Hi there, I'm new to this forum (joined to ask this) and not a med student, so please forgive me if I make some mistakes.
An ex-bf of mine is studying medicine - planning to specialise in psychiatry, and I'm concerned about his behaviour re: ethics.
Our relationship ended last year after ****ty behaviour on both of our parts. There was an ongoing pattern of him treating me poorly, me getting upset, and him convincing me I had mental health problems. I've since seen a therapist who told me my feelings in the situation were valid, I was coping healthily and he didn't recommend continuing treatment. My ex recently started talking to me, and when I asked why he said it's because he thinks I have a personality disorder, and he tried to ask me about supposed childhood sexual trauma.
When we were seeing each other, we took MDMA together, and he told me that it was his intention when giving me MDMA to "pry into my brain". I saw him do this (provide drugs + interrogate about sexual abuse) to another person who told him she was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (he had met her ten minutes prior and she said she was recently out of rehab).
I'm friendly with his current partner (we're in a large social group), and she has confided in me that he also tries to blame relationship problems on her mental health.
When we spoke I urged him to tell his psychologist how he manipulates people, and he said he would try but opening up is difficult. I showed his messages to a couple of trusted friends who know him, and they were shocked and recommended reporting him to the University. Admitting that he gave me drugs with the intention of psychoanalysing me was very troubling. He has asked to meet up with me in person so that he can ask me about my childhood, with the kntintent of convincing me that I have a personality disorder. (He sees this as being helpful, it seems very inappropriate to me).
The thought of him being in a position of power with vulnerable women terrifies me. However, as his ex, I know that I'm likely biased and I may be overrwaoverr.
I know that people are different in their professional and personal lives, and I'm unsure if I should contact his University coordinator about any of this. I'd aopappreci any input or thoughts.
An ex-bf of mine is studying medicine - planning to specialise in psychiatry, and I'm concerned about his behaviour re: ethics.
Our relationship ended last year after ****ty behaviour on both of our parts. There was an ongoing pattern of him treating me poorly, me getting upset, and him convincing me I had mental health problems. I've since seen a therapist who told me my feelings in the situation were valid, I was coping healthily and he didn't recommend continuing treatment. My ex recently started talking to me, and when I asked why he said it's because he thinks I have a personality disorder, and he tried to ask me about supposed childhood sexual trauma.
When we were seeing each other, we took MDMA together, and he told me that it was his intention when giving me MDMA to "pry into my brain". I saw him do this (provide drugs + interrogate about sexual abuse) to another person who told him she was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (he had met her ten minutes prior and she said she was recently out of rehab).
I'm friendly with his current partner (we're in a large social group), and she has confided in me that he also tries to blame relationship problems on her mental health.
When we spoke I urged him to tell his psychologist how he manipulates people, and he said he would try but opening up is difficult. I showed his messages to a couple of trusted friends who know him, and they were shocked and recommended reporting him to the University. Admitting that he gave me drugs with the intention of psychoanalysing me was very troubling. He has asked to meet up with me in person so that he can ask me about my childhood, with the kntintent of convincing me that I have a personality disorder. (He sees this as being helpful, it seems very inappropriate to me).
The thought of him being in a position of power with vulnerable women terrifies me. However, as his ex, I know that I'm likely biased and I may be overrwaoverr.
I know that people are different in their professional and personal lives, and I'm unsure if I should contact his University coordinator about any of this. I'd aopappreci any input or thoughts.
