Ok, so I'm just going to place this here because I am so annoyed/upset/sad/pissed/fed up.....feel free to ignore. 🙂
Omg. I'm an RA, so I deal with annoying people everyday. 🙂
But tonight some people were playing super loud music before quiet hours, and a girl came out of her room and screamed at them to stop because she was doing homework, and they all started screaming at each other, and I had to come out and ask what was going on etc. etc.
But the girl went back to her room, and I was left talking to the people who were playing the music. And I just calmly asked them to maybe turn it down or off for awhile just to let things cool down. And they could NOT get over the fact that she yelled at them. I was just like, "Ok, regardless of how she acted, which I'm not saying was the right way to handle things, you guys could just do the nice thing and be quiet for awhile." Then they'd be like, "But she yelled at us! She was so rude. OMG....blah blah blah." Then continued to talk **** about this poor girl who was probably trying to do her homework for hours and just got fed up to the point of exploding and came out to yell at them. (Not saying it was right). I told them that I know it's not the best situation, but please keep the music off for awhile. Then they got pissy. I went into my room and could hear them talking about me and how I'm friends with the girl's roommate, so obviously I would take her side. Then one of them (who I'm actually pretty close with and feel like we get along) says, "That's why some people just shouldn't be RA's." And continued to talk about the girl who yelled at them. So, I went out again and asked them to please not talk about this in the hall where everyone can hear it, especially the other girl. And they got upset, saying that I was being bias and siding with the other girl because she was white and they were black, and that I don't care about their feelings at all, etc. So, I told them that if the situation were turned around, I would be siding with them and would ask the other girl to turn her music down. But they were just like "Yeah! But we wouldn't be complaining about that!" Then I just said, "That's not the point!" Getting so frustrated, but staying calm. They continued to talk about how I don't care about their feelings and only side with other people. I told them that they can play music anytime they want, and I let them, and I've never stopped them unless it was excessive or quiet hours. Then they say, "But we haven't played it for weeks!" To which I reply, "Which has nothing to do with me! I never told you not to. Your choice." They start to say I don't care about them again, and I try to tell them that I most definitely do care about them (which I do! They are some of my favorite residents.), but they just ignore me. So I just retreat into my room and cry my eyes out until I feel a little bit better.
I hate people thinking I don't care about them when I do; it hurts. :/
And when people can't grow up and act like an adult.
Wow, that was long. But made me feel a bit better......