When and how did everyone meet their good medical school friends? / Any interesting or funny stories related to the subject would be cool to know as well!
Do you know why? Was it you or your peers or just the way things worked out?I never did
me neither..... Was hanging out with a few people the first few weeks at the beginning of M1, but then they slowly edged me out (way too much age difference). So, no friends here... at all. not gonna lie, kind of depressing. But better this way than "fake-friend" someone for the sake of company...I never did
Couldnt answer that, idk why. I tried very hard during orientation to click with anyone. It didnt work out. I will always blame myself. I also took three gap years and was married. That didn’t help. And my school has SMPs and a BS/MD program so much of my class already knew each other. It was just cliquey af. Idk what i did, but yeah... that didnt help my near collapse the first two years.Do you know why? Was it you or your peers or just the way things worked out?
Omg with the fake friend stuff. People with the patronizing reach out if you need someone to talk to bs. Nobody actually cared. Nobody noticed me. I always ate alone and hell, once we had a make your own groups TBL and i sat alone for that too. As people collected chairs from my table. It hurt and was embarrassing. TBLs only counted for a small part of my grade so i quit going after that.me neither..... Was hanging out with a few people the first few weeks at the beginning of M1, but then they slowly edged me out (way too much age difference). So, no friends here... at all. not gonna lie, kind of depressing. But better this way than "fake-friend" someone for the sake of company...
Omg with the fake friend stuff. People with the patronizing reach out if you need someone to talk to bs. Nobody actually cared. Nobody noticed me. I always ate alone and hell, once we had a make your own groups TBL and i sat alone for that too. As people collected chairs from my table. It hurt and was embarrassing. TBLs only counted for a small part of my grade so i quit going after that.
and first year during anatomy... we didnt have time to dissect the abdominal viscera or something... i asked when we were gonna do it and they were all “we met up as a group with another group and learned it” but never bothered to tel me. I ended up reaching out to my course director because i felt this wasnt fair and how could i pass the practical? He ended up reporting it to student affairs. The same people took a “group photo” and didn’t include me.
this sounds horrible... But honestly i think i would rather have THAT. To me, - they do the polite nod, and such, but i am invisible. There is a certain amount of almost pity in their eyes. hahaha. I am not kidding. I asked on the group chat who were the course directors going to be for a specific module that was starting in 3 days (i needed to request time off for a conference ASAP), and they all gave me fake names from TV shows that i didnt know... so i kept typing up the wrong names into the google search, and i was so confused. And then the next person would be: "oh, no, its actually Dr ....", and give another fake name from a TV show, that i would believe AGAIN... When i realized what was happening, i had already emailed my mentor who was asking me about the names (upper classmate, wanted to give me advice on how to handle course load). It was the most humiliating experience. I immediately left the group chat, and havent talked to my classmates since then (it has been about 6 months now). I felt bullied.... The worst part, - those were the "popular kids", the student leadership. This was the first time when i felt like i made a mistake coming here......Omg with the fake friend stuff. People with the patronizing reach out if you need someone to talk to bs. Nobody actually cared. Nobody noticed me. I always ate alone and hell, once we had a make your own groups TBL and i sat alone for that too. As people collected chairs from my table. It hurt and was embarrassing. TBLs only counted for a small part of my grade so i quit going after that.
and first year during anatomy... we didnt have time to dissect the abdominal viscera or something... i asked when we were gonna do it and they were all “we met up as a group with another group and learned it” but never bothered to tel me. I ended up reaching out to my course director because i felt this wasnt fair and how could i pass the practical? He ended up reporting it to student affairs. The same people took a “group photo” and didn’t include me.
the bad part in all this is that those who do not have much exposure to medicine before medical school., and face situation like this, might think that the whole medical field is like that. Which is not true. I worked in some amazing places with incredible ppl over the years. But imagine if you are a young, unexperienced M1, who have not seen much yet, and you face situations like that? This is a very depressing and bad place to be.Man, some of you guys went to school with total asshats who apparently never left the 8th grade. Just re-affirms my belief that the majority of medical students are too immature to be in medical school.
For me, I met a friend on interview day. We both got in and he sat next to one person at orientation while I sat next to another. We brought both into our circle and there was a group of 4 of us. We're still on a group chat a decade later.
When and how did everyone meet their good medical school friends? / Any interesting or funny stories related to the subject would be cool to know as well!
this sounds horrible... But honestly i think i would rather have THAT. To me, - they do the polite nod, and such, but i am invisible. There is a certain amount of almost pity in their eyes. hahaha. I am not kidding. I asked on the group chat who were the course directors going to be for a specific module that was starting in 3 days (i needed to request time off for a conference ASAP), and they all gave me fake names from TV shows that i didnt know... so i kept typing up the wrong names into the google search, and i was so confused. And then the next person would be: "oh, no, its actually Dr ....", and give another fake name from a TV show, that i would believe AGAIN... When i realized what was happening, i had already emailed my mentor who was asking me about the names (upper classmate, wanted to give me advice on how to handle course load). It was the most humiliating experience. I immediately left the group chat, and havent talked to my classmates since then (it has been about 6 months now). I felt bullied.... The worst part, - those were the "popular kids", the student leadership. This was the first time when i felt like i made a mistake coming here......
i felt like i couldnt report it, because so many people were laughing. They thought it was hilarious. Plus they are the "popular kids" and everyone likes them. I was afraid that i would alienate the class even more if i do anything. I felt easier to just disappear from the class completely. Not gonna lie, it is so depressing, especially when you are single, and dont have any family.Wtf? That is so unprofessional. I would have zero problems reporting that behavior. Those people should not be in student leadership.
My SDN meme training is paying dividends for my social life at U Zoom SOM
i felt like i couldnt report it, because so many people were laughing. They thought it was hilarious. Plus they are the "popular kids" and everyone likes them. I was afraid that i would alienate the class even more if i do anything. I felt easier to just disappear from the class completely. Not gonna lie, it is so depressing, especially when you are single, and dont have any family.
anyway, sorry, not trying to highjack the thread.
i felt like i couldnt report it, because so many people were laughing. They thought it was hilarious. Plus they are the "popular kids" and everyone likes them. I was afraid that i would alienate the class even more if i do anything. I felt easier to just disappear from the class completely. Not gonna lie, it is so depressing, especially when you are single, and dont have any family.
anyway, sorry, not trying to highjack the thread.
"there is no age limit to stupidity". this is brilliant. i am definitely saving this quote.I really don't understand why these losers act like they're still in high school. It's appalling. But then again, I've dealt with middle aged administrators that act the same exact way. There's no age limit to stupidity I guess
Should've gone to reddit for this bro
That's just evil! What a**holes!this sounds horrible... But honestly i think i would rather have THAT. To me, - they do the polite nod, and such, but i am invisible. There is a certain amount of almost pity in their eyes. hahaha. I am not kidding. I asked on the group chat who were the course directors going to be for a specific module that was starting in 3 days (i needed to request time off for a conference ASAP), and they all gave me fake names from TV shows that i didnt know... so i kept typing up the wrong names into the google search, and i was so confused. And then the next person would be: "oh, no, its actually Dr ....", and give another fake name from a TV show, that i would believe AGAIN... When i realized what was happening, i had already emailed my mentor who was asking me about the names (upper classmate, wanted to give me advice on how to handle course load). It was the most humiliating experience. I immediately left the group chat, and havent talked to my classmates since then (it has been about 6 months now). I felt bullied.... The worst part, - those were the "popular kids", the student leadership. This was the first time when i felt like i made a mistake coming here......
No, no, and NO! These are shameless bullies! I'll bet you are not the only one they torment. I understand your reluctance to make a formal report, but don't hide their behavior. Talk about it openly--"yeah, want to hear how immature some of my classmates are?"i felt like i couldnt report it, because so many people were laughing. They thought it was hilarious. Plus they are the "popular kids" and everyone likes them. I was afraid that i would alienate the class even more if i do anything. I felt easier to just disappear from the class completely. Not gonna lie, it is so depressing, especially when you are single, and dont have any family.
anyway, sorry, not trying to highjack the thread.
well, i did explode on the group chat at them - professionally, did not use any inappropriate language - before leaving the group. 3 of them messaged me later to apologize (of course, apology was in private, to not make them uncomfortable). But they phrased it like "sorry you are so sensitive" kind of way. So it was a sort of apology that is meant to show that you overreacted. But that honestly led me to be permanently disappointed in my classmates. My school is amazing. But a lot of people in my class are entitled rich kids, or just jerks. It is really a popularity contest there. Same ppl are in charge of everything, -the popular kids. It is kind of disgusting, really.No, no, and NO! These are shameless bullies! I'll bet you are not the only one they torment. I understand your reluctance to make a formal report, but don't hide their behavior. Talk about it openly--"yeah, want to hear how immature some of my classmates are?"
well, i did explode on the group chat at them - professionally, did not use any inappropriate language - before leaving the group. 3 of them messaged me later to apologize (of course, apology was in private, to not make them uncomfortable). But they phrased it like "sorry you are so sensitive" kind of way. So it was a sort of apology that is meant to show that you overreacted. But that honestly led me to be permanently disappointed in my classmates. My school is amazing. But a lot of people in my class are entitled rich kids, or just jerks. It is really a popularity contest there. Same ppl are in charge of everything, -the popular kids. It is kind of disgusting, really.
When and how did everyone meet their good medical school friends? / Any interesting or funny stories related to the subject would be cool to know as well!
Unless you go to the worst school in the country, I guarantee you some people thought it was unprofessional.
The hell did I just read?this sounds horrible... But honestly i think i would rather have THAT. To me, - they do the polite nod, and such, but i am invisible. There is a certain amount of almost pity in their eyes. hahaha. I am not kidding. I asked on the group chat who were the course directors going to be for a specific module that was starting in 3 days (i needed to request time off for a conference ASAP), and they all gave me fake names from TV shows that i didnt know... so i kept typing up the wrong names into the google search, and i was so confused. And then the next person would be: "oh, no, its actually Dr ....", and give another fake name from a TV show, that i would believe AGAIN... When i realized what was happening, i had already emailed my mentor who was asking me about the names (upper classmate, wanted to give me advice on how to handle course load). It was the most humiliating experience. I immediately left the group chat, and havent talked to my classmates since then (it has been about 6 months now). I felt bullied.... The worst part, - those were the "popular kids", the student leadership. This was the first time when i felt like i made a mistake coming here......
Wtf... wow. That is extra level douchery.this sounds horrible... But honestly i think i would rather have THAT. To me, - they do the polite nod, and such, but i am invisible. There is a certain amount of almost pity in their eyes. hahaha. I am not kidding. I asked on the group chat who were the course directors going to be for a specific module that was starting in 3 days (i needed to request time off for a conference ASAP), and they all gave me fake names from TV shows that i didnt know... so i kept typing up the wrong names into the google search, and i was so confused. And then the next person would be: "oh, no, its actually Dr ....", and give another fake name from a TV show, that i would believe AGAIN... When i realized what was happening, i had already emailed my mentor who was asking me about the names (upper classmate, wanted to give me advice on how to handle course load). It was the most humiliating experience. I immediately left the group chat, and havent talked to my classmates since then (it has been about 6 months now). I felt bullied.... The worst part, - those were the "popular kids", the student leadership. This was the first time when i felt like i made a mistake coming here......
No, id report that. There is nothing okay about that. It isnt funny and people like that shouldnt be at any level of authority.i felt like i couldnt report it, because so many people were laughing. They thought it was hilarious. Plus they are the "popular kids" and everyone likes them. I was afraid that i would alienate the class even more if i do anything. I felt easier to just disappear from the class completely. Not gonna lie, it is so depressing, especially when you are single, and dont have any family.
anyway, sorry, not trying to highjack the thread.
Use your Facebook group to meet ppl before classes startWhen and how did everyone meet their good medical school friends? / Any interesting or funny stories related to the subject would be cool to know as well!
3 of them messaged me later to apologize (of course, apology was in private, to not make them uncomfortable). But they phrased it like "sorry you are so sensitive" kind of way. So it was a sort of apology that is meant to show that you overreacted
I feel bad for you that Fd up. We had skit night at our medical school where people would do skits and post jokes. One medical student found a dating profile of another student posted it on his PowerPoint with the caption “any luck yet”. A different student posted pictures of the janitors and cafeteria staff with the captions the “jobs nobody wants. “. Some People in medical school are extremely immature.
I met my friends in orientation and our study lounge... Best advice is to meet a lot of people until you find friends where it all clicks together. Cast a wide net lol, you don't really know who you'll be close with until a month or two in
That's gotta be really challenging to face. There's no question the adjustment to medical school will be more difficult, and I'm concerned sometimes for the rising M1s because of it.I actually really worry about missing the opportunity to get to know people during orientation. I know in my other positions, the training/"pre-work" portion of the experience was a really important time to foster relationships, and as someone who relies on relationships to get me through challenging times I would like to start on a strong circle asap.
this sounds horrible... But honestly i think i would rather have THAT. To me, - they do the polite nod, and such, but i am invisible. There is a certain amount of almost pity in their eyes. hahaha. I am not kidding. I asked on the group chat who were the course directors going to be for a specific module that was starting in 3 days (i needed to request time off for a conference ASAP), and they all gave me fake names from TV shows that i didnt know... so i kept typing up the wrong names into the google search, and i was so confused. And then the next person would be: "oh, no, its actually Dr ....", and give another fake name from a TV show, that i would believe AGAIN... When i realized what was happening, i had already emailed my mentor who was asking me about the names (upper classmate, wanted to give me advice on how to handle course load). It was the most humiliating experience. I immediately left the group chat, and havent talked to my classmates since then (it has been about 6 months now). I felt bullied.... The worst part, - those were the "popular kids", the student leadership. This was the first time when i felt like i made a mistake coming here......
what do you mean?i feel like your story is falling into a self fulfilling prophecy?
Don't get mad...get even.this sounds horrible... But honestly i think i would rather have THAT. To me, - they do the polite nod, and such, but i am invisible. There is a certain amount of almost pity in their eyes. hahaha. I am not kidding. I asked on the group chat who were the course directors going to be for a specific module that was starting in 3 days (i needed to request time off for a conference ASAP), and they all gave me fake names from TV shows that i didnt know... so i kept typing up the wrong names into the google search, and i was so confused. And then the next person would be: "oh, no, its actually Dr ....", and give another fake name from a TV show, that i would believe AGAIN... When i realized what was happening, i had already emailed my mentor who was asking me about the names (upper classmate, wanted to give me advice on how to handle course load). It was the most humiliating experience. I immediately left the group chat, and havent talked to my classmates since then (it has been about 6 months now). I felt bullied.... The worst part, - those were the "popular kids", the student leadership. This was the first time when i felt like i made a mistake coming here......
i just really dont understand how anything that i just said implies a self-fulfilling prophecy. i know what the term means, but i really dont see it. So i wonder that the logic was there.Don't get mad...get even.
I wouldn't worry too much about that; readmyposts has a history of low-empathy trollingi just really dont understand how anything that i just said implies a self-fulfilling prophecy. i know what the term means, but i really dont see it. So i wonder that the logic was there.
oh definitely. I did absolutely nothing wrong here.I wouldn't worry too much about that; readmyposts has a history of low-empathy trolling
I can't imagine how I'd feel if my own classmates treated me like that. You should feel free to deal with it in the way that you think is reasonable