When do guys in medicine start thinking about marriage?

[coffeesnob]

I am wondering when male medical students start thinking about settling down. I guess it depends on age and level of training... But still I want to know!

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[Doctor Strange]

There are a lot of people in my class that are engaged/already married. It's different for everyone and depends on how far you are in a relationship.

 

[GadRads]

Not getting married until sometime in my early 30s. Even then, marriage is frightening. However, I don't believe in having kids out of wedlock, so I have to get married. The role of the traditional family in raising productive members of society is critical, a value that is slowly getting degraded in today's society.

 

[tco]

Not getting married until sometime in my early 30s. Even then, marriage is frightening. However, I don't believe in having kids out of wedlock, so I have to get married. The role of the traditional family in raising productive members of society is critical, a value that is slowly getting degraded in today's society.

Yeah, them gays are causin problems, too.

Where's the eye roll emoticon?

 

[Arkangeloid]

Assuming I can pass medical school and match successfully, my parents will arrange my marriage when I am a PGY-3, or slightly later.

 

[HatWobble]

Where's the option for "when you find someone you'd want to marry"?

 

[Trogghunter]

When you knock up a nurse and she keeps it.

 

[Textbookversion]

alimony is expensive. nuf said.

 

[scorm]

Never. Why marry when you can use and abuse?

 

[514901]

Never. Why marry when you can use and abuse?

Exactly. Marriage is for suckers nowadays.

 

[Wordead]

Oh good, another misc / men going their own way thread. We need more of these.

 

[Arkangeloid]

Oh good, another misc / men going their own way thread. We need more of these.

We all gonna make it brah.

 

[KnuxNole]

Lol...didn't know this many haters of marriage were prevalent. They are usually a huge minority in the real world 😛

 

[514901]

Lol...didn't know this many haters of marriage were prevalent. They are usually a huge minority in the real world 😛

How many married guys are actually happy with their marriage? If you're a conventional sort of person without much ambition/interests, then sure, marriage is great, but if you actually want to have fun in life it's a terrible decision to make.

 

[Wordead]

Lol...didn't know this many haters of marriage were prevalent. They are usually a huge minority in the real world 😛

Interwebz has the highest concentration of lonely angry nerds of anywhere outside of new jersey

 

[KnuxNole]

How many married guys are actually happy with their marriage? If you're a conventional sort of person without much ambition/interests, then sure, marriage is great, but if you actually want to have fun in life it's a terrible decision to make.

You can have fun in life AND be married. You are assuming marriage is a soul sucking existence. That's what happens when people marry for the wrong reasons, or rush to get married. There are TONS of people who are happy with their marriage, you just need to walk outside and observe a little! Yes, there are unhappy marriages left and right, but there are people who *gasp* want to settle down and live a happily married life.

I don't get how having ambitions/interests are bad for marriage. Maybe find someone normal who doesn't suck the life out of you?

It's like when someone mentioned to me a while ago that relationships ruin your life and you can no longer do anything fun. Well...maybe you two aren't compatible. I can easily see two happily married people living their lives to the fullest without hesistation.

As to this topic, there is no set timetable that guys can think of marriage. Depending on location, a fair amount of med students will be married coming into school. A higher number gets married before residency. Hell, I feel like one of the few single people left after graduating 😛

 

[eefen]

How many married guys are actually happy with their marriage?

I am. Very much so.

 

[scorm]

For guys, unless you have a long-term girlfriend, you shouldn't even be thinking about marriage. I mean maybe when you look at a chick you might consider her wifey material or pump and dump, but other than that, no gf = no real thoughts about marriage.

Fight on!

 

[tantacles]

I am. Very much so.

Very easy to be happy with a marriage when all you have to look forward to is soup and soaked-through starches.

 

[tantacles]

Not getting married until sometime in my early 30s. Even then, marriage is frightening. However, I don't believe in having kids out of wedlock, so I have to get married. The role of the traditional family in raising productive members of society is critical, a value that is slowly getting degraded in today's society.

I gotta second another poster's sardonicism; darn them gays, eroding the rights of our straight brothers.

 

[514901]

You can have fun in life AND be married. You are assuming marriage is a soul sucking existence. That's what happens when people marry for the wrong reasons, or rush to get married. There are TONS of people who are happy with their marriage, you just need to walk outside and observe a little! Yes, there are unhappy marriages left and right, but there are people who *gasp* want to settle down and live a happily married life.

I don't get how having ambitions/interests are bad for marriage. Maybe find someone normal who doesn't suck the life out of you?

It's like when someone mentioned to me a while ago that relationships ruin your life and you can no longer do anything fun. Well...maybe you two aren't compatible. I can easily see two happily married people living their lives to the fullest without hesistation.

As to this topic, there is no set timetable that guys can think of marriage. Depending on location, a fair amount of med students will be married coming into school. A higher number gets married before residency. Hell, I feel like one of the few single people left after graduating 😛

I live life a lot and go out enough, thanks. I have already nailed 6 women this year so far and it's September.

If you want to be married, go for it. I don't care. But you're not going to be able to do what you could do when you were single once you are married. This isn't the 1950s.

 

[tantacles]

I live life a lot and go out enough, thanks. I have already nailed 6 women this year so far and it's September.

If you want to be married, go for it. I don't care. But you're not going to be able to do what you could do when you were single once you are married. This isn't the 1950s.

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[514901]

Insert Cool Story Bro jpeg here

Please do.

 

[IJL]

Assuming I can pass medical school and match successfully, my parents will arrange my marriage when I am a PGY-3, or slightly later.

You're joking, right??

 

[eefen]

Very easy to be happy with a marriage when all you have to look forward to is soup and soaked-through starches.

Who ever said anything about soup and starches? Regardless, I fail to see how that's relevant. Please enlighten me.

 

[Arkangeloid]

You're joking, right??

Nah bro, that's how we do in India. Plus, Indian dudes aren't exactly what women want here in the US, so the whole arranged marriage thing is pretty much by best option to score a quality woman.

 

[KnuxNole]

I live life a lot and go out enough, thanks. I have already nailed 6 women this year so far and it's September.

If you want to be married, go for it. I don't care. But you're not going to be able to do what you could do when you were single once you are married. This isn't the 1950s.

Nailing multiple people is honestly the only thing you have that explains why you don't wanna get married. Which is fine, no rush. Is that really the only thing you won't be able to do once you get married? Oh the horror If you can't maintain your hobbies/interest due to getting married, that's the problem of the individual. It's actually a plus to find a partner who you can share fun times with!

I'm confused by the 1950s comment though.

You can always be in an open relationship if you can't fathom nailing one sexy person.

And dude, only 6 chicks in 8 months....that's like less than one girl a month! For shame, for shame.

 

[KnuxNole]

Nah bro, that's how we do in India. Plus, Indian dudes aren't exactly what women want here in the US, so the whole arranged marriage thing is pretty much by best option to score a quality woman.

What about women in the US who are of East Indian descent? I'm sure they would like Indian dudes 😀

 

[Sephiroth]

What about women in the US who are of East Indian descent? I'm sure they would like Indian dudes 😀

There are Indian guys in my class and Indian friends from undergrad who seem to be doing just fine, and yes, that includes with white women, not just Indian women.

 

[Winged Scapula]

What about women in the US who are of East Indian descent? I'm sure they would like Indian dudes 😀

Or even white women.

I frequently hear East Indian and Asian men claim that American women don't want them and ascribing it to their ethnicity.

I'd venture that American women want the same basic things: someone they're compatible with, someone who they find attractive, makes them laugh, etc. There are preferences for height, weight, etc. but in the end, unless someone has some racial biases, American women don't rule out Indian (or Asian) men.

But anyway, back to this inane poll...

 

[KnuxNole]

Or even white women.

I frequently hear East Indian and Asian men claim that American women don't want them and ascribing it to their ethnicity.

I'd venture that American women want the same basic things: someone they're compatible with, someone who they find attractive, makes them laugh, etc. There are preferences for height, weight, etc. but in the end, unless someone has some racial biases, American women don't rule out Indian (or Asian) men.

But anyway, back to this inane poll...

Very true. I sometimes think people psyche themselves out saying that noone would ever want them when there are multitudes of people who do.

 

[Wordead]

I live life a lot and go out enough, thanks. I have already nailed 6 women this year so far and it's September.

If you want to be married, go for it. I don't care. But you're not going to be able to do what you could do when you were single once you are married. This isn't the 1950s.

Lol 6 women in 8 months is mediocre at best if you're just trying to sleep with women. You've had sex, what, 10-20 times in the last year? I'm at 200+ being in a relationship, plus I spend probably 1% of the time and money you do trying to get laid.

I'm not saying that being single isn't awesome sometimes, but not having to deal with the idiocy and flaking of the average single woman allows you to perform a lot better in medical school.

 

[514901]

Lol 6 women in 8 months is mediocre at best if you're just trying to sleep with women. You've had sex, what, 10-20 times in the last year? I'm at 200+ being in a relationship, plus I spend probably 1% of the time and money you do trying to get laid.

I'm not saying that being single isn't awesome sometimes, but not having to deal with the idiocy and flaking of the average single woman allows you to perform a lot better in medical school.

100% success rate...I have only gone out those 6 times into the city (I live in a country area).

I'm not going out trying to get laid but I have gotten laid.

You have had sex with over 200 women, or you have had sex 200 times with the same one? If the former, I applaud you, if the latter, I feel sorry for you.

 

[honeyyygirl]

28-30
also, Iʻm the kind of person who prefers to be with someone for a while before talking marriage.

there are a bunch of people in my class who have been with people for less than 2 years and theyʻve proposed / accepted a proposal.

to each his own!

 

[IJL]

Or even white women.

I frequently hear East Indian and Asian men claim that American women don't want them and ascribing it to their ethnicity.

I'd venture that American women want the same basic things: someone they're compatible with, someone who they find attractive, makes them laugh, etc. There are preferences for height, weight, etc. but in the end, unless someone has some racial biases, American women don't rule out Indian (or Asian) men.

But anyway, back to this inane poll...

Well said. It boggles my mind that arranges marriages still exist.

 

[J ROD]

When I am an attending and can get a trophy.

 

[tantacles]

Who ever said anything about soup and starches? Regardless, I fail to see how that's relevant. Please enlighten me.

See your user pic for enlightenment.

 

[IlDestriero]

I am wondering when male medical students start thinking about settling down. I guess it depends on age and level of training... But still I want to know!

When the easy score dries up or gets boring.

 

[eefen]

See your user pic for enlightenment.

Unless you are generically referring to the transient-appearing fellow in my user picture, I have to admit that I fail to see what you are referring to. It's just a random picture off Google and if there's a story behind it I have no idea what it is.

Regardless...I don't think that happiness in marriage will necessarily disappear when one is finally able to enjoy some of the finer things in life, which is what you seem to have alluded to in your first post.

Unless, of course, it was a simply reference to some joke/back story/whatever in which my picture seems to be implicated. In which case, you can disregard my rebuttal. 😉

 

[JP2740]

marriage is stupid crew checking in

 

[JoeM]

I am. Very much so.

Same here. Being married in med school is awesome. I have my best friend here with me, I never have to shop or cook or do housework, and I have someone supporting me the whole way. Wouldn't even have gotten here without her.

 

[JP2740]

Wouldn't even have gotten here without her.

betas do get married

 

[IlDestriero]

Wouldn't even have gotten here without her.

Don't put that in writing.

 

[JaxonMD]

betas do get married

marriage is stupid crew checking in

Guys who act like this ruin it for the rest of us. Most of the people in your class will be married at some point or another during the 4 years you're in med school. If you want kids and a family you will need to get married. What's the big deal.

 

[Kal EI]

Guys who act like this ruin it for the rest of us. Most of the people in your class will be married at some point or another during the 4 years you're in med school. If you want kids and a family you will need to get married. What's the big deal.

Great first sdn post. lol

 

[514901]

Same here. Being married in med school is awesome. I have my best friend here with me, I never have to shop or cook or do housework, and I have someone supporting me the whole way. Wouldn't even have gotten here without her.

This pretty much is my point.

 

[Koalafied]

Don't put that in writing.

 

[monkeyMD]

To all who voted that marriage is stupid... what are you going to do when you are old, stooped over and all alone? You're not going to be young until you die and most people around you will probably be married by then = you will be VERY alone when you are old, sick, weak, etc etc.

 

[JP2740]

To all who voted that marriage is stupid... what are you going to do when you are old, stooped over and all alone? You're not going to be young until you die and most people around you will probably be married by then = you will be VERY alone when you are old, sick, weak, etc etc.

good reason to get married bro. come on

 

[TheWeeIceMan]

To all who voted that marriage is stupid... what are you going to do when you are old, stooped over and all alone? You're not going to be young until you die and most people around you will probably be married by then = you will be VERY alone when you are old, sick, weak, etc etc.

Just do what every other old man does, make awkward passes at the young nursing home nurses until they are clearly creeped out by you. If they call you out, claim alzheimers.

Seriously though, just because you aren't married doesn't mean you can't have an SO.