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For the sake of clarity (this part is an edit):
I am not applying as disadvantaged, nor do I think I really come very close to someone who would be described as truly disadvantaged. I include my own personal history because I think it illustrates the point that everyone who is not "disadvantaged" doesn't necessarily have a perfect background.
But as far as the situation I grew up in:
Parents never married, custody battle early in my life (before I can remember) that financially ruined my mom for a long time. I was kind of split between my mom's side and my dad's side until I was 12, although my dad himself disappeared by the time I was 8 so I stayed with my grandparents during those "dad's side" weekends until I was 12.
My mom got married to my step-dad when I was still about 2 or 3 years old, so I've grown up with a dad most of my whole life regardless. He's not a great dad, or even a good one, but he provided for our family financially and wasn't physically abusive or anything like that.
By the time I was 10 or so my mom and step dad were doing okay enough to buy a house although they were stretched pretty thin, but clearly if you can afford a house you're probably not poor or anything. So I grew up, turned 16 and finished sophomore year and my parents moved to a rural area and I stayed behind living in my friend's parents' basement with them for about 6 months, working and doing Running Start at my local college. It seemed like a good idea since my parents had always told me I'd have to pay my way through college and had to move out when I was 18 anyway. I ended up moving back with my family for about a year since my friend's parents wouldn't let me stay anymore, and then moved out again with those same friends when they moved out.
I quit school shortly after that and just worked for three years, then when I went back to school that was all loan-based of course, although once I turned 24 I was eligible for financial aid as an independent again (thank god).
Anyway, I realize my childhood wasn't horrible or anything, but what exactly makes someone disadvantaged? I'm certain my childhood was more messed up and I was poorer and received less help from my parents than most people applying to medical school, but I'm a white male whose parents now fall squarely into the middle class.
Hopefully this doesn't come across as complaining about the road I've taken since I think it's made me more mature and more qualified than I otherwise would have been. I am curious about the circumstances of people who DID apply as disadvantaged though. What made you decide to do it? Obviously growing up in real poverty is a legitimate reason; what else?
P.S. - I'm not trolling, be civil!
I am not applying as disadvantaged, nor do I think I really come very close to someone who would be described as truly disadvantaged. I include my own personal history because I think it illustrates the point that everyone who is not "disadvantaged" doesn't necessarily have a perfect background.
But as far as the situation I grew up in:
Parents never married, custody battle early in my life (before I can remember) that financially ruined my mom for a long time. I was kind of split between my mom's side and my dad's side until I was 12, although my dad himself disappeared by the time I was 8 so I stayed with my grandparents during those "dad's side" weekends until I was 12.
My mom got married to my step-dad when I was still about 2 or 3 years old, so I've grown up with a dad most of my whole life regardless. He's not a great dad, or even a good one, but he provided for our family financially and wasn't physically abusive or anything like that.
By the time I was 10 or so my mom and step dad were doing okay enough to buy a house although they were stretched pretty thin, but clearly if you can afford a house you're probably not poor or anything. So I grew up, turned 16 and finished sophomore year and my parents moved to a rural area and I stayed behind living in my friend's parents' basement with them for about 6 months, working and doing Running Start at my local college. It seemed like a good idea since my parents had always told me I'd have to pay my way through college and had to move out when I was 18 anyway. I ended up moving back with my family for about a year since my friend's parents wouldn't let me stay anymore, and then moved out again with those same friends when they moved out.
I quit school shortly after that and just worked for three years, then when I went back to school that was all loan-based of course, although once I turned 24 I was eligible for financial aid as an independent again (thank god).
Anyway, I realize my childhood wasn't horrible or anything, but what exactly makes someone disadvantaged? I'm certain my childhood was more messed up and I was poorer and received less help from my parents than most people applying to medical school, but I'm a white male whose parents now fall squarely into the middle class.
Hopefully this doesn't come across as complaining about the road I've taken since I think it's made me more mature and more qualified than I otherwise would have been. I am curious about the circumstances of people who DID apply as disadvantaged though. What made you decide to do it? Obviously growing up in real poverty is a legitimate reason; what else?
P.S. - I'm not trolling, be civil!
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