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I'll just let him explain it:Can yoy specify “enforced monogamy” from his comments and cite the statement please?
Here's a longer version from one of the JRE interviews.
I'll just let him explain it:Can yoy specify “enforced monogamy” from his comments and cite the statement please?
@belowthefray ....I just watched the shorter video posted by flowrate and his "enforced monogamy" seems to be just a belief that society might work better if we held to a social pressure toward faithfulness in lasting relationships, something that he clearly also expects of men. That sounds a lot different from what you seemed to be implying
I am totally jumping in at the end of this conversation but I find that I cannot resist.Postmodernists want women to be men and men to be women.
They disregard the objective fact that sexual dimorphism exists in human. I think that has a huge reason for some of the differences between men and women.
But group differences are not ipso facto proof that things are -ist.
I just feel that is field is sort of intellectually getting hijacked by one, probably small, but loud minority.
To them, everything has to do with groups and power. There is no such thing as personal responsibility, individual choice, competence, effort, work, inborn differences, etc.
I think the postmodern view is that gender exists on a continuum. Not that they want men to be women and vice versa. Gender is, to some degree, a performance. See Marc Bolan, Mick Jagger and so on, to cite boomer references. I'm sure there are some that are more updated but I don't love modern music.
IMO everything has to do with groups and power as well as personal responsibility, individual choice, competence, effort, and so on. They don't negate each other.
Also, did someone say that Dylan Klebold had no love for humanity? If so I think you should read up on the Columbine situation. The kid was oozing with love in the midst of a psychotic depression and an unhealthy relationship with a psychopath.
Oh. Good to know.I think you'll find it tough going trying to inject any semblance of nuance in this thread at this point.
It is not postmodernist to discuss how gender/gender expression are partially performative/socialized/continuous/non-binary/fluid.I think the postmodern view is that gender exists on a continuum. Not that they want men to be women and vice versa. Gender is, to some degree, a performance. See Marc Bolan, Mick Jagger and so on, to cite boomer references. I'm sure there are some that are more updated but I don't love modern music.
IMO everything has to do with groups and power as well as personal responsibility, individual choice, competence, effort, and so on. They don't negate each other.
That is NOT how I have read the postmodern thinkers. My understanding of postmodernism is as a rejection of the modernist grand narrative, e.g. William Burroughs cutting up his book and pasting it back together randomly. I do not see it as the extreme leftist position you outline. There is not one postmodernist position on anything, including gender, because that would be not very postmodernist - that would be modernist. There is no essence, just the perception of essence, the viewpoint of essence. When we observe, we change things. Existence is a process rather than a state.It is not postmodernist to discuss how gender/gender expression are partially performative/socialized/continuous/non-binary/fluid.
The postmodern position is that there is no biological difference between sexes and that gender does not have any biological association. These are demonstrably false assertions. Postmodernism is inherently disinterested in science and views data that doesn't fit their narrative as a reflection of existing x-ist power structures.
Postmodernists are part of the extreme Left and are a very vocal minority. You don't have to be a postmodernist to be a run of the mill moderate left Democrat.
You're right. I should have taken more care to delineate. I'm obviously not an expert on this brand of philosophy. The way I understand it is that there was 60's-early 80's postmodernism which is what you're talking about and that's very different from the 85-onward postmodernist-social justice-intersectionality-neomarxist political movement under academic guise. I shouldn't have used postmodern as shorthand for that movement but I don't have a good shorthand for it that's not also charged/pejorative (e.g. grievance studies.)That is NOT how I have read the postmodern thinkers. My understanding of postmodernism is as a rejection of the modernist grand narrative, e.g. William Burroughs cutting up his book and pasting it back together randomly. I do not see it as the extreme leftist position you outline. There is not one postmodernist position on anything, including gender, because that would be not very postmodernist - that would be modernist. There is no essence, just the perception of essence, the viewpoint of essence. When we observe, we change things. Existence is a process rather than a state.
That is quite different than "no biological difference between the sexes." Rather it is a rejection of a grand narrative of what it means to be female or male.
So, why the negative response?
Seems relevant.
Note the content and the downvotes and the comments. Seems maybe, just maybe these concepts hit strongly on politics and maybe, just maybe people have different conceptions of masculinity. And, some people don’t like negative attributes coupled with features such as gender or race.
There’s obviously nothing wrong with the basic message here at all in the sense of be kind, stand up against violence and boorish behavior. Protect the weak and vulnerable. So, why the negative response?
Also, the comments you discuss consist of such gems as:
Agreed.I was also thinking that this thread is a good example of the validity of the APA's new guidelines
Forgive my ignorance of this area of the field (I'm going to try to learn more about it). But I still see asymmetry. Consider the following:
Here are the names of the scales for the Conformity to Masculine Norms Inventory (CMNI): Winning, Emotional Control, Risk-Taking, Violence, Dominance, Playboy, Self-Reliance, Primacy of Work, and Power Over Women.
By contrast, here are the names of the scales for the Conformity to Feminine Norms Inventory (CFNI): Nice in Relationships, Thinness, Modesty, Domestic, Care for Children, Romantic Relationship, Sexual Fidelity, and Invest in Appearance.
Hmm.
So no bias at all in terms of how masculine traits are characterized/described/llabeled vs. feminine traits?
Sugar and spice and everything nice, I suppose.
. That's not that there's been, necessarily, an escalation on white supremacy or sexism.
Yeah, there have been increases in anti-semitic incidents in rhetoric and action over the past few years coming from left and right sources.
See Ellison, Sarsour, Tlaib, and Omar for recent democratic politicians with such ties/statements and of course we had the shooting in Pittsburgh recently. Relative to the rise in alt-right recently, I see that as in part a reaction to the approach of the progressive left to diversity. I think it's a dangerous game, personally. I'd like to see that de-escalate and the language shift to something more inclusive and less hostile.
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.theatlantic.com/amp/article/560285/
I think this opinion piece has a lot of great points pertaining to language choices and labels.
Relative to reading my posts, consider my positions.
- racism is bad
- sexism is bad
- we should strive to achieve a more inclusive society
Just watch the original Ghostbusters. I watched it last weekend with my little boy. It's stunning. And I was mostly concerned about the message it sent to my boy about gender and human relationships. But it's implicit, so everyone just went along with it. I think the outrage should be on both sides of this equation.
At least in terms of its effect on such things as self-identified membership and incidence of hate crimes against certain groups (namely anti-Semitic incidents), the numbers would suggest otherwise.
No irritation from whom? Certainly on a psychology forum, you're not suggesting that no one comments on sexism or racism as perpetrated by white people and there's no voice here advocating for using privilege rhetoric in how to think about diversity issues. Your talking about a field that requires its applicants to write essays on diversity and inclusion to get in. You are on home base for gender studies/progressive social justice language and concepts.
It seems that's kind of the game right? People don't like being negatively stereotyped. Male, female, hispanic, muslim, christian, Jewish, black, white, asian, etc..
It's still recent, however. My generation loved this movie, and now they're the adults who are wrestling with some of these concepts. I was thinking, when I watched it, how could the culture send the implicit messages that the movie is sending to boys:Yep. I'm with you there. Though, I do think that movie was funny. We have had a shift in what people see as appropriate. Watch something like Eddie Murphy Raw and you'll see that doesn't hold up well to today's milieu. I would not want my son or daughter watching these as elementary school children. Comedians today are definitely struggling with how to deal with the culture of offense/outrage that currently is increasingly loud.
I didn't see the document as denying the context of toxic masculinity. I mean, Brock Turner is a creation to some degree, of his father's viewpoint, no? which could come from what I'll call the Ghostbusters milieu of the time? (this from someone who read all the court documents from the case. I am trying to go to the original sources as much as possible these days.) If the word "toxic" was absent, then you'd have a point. "Masculinity" in and of itself, I think, is pretty fabulous.There are abhorrent comments throughout. I agree. I wasn't suggesting one should agree with the comments. I was noting the strong reaction to the content.
It used to be BPD/Histrionic were considered female personality disorders. Toxic feminity, if you will. And ASPD, a male PD. Toxic masculinity, more or less.
The former is not how we talk about women and psych, now. We, instead try to be careful of stereotyping and how individuals identify and guidelines for women are couched in the context of male oppression elements.
I think part of the problem is that when identity becomes so much the focus, whatever that identity, it triggers people talking about other forms of identity that have a bad history. We've had a major shift in how identity is addressed politically and one side has taken up the gender studies/sociology "grievance" language. I think this is how the alt-right got any degree of traction in the last election. That's not that there's been, necessarily, an escalation on white supremacy or sexism. I actually think that one could argue the contrary. But, that by taking the grievance studies language as the default vernacular it puts people in a language space that when applied by white people or men sounds racist or sexist. . . because it's racist and sexist. Identity has become okay to lean on as the crux of various drives and arguments. It's tu quoque, but I think that's a natural response to how mainstream elements are addressing these topics.
As with any bigotry or prejudice it's all about in group and out group exclusion. To be truly inclusive, we need to drop the modifiers as applied to race, gender, ethnicity.
, I see that as in part a reaction to the approach of the progressive left to diversity. I think it's a dangerous game, personally. I'd like to see that de-escalate and the language shift to something more inclusive and less hostile.
Ah fair point.I was referring more to data from places like the UCR and others, which track these things in incidences, rather than survey attitudes. So, that link doesn't appear to either affirm or refute my point.
If anything, it appears that it's under rather than over-reportedI wonder if there's also an issue with the new/expanding definition of "hate" crime including new groups being added on a regular basis.
Absolute numbers? Definitely. But if we stuck to a consistent and reliable reporting method, we'd have an idea of whether hate crimes were, as you claim, increasing despite, as I already pointed out, racist attitudes and violent crimes being on the decline.If anything, it appears that it's under rather than over-reported
Why America Fails at Gathering Hate Crime Statistics — ProPublica
Absolute numbers? Definitely. But if we stuck to a consistent and reliable reporting method, we'd have an idea of whether hate crimes were, as you claim, increasing despite, as I already pointed out, racist attitudes and violent crimes being on the decline.
There's also the inherent issue with trying to divine the motivation for a crime... Was it really white on white hate crime or just a white person committing crime on another white person?
Compelling w/r/t your earlier claim that there are "increasing numbers of hate crimes" or compelling in some other way?I'm all for it being more uniform, but you'd see some major pushback from local enforcement. In the meantime, we have the data we do, which is pretty compelling.
Compelling w/r/t your earlier claim that there are "increasing numbers of hate crimes" or compelling in some other way?
Please don't dumb down my point, it's a bad way to argue and it's part of the problem.This thread started as a discussion of Jordan Peterson and then a discussion of the apa guidelines of men and boys and peripheral issues in the cultural mileu and political space as pertaining specifically to how men are portrayed and discussed.
My contention is that we should diminish racial/sex/ethnicity stereotyping especially when combined with negative attributes (eg privilege, laziness, criminality, oppressive attributes, aggression, miserliness, weakness, emotionality, etc). The context is effectively irrelevant to that.
It sounds like you’re saying white people in general were racists and many still are racists so it’s okay to lump them together and say bad things about white and male oppression and go to individuals that we identify as white and when they say something we don’t agree with, ascribe it to their race and privilege. Two wrongs don’t make a right?
Please don't dumb down my point, it's a bad way to argue and it's part of the problem.
Except for the reasons just discussed we don’t have proof of increasing crimes in that category....what we have is increasing numbers of depts reportingIncreasing # of crimes along with correlation of increasing number of neonazi/WS orgs.
That's absolutely not what I'm saying. What I AM saying is that these things have a context and a historical timeline, and to pull them out of context and equate them is false logic.I don’t think I dumbed down or mischaracerized your point. Here’s what you stated.
“No one likes being negatively stereotyped, of course, but the white male stereotyping is in a context of a lot of historical stereotyping by that group toward others, so it can feel a bit precious when it's presented as the most salient stereotype du jour.”
Translation - Saying bad things generally about white men is occurring in a context of white men saying bad things about other groups. Without acknowledging bad behavior by white men as a group, I can’t hear your point about saying bad things about white men because the most salient issue is white men behaving badly.
I’m agreeing that the issue is full of reactive behavior and suggesting we get off the treadmill and drop the negative stereotyping.
Generally speaking if your sentence starts off with any iteration of “Jews...” “whites....” “blacks”, “Hispanics,” in all likelihood you’re about to say something stupid.
This is disappointingJust putting it into plain language that you think racism and sexism are okay depending on the targetted group and what members of that group may have been responsible for some time in the past.
The last one I translated line by line.
except that's not at all how it went (which you would know if you had looked into it further). the kids were being taunted by some black isrealites and were defending their black classmate and defending trump from gay slurs when the drummer (who no one was messing with) walked into the crowd of kids, got in the face of the young man in the picture, and banged his drum in the kid's face
I don’t embrace it. My primary point is that we should try to refrain from generalizing to an individual based on sex/race. Do you disagree with this?
except that's not at all how it went (which you would know if you had looked into it further). the kids were being taunted...
... I don’t think you can discuss this topic without the context of the political debate.
Sad to see this going ad hominem. I believe it to be an important discussion.
We can move along faster if you just go ahead and provide the followup statement that’s comingInteresting, are you both suggesting we need greater context to more fully understand what is going on at any particular moment in time?
I think it's more that many people view equality and power as a zero sum game and it's easy to be afraid of things that don't exist. I learned a long time ago that life is so much easier with no fear of imaginary things like god, the baba yaga, or that someone was coming to take my guns or masculinity away.
R u male or female?
R u male or female?