GET READY FOR A LONG ONE!....
I do get a lot of surprise looks when I tell people that I'm 23 and a happily married man!!!
One of the things my wife and I talked about before getting married was that before getting married we had to be established in certain areas in our life.
The first is that we fulfill our dreams of pursuing our career. This meant that I had to be accepted to medical school and she had to be accepted to graduate school.... The best thing about our situation is that I got accepted to my first choice and so did she.... Funny how thing work out. Now, we haven't gotten our degress yet, but we are moving towards that....
The second is that we are financially secure to provide for our own. We felt that marriage wasn't an option to be fulfilled unless this requirement was met. We didn't want to rely on others for financial stability. We wanted to stand on our own two feet -- sort-to-speak -- We wanted to save enough money for my wife to go through her complete graduate studies without having to take out a single penny in loans as well as have enough dinero to pay for both of our housing and food, etc., etc..... My education, on the other hand, will be either based on loans or scholarship. Needless to say, we've covered financial stability well.... for now.... I'm still waiting on the NHSC Scholarship results and I called DMU about loans and because I never took out a loan before that I would qualify easily....
The third was that we understood the demands of each other's profession and that we don't stop each other from pursuing our goal but rather help push each other to better ourselves.... Our relationship is a growing relationship, which means she inspires me to grow and I inspire her to grow as well in every aspects of our lives.
The fourth was that we open communication no matter what happened.... Can't you tell by now, that my wife and I talk alot?! We talk about the demands in life, what we need vs. what we don't need, etc., etc. We are both aware of some of the ups and downs in life and we're both looking forward to growing through all of them....
Another thing.... Since we have yet to fulfill our professional goals in life.... We will not have any kids till we are more established with our careers.... This doesn't mean that we don't welcome kids if and when they come, but we have to keep in mind our other goals first....
It's strange but in a matter of only a few weeks when my wife and I started going out, we both knew that this was it.... Sounds cliches, but true. If we could have married three years ago, we would have.
I don't think that early marriage is an option for everyone.... I think people should really look within themselves and ask themselves whether or not they are secure and happy about themselves before asking someone else to step into their life for life.....did that make sense?
I think that one of the downfalls (if you see it as a downfall - which I don't) to having a significant other in your life is that I don't hang out with the guys or gals too often.... The reason is, my time with her, my wife, is what I want to do most of the time.... Unlike many, I actually prefer to hang out with my wife than hang out with a lot of other people.... I do hang out with others, but not as often anymore....
I'm not sure if you notice my comment on the "what do you do for fun on a friday night" but what I said is true.... A rented movie, a bowl of popcorn, and being next to my wife is the best thing in the world. That's what I've always felt even when I knew her as a girlfriend....
Okay.... I think I've said enough.... Hope that answers your question....
Later,
JP 😎
PS: KidT, did you know I just married this March?
