Dude, that was a ballsy move asking the PD about work hours. I hope you didn't give him the impression you were a slacker by pinning him down on THAT issue... I'm not sure I would have taken that tact, but I respect your courage for doing so. I also appreciate the info. When I was in the Marines we used to say that the advanced scout had the best and worst job of all... Best because they got the info before anyone else and got the true scoop. Worst because they're most likely to get killed...
I agree with most of your post, and I interviewed there as well. I really liked the program and I think the reputation is second to none. You will be able to go anywhere and do anything after your finish there. They do work hard and I got variable answers to my querys. One resident said around 60, another said pushing 80 and another said 60 -70 with more hours as you progress through the program. I did not get the feeling that any residents there were bitter based on work hours because they are a very high quality applicants who want to work hard because they see the benefit in that. But make no mistake, it is not a "lifestyle program."
St. Louis is a fine city and it would be easy to live there. Great real estate for the money and the city has a great personality. Very hot and humid in the summer, but it has everything you would want/need in a city.
Summary: one of the very best programs in the nation, will prepare you to be on "the inside" of job opportunities upon graduation. You will be a rock star when you finish there. St. Louis is the hard part because if you don't have family/friends there it just seems so random, but do-able.