You were really smart to go to court, and to do it quickly. I'm also ridiculously glad you got your dogs. And regarding feeling like you ruined it, you did - in the best way possible. You ruined his vision for the relationship, which was one where you had no control or voice. You ruined that by being a strong and incredible person, and I'm so effing glad you did. When you can, try to feel proud that you did that.
I wasn't familiar with the abbreviation "FTFY" and just assumed (as one does) that it was some reference to Fifty Shades of Grey given that it's come up a few times in this thread and was just like, "Wow. Didn't see @WisNeuro as a fan of this trilogy, but okay. You do you, man. You do you."
At least it's finally freaking February. It felt like January lingered for an eternity...
I'm doing the countdown as well - LET'S GO!!!! It's not even rank lock-in day yet (razzum frazzum!)
Me too! I'm using the forums as sort of a pseudo cohort in this process. Only half of the folks in my cohort actually are going through the match this year and we're a pretty closed bunch. Having you guys here has made this process just a smidge easier for me, so thanks guys!
Mine sounds different - my cohort has three people, and there are only five of us in total (two from earlier years) who are applying this year. I'm close to my cohort, so I talk with them every step of the way - one of them did most of their applying sitting on my couch. The other two students I'm much less close to; one of them I check in with sometimes, and the other I never really hear about/from. I think if I was in a bigger program I'd be in a situation like yours, though, with just talking with my "pocket," as it were.
Same! I want it to be February 8th so it will be officially and totally out of my hands and I can't agonize over if I should change anything anymore!
I am ready for it to be February 24th. The day after the announcement seems like it will be much nicer.
All my rankings are in but I can't bring myself to hit the "certify" button.
Hope you get farther than me; I put them all in and then got so dysregulated I ate half a jar of peanut butter, soooo😆🤣😆
Absolutely clutching at straws for information that isn't there. Also, this legit made me feel better and I've convinced myself that it is, in fact, wonderfully delightful news.
On my way to submit rankings now!
Absolutely clutching at straws for information that isn't there. Also, this legit made me feel better and I've convinced myself that it is, in fact, wonderfully delightful news.
You do you, peanut butter and all. We all have our idiosyncratic ways of getting through! You can DO THIS!!!!!
Had to be sitting next to someone else in my cohort and submit them at the same time and then go do something else so I couldn't think about it for awhile. During which time I convinced myself that I had totally done the right thing. And then the next day panicked and went back to change something...to the way I'd already done it. Good test-retest reliability; bad emotional memory. But ANYway, highly recommend the doing-it-with-someone method.
That gut reaction is killing me right now! I've used the articles and ranked my choices in a logical manner... the problem that i'm having is that my gut is telling me that I made the wrong decision. So one of the reasons I ranked one site over the other is to be nearer my parents who are older and in poor health. The other site (the one I ranked second) felt like I had walked into the Emerald City and everything there was amazing... Now, knowing that I could reorder them is killing me.
Good point; that gut reaction is a very real thing!
THANK YOU, FRIEND!!!Rankings certified!!!
You do you, peanut butter and all. We all have our idiosyncratic ways of getting through! You can DO THIS!!!!!
That's a great idea!! I'm so glad y'all are finding ways to make it to this next milestone in adaptive and grown-up ways. Y'all are an inspiring bunch 🙂
I have changed my mind OVER AND OVER AND OVER and ultimately come back to the same rank list that I originally thought I had decided upon. Thus, certified. With complete acceptance that I may be logging in, changing, logging in, changing back, logging in, changing in a different way, logging in, changing back...
I have a complete bias of following my gut. And considering my death bed. On my death bed, how will I feel about the choices I made? Will I regret my decisions or will I feel confident that, whatever the outcome, I did what was right for me? Sometimes, all of the best rationality simply does not apply for my current context or my values. I certainly can't tell you what is right for you. I also encourage you to embrace what you know is your own truth and go with it.
SUPER resonate with this - especially with everyone around me going, "Where do you want to go? Where is your top choice?" Every time I answer that question I feel like I'm setting myself up for more disappointment because it talks me into it a little more.
YES. This, this, all of this. Not only do I feel like I'm gonna be setting myself up for disappointment, but I also feel like if I don't end up matching at my top site, then others will also be disappointed FOR me, too. This was exactly why I didn't want to share my rankings in the first place, but I've found myself also feeling anxious about the process and wanting to talk it through with a few people. It's a can't win for losing type thing. And the real kicker is I genuinely believe I'd be happy at any of the places in my top 4 because they're all quality sites. I feel like people are less convinced by that when they know you didn't match at your top site, though. Not that it should matter what anyone else thinks, but that's still a thing.
YES. This, this, all of this. Not only do I feel like I'm gonna be setting myself up for disappointment, but I also feel like if I don't end up matching at my top site, then others will also be disappointed FOR me, too. This was exactly why I didn't want to share my rankings in the first place, but I've found myself also feeling anxious about the process and wanting to talk it through with a few people. It's a can't win for losing type thing. And the real kicker is I genuinely believe I'd be happy at any of the places in my top 4 because they're all quality sites. I feel like people are less convinced by that when they know you didn't match at your top site, though. Not that it should matter what anyone else thinks, but that's still a thing.
All that being said, I really appreciate being able to talk about these anxieties and vulnerabilities with all of you awesome #forumfam folks. It helps normalize all of this craziness and reminds me that I'm not in this alone. Y'all the real MVPs 🙂
Yup!!
Good for you! I also agonized over a thank you email to my wandsite for days and days and days until it seemed like it had been too long to send it and then just deleted it because I like to make things extra awkward for myself.
