I think your military colleagues and you will have a more successful career than what my son will be able to achieve. Facing life’s challenges helps a person become more mature in decision making and increases his chances of success in life. I don’t think I would be where I am at now if I had rich parents who gave me everything. Working as a busboy at Disneyland and delivering newspapers during my HS and college years had taught me a lot.
There is a small failure on my part. I failed to convince my son to go to a cheaper school, UC Irvine, which offers him a $20k ($5k per year) scholarship. If he chose UC Irvine, which is within the commuting distance from home, he would continue enjoying the comfortable lifestyle that he currently has: his own room and bathroom, hot meal every day, fast gigabit internet speed, a car to drive around town etc. But he picked UCLA because it is a “more prestigious” school. It’s hard to convince him to go to a lesser known UC Irvine when 2 of his HS friends go to MIT, 2 go to Notre Dame, and 1 goes to UPenn. At UCLA, which offers him zero scholarship, he will have to share a dorm room with a roommate, will get much slower internet speed, and no car to drive around town. My wife, my wife’s sister, my sister, my sister’s daughter (his cousin, who is a first year engineering student at UCLA) all supported his decision. So it’s 5 against 1 ….I lost. The cost difference for attending UCLA (vs UC Irvine) will be $71k for 4 years, which is not too bad, fortunately. We still hide from our son the fact that we will pay for his professional school if he decides to become a dentist/doctor. I am not sure if giving my son everything is a good thing. But it's hard not to spoil your own child. Only time will tell.