Greetings!
I searched for this/these question(s)/topic(s), and the answer is probably out there, but I simply could not find it.
(I apologize if this turns out to be the wrong place to post this, but I figured it was related.)
Intro
I ended up burning the bridge and having my letter writers not follow up on writing them... which is actually kind of okay for me...for now.
Now AMCAS keeps sending me notifications about how I should mark the letters as "No longer being sent" to let Medical Schools know.
The problem is that I don't know if I should or not, within the context of my situation, which is detailed below:
Background
Reflecting on my experiences, I can say that I had a fairly good application for medical school - Great GPA, community service, clinical experience, several research opportunities with PIs willing to write letters, etc. There
were weaknesses, but overall, I would say it was at least enough to land me an interview.
My insecurities got to me along with personal issues, and I no longer wanted to pursue medicine (roughly speaking).
My Asian parents were very proud of my progress and my mother spoke about it to others.
My father also had a vested interest in me becoming a doctor.
A month before graduation, I had accumulated enough information to outline several alternatives to medicine and nervewrackingly sat down with them to discuss it.
The results were not pleasant.
My father's "successfully persuaded" me to "try" medicine and apply to medical school.
He now monitors my progress to make sure I hit the checkpoints (Primaries, letters, secondaries, interview),
but gives me enough room to not pry into their contents.
My aim (as shaky as it is) is to convince my parents that I did indeed try to get into medical school, but I was not good enough.
Question/Concern
As I've mentioned above, my letter writers are not going to be writing any letters.
I do not want my father to know that this is happening.
As of now, I have completed and submitted a few secondaries.
But the AMCAS notification certainly concerns me, and I have no idea if there are further implications to it.
If I do mention that they are "no longer being sent"...
- Would there be some way that my father be able to check that I've marked this?
I don't think he has checked my AMCAS application specifically, only that I have completed it.
But I do become worried that the secondaries status pages, which my father
does check, will somehow spill the news.
So far, the schools I let him know I applied to don't have any mention on the fate of the letters.
If I don't update my AMCAS application with this information...
- Would it put my letter writers in bad standing in some way to medical schools?
I certainly would not want other students to suffer as a result!
- Could some letter about this be sent to my home address?
In general...
- Should I or should I not update the application?
- Any advice to offer me?
- Do you need additional information for a better answer?
Sorry for making this so lengthy, and I normally wouldn't go through this to ask.
Any information you can spare would be very greatly appreciated!
Thank you, and good luck to you all!