationship (""life partners"" as my out-of-touch mother likes to say), and if I am being honest, the biggest reason I chose Brown over Drexel was because it meant not doing long distance. I don't regret it, and Brown ended up completely changing everything I thought I wanted out of an MPH (in a good way). There are several people in my program who have already ended serious relationships/engagements due to distance. I plan to apply to PhD programs, and my partner is in a position to move with me if necessary now. Out of all the possible permutations of break up/stay together, postpone school/go immediately, and long distance/not, my least preferred option would be staying together, enrolling immediately, and doing long distance. I'm not sure how old everyone is, but I feel like a ton of development happens during your 20s, and I don't think I'd be easily able to "grow with" someone while doing long distance. But this is obviously very personal and subjective; don't take it as advice.
Thank you both for your input. We met as undergrads in the same major and we're both from Seattle, and we live 15 minutes apart so we've seen each other basically every day for the last five years. We're not sure how long distance is going to go. Neither of us are willing to postpone our education, and we would never tell each other to "wait" just because we both know what we want to do. Sadly we haven't announced our engagement to anyone else besides close family members and friends because we need to figure this out first.