How did you overcome adversity?

[Dr. In Formation]

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Norma Jean Baker overcame a lot of adversity in her life and is still a household name over 50 years post-mortem. Who's that person you just quoted?

 

[libertyyne]

Norma Jean Baker overcame a lot of adversity in her life and is still a household name over 50 years post-mortem. Who's that person you just quoted?

Mousolini, also is a household name 70 years later.what is your point ?

 

[freak7]

I am a man of many interests, talents and depravities. I also performed some amateur stand up on a few occasions.

Me too. It was super fun, and I was super terrible.

I actually have a routine written in my phone. I could probably open-mic about 10mins but it's SUPER nsfw.

Edit: It's not raunchy. It's sfw for healthcare, but for normies not so much.

 

[Ayy_MadScientist]

How do you overcome adversity? You just do it. There is a point at which you either overcome it, or it consumes you. You'd be surprised at what you can push through when you have no other real choice.

Agree with this 100%. You have to make sure you know what your goals are and keep in touch with your motivations and determination to do so.

I don't think there is a "strategy" of any kind to overcome adversity except doing your absolute best. Just try to channel everything negative or difficult into doing productive things or studying for exams. I know for me it was rewarding to get good grades on my exams or quizzes even while going through stress / difficulties.

edit/add: in regard to your question - "How do you not make excuses or feel jealous of others who don't deal with anything or don't deal with the same magnitude of issues you have?" I think if something is bothering you that much that you feel jealous of other peoples lives it may have to do with your perspective of your own or how overwhelmed you feel. You should talk to someone about it! Whether professional or just within the group of people who support you, if any.

 

[Matthew9Thirtyfive]

I actually have a routine written in my phone. I could probably open-mic about 10mins but it's SUPER nsfw.

Edit: It's not raunchy. It's sfw for healthcare, but for normies not so much.

Mine was super weird. Very Andy Kaufman. One routine involved me just listing a bunch of celebrity names, but changing them to have the word "spleen" in them. Eg, Charlie Spleen. Spleen Latifah, Steve McSpleen. I did that for about five minutes. Long enough to get very not funny and then so not funny that it was funny again. I only did that one once.

 

[cherrylifesaver]

One of the best things about facing adversity is the gifts it provides.

Because your post was vague, I'm going to assume you are still in the midst of yours, as you said "for you it will take time."

I would add three things to the great advice you've already been given:

1. Realize this is temporary, which it seems you have already done. Not to get all spiritual on you, but everything is temporary. That being said, it helps to have at least a rough sketch of how temporary you wish your adversity to be. Like I said, I don't know your particulars, but making a plan (and make it as vague or as detailed as you want) helps map a way out of the issues you face. It also helps set goals, priorities, and puts things in perspective.

2. Serve others. This I really can't empathize enough. There is nothing more personally satisfying than realizing as bad as you might have it, there is always someone out there worse off. And helping that person instead of comparing yourself to him or her or anyone else, or sitting and wallowing in self-pity is a much more efficient use of your time. Ghandi said “The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.”

3. Make a list (can you tell I'm fond of lists?) of the gifts the adversity you're facing is giving you. It might be a life lesson. It might be realizing you need to change direction. Actually take the time to reflect on the positive gains. You can always find at least one thing if you really think hard enough.

Know this too shall pass and if you work on yourself and your goals, you'll come out the better for having undergone the trials you're facing.

Wow, this is amazing, thank you. Simple things I've done randomly throughout my life, but never consistently.