If I was a single lady with my old soul golden, I was going to have a patio home or townhouse. I 100% agree with you. The convenience was amazing when I lived in a townhouse during vet school.
We absolutely should not have bought this house because of the needs it has. Thankfully I'm ER and we can slowly financially work through each things one at a time, and then have done a ton of DIY type stuff. But if we could move, we would. But we also have the best interest rate we could have hoped for, so no dice on moving any time soon. I've honestly become committed to making this the home we want with updates and such. Unless there is a similar 2008 housing bubble (which would be difficult to pull off at this point), we will very likely get every dime we spend back. I just need to be less pregnant to get back to work on a lot of the projects we had going on since it's hard to be on ladders and carry stuff right now.
Totally get that. I do plan to either buy a house on acreage or more likely build one, so I’ve been sure to be mindful of the upgrades we made to my house. My dad is super handy and has replaced carpet in the living areas with LVP and he renovated my half bath from its early 70s chic. I hired out most of the main bathroom reno as well as some drywall work closing in some decorative spindles and removing paneling from a half wall. The kitchen needs updating but other than the new appliances I bought, that’s probably more than I’m willing to take on in a home that isn’t my forever house. The new fence was something that probably wouldn’t add actual value but it does look much nicer and peace of mind knowing the fence is secure for the dogs is worth a lot. I should still turn a profit unless the market tanks. But it’s so expensive doing the upgrades, even when doing it DIY style.
Luckily we found a townhome that both looks out on a green space/nature preserve (feels like we have no neighbors) and has a smallish side yard. So even though it is a townhome, it really feels like a full house. But most of my fellow townhomies are not so lucky. And we WAAAY overpaid for this lil piece of "heaven" in 2022. So we are finally about to break even on what we paid versus what it is worth, so if we sell now, we will get nothing pretty much, so it is not worth it. Also we have fantastic next door neighbors and that is worth its weight in gold.
We are the youngest in these townhomes by a good 10-15 years. It is a lot of retirees or career people at the local hospital, so at neighborhood bbqs they talk about retirement and we are just starting our careers lol
Yeah, I got something that WASN'T a fixer upper because I didn’t want to have to spend a bunch on fixing it because I did not want to have to deal with that especially since I don’t have any skills to do much myself 😂🫠
We thought that's what we had with our most recent house...turns out the seller was hiding a roof leak that he had patched, probably several times. A big ice storm came through and a huge leak popped up, and and we ended up finding mold everywhere in that room. Best part was that because there was mold, our house insurance wiped their hands of it because it was not a 'new' problem and a result of 'lack of maintenance' even though it wasn't our fault. They gave us $2000 out of the $30,000 we had to pay out of pocket strictly out of pity and because we were nice to them even though they couldn't come through for us. We briefly explored taking legal action against the seller, but the lawyers we spoke with said there would basically be no way to prove anything. Ugh. Our inspector didn't even catch it. In hindsight, there was a section on a wall that I could tell had drywall patched/replaced, but that could have been from anything.
Our apartment is okay (overpriced, as they all are), but I sure miss gardening and not being stressed about hiding 8 animals when inspections or maintenance need to happen. Once you experience owning, it is hard to revert back to renting.
This happened to me and my mortgage + escrow doubled from one year to the next, then my a/c needed immediate and urgent replacement the same year. Quite literally forced me to sell the house or forclose considering my 35k vet tech salary lmao. Im convinced homeownership is a scam unless you have a huge amount in savings or income lol. No homeowning for me for a while :')
This friend is a particular exception for me. Dude has lived essentially alone for years and could realistically fit everything he owns in a 800ish square foot studio. Hasn't gone into the spare bedrooms of his house since he bought it over year ago; just empty space with zero utilization. At that point, why spend the money for something you're not using? He lived in his previous house for 3 years and never actually unpacked his clothes from boxes. Had a funeral to go to and had to go find his suit in a box against his bedroom wall.
(make sure you tell your trainer that you're this painful - especially if it persists for more than a day or two - because a lot of the time being that ouchie just isn't productive and it'd probably be a good idea to adjust what you guys do a lil).
I recently saw a video titled "Why millennials are minimalist" with a (fakely) pristine home. Then the next shots were of old Boomer and Gen X (my parents) homes with bookshelves and tables and chairs covered in that classic clutter that I feel many of us grew up with. And the garage thing. 😅🤣 We make sure to not have "clutter". But agreed there isn't enough storage space in homes. Even our 50 year old house doesn't have the storage we need.
When I worked GP, one of our (prob 40ish years old, no mobility issues) clients stepped out of the shower to answer his phone, slipped and ended up quadriplegic. 😬 We learned when someone new came in with his two dogs.
Fun fact: When I attempted to study abroad in Italy (spring 2020, don't recommend) they told us the orthopedist would only be there during specific times. Break a bone outside of their working hours? Too bad, you wait.
Everywhere. Kid's toys go every-effing-where. Even places you thought they wouldn't go, they are there. Bottom kitchen cabinet with small appliances? Also random kid's toys. Shelf under the fish tank holding fish tank supplies? Also random kid's toys.
I feel this so deeply. My false aspirations of an adorable toddler room with all his toys neatly organized and brought to the living rooms (split level) were instantly dashed. The only room he doesn't have access to is the library to protect our books. My husband walked into our room to find the mini target shopping cart in the bed on his side.
I did a week over a school break at the humane society in Naples, FL if you’re looking for somewhere else that takes students 😞
So apparently the school has left the local shelter one of the rotations was at high and dry and they’re really wanting me to help out with surgery (I know one of the volunteer vets) - it just won’t be a rotation just when I have spare time (rarely). So I’m happy I’ll still get some experience and to provide them some relief. I was really looking forward to the rotation though :/ They’re throwing us all in community outreach or other random rotations that have openings because they’re *undesirable.* We asked to have externship blocks to go to shelters on their own and they said NO as the teaching hospital needs the students working …
I’m glad you got it in the end! I have oncology this fall and I’m excited for it. Yeah the school has been completely unhelpful and refusing all compromises for us to get other shelter med experience (as usual). It’s crazy because they’re so proud of their shelter med program as well!
#shocked
Hey friend, I'm not trans but I wanted to say I'm really proud of you. You're so brave for sharing this information with us, and trust us to support you. I'm so very sorry you're in the middle of political issues and can only begin to immagine how hard it is.
Not trans, but non-binary and boy oh boy is it frustrating to have to limit my options to places I wouldn’t be afraid to live. Just sending you some love, I’m sorry you’re facing this and I hope you get into the perfect school for you where you feel celebrated and safe. I really like UGA in general but I’m just not willing to move to Georgia. It sucks. I haven’t even looked at programs in FL, TX, LA, etc. Those are just not possible for me.
It's a PIA to get tickets to pretty much anything for Japan. Have a GREAT time! We just booked a trip to Japan for next October, I'm so excited!
Yes Japan was my husband's pick and it has been a little bit more challenging than I imagined it would have been despite having been to Korea before and having some experience travelling Asia. Like the lack of public wifi and needing the special card. I still have lots of things to do in the next month 😂
You may not be asking for advice (in which case, don't read any further), but I can relate to this so want to chime in. This is one of those 'assess your priorities' situations. You will very likely become a LA vet regardless of whether or not you take this job, so if you are serious about your boyfriend, I would take that into consideration as you weigh the pros/cons. If you are not particularly serious/thinking you are in it for the long haul with your boyfriend, however, that should be taken into consideration before you sacrifice any opportunities.
To echo PP, the following was my personal LDR during both undergrad and vet school:
yep.
A bit late to the game, I'm not trans myself but my fiancé is and I wanted to make sure any school I picked would be safe for them. I'm starting in the fall so literally just went through this. It severely limited my choices and definitely made me feel frustrated. I felt like many of the schools in safe places had high GPA cutoffs and higher tuition. I still got into amazing schools and was offered financial assistance at two of them. It felt like not a lot of people understood. If you ever want to chat, let me know.
me and my partner are both trans, him more visibly so. it def sucks that the places safer for me to live have higher GPA requirements when im a better applicant hollistically. im really hoping the amount of effort ive put into communicating to tufts and catering my application to them can help me stay in mass where ive felt the safest
Hey I know this is a little late. I am trans and had to be selective about what places I apply to out of fear of political climates. Personally, I avoided all schools in the south. I doubt you would have issues in the college area but once you step out into the rural areas it can get sketchy. I would suggest CSU, UC Davis, Washington, Oregon, Minnesota, Cornell, Tufts, and other schools in predominately blue states. I also applied to schools in red states and am going to tOSU which is in a swing/red state. Again, its mostly safe within city limits. Plus I also looked into the demographics of the classes they accept. tOSU is known for having diverse classes and I already know multiple classmates that are in LGBT. The riskiest place I ended up applying to was SDSU but again the city areas tend to lean liberal. If you have any questions feel free to DM me 🙂
And now if a student wants it, too bad, because there's not one. There's a lot of gaps it seems like.
