it occurred to me that i should draw this thread out to the end so students in the future in the same boat can look at it
SO YEAH UPDATE
1. I stand by my original thought that asking letter writers to make it an emergency to fill out the forms and get them to my letter service ASAP, so my letter service can get everything to PharmCAS by the deadline, is unfair, and I choose not to do it.
2. AM I MENTALLY DEFICIENT??!! The OBVIOUS solution is to still ask them to fill out the forms, but not tell them they have to do it in a week. If LOR etiquette is never telling someone they have to do something in under 4 weeks, It's fine to ask, and say "as soon as you can do it; ideally within 4 weeks."
one reason this is the obvious solution is that, even if the forms don't make it to pharmcas soon enough to be accepted by my first choice schools (the earliest deadline), other schools have later deadlines.
so, that's what i'm doing. mailed a form to an out-of-state evaluator today, meeting with another tomorrow, and a third on friday.
3. the details of how i'm trying to do this is as follows. I can't risk waiting for the completed forms to arrive at the letter service; deadlines for some schools are very soon, and if i don't get the letters in, i'm certain my application to these schools will be canceled. accordingly, i'm going to give my letter service the first page of every form (with the barcode, my pharmcas id, and the evaluators' names) and have them send out these pages, along with the letters, ASAP.
The rest of the forms will be mailed directly by my evaluators. I've given my evaluators new packets (addressed envelope, forms, personal statement, etc) so that they might send the forms directly to pharmCAS when completed.
i'll update this thread to record the outcome.
(on a side note, since the prevailing mindset on these forums seems to be dog-eat-dog competition, i'd just like to point out that even having made this mistake, i'm more macho than everyone who thinks i'm an idiot. 98% PCAT, 3.93GPA. now what. meet me in the parking lot after anatomy lab. let's fight.)
EDIT: just to make absolutely clear, that bit about fighting in the parking lot is completely facetious.
EDIT2: actually, i did end up asking a little more aggressively than that. something like, "it would be great if you could get it in the mail by the 25th, but since this is my mistake, I don't expect you to make an emergency out of it. If you can't do it by the 25th, that's fine, just sometime in the 4-6 weeks. thanks so much, etc."
EDIT3: 3 of my 4 writers have completed and submitted the form. the fourth (the one in romania) could not be contacted, but i think i'll be alright.