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[LivestockDoc]

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You know this is the pre-veterinary forum, right?
This seems like a human doc thing...

I hadn't seen that post. You're right. Wrong forum. But, boy, are they right on target!

 

[LivestockDoc]

My academic advisor is a jerk.

...Still this guy was an absolute butthole. 😡

Kudos to your maturity in the presence of buttholism! 👍

 

[laitmanvet]

I hadn't seen that post. You're right. Wrong forum. But, boy, are they right on target!

Yeah that was totally spam....it was posted like 20 times in the whole sdn

 

[hunterjumper12]

I got a call at work today from my friend (who owns the barn my horse is at) that my horse was colicking 🙁 So I left work an hour and a half early, went and looked at my horse (who was obviously very miserable), and called the vet. Sure enough, about 5 minutes after I hung up with the vet, he started acting better. The vet came out anyways and looked at him, and he appeared to just have a mild gas colic 🙂 On the down side though, his gums were pale and so we're sending bloodwork off to see if he might be anemic. A geriatric blood panel 😱 He's getting so old....🙁

 

[blackangussteak]

Kudos to your maturity in the presence of buttholism! 👍

I figured that using that word was a lot better than other much more colorful ones that could have came out of my mouth 🙄

 

[CorporateFatCat]

Long time reader, first time ranter 😀. My new Sims 3 EP is totally bugged and I can't play it 🙁. I came here for some sympathy because the people on the Sims forum suck--frankly. Game designers these days are all about money and not a lot about making good products. That makes me sad and in need for a little rant.

 

[heylodeb]

Long time reader, first time ranter 😀. My new Sims 3 EP is totally bugged and I can't play it 🙁. I came here for some sympathy because the people on the Sims forum suck--frankly. Game designers these days are all about money and not a lot about making good products. That makes me sad and in need for a little rant.

lol. I've never played Sims, but I know someone who got TOTALLY hooked and spent his life on it. Sorry it's being poopy. (I'm a "hordey" so it's WoW all the way for me....🙄) and I'd be pissed if it was bugged. Oh wait. That's EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. lol!

 

[scb44f]

lol. I've never played Sims, but I know someone who got TOTALLY hooked and spent his life on it. Sorry it's being poopy. (I'm a "hordey" so it's WoW all the way for me....🙄) and I'd be pissed if it was bugged. Oh wait. That's EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. lol!

Haha I didn't know you play WoW! (not that I do, it just hits close to home being on an engineering campus with TONS of WoW players/addicts).

Sorry about Sims. That's gotta be frustrating...

 

[cuitlamiztli]

Long time reader, first time ranter 😀. My new Sims 3 EP is totally bugged and I can't play it 🙁. I came here for some sympathy because the people on the Sims forum suck--frankly. Game designers these days are all about money and not a lot about making good products. That makes me sad and in need for a little rant.

A fellow simmer! Is it Late Night? That sucks... hopefully they'll release a patch soon.

If it makes you feel better -- one of my favorite games (Dragon Age: Origins) randomly crashes on me. It'll be fine, fine, fine, then POOF. Back to my desktop. When it happens I figured it's a sign that I've exceeded my time limit for the day.

 

[CorporateFatCat]

A fellow simmer! Is it Late Night? That sucks... hopefully they'll release a patch soon.

If it makes you feel better -- one of my favorite games (Dragon Age: Origins) randomly crashes on me. It'll be fine, fine, fine, then POOF. Back to my desktop. When it happens I figured it's a sign that I've exceeded my time limit for the day.

Hooray, fellow simmer! Yes, it is Late Night, unfortunately. I just hope I will be able to play by Christmas Break. My boyfriend LOVES Dragon Age, so I hear where you're coming from. I guess I just have to say my prayers to the gaming gods....

 

[HopefulAg]

If it makes you feel better -- one of my favorite games (Dragon Age: Origins) randomly crashes on me.

Bad ass game! Though mages were supremely overpowered. Luckily, that was the first game that I went "not going to play a rogue this time, let's try mage". Was not disappointed 😀

They're making a second one IIRC. Hopefully it won't come out until June 2014.

 

[Nechochwen]

This is now reason 10,982 to tune said classmate out (seriously, I wish I could mute them).

</minirant >

One of my classmates has hearing aids and cannot hear without them. After a test or when she wants to concentrate and study, she just "mutes" us.

 

[168135]

My relationship sucks and my social life sucks. Need I say more?

 

[blackangussteak]

Speaking of video/computer games, Diablo III doesn't come out for a long time! 😡 I was in love with D2 (still am) and can't possibly wait for all the new stuff in D3!

 

[cuitlamiztli]

They're making a second one IIRC. Hopefully it won't come out until June 2014.

Nope. Release date is March 8! It will have the honor of being the 3rd or so game I've ever preordered ... I should get around to doing that...

After a test or when she wants to concentrate and study, she just "mutes" us.

That must be nice!

 

[LivestockDoc]

My relationship sucks and my social life sucks. Need I say more?

Social life? You have a social life? LUCKY!

 

[HopefulAg]

One of my classmates has hearing aids and cannot hear without them. After a test or when she wants to concentrate and study, she just "mutes" us.

Lol I'm kind of the same way but can hear without mine, just not very well. Everything turns from "HOLY **** THIS IS LOUD MY THALAMUS IS SCREAMING" to a low murmur. It can be quite nice until people get mad at you for 'ignoring' them.

 

[168135]

Social life? You have a social life? LUCKY!

I have one friend... who I'm lucky if I see once a week. She's enrolled in two courses and is freaking out about them. She has a midterm in TWO weeks and she won't do anything with me today because she's studying. She freaks out over EVERYTHING in fact, and I can see us getting in a fight really soon. She asked me if I wanted to go for a drive the other night... said she would be over as soon as she visits her sister... TWO HOURS LATER, she arrives at my house. I could have napped during the time I spent waiting for her 😛 And then she spent the drive honking her horn and swerving out into the middle of the road whenever a car stopped at a side street. She was in two accidents last year that weren't her fault. She's terrified that a rude doctor from overseas is to run a stopsign, t-bone her again, yell at her, and then get the police on his side because he has money and influence. I just want to shake her and tell her to stop being paranoid or stop driving whenever she does this. And she constantly interrupts me when I'm talking to point out other drivers who are being idiots on the road.

I just spent my entire weekend cooped up in my teeny one bedroom apartment and I've already gone crazy.

Also... the boyfriend... who said he would be around today... has not returned any of my texts or answered his phone. I'm debating whether to dumb him via text message or wait until he comes home at the end of the month, if he hasn't dumped me already. My loneliness is about to increase tenfold.

And for the record... he does this ALL THE TIME.

I cannot have a long distance relationship based only on texting. I JUST CAN'T.

For the last two weeks, I've actually been wishing I was still with my ex. Sure, he treated me like crap in the boyfriend department, but he would actually pick up the phone, and omg, CALL me when he knew I'd be home and talk to me about my day! The last time I called my current boyfriend, I asked him about his life, rambled a tiny bit about mine, then there was an awkward pause. I asked "Um... do you want me to let you go?" "Sure. If you want to." "Okay... bye?" Then I cried... because he snowed no interest in me. And I'm about to cry again just thinking about that.

I have had no motivation to do any studying this weekend.

 

[nyanko]

scarcelyheard:

You are letting other people control your life to a ridiculous extent. You cry when you get off the phone with your SO and can't study because you're too busy worrying about what these people (who, by the way, don't seem to have attributed a reciprocal level of importance to you in their lives) do and think? It seems like you're using your perceptions of how others react to and feel about you as a proxy for how you feel about you. That is a Bad Idea.

You won't make worthwhile friendships or relationships until you have developed and are reasonably comfortable with a self-image that does not require other people's validation or approval.

I'd say see a therapist and work through that issue, but I'm sure you have a lot of excuses as to why you "can't" so I'm just going to say good luck not driving yourself insane with pointless anxiety.

 

[ckd816]

scarcelyheard:

You are letting other people control your life to a ridiculous extent. You cry when you get off the phone with your SO and can't study because you're too busy worrying about what these people (who, by the way, don't seem to have attributed the same level of importance to you in their lives) do and think? It seems like you're using your perceptions of how others react to and feel about you as a proxy for how you feel about you. That is a Bad Idea.

You won't make worthwhile friendships or relationships until you have your own self-image that does not require other people's validation or approval.

I'd say see a therapist and work through that issue, but I'm sure you have a lot of excuses as to why you "can't" so I'm just going to say good luck not driving yourself insane with pointless anxiety.

👍👍

Scarcely, I think I've been where you are before. It sucks, but I hope you learn from it. People who habitually make you feel bad can be cut out of your life. Surround yourself with things you like doing and people who you enjoy, then forget the rest! And don't sell yourself short... you're smart, you're cute and your whole future is ahead of you. Positive thinking!

 

[twelvetigers]

Yeah, we know you and we liked you just fine, love. These people suck and they shouldn't have so much power over you. There are other people out there, you just need to meet them.

 

[NStarz]

My 2 dogs have had serious fights starting when my younger one was about 2. We ended up having to separate them, and then slowly introduced them back together. They haven't had a fight in two years. My mom had a friend come in from out of town today, and they were separated because we're trying to minimize/prevent conflict between them (we separate them during high stress/energy situations). I gave my younger one a kong full of chicken, it rolled under the table that is in between my older and my younger's one respective areas, and my older one initiated a fight through the table. No contact was possible, just a lot of noise. I am so upset by this, I can't even tell you. My mom is being completely unreasonable with the situation and my dad doesn't understand dog behavior at all. My mom wants to talk to the veterinary behaviorist who hasn't seen our dogs in two years rather than talk to the excellent, positive reinforcement trainer who we brought the younger one to last week. I don't f*ing get it. I am so pissed off and no one seems to understand why I'm upset.




Sorry, needed to get that off of my chest. 🙁

 

[LivestockDoc]

Scarcelyheard:

http://www.meetup.com/cities/ca/b3h_4k2/

Meetup.com is a great way to get together with a bunch of folks who share an interest. I joined a bunch of groups when I moved to Colorado b/c I didn't know a soul. All age groups are welcome for most of them.

Dump your disinterested boyfriend (and don't look for another. You need to realize that you don't need one in order to be a worthwhile person.)
Think about dumping that psychotic girlfriend too. She sounds like trouble!
You can meet a lot of great people through Meetup and other groups/clubs and such. You'd be amazed how many people are out there in your situation (not much social life, don't know too many people.)

I'm in groups that go to the movies together, go to museums & historical sites, go hiking, go to dinner, etc. I wasn't sure if they had Meetup in Canada, but they do! The link above (assuming it works for you) is just to give you an idea, since I don't know where you live specifically.

Sadly, my life this semester is too busy to go to any Meetup functions, which is why I have no social life at the moment, but once this semester is over, I'll be back in the game.

And don't forget..if you have no one to hang out with, head to the library. There's a lot of great reading you could be doing!

 

[GellaBella]

scarcelyheard:

You are letting other people control your life to a ridiculous extent. You cry when you get off the phone with your SO and can't study because you're too busy worrying about what these people (who, by the way, don't seem to have attributed a reciprocal level of importance to you in their lives) do and think? It seems like you're using your perceptions of how others react to and feel about you as a proxy for how you feel about you. That is a Bad Idea.

You won't make worthwhile friendships or relationships until you have developed and are reasonably comfortable with a self-image that does not require other people's validation or approval.

I'd say see a therapist and work through that issue, but I'm sure you have a lot of excuses as to why you "can't" so I'm just going to say good luck not driving yourself insane with pointless anxiety.

Yes yes yes. You need to dump this guy. So what if you'll be lonely?? You're lonely with him and he's not helping you at all. Just break it off, no need to wait til the end of the month. Then figure out what you need to do to like yourself. I could have zero friends and know that I enjoy running, reading, going to museums, ballet, snowboarding, travelling and many more things. And I'd have no prob doing any of them on my own. You need to find comfort in yourself and stop looking for external validation from scumbag boyfriends, flaky friends, and Internet forums. If you figure out what you like and are happy people will want to be your friend. I swear. Happy people attract other happy people. I'm sorry this is harsh but I feel like you post in this thread so frequently about social issues and it's really something you need to sort out personally.

 

[cowgirla]

Just spent 8 hours in the ER, only to be told "we don't know whats wrong. Here, have some steroids and go home."

My doctor was an idiot. I told three different nurses what meds I was allergic to, and he still tried to give me one I was allergic to.
Me: "Whats in that syringe?"
Him: "Oh, its just an antihistamine, like Benadryl but in injectable form. It will make you feel better"
Me: "...I'm allergic to diphenhydramine."
Him: :blank look:

Stupid idiot doctor could have killed me. Then as I was leaving, the same doctor told me take 2 benadryl before I go to sleep. Duh?
👎
I'm still feeling really crappy, but at least I'm home now. I'm not allowed to go to school tomorrow, which is going to suck majorly. I'm supposed to stay home Tuesday too, but I have a histo exam, so I doubt that's going to happen. :-( I have horrible timing.

 

[Whyevernot55]

Just spent 8 hours in the ER, only to be told "we don't know whats wrong. Here, have some steroids and go home."

My doctor was an idiot. I told three different nurses what meds I was allergic to, and he still tried to give me one I was allergic to.
Me: "Whats in that syringe?"
Him: "Oh, its just an antihistamine, like Benadryl but in injectable form. It will make you feel better"
Me: "...I'm allergic to diphenhydramine."
Him: :blank look:

Stupid idiot doctor could have killed me. Then as I was leaving, the same doctor told me take 2 benadryl before I go to sleep. Duh?
👎
I'm still feeling really crappy, but at least I'm home now. I'm not allowed to go to school tomorrow, which is going to suck majorly. I'm supposed to stay home Tuesday too, but I have a histo exam, so I doubt that's going to happen. :-( I have horrible timing.

You're ALLERGIC to diphenhydramine? Yikes!

Idiot doctors are the worst. Take care of yourself. 🙁

 

[168135]

Scarcelyheard:

http://www.meetup.com/cities/ca/b3h_4k2/

There is one meetup in my area. It's for people new to the area. I've lived here for 9 years.

This summer, I did a search for recreational activities. All that was offered was cards, martial arts and yoga for babies. I live in a city of 28 000. It's pathitic. My hometown has 3 000 and they have a TON going on... photography classes, swim classes, shopping trips to the city, knitting for beginners, etc.

I'm in biology society and joined girl guides because the bowling alley closed 🙁. I can take on weekend activities, but not any more evenings. I might go back to volunteering at the SPCA on Saturdays.

I have seen a counsellor on and off until last spring. Back then I had horrible anxiety and stopped seeing her when my schedule filled up. I'm happier when I'm busy. All she did anyway was a take a family history, tell me to join more extracurriculars, and keep a journal. I've been having loneliness issues since my dad started leaving on work trips when I was 2. I've had trouble dealing with loneliness, social anxiety and I think I was depressed in high school. Instead of getting me help, my parents just mocked me. "I never had that many friends growing up. You don't need friends to be happy, so grow up." I was in a ton of extracurriculars, volunteer activities and worked part time. I was still depressed when I was home and only managed to find a couple of aquaintances.

I thought it would change in university but it hasn't. I'll have a period when I'm happy, then people will blow me off and I'll go back to being anxious and lonely. Then something new comes into the picture and I'm fine. It's not me. I'm fun, enthusiastic, I like trying new things and I love helping people. The only people who know about my anxiety are my friend, the boyfriend and my honours supervisor. I talk to people all of the time but when I say "Hey, are you going to this event?" or "Hey, do you want to study with me for this class?" I get fuzzy answers or blown off. For every decent person, there are 20 that are rotton.

Also, the program at my school is very cliquey... if I had known about this, I would have went to a more traditional university. Basically I don't fit in because I'm the only person in my year who didn't grow up in the area. I'm an honours student. There are 8 of us. All of them grew up together and they do EVERYTHING together. I try to get involved in what they're involved with, but they basically blew me off last weekend because I didn't have a car :S

My time will come... I'm just sick and tired of waiting.

 

[LivestockDoc]

There is one meetup in my area. It's for people new to the area. I've lived here for 9 years.

So what? Join it! Better yet, start a group.

My time will come... I'm just sick and tired of waiting.

People who let life happen to them will spend their whole lives waiting.

When you truly get tired of waiting, YOU will start happening to life instead of the other way around.

 

[Bearby]

I've had problems with my knees for about 7 years now. It's usually just an overuse issue and I can take some Tramadol for a few days and be good to go. However, since Tuesday/Wenesday I've had a very different pain in my left knee. It's a constant ache with some pretty intense pain when I stand up from a squat or flex my knee and it feels like something is popping or moving or something. Anyway, the Tramadol isn't touching this one. I've seen 4 different doctors about my knee and none of them have ever done any imaging. This time I'm going to insist on it. I'm wondering if I tore my meniscus.

I'm way too young for this.

So I finally went to see my doctor about my knee again a couple of weeks ago. He did all kinds of weird things to my knee and asked if they hurt...they didnt. The only thing that was uncomfortable was when he did something weird to my kneecap. Anyway, I told him we'd never done any imaging and think that since it's been going on so long it should probably be done. He did x-rays because that's the only equipment he has at his office (he'd have to refer me out to do anything more) and to no one's surprise, nothing was abnormal on x-ray. I was pretty certain it wasn't a bone problem but whatever, at least we've ruled things out. He gave me some topical cream to try on the areas that hurt for the weekend and told me to let him know if it didn't work. I tried it, no relief at all. In fact, I had one of the worst nights of pain I'd had in a while shortly after my doctor's visit. I called the office and spoke with my doctor's assistant and they are setting me up with an orthopedist. The specialist's office is supposed to call me this week. I'm really hoping that they find the problem but that they don't say surgery is needed. Even if they do say it's needed, I'm not going to do it right now. I've been coping with pain for this long, might as well continue if there's nothing else I can do. I'd really just like to lose weight before they cut into me so recovery wouldn't be so difficult. Anyway, that's all

 

[EllieGirl89]

Okay. This is petty, especially with all the other crap going on in my life/the world right now. But my roommate is the MOST DISGUSTING eater. I can't handle eating noises anyway, but hers are disgusting. Everything she drinks, she gulps, ending with a huge "AHHHHHH" at the end of each long series of gulps. She makes her lips, chews with her mouth open, and makes these disgusting, loud squishy noises in her mouth when she eats. It makes me want to scream and pull my hair out. Right now she's eating pistachios out of a bag and I could freak out. She sounds like an effing chipmunk over there, cracking open the nuts, throwing the shell into the trash, and chewing the nuts with her mouth open and as loudly as possible. I've known her since 7th grade and she's always done this, but after living with her for a year and a half it drives me crazier than ever. It is SICK.

//endrant

 

[ckd816]

Okay. This is petty, especially with all the other crap going on in my life/the world right now. But my roommate is the MOST DISGUSTING eater. I can't handle eating noises anyway, but hers are disgusting. Everything she drinks, she gulps, ending with a huge "AHHHHHH" at the end of each long series of gulps. She makes her lips, chews with her mouth open, and makes these disgusting, loud squishy noises in her mouth when she eats. It makes me want to scream and pull my hair out. Right now she's eating pistachios out of a bag and I could freak out. She sounds like an effing chipmunk over there, cracking open the nuts, throwing the shell into the trash, and chewing the nuts with her mouth open and as loudly as possible. I've known her since 7th grade and she's always done this, but after living with her for a year and a half it drives me crazier than ever. It is SICK.

//endrant

This. Is. HILARIOUS! Sorry to think your rant is funny, but I only find it humorous because I feel the EXACT same way about eating noises. They drive me absolutely bonkers. I usually try to leave the room if someone is eating loudly before I really lose it. 😳

 

[scb44f]

I have two roommates, a guy and a girl. I've ranted on here about them before but day after day I get the feeling that the girl is more and more dumb than I thought.

Oakley wasn't eating properly on Thursday or Friday (she ate a cup of food in two days... should've eaten 8). She attributed the dog's lack of appetite to the time change. Um, no. She ate just fine the 4 days prior. I kind of wanted to tell her to quit being dumb. But I didn't.

Today she put a sweater on one of her dogs. I'm okay with that, since the dog is a Boston and shivers without it. However, she left that dog out with the other 3 dogs, two of which are known chewers, and all 3 of which are known tug-of-war players. I'm not sure what made it a good idea to leave the 4 unsupervised without thinking that something would happen in the house while she was grocery shopping. I read on Facebook earlier that the two big dogs, the ones that happen to not be hers, chewed up the sweater. Okay, fine, they are the ones that chew, but don't tell me that hers don't also tear stuff up because I've seen it. Also, it was her own damn fault for leaving them all out together.

I really am not seeing her logic with things at all.

Also, she leaves her door open at night, meaning I have gotten to the point that whatever noise I make is the noise she'll have to deal with. At least it's not my dog that runs outside and barks every 3 minutes as soon as the clock hits 7 am.

 

[nyanko]

People who let life happen to them will spend their whole lives waiting.

When you truly get tired of waiting, YOU will start happening to life instead of the other way around.

👍👍👍

YES! This is the most eloquent response that anyone could possibly have come up with.

I pretty much figured that your post would consist of you blaming everyone but yourself for all of your issues, scarcelyheard.

Guess what, your parents are right, you shouldn't need friends to be happy. Friends can help you out, but at the end of the day you have to be able to pick up the slack - your happiness is nobody's responsibility but your own. Other people are not perfect, just like you aren't. They're going to let you down every so often, even if it's unintentional. The fact that you're so sensitive to other people's actions is not healthy. For instance people aren't automatically "rotten" if they aren't really interested in being friends with you for whatever reason. Maybe you give off an air of desperation - that's not in the least bit attractive in a potential friend.

Your counselor didn't help? Well you said you stopped going, so of course they didn't. Don't think that person would continue to help? Go see somebody else! Depressed or anxious? FFS tell them that - they can only try to help you as far as you let them. If you need meds to keep you on track while you figure yourself out, then do it up.

But what good does sitting around and waiting for some vague thing to happen that finally makes you happy do? Let me tell you, no matter what you think it is that will finally fulfill you, it won't, if you can't at least find a balance without it.

 

[168135]

I do not give off an air of desperation. I have plenty of aquaintences... every time I try to do something outside of school with them, it never pans out because they're either busy or they truely are jerks. Take my old roomate for instance:
Last September:
"Oh, I have to come see your new apartment!"
"Well, I'm free this weekend..."
"I'm going home :S"
"Well, I'm free next Thursday..."
"I'm going to the movies with the girls."
Last December:
"I still haven't seen your apartment. We have to hang out!"
"Great! How about after exams?"
"I'm going straight home..."
Last spring:
"Hey, I'll be coming to the city several times this summer. I'd love to see ya!"
"Well... if you give me two weeks notice, I can get it off work 😀"
Never... heard... from... her... again... but according to FB, she desperately wants to get together with the cliquey girls over the holidays this year.

And my therapist isn't going to give me drugs because I'm anxious and depressed once or twice in a span of a couple of months 😛 And I asked her about being able to see a real psychiatrist... she told me my doctor would have to examine me for that. I swallowed a small bottle of tylenol when I was in high school and begged my parents to take me to the hospital so I could talk to someone. Even after that incident, they wouldn't let me talk to a psychiatrist.

The boyfriend ignored me for 30 hours... then told me to leave him alone... then told me we weren't broken up... still didn't give me an inkling of an excuse... **** that. Family emergency I can forgive... lost or broken phone I can kinda forgive... throwing a hissy fit like a 3 year old and ignoring me when I say something he doesn't like... that I am not forgiving anymore. And since he refuses to tell me what the issue was, I'm going to assume it's the third. 2 and a half years down the drain...

On the brightside... it's Monday... which means I get to go to school! Yay.

 

[sunshinevet]

I do not give off an air of desperation. I have plenty of aquaintences... every time I try to do something outside of school with them, it never pans out because they're either busy or they truely are jerks. Take my old roomate for instance:
Last September:
"Oh, I have to come see your new apartment!"
"Well, I'm free this weekend..."
"I'm going home :S"
"Well, I'm free next Thursday..."
"I'm going to the movies with the girls."
Last December:
"I still haven't seen your apartment. We have to hang out!"
"Great! How about after exams?"
"I'm going straight home..."
Last spring:
"Hey, I'll be coming to the city several times this summer. I'd love to see ya!"
"Well... if you give me two weeks notice, I can get it off work 😀"
Never... heard... from... her... again... but according to FB, she desperately wants to get together with the cliquey girls over the holidays this year.

And my therapist isn't going to give me drugs because I'm anxious and depressed once or twice in a span of a couple of months 😛 And I asked her about being able to see a real psychiatrist... she told me my doctor would have to examine me for that. I swallowed a small bottle of tylenol when I was in high school and begged my parents to take me to the hospital so I could talk to someone. Even after that incident, they wouldn't let me talk to a psychiatrist.

The boyfriend ignored me for 30 hours... then told me to leave him alone... then told me we weren't broken up... still didn't give me an inkling of an excuse... **** that. Family emergency I can forgive... lost or broken phone I can kinda forgive... throwing a hissy fit like a 3 year old and ignoring me when I say something he doesn't like... that I am not forgiving anymore. And since he refuses to tell me what the issue was, I'm going to assume it's the third. 2 and a half years down the drain...

On the brightside... it's Monday... which means I get to go to school! Yay.

You do realise you just proved Nyanko right again? In this post, you have complained about so many things but blamed everyone else for them, and not suggested a single constructive thing to fix them.

Soooo... all your aquantainces either blow you off or are jerks... ever thought of meeting some new people? Sure, it can be intimidating, but its NOT impossible - I moved across the country to a city where I knew NOBODY to start vet school and I have made so many friends, and not just through vet school. No excuse.

So, your current councellor wont give you meds, and doesnt help. So... go see a new one. Ever thought of contacting a psychiatrist yourself? Going to self help groups? Going to see your doctor? etc etc... No excuse.

The boyfriend. Why does he feel he can get away with it? Why is he still your boyfriend? No excuse.

Everything in your life is there by your choice, believe it or not. You actually have the power to change the vast majority of things that happen to you, apart from freak accidents, and then you are actually in control of how you react. Until you ARE prepared to take responsibility for your actions and reactions, and for your own life, other people WILL continue to control it.

 

[heylodeb]

Haha I didn't know you play WoW! (not that I do, it just hits close to home being on an engineering campus with TONS of WoW players/addicts).

Indeed, I do...After spending 2 years threatening to kill my husband because he forgot about me AGAIN while playing "his stupid game" I decided to just get my own account and annoy him in there. Now he complains at me for forgetting to do things. 😉

as for ranting - I am supposed to be at the barn, on my horse...right now. I leave the house at 6:40am so I can ride before work. Instead, I got up at the right time (miraculous), got dressed, got ready to go, THEN sat down and got sucked into this stinking forum! So now all I'm going to be able to do is give her a pat on the neck, take off her blanket and go to work. blegh. I get distracted SO EASILY!

Not a big deal, just annoyed at myself.

 

[nyanko]

I do not give off an air of desperation. I have plenty of aquaintences... every time I try to do something outside of school with them, it never pans out because they're either busy or they truely are jerks. Take my old roomate for instance:

I must be a jerk, because I think you're whiny and annoying and have a victim complex and would never want to be friends with you in real life in a million years. I prefer not to be dragged down. Hope this helps.

 

[betweenusgurls]

I have read way worse than my silly rant below in this forum, but need to vent!!

I'm working a job that is <40% in my field of study (Biology/Bioinformatics). It's not science related at all. Fresh out of school 7 months ago in this economy - I had to take what I can get. There are benefits of keeping this job in case (heaven forbid) I don't get accepted to vet school - to give me a head start on a plan B. I've toyed with leaving, but If I go to vet school, I will only have less than a year left here, and I can get the benefits/certifications that will look good on a resume. I don't really want to switch jobs now in case I head to school. It pays the bills, its okay experience, and -sometimes- I like it.

No one here is my age. I'm 24 - everyone else is 40+. I get bored, and since this isn't the area I really want to make a career out of, it is hard to apply myself 100%. They don't even have enough work to keep me busy.

Please let us hear about school soon so I can get out of this stagnant phase...

Gosh, whine much? 🙁

 

[goldnretrivrgrl]

I do not give off an air of desperation. I have plenty of aquaintences... every time I try to do something outside of school with them, it never pans out because they're either busy or they truely are jerks. Take my old roomate for instance:
Last September:
"Oh, I have to come see your new apartment!"
"Well, I'm free this weekend..."
"I'm going home :S"
"Well, I'm free next Thursday..."
"I'm going to the movies with the girls."
Last December:
"I still haven't seen your apartment. We have to hang out!"
"Great! How about after exams?"
"I'm going straight home..."
Last spring:
"Hey, I'll be coming to the city several times this summer. I'd love to see ya!"
"Well... if you give me two weeks notice, I can get it off work 😀"
Never... heard... from... her... again... but according to FB, she desperately wants to get together with the cliquey girls over the holidays this year.

And my therapist isn't going to give me drugs because I'm anxious and depressed once or twice in a span of a couple of months 😛 And I asked her about being able to see a real psychiatrist... she told me my doctor would have to examine me for that. I swallowed a small bottle of tylenol when I was in high school and begged my parents to take me to the hospital so I could talk to someone. Even after that incident, they wouldn't let me talk to a psychiatrist.

The boyfriend ignored me for 30 hours... then told me to leave him alone... then told me we weren't broken up... still didn't give me an inkling of an excuse... **** that. Family emergency I can forgive... lost or broken phone I can kinda forgive... throwing a hissy fit like a 3 year old and ignoring me when I say something he doesn't like... that I am not forgiving anymore. And since he refuses to tell me what the issue was, I'm going to assume it's the third. 2 and a half years down the drain...

On the brightside... it's Monday... which means I get to go to school! Yay.

I'm just going to offer you my opinion. I too have some social anxiety issues and used to feel pretty lonely/worried, but since seeing a counselor on campus (I'm a senior at Penn State, and they have amazing resources available for students) and STICKING WITH IT, I've never felt better. I find that I like myself more now, and am happier with the things I accomplish. I also have two amazing roommates who have become my best friends and even have a few good friends in my classes. I felt like dealing with these issues, including my tendency to be really hard on myself, were best dealt with before (hopefully!) vet school. However, now I kind of wonder why I didn't get rid of the things that were bringing me down sooner. Your life is your own, and only YOU really know what you need to be happy. Until you take a step back and try to see the complaints you are making from a more objective standpoint, you're going to be stuck in a rut. I'm not necessarily promoting counseling, only saying that it was definitely the right option for me. Once you are really happy with yourself, true non-flaky friends will come. They did for me! 🙂

 

[pennyonthefloor]

But my roommate is the MOST DISGUSTING eater. I can't handle eating noises anyway, but hers are disgusting.

//endrant

I feel your pain. I really do. I've recently moved in with my boyfriend and his three daughters. They're just at the age where they're learning manners (but need constant reminders). Every meal is filled with kids talking with their mouth full, loud chewing, slurping and other revolting food noises (not to mention the three of them find it absolutely hilarious to pass gas at the table.... *sigh*)

My other rant has to do with them. I'm in a bit of a shampoo battle with the girls-- they've been yelled at repeatedly for it yet won't stop. Usually I remember to take mine out of the shower (when I pay $20 a bottle for shampoo it's unacceptable for them to just be squirting it down the drain... plus the sheer volume they use... I swear, a quarter of a bottle per shower... *sigh*) but last night, we got back from a long road trip and I completely forgot. It's been going on since I've moved in and none of the girls will admit who keeps doing it (I don't know if they're just squirting it down the drain or actually using it... their heads don't smell like my shampoo when they get out but clearly the amount in the bottle decreases after they're all done showering). Tuesday we're going to find out once and for all-- (with their father's permission), I'm sacrificing a bit of my shampoo and mixing it with food coloring. I'm determined to figure out who's doing it and to put an end to it. Maybe it's wrong of me to do this but after 4 months of yelling, I don't know what to do! I swear, if I pulled this crap with my parents when I was growing up.... wait.... I know I wouldn'tve tried because they put the fear of God in me....

 

[LivestockDoc]

I must be a jerk, because I think you're whiny and annoying and have a victim complex and would never want to be friends with you in real life in a million years. I prefer not to be dragged down. Hope this helps.

Sometimes I want to go to Davis just so i can meet you, Nyanko, and buy you a beer. Gotta love ya. You are truly one of a kind!

 

[HopefulAg]

The boyfriend ignored me for 30 hours... then told me to leave him alone... then told me we weren't broken up... still didn't give me an inkling of an excuse... **** that. Family emergency I can forgive... lost or broken phone I can kinda forgive...

Maybe this is why I'm single at the moment but why can't someone go a day without hanging out with their boyfriend/girlfriend? What happened to alone time?

And why can you only kind of forgive a lost or broken phone? Both situations make it pretty hard to check text messages.

 

[breenie]

I must be a jerk, because I think you're whiny and annoying and have a victim complex and would never want to be friends with you in real life in a million years. I prefer not to be dragged down. Hope this helps.

Take something harsh and honest like this, and get pissed about it. Get pissed enough that you stop feeling sad and sorry for yourself and change something. I don't know what motivates you, but getting slapped across the face with this one would sure get me off my butt and doing something to prove them wrong (or at least prove to myself they were wrong).

Good luck, dude. You clearly need to change something. You can't change other people-- you can only change yourself.

 

[168135]

I asked him if he was going to be around on Sunday so I could talk to him. He ignored my messages. He has a habit of just randomly ignoring me if I say something that makes him upset... for days... he basically acts like a 3 year old. I told him I don't like it when he does that to me. I'm tired of him doing that to me.

He also has Facebook, an email address, a home phone and MSN messenger... which he never uses to talk to me... if his cell phone breaks for an abnormally long period of time, he can at least drop me a line on MSN or something.... "Hey, my phone is broken, I'm getting it fixed next week." We text each other at least once a day. It's weird when he goes for more than a day.

I'm considerate. He's not.
If we're in an argument, I want it resolved ASAP. It's just how I am. He runs away in the middle, and it drives me crazy that I cannot resolve it right then and there. It drives me crazy that he won't even tell me when we can get around to resolving it. He just leaves and shuts off all forms of communication for a couple of days. I already told him, politely, how that makes me feel. He apologized! And then he did it again. I'm guessing it's because I said "Why do you have to go to bed now? I've had a bad day and starting to get anxious..."

My ex, ironically, was more lonely than me, more negative than me, extremely clingly, hated all his friends, claimed his family hated him... I sure know how to pick em, don't I?

I'm doing awesome now. I'm slowly becoming friends with his brother's girlfriend... and well... the boyfriend's brother treats her worse than my boyfriend treated me... so I have my own little support system right there. The boyfriend is ignorning me... she just got stood up... we think it runs in the gene pool.

 

[168135]

I'm going to stop talking about this on here.

It's gone to far.

Ranting about it made me feel better though.

 

[pennyonthefloor]

I told him I don't like it when he does that to me. I'm tired of him doing that to me.

So I've gotten into the habit of thinking that when he ignores me for long periods of time, I've probably done something or didn't do something and he's ignorning me.

I've been in that sort of relationship. It isn't until you're out of it that you realize how lucky you are to find someone that doesn't treat you like a POS. I know it's hard to do but you need to do what's best for yourself. I dated a guy for six years that treated me like crap... we ended up living together for the last 6 months of our relationship (he moved into my house). By far it was one of the most difficult things I've ever had to do in my life (kicking him out and ending the relationship) but I know I'm a million times happier. I have someone now that loves me for who I am, is compassionate, pushes me to be the best person I can be and is supportive beyond belief. Those kinds of relationships do exist and you deserve it. All the advice in the world will do you no good if you fail to act and change the current (what seems to be miserable) situation.

 

[racccjlm]

I'm going to stop talking about this on here.

It's gone to far.

👍👍👍

 

[twelvetigers]

Sometimes I want to go to Davis just so i can meet you, Nyanko, and buy you a beer. Gotta love ya. You are truly one of a kind!

I have these plans, incidentally, so I will buy one for her in your honor. 😀

S, you know you need to dump him and move on. So what's the hold up?

Take this as a cue. You are unhappy. So renovate your life. Get some counseling or whatever you think will help you get the ball rolling, and work hard towards finding joy in everyday life. Get rid of these people that bring you down and start relying on yourself for happiness instead.

You spent most of the VIDA trip (not most, but you know what I mean) complaining about your mom (though she does sound a bit insane) and, more specifically, how she didn't let you pack how you wanted to. I don;t know if you realize how much you vocalize your complaints, but that also might play a role in why you always feel terrible.

I mean, go back and count how many times you've posted multi-paragraph things in this thread... it's like it's YOUR thread. Haha.

I understand needing to rant, I do... but doing it here makes it seem like you need some sort of validation, too.

So please please please... realize that it's YOUR life and YOU control who's in it. People can only make you feel bad about yourself if you give them that power. Enjoy House, read up about parasitology, make some hot chocolate, and relax. To hell with everyone else.

<3

 

[hunterjumper12]

Maybe this is why I'm single at the moment but why can't someone go a day without hanging out with their boyfriend/girlfriend? What happened to alone time?

👍 And this is exactly why I'm single right now. I dumped the last guy I was with because he would never leave me alone...he constantly wanted to text me, hang out with me, etc. I found that my alone time is what keeps me sane. When I'm constantly talking to someone, whether it be via phone, texting, whatever, it drives me crazy! I need some downtime for myself at least once a day in order for me to think and just relax...it makes me feel so much better 🙂

 

[goldnretrivrgrl]

I have these plans, incidentally, so I will buy one for her in your honor. 😀

S, you know you need to dump him and move on. So what's the hold up?

Take this as a cue. You are unhappy. So renovate your life. Get some counseling or whatever you think will help you get the ball rolling, and work hard towards finding joy in everyday life. Get rid of these people that bring you down and start relying on yourself for happiness instead.

You spent most of the VIDA trip (not most, but you know what I mean) complaining about your mom (though she does sound a bit insane) and, more specifically, how she didn't let you pack how you wanted to. I don;t know if you realize how much you vocalize your complaints, but that also might play a role in why you always feel terrible.

I mean, go back and count how many times you've posted multi-paragraph things in this thread... it's like it's YOUR thread. Haha.

I understand needing to rant, I do... but doing it here makes it seem like you need some sort of validation, too.

So please please please... realize that it's YOUR life and YOU control who's in it. People can only make you feel bad about yourself if you give them that power. Enjoy House, read up about parasitology, make some hot chocolate, and relax. To hell with everyone else.

<3

👍 Great post. It was kind of what I was trying to say....only 1000x better!