I think the debate over preference for this or that is foolishness. Communication and similar values are such big parts of a relationship. I don't personally care if my wife is a doctor or not....I also do not care nor am I sure that I want her to feel like she is making a sacrifice to raise children or for whatever else. I'll be honest. I don't really want to be Mr. Mom. I want to have a collaborative effort between the both of us. I am driven by my passion for what I do. I am also a professional musician and have been for some time before I made the final call to pursue medicine and, largely, it was not for financial, stability, prestige, or anything like that. I have a good number of interests outside of medicine so I am not at all worried about having things to talk about pending she's similar to me. I do not personally think it is foolish to think that two people, who are willing to work hard to have a lasting relationship, despite lots of potential suffering and whatnot to endure along the way, can make it work. The suffering can be tempered with understanding and patience.........and it doesn't last forever anyway. Love isn't something you can calculate, IMO. That's what this feels like when people talk about their 'preferences' and their lists that have to be checked off to pass the qualification phase to be spouse. Diceman, you're ******ed. A lot of us premed and med students are kids from middle class families who are fortunate to be able to pay for us to become educated and succeed academically. There are lots of other people who are not so fortunate but might be tremendously intelligent.....heck, they might not even be that academically brilliant but may possess some talent that makes them shine. As for qualifications and how they stack up between the sexes, it is my personal belief (and I'd only admit this on an anonymous message board) that women are built from birth to multitask, focus, and be faithful........and those three qualities make them pretty much able to handle anything. I think women as a rule are more qualified to do lots of things than are men. I have a ton of respect for the nonsense that women have to go through both in the workplace and in the home, and I am not intimidated by a woman who is smarter or more qualified than I am. I believe in a 50-50 partnership between the sexes. Now, if she holds it over my head that she's smarter than I am or that she's more qualified.....that doesn't sway my confidence in myself....but it sure makes me re-evaluate the relationship...because I'd never treat her that way. Anyway, I'll stop ranting. I hope I've sparked some commentary....
As Honest As I Can Be,
Loco
