People Asking Why I'm Single - ARGH

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Yeah I can totally see how that would be an issue, Type A Workaholics (no offense, don't shoot me folks, I love ya'll!!! .... its kinda true though), artists are fun!!

Heh, I dunno, I'm kind of boring and a workaholic....but at least I wear patterned scrubs (so that makes me infinitely more interesting and attractive)... not many people would put up with me. But hey! They should keep me around simply for my quick wit
Artists are the best. I've found residents and premeds are just too... practical? I like having a partner in crime, not a business partner. Artistic girls are the only ones that can really keep up with my crazy adventures from what I've found.
 
Artists are the best. I've found residents and premeds are just too... practical? I like having a partner in crime, not a business partner. Artistic girls are the only ones that can really keep up with my crazy adventures from what I've found.
I totally agree!...except with the "girls" part, I'm more a fan of the boys haha
 
No offense, dude, but that just sounds really cringey.
Seems to be the consensus. It's *not like I lead with the phrase, but after saying "None of your business" or "I'm not interested in dating," the line usually shuts them up.
 
Reading this thread made my Cognitive brain imaging course more enjoyable. Thank you everyone. 🤣

OP just do you (take that how you will)
 
Unfortunately, "casual fun" only works if you're physically attractive.

confidence and tact level the playing field. if you're going to view yourself as not physically attractive, you're already setting yourself up for failure. you have to feel good about yourself and you should.
 
No offense, dude, but that just sounds really cringey.
It reminded me somewhat of the "in this moment, I am euphoric"

OT: I'd love to date a few of the people in my class (not at the same time, personal preference I suppose, but no shame to those that are into that). However, I have various time commitments elsewhere. I'd hate to see our relationship suffer because I could not devote a reasonable amount of time to it. I'll also randomly go off talking about something cool and science-y that I discovered recently, and while a surprising number of people take interest in that, a large number do not. Overall, I don't quite know. I like people. I like knowing that I could possibly have someone I could be incredibly close to. However, I do not think I am currently in the position where that is my greatest concern. I suppose I'm just not actively seeking anyone. If something happens, I'll simply let it fall into place.
 
I've never kissed a boy, wanna help a gal out
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I am normally not one for ad hominem attacks, but it makes me sick that people like this prey upon otherwise nice guys just to make money. Here is a player protege in action. I present, Toronto's own, Dmitri the Lover -


6-7 times a day. LOL
 
All the faculty members in my dept. keep asking me why I'm single. I'm sure that's a good sign.
 
I haven't posted in this forum in a while, so hi everyone!

Something has been driving me CRAZY at work, and I was wondering if any other pre-meds (or med students) -- especially other women -- relate. I work in a medical clinic and interact most directly with MAs and administrative staff people. They know that I'm only in town for 1 year, and that I'm starting med school in the fall. Despite this, someone asks me every. single. week. why I'm not dating anyone. They talk to me about my social life with this "poor, pitiful, lonely you" tone, and it's so insulting and condescending.

I'm not dating anyone because I'm moving in 4 months! This town doesn't even have a med school, so I've assumed that I (hopefully) would be moving for a very long time now and haven't invested much in a dating life. More importantly, though, I am SO EXCITED about becoming a doctor, and I couldn't care less about being single right now. I also suspect that they're saying this because I'm a woman (in my late 20s), and I cynically believe that they'd never say these things to a man in the same position.

Anyone else dealing with this?

I know I should ignore it, and that it's a reflection of a certain mindset that I simply don't share, but it's still so frustrating.

(P.S. Congrats to everyone who has gotten an acceptance, and good luck to everyone who's still waiting!)


I sorta feel bad for girls in this regard but not really, ya'll can still get laid whenever you want with minimal effort.
 
I like the education idea...makes sense to me. It is a lot to keep going in general...then throw a relationship into the mix and everything gets much harder!
 
I am normally not one for ad hominem attacks, but it makes me sick that people like this prey upon otherwise nice guys just to make money. Here is a player protege in action. I present, Toronto's own, Dmitri the Lover -


I can't tell if that video is supposed to be an example of how to get women or how to get a restraining order.
 
Fair enough. I've just been feeling pressured to either get with as many girls as possible or get into a relationship and I'm sick it. And of feeling like a loser because it takes a ridiculous amount of effort for me to get a girl when my friends can do it on a whim.
That's probably because you're trying too hard, if you can make her laugh, you can get in her pants. Try just having fun, girls want dat mushroom tip when they know you like to, and know how to have fun.
 
That's probably because you're trying too hard, if you can make her laugh, you can get in her pants. Try just having fun, girls want dat mushroom tip when they know you like to, and know how to have fun.

This is so false....
 
To the OP, I'm the only single one in my workplace of mostly middle/old aged people and I know how you feel. Even the early 20's aged people are in committed relationships or are getting married. I always feel like the odd one out for only caring about my career at this point. I get even weirder looks when I say that I'm not sure if I want to ever get married.
 
It's a legitimate concern for people to have for 20-something females. The likelihood of pairing with a quality mate goes down the longer you wait. Unfortunately, females are of depreciating reproductive value and men are appreciating in that time frame. Rather than ride the old carousel, it's a good idea to use your "capital" now to find the highest quality mate you can.

Likewise, men would be foolish to pick a mate in their early 20s as they can expect to attract higher quality mates as they appreciate in value. (I say this as an early 20-something male in a wonderfully committed relationship)
 
My parents at first informed me of their policy "no girlfriend allowed until you're married"

Looking back at it now, I don't think they thought that one through.
It's a legitimate concern for people to have for 20-something females. The likelihood of pairing with a quality mate goes down the longer you wait. Unfortunately, females are of depreciating reproductive value and men are appreciating in that time frame. Rather than ride the old carousel, it's a good idea to use your "capital" now to find the highest quality mate you can.

Likewise, men would be foolish to pick a mate in their early 20s as they can expect to attract higher quality mates as they appreciate in value. (I say this as an early 20-something male in a wonderfully committed relationship)
Side note, I really hope you're being sarcastic.
 
Not at all. My relationship is great!
Meant the appreciation and depreciation of people. I may not be the most people-centric person, but I think there is a value inside of everyone that does not simply wax and wane with time. I'm not doubting your relationship though, glad to hear you're enjoying it!
 
Meant the appreciation and depreciation of people. I may not be the most people-centric person, but I think there is a value inside of everyone that does not simply wax and wane with time. I'm not doubting your relationship though, glad to hear you're enjoying it!

Oh, I'm not commenting on their intrinsic value as a person. (though rationing of medical care would differ with us on this point - would you save a 99 year old or 5 year old given the choice?)

I don't think it's news to anyone here that 18 year old women are generally more attractive than 35 year old women. Their attractiveness is a depreciating asset. On the flip side, most attractive male celebrities are 30+. Just how it is. :shrug:
 
My parents at first informed me of their policy "no girlfriend allowed until you're married"

Haha, so where does that leave you? Proposing to strangers? However, that policy does get much better once you are married and can now have girlfriends.
 
Oh, I'm not commenting on their intrinsic value as a person. (though rationing of medical care would differ with us on this point - would you save a 99 year old or 5 year old given the choice?)

I don't think it's news to anyone here that 18 year old women are generally more attractive than 35 year old women. Their attractiveness is a depreciating asset. On the flip side, most attractive male celebrities are 30+. Just how it is. :shrug:
The solution is to save both people half. And I see what you mean, you make a good point there.
Haha, so where does that leave you? Proposing to strangers? However, that policy does get much better once you are married and can now have girlfriends.
I think they gave up on that policy, haha. I've dated a few people since then. I doubt I'll date again until medical school though.
 
My parents at first informed me of their policy "no girlfriend allowed until you're married"
Mine had the same rule (but I've also broken it by now). Not planning to start anything until med school rolls around either.
 
It's worse being a guy and asked similar questions. I'm not planning on dating anyone for the time being and people look at me like I'm a eunuch or something when I tell them that. I just want to be focused on school without risks of STD or childbirth, f*** me, right?

Condoms and/or pull out method if in a monogamous relationship where both people are tested and clean (assuming you have good self control of course).
Fair enough. I've just been feeling pressured to either get with as many girls as possible or get into a relationship and I'm sick it. And of feeling like a loser because it takes a ridiculous amount of effort for me to get a girl when my friends can do it on a whim.

Sounds fairly typical, no need to feel like a loser. Chances are your friends aren't as successful as you think they are.
 
confidence and tact level the playing field. if you're going to view yourself as not physically attractive, you're already setting yourself up for failure. you have to feel good about yourself and you should.
If you are pretty attractive and view yourself as ugly, then yea that'll mess things up. If you're not attractive to begin with, your personal view on yourself won't have much of an impact on how others view you.
/reality
 
If I was you OP I would put myself out there, try to go on dates (nothing serious). You got to enjoy/take advantage of this time before med school. Besides guys would pampered you on dates-for the most part-and you get to pick and choose whom to get laid with. That is if you want to.
 
I haven't posted in this forum in a while, so hi everyone!

Something has been driving me CRAZY at work, and I was wondering if any other pre-meds (or med students) -- especially other women -- relate. I work in a medical clinic and interact most directly with MAs and administrative staff people. They know that I'm only in town for 1 year, and that I'm starting med school in the fall. Despite this, someone asks me every. single. week. why I'm not dating anyone. They talk to me about my social life with this "poor, pitiful, lonely you" tone, and it's so insulting and condescending.

I'm not dating anyone because I'm moving in 4 months! This town doesn't even have a med school, so I've assumed that I (hopefully) would be moving for a very long time now and haven't invested much in a dating life. More importantly, though, I am SO EXCITED about becoming a doctor, and I couldn't care less about being single right now. I also suspect that they're saying this because I'm a woman (in my late 20s), and I cynically believe that they'd never say these things to a man in the same position.

Anyone else dealing with this?

I know I should ignore it, and that it's a reflection of a certain mindset that I simply don't share, but it's still so frustrating.

(P.S. Congrats to everyone who has gotten an acceptance, and good luck to everyone who's still waiting!)
your the only person in the world with this problem and I have never heard of someone having this. you should probably sign up for match.com right away , or farmersonly.com , or Christianmingle.com or even GRINDR if your into that kind of thing lol
 
If you are pretty attractive and view yourself as ugly, then yea that'll mess things up. If you're not attractive to begin with, your personal view on yourself won't have much of an impact on how others view you.
/reality

attractiveness is subjective as hell and making excuses isnt going to get you what you want. if you're confident in yourself and go for it, you'll get what you want regardless even if it takes time. attractiveness can also develop over time and anyone can be attractive if they work on themselves.
 
attractiveness is subjective as hell and making excuses isnt going to get you what you want. if you're confident in yourself and go for it, you'll get what you want regardless even if it takes time. attractiveness can also develop over time and anyone can be attractive if they work on themselves.
This is really true. Especially for girls--if you keep yourself fit (which you should for cardiovascular reasons anyway), invest in a good haircut (or tie your hair up if you're poor), and use skincare and/or makeup you're pretty much automatically in the 6-7 range. And then if you want to go higher you try a bit more with butt amplifying exercises, better makeup techniques and more expensive clothes. I think there are a lot of girls who think they are naturally ugly, but then if you go to a cosmetic artist they'll transform you into a red carpet star. And anything a makeup artist can do you can learn to do. I think I've made at least a 4 point jump on a 10 point scale just by sheer effort (aka the pre-med way).

For dudes, nobody cares anyway, just be hilarious and confident and not greasy.
 
This is really true. Especially for girls--if you keep yourself fit (which you should for cardiovascular reasons anyway), invest in a good haircut (or tie your hair up if you're poor), and use skincare and/or makeup you're pretty much automatically in the 6-7 range. And then if you want to go higher you try a bit more with butt amplifying exercises, better makeup techniques and more expensive clothes. I think there are a lot of girls who think they are naturally ugly, but then if you go to a cosmetic artist they'll transform you into a red carpet star. And anything a makeup artist can do you can learn to do. I think I've made at least a 4 point jump on a 10 point scale just by sheer effort (aka the pre-med way).

For dudes, nobody cares anyway, just be hilarious and confident and not greasy.
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