Does anyone have any knowledge on how reciprocal offers work? Thoughts on how to go about getting verified proof from the initial site that offered? I’m worried it will be evident that I am attempting to use them as leverage for another site.
Also, do you think it’s possible to ask for a reciprocal offer from a site you haven’t yet interviewed at?
When I got the first (lesser preferred) offer, I simply said, "Thank you. I am very interested and would like to take a few days to consider. Will you please send the offer to me in writing to my email XXXX.YYYY@ZZZZ." But as it turns out, my most preferred site never asked for proof of the other offer.
a friend also asked for a reciprocal offer. That offer was originally through email, so there was no need to contact the site. I also know of others who simply said, "I have another interview coming this week. I am very interested in your site but don't want to cancel that interview. Can you please send me the offer in writing."
As for how it works, you contact your most preferred site and tell them you have an offer, but they are your more/most preferred site. Are you able to give me a reciprocal offer?
Most, if not all, sites know about this process. They also know it is time urgent. My site got back to me by the end of the day letting me know that I was second on their list, and they made an offer to their top choice giving that person 24 hours to respond.
In the meantime, you cannot go to all of your other sites and ask for reciprocal offers. When you get an original offer before the universal notification day, you can ask for time. If you get a reciprocal offer, you accept on the spot.
If you ask but do not receive a reciprocal offer, and you have other sites more preferred than the one you have the original offer from, you can systematically go down your list and ask for reciprocal offers, but again, only one at a time.