Random non-pathology and only peripherally related to pathology thread

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beary said:
Talking about football makes me miss it.

😍 college football 😍

Unfortunately I think the Huskers will suck again next year. But the Hawks may be really good! 👍
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the hawkeyes will beat michigan next year methinks. Tate is an awesome quarterback and he's gonna become a big ten great!
 
AndyMilonakis said:
not anymore. their recruiting has been quite indicative of suckitude lately.
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Well that's good news. Maybe they will start sucking more than they already do (if that's possible :laugh: )
 
We will see how much of a difference ND's new coach can make. I get the sense his NFL success will be an asset at recruiting some top prospects because they know he can help their pro prospects. But of course, what am I saying? Recruits go to Notre Dame not for football or to improve their pro prospects. They go to get an education! Silly me.
 
beary said:
Well that's good news. Maybe they will start sucking more than they already do (if that's possible :laugh: )
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well as geddy would say (before he changed his avatar to frickin' david hasselhoff!), "INCONCEIVABLE!"
 
ok this is ****in' ridiculous. so i just checked my email. a wife of one of my classmates emails our whole class ([email protected]) announcing plans to throw him a surprise birthday party. can anybody spot what is wrong with this picture?
 
AndyMilonakis said:
ok this is ****in' ridiculous. so i just checked my email. a wife of one of my classmates emails our whole class ([email protected]) announcing plans to throw him a surprise birthday party. can anybody spot what is wrong with this picture?
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Perhaps she has access to his home e-mail and will delete his copy?
 
AndyMilonakis said:
****!@!!!!

you got me.

but you're sober.
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Well, there is a pretty good chance that you are correct and she is a *****. It would be nice of you to e-mail her back and suggest that she not blow her cover. But, some of us ladies are sneaky enough to pull that **** off without making a ******* of ourselves. I'm sneaky. 😉
 
bananaface said:
Well, there is a pretty good chance that you are correct and she is a *****. It would be nice of you to e-mail her back and suggest that she not blow her cover. But, some of us ladies are sneaky enough to pull that **** off without making a ******* of ourselves. I'm sneaky. 😉
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yes, i could Reply all and be like, "you just blew it." but then, i would get about 160 emails saying, "who the **** are you? i never heard of you!"
 
bananaface said:
Since when do you have to send to the listserv instead of to her directly?
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look, somebody's gotta tell it how it is. and i might as well tell the whole world.
 
bananaface said:
It would be nice of you to e-mail her back and suggest that she not blow her cover. But, some of us ladies are sneaky enough to pull that **** off without making a ******* of ourselves. I'm sneaky. 😉
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Isn't it a little late for not blowing her cover?

I am trying to think of a way to pull that **** off.... and am failing. I am not supremely imaginative tonight.
 
deschutes said:
I am trying to think of a way to pull that **** off.... and am failing. I am not supremely imaginative tonight.
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nope


this is an equation that has no solution.
 
bananaface said:
Chances are her hubby has his e-mail openly accessible. She could probably delete his copy.
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I did not think of that. You are quite right! It would only require hanging around hitting Refresh for a few more minutes until the message popped up and you could hit Delete.

I have trouble imagining the circumstances under which I could be put upon to share an email account. Why go through the trouble of manually sorting my messages from yours when we could let different email addresses do it naturally?

But as I said, I am not supremely imaginative tonight.
 
I wouldn't want to share an e-mail addreess either. But, it's not that they have to be sharing. It's just that his account is probably not password protected at home. I think it would be okay to go and delete something you sent him by mistake so as to not spoil a surprise party.
 
well tonight has been an entertaining night in SDN path.

hope you ****ers had fun. 😀 :laugh: 😀
 
It is strange how this time of night is usually the most active time in the world of SDN path. There are times during the day that I am the only person here.
 
deschutes said:
Ah, but are you really allergic? 😉 What happens when you ingest the glue in Kroger brand adhesive bandages?
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I poop out a bandage along with the glue.

I put one on over my stitches the other day and it turned red underneath and took off a chunk of skin neart the top edge of the bandage. Then, I put another on in a different direction and took it off after one hour, That turned red but did not take off any skin. There are latex free plastic bandages, so it's not a latex issue.
 
I have a contact sensitivity to decalcifying solution. I keep getting the stuff on my wrist. I'm probably going to get wrist cancer and some future path resident is going to have a really annoying specimen to gross in.
 
I was in bed reading a book when you kids were posting like crazy last night. Comments:

1) Yaah, your argument that a woman who is seeing someone else automatically isn't interested in you, despite appearances to the contrary, is fatally flawed. I have noticed this thought process from you in the past but didn't bother pointing it out. The fact is, it's quite possible to be attracted to someone while you are already in a relationship. If anything, attractions might become even stronger because of the added excitement of doing something naughty. I wouldn't recommend becoming a playah and chasing after married women, but if you like a chick, and you get the feeling that she likes you too, don't go crying to AndyM when you find out she's dating someone because that means you must have "misread her signals". No, you didn't. It just means she's attracted to you, wants to flirt, but can't hop into bed with you at the moment. And yes, the hand on the shoulder means she's flirting, unless she's a waitress, in which case it's still flirting, but because she wants a big tip.

2) What's wrong with knowing your partner's email password? I have access to my husband's, and he has access to mine. Who cares. If I'm having an affair and have something to hide, then it's even more important that he have access.

3) I had something else to say, but I can't remember what it was. Oh well.
 
stormjen said:
\ don't go crying to AndyM when you find out she's dating someone because...
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:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

actually, we left the pub before yaah could come crying to us.
 
stormjen said:
1) Yaah, your argument that a woman who is seeing someone else automatically isn't interested in you, despite appearances to the contrary, is fatally flawed.
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Hrmm. But it's such a mess to think you "caused" the break-up, no?
stormjen said:
3) I had something else to say, but I can't remember what it was. Oh well.
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"Get off SDN and get a life!"? 😉
 
bananaface said:
stormjen, you need to become yaah's official relationship consultant and tell it like it is. He is so confused at this point that it's not even funny anymore.
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Sigh. The job may be rewarding but it doesn't pay well. And if you touch my shoulder I freak out. 😎

And yes, I am confused. I overanalyze everything, it is one of my character traits which has helped me get where I am today but also hinders me at points.
 
I would be willing to be his relationship consultant but, as the official opinionator, the job may be redundant. I have opinions about everyone's relationships!

Plus, I talked yaah's ear off the other night, and he's been a little leery of me since. 🙄
 
stormjen said:
I would be willing to be his relationship consultant but, as the official opinionator, the job may be redundant. I have opinions about everyone's relationships!

Plus, I talked yaah's ear off the other night, and he's been a little leery of me since. 🙄
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No no, not leery. Just busy!
 
deschutes said:
Hrmm. But it's such a mess to think you "caused" the break-up, no?
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I was once blamed for a breakup I had nothing to do with, because I "didn't fix it" like I was supposed to. It was not my fault that my roomate and her boyfriend had a dysfunctional relationship! They were both all stupid about it. I told them not to be stupid and they continued to be stupid! How was this my fault? Blaming me was a continuation of the stupidity! Arghhh!

That roomate is now a total hobag.
 
OK - want to hear my story and why I have such ****ing bad luck with relationships? So this girl I have been talking to is very nice, I really like her. We share a sense of humor, make each other laugh, really enjoy talking to each other. And she loves sports particularly baseball and has polish heritage and has other similar interests to me. Like my perfect woman. So the first weekend we were actually going to get together and spend quality time together (she lives an hour away) she has to go into work on both saturday and sunday for like 14 hour shifts because JCAHO is coming and that's part of her job. And on friday she couldn't hang out with me because her friend dumped her boyfriend and made her hang out with her alone. So that wouldn't be a huge deal, except she was busy the next three weekends as well - one was a scheduled vacation to visit family, one was taken up with an all day wedding and then an all day work retreat, then the other weekend her parents were coming to visit.

So, then she got a promotion at work this past monday, and suddenly her job goes from 40 hours a week to more like 60, and it is a new stressful job and she is worried she won't be able to handle it, etc. In other words, not as free as she was before. So she said on monday that she was probably going to come out here on friday to hang out with friends at a bar and that I could meet her there and then we would hang out afterwards. That's cool, I said, because otherwise given that I am so busy this month I can't really drive out there except on weekends anyway and you aren't free on weekends.

So the amazing emails and phone calls sort of petered out this past week because basically she was working like 15 hours a day for JCAHO stuff (this was a terribly busy week for them all). But still, I managed to get her to still try to come out here on friday, although I told her I would gladly drive out there and leave work early on friday. But she wanted to see her friends too, so I told her to leave me a message on my voice mail (because my phone doesn't work in the hospital for the most part) about where and when to meet her. So she left me a message saying where, but didn't say when. So I left the hospital at like 6pm, and called her back, left a message asking her to tell me what time she was planning on getting to the bar. Never heard back. I debated just going to the bar because I figured she would be there, but I also didn't want to crash her fun with her friends because I have never met them and for all I know they want to just be with the girls. So I assumed she would get my message and call me back.

I waited until 10 and finally gave up after getting really pissed off and upset and left her another message (still no answer) about how I was sorry we couldn't get together and I wasn't sure what happened because it seemed like maybe she didn't want to see me or something. So a half hour later I guess she finally got all the messages (she had left her phone in her car, how am I supposed to know she hates cell phones as much as I do? 😍 ), and was royally pissed at me for making her upset and trying to make her feel guilty. I said, "well, I wasn't about to just show up at the bar when I wasn't sure you were going to be there - plus, I thought maybe you had decided you didn't want to see me tonight because you wanted a girls night." Of course, by this point she was on her way back home and I said, "why don't you turn around and come here before you go home?" And she didn't want to because she was tired (because she got about 4 hours of sleep every night this week) and she wasn't happy with me either.

So now I am getting royally pissed off but I can't really say that because she had a horrible week, is going through a personal crisis with the new job, and apparently she did really want to see me. Then I told her I thought maybe she didn't want to see me because her emails had been really brief this week and she didn't return my call when I called her one time. Plus, she had written an email, "I really like you, but I might be too busy to like you, if you know what I mean." So I figured maybe she was avoiding me because of all that. So she then flips out (I thought she was going to crash her car at that point) and says, "I TOLD you I was going to be busy this week!" etc. Then to top it all off she starts complaining about how she thinks she's not smart enough for me and she feels inferior around me. This makes me feel like ****.

But so she called me back when she got home and we had another talk for about an hour and a half and now I have no idea where things stand. I still really like this girl, and her passionate nature and her dedication to her job are big turnons for me, which I told her. And I said that living an hour away isn't necessarily a huge deal. But she is not so sure she agrees. Says that she can't devote enough time to a relationship and to her new stressful job and is worried that one of them might suffer. Of course, I try to tell her that I know all about stressful situations and mental suffering from this and told her about my past and my med school experiences, etc. So I dunno. Problem is I won't be able to see her for another 2 or 3 weeks at which point who knows. The bloom may have come off the rose at the point, so to speak, and our initial infatuation with each other may have faded. Or who knows, maybe we meet someone else!

But @#$! it am I off base to expect her to let me know when to meet her?

But I am pissed off because if I could describe my perfect girl she has like 9 of 10 characteristics I would pick. 😡 😡 And I know she likes me. 😡 Why does my timing suck so much? If I had met her one month ago things would be so totally different.

p.s. she said to me on the phone after the anger died down, "too bad you didn't come to the bar because I get horny when I drink." And she also said, "I had my clothes and toiletry stuff in the car so I could spend the night with (her female friend) if I got drunk." Of course, I immediately realized that this could just as soon have meant me and not the female friend. 😡 AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!
 
yaah, you need to calm down. Not everything has to happen at this exact second. Be patient. If her life is going to be crazy as hell for the next 3 weeks, she is not going to meet anyone else and be swept off her feet, ok? The only thing you can really do wrong is get her upset at you for being pushy and unsupportive. If she is going through a really rough transition, then be there if she needs you, but don't push your way in. Just relax and count on keep your freaking pants zipped for the next 3 weeks.
 
yaah, I am sorry to read your story about this girl. 🙁

It sure sounds like she isn't treating you with respect. Since you like her so much, and she just started the new job and all, I would give her a few weeks to see if she settles down. I sure hope things work out.
 
yaah said:
That's funny but I need sympathy on my horrible ****ed up bad luck relationship story.
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No, you don't. It's not ****ed up. You are totally blowing it out of proportion. You met someone you like, you clicked, and now she needs a little personal time. You have to be willing to let her take that time if you ever want to get closer to her. Meet her needs, not just yours.

Yes, it sucked that you two didn't get to meet up this weekend. She didn't check her messages. Just let that go. No need for either of you to lay a guilt trip on each other about that.

BTW, if a chick says she feels inferior to you, that's a really, really BAD sign. I really hope that you tell her she's not.
 
bananaface said:
No, you don't. It's not ****ed up. You are totally blowing it out of proportion. You met someone you like, you clicked, and now she needs a little personal time. You have to be willing to let her take that time if you ever want to get closer to her. Meet her needs, not just yours.
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Oh I know, it's not as blown out of proportion as I make it out to be. But at the same time there is now a very possible pathway which leads to us going our separate ways, which was much less likely a week ago. And that is what I told her too - why don't we wait and see until April comes and take it from there.

I just still think this is sort of a kick in the teeth though - but it isn't anyone's fault, certainly not hers. I spent most of the part of the last conversation telling her I knew this and that one of the things I liked about her was her dedication to her job, and she didn't have to worry about giving me any more time than she could (partly because I don't have a ton of free time myself!). I just know how relationships work sometimes - if you don't jump at the initial chance sometimes things fade a bit with time. That is what bothers me. I feel like we may have missed our chance here. I hope not, and that is what I told her. And this is not about sex. I don't care about that. That is peripheral to me liking her and wanting to spend time with her.

And yeah, btw, about the "inferior" comment. She said I didn't necessarily make her feel that way it's just something she thinks about, because people in my family are successful and apparently I sound smart when I talk. And I kept telling her that was really untrue and she is equally smart and etc etc. I think she was just upset. See - this is part of the problem, I get the sense she is trying to make excuses for herself, but I obviously can't say that.
 
What initial chance? My initial chance lasted two years.

I think you've handled it pretty well, really. April is not far, you both can cool off from this and you will both be kept busy in the meanwhile. Let time do its magic.
 
deschutes said:
What initial chance? My initial chance lasted two years.

I think you've handled it pretty well, really. April is not far, you both can cool off from this and you will both be kept busy in the meanwhile. Let time do its magic.
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Well, I hope so. But this is how a lot of my relationships tend to go. Something kind of unpredictable happens and before I know it it's a few months later and we barely speak anymore. Plus, I am concerned and worried for her that her new job is going to be a pain in the ass for her. She already talks about how she wants to move back home closer to her family.
 
Yes, I know. You are just frustrated and blowing off steam. But, you were blowing it off non-constructively.

It's frustrating to find someone you really like and then face the possibility of losing them. But, you also have the possibility of not losing her. You just have to see what happens. There is no point in expecting the worst. You may just make your fears come true by doing that, if she picks up on your insecurity.

You can't change the fact that her next 3 weeks are crazy. Why don't you send her flowers at work in a week or something to let her know you are still thinking of her. Make her look forward to when she has time to see you again. Look at it as an opportunity to show her that she can take time for herself without losing your interest.

There is not much you can do about the inferiority comment than what you did. It sounds like just a passing thing that meant nothing. Maybe you need some inkblots to look at, as a distraction.
 
I think this is a a fairly effective way to blow off steam. It made me feel better, at least.

You provide good advice, Bananarama. But I don't need any inkblots, I have my path slides. 😎
 
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