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I knew I should look last night, but I was too busy decompressing after a very crazy week that culminated with my most stressful residency interview yet (I think it went okay though) and I didn't have the spoons to do anything :laugh:
 
Ugh right? I missed the action by the time I read through it this morning
I knew I should look last night, but I was too busy decompressing after a very crazy week that culminated with my most stressful residency interview yet (I think it went okay though) and I didn't have the spoons to do anything :laugh:
... i may have the logs...
 
Idk, a lot of people I know are doing it right now. Whether it's 'weird' or not depends on the circumstances imo.

I appreciate you saying that. I have also noticed that the people who are actively making me feel bad about it are people who are from well-off backgrounds and had no student loans or anything like that. Middle class and struggling people are like “Yesh, sure, that’s life.” It is the debt and high cost of everything these days that makes things really hard.
 
I appreciate you saying that. I have also noticed that the people who are actively making me feel bad about it are people who are from well-off backgrounds and had no student loans or anything like that. Middle class and struggling people are like “Yesh, sure, that’s life.” It is the debt and high cost of everything these days that makes things really hard.
I've actually never moved out, and I'm 32! My parents moved away while I was in grad school and I just stayed behind and paid rent to stay in the house they owned. Then 2025 happened and everything in my field imploded, and I moved states so I could live with them again while I'm figuring out my next job. It's been over half a year and I'm still in their spare room. I've heard so many stories like mine on reddit, too. If it makes sense for you and your family, no one else's opinion matters. They can gtfo with making you feel weird. Multi generational family homes used to be the norm, and in this economy it makes a lot of sense for a lot of our generation. If you're happy that's literally all that matters!
 
I appreciate you saying that. I have also noticed that the people who are actively making me feel bad about it are people who are from well-off backgrounds and had no student loans or anything like that. Middle class and struggling people are like “Yesh, sure, that’s life.” It is the debt and high cost of everything these days that makes things really hard.
The whole nuclear family as the default culturally is relatively new and comes from a lengthy time of surplus in modern western countries. Pretty much every other time and place staying close to family was normal and expected.

Parents weren't an option for me, but staying with my sisters when I left home was what made adulthood financially possible and I would totally buy a house with them if/when it was convenient even if I didn't absolutely have to.
 
I appreciate you saying that. I have also noticed that the people who are actively making me feel bad about it are people who are from well-off backgrounds and had no student loans or anything like that. Middle class and struggling people are like “Yesh, sure, that’s life.” It is the debt and high cost of everything these days that makes things really hard.

I honestly think that multi-generational households are 1) more common than given credit for and 2) going to increase in commonality because it's beneficial in almost every way in this society.

The only person I judge for still living their parents is my younger BIL and it's because he's a literal leech on their household and doesn't contribute in any way. And hey in laws have zero plans in place in case one or both of them die and he's just there. Like. What is he going to do with no income and no skills to live life.

My generational take is that as society has overall improved since world war 2, many younger generations lose that generational memory of the OG struggle of their grandparents and great grandparents within their specific population group. Like the measles and polio vaccine shenanigans.

As a result, the entitlement grows because of the reduced level of physical/emotional hardship that older generations experienced. And now that is reversed and now millennials will be statistically worse off than their boomer/Gen x parents. Therefore, late Gen x and early millennial parents 1) over corrected and started under exposing their children to hardships and hard decisions and 2) that resulting in the inability for self reflection and being able to objectively look at a situation without emotion.

Multiple people have told me I look at situations with too much of an analytical mind and not enough emotional intelligence. They're absolutely correct a lot of the time. But from that perspective, I also feel that a lot of people 45 and younger have trended to be too emotionally invested in certain circumstances and lose their objective sight in exchange for their subjective feelings.
 
Not quite an elder millennial (middle aged? I'm a '92 baby) but it has been interesting from my perspective. Everything from talking to prevets in this age range in person/on social media, having them as keeper interns or veterinary externs, etc has been a huge trip in a mostly bad way. Granted, that's one person's perspective...and I hate the whole age generalization thing because millennials have been **** upon for years. But as I've said before, I'm always surprised at the sheer entitlement, lack of personal responsibility, and lack of drive that I've been seeing.


and now I'm just mad and sad lol

ETA: Also just wanted to add that back in the day, many people had to choose which schools they would interview at, as a couple of schools would hold in-person interviews on the same day. Or maybe even within 24 hours of each other. So you either made a choice and declined one interview, or flew across the country to your next interview ASAP and hoped your travel plans didn't get messed up. It was an expensive time. I did two OOS interviews and those probably ran me $1000ish total? Between two hotels, one flight, meals and whatnot. Some applicants are interviewing at 3-5+ schools.


I think this is the most important part about in person interviews. Virtual interviews are obviously much more accessible and don't require applicants to spend $100s/$1000s on travel and hotel, but then we get all the questions like 'Can someone tell me what this school's building is like?' or whatever.
92??? My child would think you were absolutely ancient (he is 11 and cannot fathom 30 as being young, don't worry he will understand someday haha) 😂😂
But honestly I do see that entitlement in some of the people I interact with (not all of them younger) and a lot of it is what they think they should be getting from professors.
I had a whole rant about how as a second year we are expected to start knowing how to read articles and pick out the information necessary to do well in class on our own and a lot of people had problems with that. They were talking about how as a tech they had it written down for them, and I was like "WHO DO YOU THINK WROTE IT DOWN....... THE VET" you gotta know that stuff. People can't hold your hand forever. Ugh.
 
I appreciate you saying that. I have also noticed that the people who are actively making me feel bad about it are people who are from well-off backgrounds and had no student loans or anything like that. Middle class and struggling people are like “Yesh, sure, that’s life.” It is the debt and high cost of everything these days that makes things really hard.
My in laws live with us 4-6 months out of the year. It's hard emotionally because I don't have my personal space as much as I would like, but overall it is very nice from a "village" stand point. Especially when my child was younger. Being able to leave them with a child so I could go grocery shopping or take a walk outside was a game changer for my mental health. I know it is not feasible for everyone, but I personally don't think that it is weird to live with parents. Especially if everyone is contributing in some way. It's a great way to meet goals you have. And once I am done with school, we are absolutely going to find a house (or build) with a mother in law suite in mind so they can be more comfortable. That is just the culture though where my in laws are from so it's an adjustment but definitely has its benefits.
 
92??? My child would think you were absolutely ancient (he is 11 and cannot fathom 30 as being young, don't worry he will understand someday haha) 😂😂
But honestly I do see that entitlement in some of the people I interact with (not all of them younger) and a lot of it is what they think they should be getting from professors.
I had a whole rant about how as a second year we are expected to start knowing how to read articles and pick out the information necessary to do well in class on our own and a lot of people had problems with that. They were talking about how as a tech they had it written down for them, and I was like "WHO DO YOU THINK WROTE IT DOWN....... THE VET" you gotta know that stuff. People can't hold your hand forever. Ugh.

I made the mistake of teaching my sixth graders the word vintage. One girl googled it and found that vintage is anything over 25 years old. This then led to the student exclaiming, “Ms. F IS VINTAGE.” It was hilarious.
 
Ppl man. Why cant ppl be decent. Saw a patient Friday for an abscess and UTI. Gave estimates all the things. We have signs hanging talking about payment options and payment due at time of service. Apt ends and tech goes over meds. "So about a payment plan" person literally showed up with $10 and approved everything knowing full well they werent going to pay. Why are ppl snakes and in what world does $10 buy almost anything anymore.
Plus a little work drama im feeling a little crunchy these days.
 
I made the mistake of teaching my sixth graders the word vintage. One girl googled it and found that vintage is anything over 25 years old. This then led to the student exclaiming, “Ms. F IS VINTAGE.” It was hilarious.
Well then I guess all of us over the age of 25 can say we are vintage and describe it like wine? I don't drink wine so I am not sure if this is the best analogy haha
 
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