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I thought I would start a new thread with this topic as it is pretty relevant, especially to women and children. In my last thread, the topic sort of sidetracked from a woman's singlehood to woman's sexual freedom. This is what I wrote as a reply...
WOMEN ARE NOT SEXUALLY FREE! THEY ARE THE VICTIMS OF THE MEDIA AND POP CULTURE!
You make some valid points. However, our society has become too "sexualized" and dare I say, perverted ? Sex is used in the media to sell just about everything. The innocense of our children has even been lost with youngsters participating in sexual acts at younger and younger ages. We don't let kids be kids anymore but push them earlier into their adolescense. Just look at the "tweenie phenomenon"- I am referring to preteens or girls in the 9-12 years of age bracket starting to use makeup and dressing way too provocatively for their age who idolize indecent entertainers like Britney Spears.
With girls being sexualized by culture at an earlier age, child pornography seems to have risen and sadly, a lot of young girls as young as 8 years old in third world countries such as Thailand are selling their bodies on the streets. I've even read of young boys (pre-teens) crossdressing as girls in Russia and selling their bodies to men too. What is even more disgusting is that there is evidently a market for this perversion otherwise these children wouldn't be doing it.
So much exposure puts ideas in mens' minds and leads them to expect sex from women earlier in the relationship than they should be. And women feel pressured to give in because they have been fed so much garbage by the media. When a woman won't submit, men think there is something wrong with the woman, whereas in olden days, men would think it is respectable to be celebate and would not think it odd.
Do you really think we really have gained our "sexual freedom"? Sure, it is great that women can now speak openly about their sexual experiences with their husband but are we really more "free" when more and more preteenaged girls are becoming sexualized and the child sex industry seems to be booming? I believe that women are now facing a new type of "hidden victimization" and I am not blind to it. If anything, it worries me because little girls are not allowed to be children anymore and men are expecting far too much from women too early on. I don't think women have really found their sexual freedom but they have been deluded to believe so.
relatively prime said:Regarding "respecting women's sexuality"... that only means 1) not forcing unwanted advances and 2) being sincerely interested in her pleasure. That doesn't mean be can't want sex before marriage.
I totally agree that it's shame our culture has taken the anticipation and suspense out of sex, but I'm glad that in other ways it's given us all more sexual freedom. In the old days, it was considered sinfull to want to have sex, even if it was with your husband! So sure, you got men who would only hold your hand until you were married... but the trade off was that even after you were married, your desires and your pleasures were either condemned or ignored.
WOMEN ARE NOT SEXUALLY FREE! THEY ARE THE VICTIMS OF THE MEDIA AND POP CULTURE!
You make some valid points. However, our society has become too "sexualized" and dare I say, perverted ? Sex is used in the media to sell just about everything. The innocense of our children has even been lost with youngsters participating in sexual acts at younger and younger ages. We don't let kids be kids anymore but push them earlier into their adolescense. Just look at the "tweenie phenomenon"- I am referring to preteens or girls in the 9-12 years of age bracket starting to use makeup and dressing way too provocatively for their age who idolize indecent entertainers like Britney Spears.
With girls being sexualized by culture at an earlier age, child pornography seems to have risen and sadly, a lot of young girls as young as 8 years old in third world countries such as Thailand are selling their bodies on the streets. I've even read of young boys (pre-teens) crossdressing as girls in Russia and selling their bodies to men too. What is even more disgusting is that there is evidently a market for this perversion otherwise these children wouldn't be doing it.
So much exposure puts ideas in mens' minds and leads them to expect sex from women earlier in the relationship than they should be. And women feel pressured to give in because they have been fed so much garbage by the media. When a woman won't submit, men think there is something wrong with the woman, whereas in olden days, men would think it is respectable to be celebate and would not think it odd.
Do you really think we really have gained our "sexual freedom"? Sure, it is great that women can now speak openly about their sexual experiences with their husband but are we really more "free" when more and more preteenaged girls are becoming sexualized and the child sex industry seems to be booming? I believe that women are now facing a new type of "hidden victimization" and I am not blind to it. If anything, it worries me because little girls are not allowed to be children anymore and men are expecting far too much from women too early on. I don't think women have really found their sexual freedom but they have been deluded to believe so.