Should I tell on a "friend" who is going to lie on AMCAS?

[NuttyEngDude]

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TL;DR: Friend is lying alot on application and is a terrible human being. Should I alert AMCAS or any medical schools she applies to?

I would try to convince her to not do it, but I would not tattle on her. I think you should do this too.

 

[jm192]

And you are another example of what is wrong with the pre-med community. By attacking me you support liars that perpetuate the cycle of denying qualified applicants to medical school because of lying applicants that take their spots.

You are EVERYTHING that is wrong with the pre-med community.

You are whiny and entitled. You are willing to throw someone else under the buss if it eliminates even ONE source of competition. You've decided you're an expert on "ethics" despite no formal ethics training. You're simply going by "This is what sounds right to me, so it must be." You've made it clear if you don't like someone--that influences your decision as to how you treat them. PLEASE let the interviewers know that you function as such. You might kill the patients you don't like, and I sincerely hope you aren't given the chance.

 

[MaybeDr]

Do not do anything. It's not going to benefit you in anyway. Or anyone else. It's one applicant. People do this all year long it's not going to change a thing.

You aren't an adcom. You don't get to decide who you believe is qualified to be a doctor. There really isn't a point in even wasting time thinking about it. Leave it be and work on yourself.

 

[m1021]

My best friend stole something. I thought it was wrong, so I confronted her and said that if she didn't return it, I would tell. I told, and the place said they couldn't do anything about it since I was just an anonymous source, and they didn't have real, solid proof. In the process, I lost my best friend because she said although she knows what she did was wrong, it wasn't MY place to fix it. It's not my job to be the savior in every single situation.

I agree with you that you can't sit back and just watch this stuff happen. But, I also agree with others that it's not necessarily your responsibility to take her down.
I tried to do the right thing, and the right thing never happened. Sure, i'm glad I told, but I lost my friend, and they never got their stuff back.

Talk to your friend... even though she submitted. Confront her. Even though she did something wrong, you are stooping down to her level by going behind her back. DO NOT write the letters. You won't feel better. I promise.

 

[UlahSnackbar]

You are EVERYTHING that is wrong with the pre-med community.

You are whiny and entitled. You are willing to throw someone else under the buss if it eliminates even ONE source of competition. You've decided you're an expert on "ethics" despite no formal ethics training. You're simply going by "This is what sounds right to me, so it must be." You've made it clear if you don't like someone--that influences your decision as to how you treat them. PLEASE let the interviewers know that you function as such. You might kill the patients you don't like, and I sincerely hope you aren't given the chance.

You mad Bro?

 

[UlahSnackbar]

My best friend stole something. I thought it was wrong, so I confronted her and said that if she didn't return it, I would tell. I told, and the place said they couldn't do anything about it since I was just an anonymous source, and they didn't have real, solid proof. In the process, I lost my best friend because she said although she knows what she did was wrong, it wasn't MY place to fix it. It's not my job to be the savior in every single situation.

I agree with you that you can't sit back and just watch this stuff happen. But, I also agree with others that it's not necessarily your responsibility to take her down.
I tried to do the right thing, and the right thing never happened. Sure, i'm glad I told, but I lost my friend, and they never got their stuff back.

Talk to your friend... even though she submitted. Confront her. Even though she did something wrong, you are stooping down to her level by going behind her back. DO NOT write the letters. You won't feel better. I promise.

Thank you for sharing your experience. I wish there were more people like you to get advice from. I have not written any letters yet.

 

[RachieRach]

I think you need to do a little soul searching and ask yourself about your true motives here. It seems obvious from your original post that you have strong negative feelings about this person. I know the feeling. Before heading down this road, I was pursuing a completely different career of becoming a firefighter. I went through a training academy with a girl I couldn't stand. She was immature, unprofessional, and manipulative. God knows if I had found something out that could have gotten her kicked out of the program, I would have been tempted to report it. However, I would have taken a moment to step back and ask myself if my intentions were genuine. Was I feeling moved to do what was right for the safety of the public or was it really the fact that the thought of someone so awful and unqualified succeeding drove me NUTS and I wanted to jump on an opportunity to sabotage them. If the answer isn't clear, then try thinking how you would treat someone you liked. If one of your friends (true friends) showed you their application and you saw the same things, would you be considering writing letters to their schools? If you would do the same to your closest friend, then the answer is clear. But don't let bitterness cloud your decisions.

 

[tmn]

It's not my job to be the savior in every single situation.

This.

OP, you're not the med school police. Keep your nose where it belongs.