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2010 Waitlist Blues?
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Waitlisted at UMKC for counseling psychology. Congrats to those who were accepted! Still waiting to hear back from the University of Miami Counseling PhD.
To everyone out there waiting... thanks for being there with me through this. Good Luck!!!
To everyone out there waiting... thanks for being there with me through this. Good Luck!!!
Me three!! I've been lurking (I'm ashamed to say) for many a week now, and being in this crazy limbo - and being comforted by posts from other people who're in the same boat!! - finally convinced me to join. (I'm waitlisted at Duke, and haven't been able to find out how far down on the waitlist I am. Gaaaah!) Hang in there, guys... and thanks to all for sending out those let's-stay-positive vibes!
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Well if there is one thing we got it's good vibes 🙂
Broke down and called the DGS today for a status update. It's been almost 2 weeks so I figured it was cool. Pretty sure I sounded like a blathering idiot but I asked him to call me if anything had changed (someone accepted the offer, etc).
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All human wisdom is summed up in two words - wait and hope - Alexandre Dumas
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Yup, that'll be me in 8 days. By then it will have been 2 weeks since I last heard anything. Although he said that he would let me know if anything changed, I don't think it would hurt to reaffirm my interest and enthusiasm/just check in?!?
BTW, welcome Vera43 🙂
**waiting & hoping**
Hi all, I have some thoughts i'd like to share on being waitlisted... I'm very excited to say that I was accepted off the waitlist at my 1st choice program. While this sounds like a success story (and I think it is!), this is my second year applying and I was waitlisted (and ultimately rejected) from this same program last year. So, my feedback... though it sucks to be rejected and have to reapply, it's not the worst thing in the world. I had 6 interviews this year (compared to 2 last year), and ended up with options. And, I actually value the additional year of experience in the workplace that I got before going back to school. ps. I stayed at my same research job when I found out I wasn't going to school last year, and immediately asked my supervisor how I could work towards getting more responsibilities/moving up. If you don't get into a program you want to go to this year, I would suggest doing all you can to make yourself a more desirable applicant for next year and try again!
short story... the waitlist is such a crapshoot, but sometimes it works out! GOOD LUCK!!!
short story... the waitlist is such a crapshoot, but sometimes it works out! GOOD LUCK!!!
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I'm fairly certain that my waitlist at ____ is the only one I'm going to get. I am just wishing SOOOOOOOOOOO hard that the girl above me gets an offer that she prefers elsewhere, cuz if I don't get in, I'm not going to apply for Ph.D. next year. I'll probably end up at my under grad getting a MPC...
If you don't get in, why won't you try again next year?
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setting free an offer today so hopefully one of you will catch it! so much luck to all of you! hang in there guys! 
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"O snail
Climb Mount Fuji
But slowly, slowly!"
Kobayashi Issa
Climb Mount Fuji
But slowly, slowly!"
Kobayashi Issa
Hmmmm . . . maybe some future SDNer will choose to use the username snailclimbingFuji : )
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Whatchu talkin' 'bout? I'm a cutthroat applicant! I just don't have any offers in hand. 🙂
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it looks like my chances are increasingly slim. i only made one waitlist, at George Mason, and someone has accepted the spot with my POI. There is the slightest possibility he will accept a second student, but i think i'll be applying again next year...
i want to cry
i want to cry
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I'm so sorry... I know this is a terrible feeling. And I know it's little comfort now, but it always seems like these things happen for a reason - later you'll be able to look back and understand why it was good to include an intermission in your education. I only wish it was easier to see at the time (now).
Keep in mind that people who have done amazing things - in every field - encountered roadblocks along the way.
Crossing my fingers for George Mason, but knowing that there's good things ahead for you regardless. 🙂
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anyone have suggestions for an e-mail format for contacting a poi? i interviewed there a few weeks ago and have still heard nothing. i've already contacted a dct at a different school, but the poi e-mail is so much more personal, and i want to indicate how much i want to go to the program without sounding too desperate, any advice?
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I emailed my POI last week about my waitlist position. In the note I mentioned a few things from my interview (so he would remember me), reiterated how much I enjoyed meeting him, the intersection of our research interests, and finally I just mentioned how that program is my first choice (italicized) and how I was disappointed I wasn't offered admission, but how I am hopeful b/c I am still on the waiting list (end on a chipper note). I also received a pretty encouraging response. 🙂 But alas, I am still waiting to hear if a spot opens for me.
If you would like, I could PM you the email I sent...
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I just gave up my spot at two schools so I hope that makes someone on here less blue and more yellow! 🙂
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How many of us are there?
I got some info in the mail about graduation the other day. My gpa is in the range to graduate with honors. I got pissed off and went in my room and cried. Why? My mom keeps making comments about how if I keep saying that my classes are easy, why am I not getting all A's? Note: I'm on a full-tuition scholarship to a private school, and am graduating with honors in 3 years.
I haven't thought about actually graduating in MONTHS, beyond thinking, "man, I'm going to have to take time off work for this"... No plans of celebrating, nothing. All I'm thinking about is grad school. I call my parents and the first thing they ask is "good news?" "no" "no? bad news?!" "NO! No news! I'm calling about graduating." "Oh, we'll call you back." ...thanks, ma.
ARG! Why aren't we thinking positively and proudly about the accomplishments we still are getting! :-(
(My parents won't buy graduation announcements until we know where I'm going, so then we can put that on the announcements.)
I got some info in the mail about graduation the other day. My gpa is in the range to graduate with honors. I got pissed off and went in my room and cried. Why? My mom keeps making comments about how if I keep saying that my classes are easy, why am I not getting all A's? Note: I'm on a full-tuition scholarship to a private school, and am graduating with honors in 3 years.
I haven't thought about actually graduating in MONTHS, beyond thinking, "man, I'm going to have to take time off work for this"... No plans of celebrating, nothing. All I'm thinking about is grad school. I call my parents and the first thing they ask is "good news?" "no" "no? bad news?!" "NO! No news! I'm calling about graduating." "Oh, we'll call you back." ...thanks, ma.
ARG! Why aren't we thinking positively and proudly about the accomplishments we still are getting! :-(
(My parents won't buy graduation announcements until we know where I'm going, so then we can put that on the announcements.)
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People can feel free to PM me if they want to know which schools, I just dont want to post it here. I will say that they are both in the southeast.
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I've been waiting patiently, but now it's come to this...
Dear applicant who got the acceptance to Milwaukee from my POI,
Hi. I'm Krisrox. We surely met during interview day at UWM. I'm a 22-year-old college grad from Chicago and I really, really, really, REALLY want a spot in the lab you applied to. I know you're probably a great fit for the program; like me, you probably have multiple presentations, years of quality research experience, and stellar credentials. For this I applaud you. However, I truly believe that you should give up your spot at UWM and accept a spot at another program so that I can be closer to my hometown and my boyfriend, and so that I can research a unique topic that I love. I hope that you understand and that you give me a shot at my dream.
Love, (a slightly desperate) Krisrox
Dear applicant who got the acceptance to Milwaukee from my POI,
Hi. I'm Krisrox. We surely met during interview day at UWM. I'm a 22-year-old college grad from Chicago and I really, really, really, REALLY want a spot in the lab you applied to. I know you're probably a great fit for the program; like me, you probably have multiple presentations, years of quality research experience, and stellar credentials. For this I applaud you. However, I truly believe that you should give up your spot at UWM and accept a spot at another program so that I can be closer to my hometown and my boyfriend, and so that I can research a unique topic that I love. I hope that you understand and that you give me a shot at my dream.
Love, (a slightly desperate) Krisrox
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Thanks for sharing your success story.
I talked to my POI at a school that rejected me. He didn't get in anywhere his first try, he may not have even been waitlisted. He got more experience, applied again and was accepted- at a selective school that had rejected him the first time. and now he is a professor with a great reputation at a well regarded institution.
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Ha, I am one step away from this myself!
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Me too! If I knew who was holding the offer to the lab I want to be in I would be begging her to take one of the other offers she has surely accumulated....unfortunately no sign of her on the forums so I don't think she's an SDNer....back to refreshing my email every 10 seconds.
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On my mother's side of the family, yes. 2 of my older cousins have now graduated, but none of her siblings did, nor did her parents. She attended college (a few times) and never completed, same for at least one of her siblings.
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Haha, I tried to find out who received offers at the program that waitlisted me last year as well. 😉
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I'm kind of burnt out. It was really expensive.
My life is in a minor state of disarray. I'm still in undergrad, full-time, and I have 2 jobs where I'd been working 60 hours a week. I'll just go into the masters program at my school, but even then I'm going to take a few years off to work and get a little more settled/adjusted.
I've just gotten in over my head with interviews and completing my senior thesis (which you have to do to graduate at my school).
I have 3 different research lab experiences, and I'm not really sure how to make myself a better applicant. (My GREs and GPA are good). PLUS, I know that with my work schedule, I wouldn't be getting more research experience to MAKE me a better applicant. I know that I'm more motivated to make the $ required to take care of my family than I am to volunteer all the time to chase a dream.
My fiance will get promoted as soon as we hear back from schools. (If we're staying, they'll promote him, if we're leaving for school, then they won't.) We need my health benefits at my job, because he works at a family-owned restaurant and they don't offer benefits. He's going to need dental surgery really soon, and my work has the BEST benefits package ever... And his family is here too, and they're becoming my family too, I really like them. His dad is 69 years old, so we're kinda worried that when I graduate in 6 years and we can move back, he won't be around anymore. :-(
Since I haven't heard back definitively that I'm not going anywhere next year, I haven't asked the other schools why I wasn't desirable. I will though, if it gets to that.
Are you coming straight out of undergrad? I was talking to my adviser today and she said that schools prefer people who are older, because they do better in grad school. :/ (I'm 20).
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cara susanna,
hey, this is an odd question so I won't be offended if you pass on answering. but i've been wondering if that is a real photo of you? or is it from a musical?
Nope, I'm one of those older students.
You sound quite extraordinary!!! You're graduating a year early. You are going to school full-time and are working a 60 hour work week at two jobs. And, it doesn't sound like you have the full support of your family.
I understand why you would be burnt out. You've obviously worked really hard. I would love to tell your mom how extraordinary you are. I would love to let her know that very few students work 60 hour weeks and achieve the grade point average that you have. She just doesn't understand because she hasn't gone to college. My mother had a difficult time understanding a lot of things about college as well.
If you don't get into a program this year, maybe you'll just defer your dream rather than give it up completely. I would hate to see someone who has worked as hard as you have give up entirely on her dream.
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Thank you for that honest post. I think it really makes us all appreciate what we have a little more. However, I'm sure you're not alone. Take a year... 2, 3 even. Get your financial and family situation in order and make sure everything is taken care of at home; then, see if you want to try again. If the interest is there, it won't just disappear. And you're still in undergrad! It's no coincidence so many people wait to apply. Graduate school is a huge commitment, so no one can knock you for not being ready or expect you to dive head first into 6 yrs. of intensive education when you've got so many pressing issues. Don't even think about what you did wrong now... there's no point with what you have on your mind. Come back fresh in a couple years and see what you can do to present yourself as the best applicant possible. One of my hosts for interviews was a 45-yr old. It's never too late to go after what you want so don't make a decision about reapplying just yet.
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Thank you for that response. I just read my post and your reply aloud to him at his request.
I know that this is for sure what I want to do. I've been working toward this since I was 13 years old. I couldn't take the psych courses in my HS until I was a junior, but on my first day of HS I inquired to the psych teacher about it and flipped through the text book and read portions... I knew when I was 13 that I wanted to work with kids and teens, and in my courses they've required us to get experience working with those populations and I LOVED it. My fiance thinks that the line of work would be really stressful, and that I might not be able to leave it at work and bring it home with me. (I want to work with abuse victims). He thinks I'd be fulfilled as long as I get to work with those ages. (He had 2 kids of his own, and we have no plans to have more children).
I really like the company that I'm working for right now, and they're actually expanding A LOT, especially in "this" economy. 🙂 (I work at a career college). Once my schedule's not hampered by school, I'll be able to advance.
Now, I say these things, because I have been working really hard from the beginning to put myself in a place where I won't be devastated if I don't get in. From the get-go, I've been the "downer" about the whole thing, reminding everyone around me that I need to be prepared for "if" I don't get in. I'm having a bit of a slump with worries that my dream won't come true, but I'm also thankful that I'm not going to be SOL like some of my friends who graduate job-less. I've got 2 jobs that will give me 40hrs a week, each, if I so desired.
I'm LUCKY. I have a GREAT family that loves me and our wedding plans are dependent on whether or not we're moving for school. We'll buy a house too. So, at least there will be happy outcomes either way... and part of me thinks that my fiance is doing these things on purpose for me, so that I can still be happy and not freak out if I don't get in anywhere. So I distract myself by browsing craislist for houses and theknot.com for wedding ideas. and I can configure a mean budget. haha. Plus all the homework that I've totally been neglecting as I prepared for interviews, ugh.
I've also been concerned with how stressed I'll be about money when I'm on a fixed income via stipend instead of being able to pick up hours at multiple jobs and through babysitting, etc. I like being in control of my own destiny, and it makes me uncomfortable to essentially relinquish my ability to work my ass off to bring food to the table, and to hope that he gets a good enough job to take care of all of us when we move.
Best wishes to all of you!
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Thanks.
I visited my family for spring break last week and attended a wedding with all my parents' friends. It made me feel awesome. Because they've all got kids in college and made comments like, "will you talk to my daugher, I think she's on the 6 year plan" and I'd kind of forgotten that I am impressive, because I don't realize it, because I was raised to go to school. I took it for granted, I always knew that I would go to college, and I naturally got the grades necessary to do that. I got in everywhere I applied for undergrad. (Granted, I had no aspirations beyond knowing I was going to be a psych major, I didn't care where it happened, as long as it did. hahaa).
I won't give up entirely, I'll "just" get a masters. and honestly, it won't feel like settling. I <3 working with people, and I love the faculty at my school. I told my advisor this morning of my plans if I don't get off the waitlist, and she said it sounded good. She'd told me last year that they'd "love to have me in the master's program, but [they] know I'm off to bigger and better things"... Here's hoping she's right!
Good luck!!! We're pulling for you!!!
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I found out today that I am waitlisted at my top choice school. At this point, it is the only school that I have a possibility of gaining acceptance. The idea of waiting another month is daunting and a little scary.
I don't feel like I have a solid plan in place in case I don't get in. But, I will definitely reapply again next year. This whole process takes is toll on applicants... and the waitlist blues are definitely hitting me today.
I am pulling for all of you waitlisters out there!
I don't feel like I have a solid plan in place in case I don't get in. But, I will definitely reapply again next year. This whole process takes is toll on applicants... and the waitlist blues are definitely hitting me today.
I am pulling for all of you waitlisters out there!
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I know how you feel. I am on two waitlists, and I am SURE that I am not going to get in either of the schools. Yet, I keep waiting to figure out what is going to happen. I don't have a solid plan either, and honestly I don't know what more I can do to improve my application. (Not being pompous) I know others at my school who have less research experience than I do and ended up getting in programs. If I can't get into grad school than how can I possibly get a job?
I hate all this waiting and just wish we could all press the fast forward button or see in the future and know that everything WILL be okay 🙁
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I remember that following interviews I kept pumping myself up, saying, "I did really well" (which I feel I did), and then citing how many people turn down their offers to this school. But now as the time drags on since they offered it to someone else, I'm starting to fret. "What if she doesn't turn it down?" "What if she doesn't get accepted into whatever program from whom she's waiting to hear back?" Because in my head, since she didn't automatically accept, she's waiting to hear from someone else and it's not her top choice. B****, it's my top choice! I'm pretty worried she won't get accepted where she wants to go, and take the slot I want so badly. I feel that the more time passes since receiving the offer, the more likely it is taht she'll accept and I won't get in. :-(
Heard back on Thursday that the person ahead of me decided to accept the spot I wanted. Bummed out doesn't even describe how disappointed I was...well, am. But I do realize that things happen for a reason. I applied to PsyD programs and PhDs and it looks like I'm going the PsyD route. I thought about trying to apply to PhDs again next year, but don't really want to delay another year. Plus...I don't know if one more year of research is going to make a difference. I truly hope all of you get into your schools! This is definitely stressful, but I'm trying to stay zen and remember....EVERYTHING HAPPENS AS IT SHOULD!🙂
Just found out the two programs I interviewed at (all over the phone/skype because I'm living in London right now). I was told that wouldn't hurt my chances, but maybe it did?
Anyway, I have been waitlisted at UMKC and WSU. I have been told I am a "high alternate" at both... does anyone have any words of encouragement? Anyone think I have a good shot at getting into one of these places statistically? I just really need it right now, this is so depressing and stressful!!
GOOD LUCK EVERYONE... I feel you're pain if you're in the same position as me. It's so awful!
Anyway, I have been waitlisted at UMKC and WSU. I have been told I am a "high alternate" at both... does anyone have any words of encouragement? Anyone think I have a good shot at getting into one of these places statistically? I just really need it right now, this is so depressing and stressful!!
GOOD LUCK EVERYONE... I feel you're pain if you're in the same position as me. It's so awful!
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I believe I have seen it stated somewhere on these forums that "high alternate" means that in past years, students in your position have been offered admission. However, I don't want to get your hopes up in light of the economy. Regardless, I would say you are at or near the top of the list so that must be encouraging. Furthermore, I believe that Washington state had about 300 applications this year (according to a prof I talked to) so it is amazing that you were given an interview invite.
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Which PsyD are you going to? I am sort of in a similar position, but am still waiting out two PhD spots, but if not I will be going to a PsyD program as well.
Feel free to PM me.
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I know how you feel! I am waitlisted at two schools, one with a high alternate and one with an alternate. The one I am just an alternate at is my top choice school, and I want to get in so bad.
Thanks for the words of encouragement that a high alternate is a good sign from the other poster!
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Just got rejected from one of my two waitlists... I have one more shot, and it's my top choice (before I found out it was my only option). This is getting very nervewracking!
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At what point can you call the school to find out? I haven't heard back from some schools yet... some gave a later date that "everyone will hear back by XYZ date" which hasnt passed yet but another started to give out emails about 2 weeks ago and I haven't heard either way... 🙁
i feel like a lot of people hear about their acceptance via phone and then have to wait for the school to send them their formal letter. i was ready to release an offer last week but had to hold out for something official. that being said, i did release one today and i hope someone fantastic grabs it because its a good one!
I wouldn't contact the schools whose "hear by" date hasn't passed. But, it is okay to contact the other one. It's really all about how you ask. You generally won't come across as pushy, if you're not being pushy. You have a right to know where you stand.
