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Bisbee- *****hugs***** It sounds like you gave your kitty a wonderful life. I'm so sorry for your loss! Try to remember all the good times you shared. I know it's never easy to lose a family member...Hang in there!
 
I'm sorry for your loss, Bisbee. All the best to you and your family.
 
Coquette22 said:
As some of you saw on the RAVE HERE thread... We got snow. About six inches at my house. I really, really hate snow. Is it pretty? Sure. But now I can 't get out my driveway until one of our neighbours comes, which means I can't go riding. And even if I could get out my driveway, we're always one of the last roads to be plowed. I was gonna go to Mom's house this afternoon to watch Christmas shows and do some baking. 🙁
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Come on Coquette, snow is magical!

In all seriousness, though, my rave would have been a rant if I had to leave my apartment today and/or I didn't live in an apartment complex where the manager does all the snow shoveling. Snow is only nice when you don't have plans that require leaving your home and you still have heat and power.
 
Bisbee said:
Anyway, it's over and I move forward. I have the mindset that now I have room to give another cat in need a happy life and home.
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Wow. What a great attitude. Don't think I could get to that mindset as quickly as you. All the best to you...
 
Gosh, I hope I don't sound insensitive. I've just known that the end was coming for a few months now. And whenever I lose one pet, I try to remember that I have room in my life and home to help another. It also makes me feel better to have a young, happy, zippy little creature around to remind me that life goes on. I'm just trying to do things the way I planned despite the sorrow...and perhaps to help get myself through it.
 
Bisbee said:
Gosh, I hope I don't sound insensitive. I've just known that the end was coming for a few months now.
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Not at all, Bisbee. I was sort of the same way last year when Bailey's time came. I cried like crazy the day it happened, but she'd been diagnosed with congestive heart failure for some time so I knew it was coming. I was sad afterward, but it was a manageable sort of sadness, if that makes sense. In comparison, I lost a dog some years ago who was hit by a car in the prime of his life. I was an absolute wreck over that.
 
PetPony said:
I like to watch that kinda stuff, because I think it's interesting. i looked away just a few seconds because the needle looked so big. Hahaha. When I looked back it was already done.

😕

I didn't feel a thing. It is very nice, because I don't have to think about it. And it's for three years, so if I end up not going to Germany to my doctor then I still am protected and don't have to worry about getting to pills over to the US.
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For sure, and if you are in the US and want another one in 3 yrs, they're becoming very popular here as well.
 
Bisbee said:
First, thank you one and all for your warm thoughts. It really is nice to be in a community of people who understand how hard it is to lose a dear pet, in this case my old cat. I just got home from taking her, and my vet reaffirmed my feeling that the time had come. I was with her there in the end, and didn't even cry until I got into my car holding the empty cat carrier. It will be hardest tonight when my son comes home and I have to tell him the sad news. Sometimes I think it's really about the people losing the animals and not the animals, because this cat really had a great life. Anyway, it's over and I move forward. I have the mindset that now I have room to give another cat in need a happy life and home.
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Very sorry for your loss Bisbee. I hope you and your family have a nice holiday despite the sadness.
 
kaydubs said:
I like to believe chivalry isn't dead. I like when people hold doors for me. At the same time, I believe in independence. No, I won't spend all your money.
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See now, there's your problem. You have to start with the understanding that guys are basically relationship-defective. When you present them with the chivalry-isn't-dead--but-I-believe-in-independence thing (otherwise known as having your cake and eating it too) ... our little brains go into an endless loop of "I should pay for the date... BUT she values her independence... BUT I should pay for the date... BUT she values her independence... BUT I should pay fo... *frizzle* *pop* *bang*"

Women: Making the dating game impossible since February 1913.

lostbunny said:
Baby steps... make your goal for him to see you in cute clothes as opposed to scrubs.
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Hm. I happen to think scrubs are cute. But I'm old.
 
Bisbee said:
Gosh, I hope I don't sound insensitive. I've just known that the end was coming for a few months now. And whenever I lose one pet, I try to remember that I have room in my life and home to help another. It also makes me feel better to have a young, happy, zippy little creature around to remind me that life goes on. I'm just trying to do things the way I planned despite the sorrow...and perhaps to help get myself through it.
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NOT AT ALL BISBEE! I think we all agree that being able to mourn but take the situation as it is and move on is a really admirable thing. It shows that you're a very strong person with a huge heart, rather than an insensitive one. And plus, we all have our own individual ways of mourning a loved one, you should never feel judged about yours.
 
LetItSnow said:
See now, there's your problem. You have to start with the understanding that guys are basically relationship-defective. When you present them with the chivalry-isn't-dead--but-I-believe-in-independence thing (otherwise known as having your cake and eating it too) ... our little brains go into an endless loop of "I should pay for the date... BUT she values her independence... BUT I should pay for the date... BUT she values her independence... BUT I should pay fo... *frizzle* *pop* *bang*"

Women: Making the dating game impossible since February 1913.
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How hard is it to just assertively pay the check for the first date and then if the "i value my independence girl" balks, say very charmingly, "so that you can pay for our second date 🙄"

so freaking smooth.
 
LetItSnow said:
See now, there's your problem. You have to start with the understanding that guys are basically relationship-defective. When you present them with the chivalry-isn't-dead--but-I-believe-in-independence thing (otherwise known as having your cake and eating it too) ... our little brains go into an endless loop of "I should pay for the date... BUT she values her independence... BUT I should pay for the date... BUT she values her independence... BUT I should pay fo... *frizzle* *pop* *bang*"

Women: Making the dating game impossible since February 1913.
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No no the actual problem is that everyone tries to fit "men" and "women" into these neat little boxes when it comes to relationships rather than considering that things aren't always black and white. It's perpetuated by both sexes and it's total bull.

Why is it "having your cake and eating it too" if a person feels like the idea of who should pay (for example) is situational? That's, IMO, dangerously close to saying that independence within the context of a relationship with another person is a privilege rather than a right.

You guys want a rant that will probably start a fight that will be absolutely pointless, circular and with no resolution? You know what sucks?

...White Male Privilege.

Enjoy. :meanie:
 
nyanko said:
No no the actual problem is that everyone tries to fit "men" and "women" into these neat little boxes when it comes to relationships rather than considering that things aren't always black and white. It's perpetuated by both sexes and it's total bull.
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Yep. People need to stop expecting everyone, including themselves, to fit into these gender roles/stereotypes. Its pathetically sad.
 
Thanks to everyone and especially Minnerbelle and Coquette for understanding about moving forward with a new pet soon.
 
LetItSnow said:
Hm. I happen to think scrubs are cute. But I'm old.
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They definately are, and even hot- but I just mean that they've only seen eachother in scrubs up to this point. Seeing someone in 'normal' clothes is always a jaw dropper!

But in the end sunnex3.... lol just be yourself 🙂 (and kiss him!)

🙂
 
Minnerbelle said:
How hard is it to just assertively pay the check for the first date and then if the "i value my independence girl" balks, say very charmingly, "so that you can pay for our second date 🙄"

so freaking smooth.
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Because they're so enthralled with our beauty and tenacity that they can't think quick enough to come up with a statement like that... 😀
 
So I came home today and checked my mail. Like every day, right? Apparently the Amazon package with my Feliway refills and some clorhex scrubby pads for my horse arrived. I know this because the person who stole the sh** inside the box kindly left the ripped tape and empty box with my shipping invoice in it on the porch.

It's cool. I like having my stuff stolen off the porch. Especially 2 days before Christmas, you effing douchebags. I hope you get eaten by pterodactyls. Enjoy the cat pheromones.
 
Whyevernot55 said:
So I came home today and checked my mail. Like every day, right? Apparently the Amazon package with my Feliway refills and some clorhex scrubby pads for my horse arrived. I know this because the person who stole the sh** inside the box kindly left the ripped tape and empty box with my shipping invoice in it on the porch.

It's cool. I like having my stuff stolen off the porch. Especially 2 days before Christmas, you effing douchebags. I hope you get eaten by pterodactyls. Enjoy the cat pheromones.
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um.... weird! :ninja:
 
Thank you. I appreciate it. My son came home and I had to tell him this evening, which was the hardest part. But it's done now. We'll miss her, for sure.
 
Bisbee said:
Thank you. I appreciate it. My son came home and I had to tell him this evening, which was the hardest part. But it's done now. We'll miss her, for sure.
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I know how you feel, we had our dog of 13 years put down in March. It is so hard, but time does slowly make the loss easier to deal with.
 
I'm so sorry for your loss, Bisbee 🙁. Losing pets during the holidays is rough, I feel for ya.

I am just sick over receiving my 4th rejection in 2 weeks. I seriously think they want to use Christmas as their scapegoat for ruining people's dreams. Disappointed in myself. Upset with the system. I should be grateful to have an interview, but now I just think it's out of pity.
 
I'm sorry Bisbee 🙁
 
Whyevernot55 said:
So I came home today and checked my mail. Like every day, right? Apparently the Amazon package with my Feliway refills and some clorhex scrubby pads for my horse arrived. I know this because the person who stole the sh** inside the box kindly left the ripped tape and empty box with my shipping invoice in it on the porch.

It's cool. I like having my stuff stolen off the porch. Especially 2 days before Christmas, you effing douchebags. I hope you get eaten by pterodactyls. Enjoy the cat pheromones.
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Oh, gosh, I share your frustration on this. It was a huge ongoing problem in my neighborhood for a while, except people would sometimes leave opened packages across the street hidden in the bushes, so some of our neighbors just assumed their things hadn't come yet until another neighbor came by with the opened box. Super. The "best" were when someone would find an open box in the bushes, but without anything missing. Guess the things weren't good enough?

Thankfully it's slowed down some with being a problem lately, though I think much of that is because the mail now comes after dark and it's getting colder. Maybe? Don't actually know why but it's nice.
 
Whyevernot55 said:
So I came home today and checked my mail. Like every day, right? Apparently the Amazon package with my Feliway refills and some clorhex scrubby pads for my horse arrived. I know this because the person who stole the sh** inside the box kindly left the ripped tape and empty box with my shipping invoice in it on the porch.

It's cool. I like having my stuff stolen off the porch. Especially 2 days before Christmas, you effing douchebags. I hope you get eaten by pterodactyls. Enjoy the cat pheromones.
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People are so effed up.
I'm starting to worry about a package I'm expecting... My mother sent two packages on the same day...The giant one made it here a few days ago...still no sign of the smaller one :-/
 
Whyevernot55 said:
So I came home today and checked my mail. Like every day, right? Apparently the Amazon package with my Feliway refills and some clorhex scrubby pads for my horse arrived. I know this because the person who stole the sh** inside the box kindly left the ripped tape and empty box with my shipping invoice in it on the porch.

It's cool. I like having my stuff stolen off the porch. Especially 2 days before Christmas, you effing douchebags. I hope you get eaten by pterodactyls. Enjoy the cat pheromones.
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At least you can revel in the fact that they were probably hoping for a laptop and ended up with cat pheromone and scrubbing pads for a horse. :meanie:
 
nyanko said:
but jokes are funny idgi

would you make a joke on a public forum about a stereotype about black people?
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Sorry, nyanko, but I am not going to buy that making a racist joke is in the same camp as joking about dating. Nice try.
 
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Giggly at DSM. I'm sorry if my comment came across as incendiary. I had a feeling it might....😳

Bisbee - I'm sorry for your loss.

mini rant - my brother is not home. It's snowing. He's in NYC. Please come home? Animal related: lymphoma kitty is NOT doing well. Steroids are pretty ineffective. Will she make it through Christmas? I know she will try.

On a rant-turned-rave: it's snowing. I memorialized it with a camera and my brain. It finally ALMOST feels like Christmas to me. Now, Brother, get your keister home pronto!!!:luck::xf::luck:
 
No white Christmas this year. I'm always so excited about that when I go to Germany, but nothing this year. And I really wanted to take some nice pictures for my boyfriend, but nothing looks nice when it's just muddy and rainy outside.
 
nyanko said:
MORE RACIST



why not?
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Let's make this conversation more juicy....

Discussing stereotypes/generalizations is not equal to racism. Judging a person or taking action based on those stereotypes IS racism.

To me: denying that a stereotype is accurate for a majority of a population only adds fuels to those who want to act racist... i.e. "see how they deny the obvious truths".

Men and women ARE different on the whole. There are no DISTINCTLY male or female traits (other than gonads), there is plenty of overlap, but there is no denying there are traits that are more prevalent in one sex over the other.

I can see how you, Nyanko, can get frustrated as you may overlap more than others, but it those who assume you have those traits just because you are women that are sexist, not those who recognize a pattern of behavior.

And I think LIS' comment was so benign, and mainly critical of men that it is hard to see where the controversy is.



And, unrelated to any posts here, but I think if you cannot laugh about some of the "typical behaviors" (= stereotypes) of the groups you belong to, then you have a major inferiority complex. Maybe because I am in a mixed race/culture/nationality marriage, but it seems silly not to laugh at those things whether it is sex, race, religion, culture, nationality, state origin, or being a vet students, etc etc.

Ok... .discuss amongst yourselves now!
 
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StartingoverVet said:
And I think LIS' comment was so benign, and mainly critical of men that it is hard to see where the controversy is.
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yep. issues around gender stereotypes affect everyone equally.

StartingoverVet said:
And, unrelated to any posts here, but I think if you cannot laugh about some of the "typical behaviors" (= stereotypes) of the groups you belong to, then you have a major inferiority complex. Maybe because I am in a mixed race/culture/nationality marriage,
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or maybe it's because you're a white male. just sayin.

the thing is, it's kinda different if you are in the company of people you know and are friends with and people are all joking around or whatever. but this isn't that.

here let me use an example that may illustrate what i am trying to say. it may seem trivial to a lot of you but to me it's not.

say i'm hanging around watching a hockey game with friends who know that i know the game. i comment about something we're watching in the game and one of my friends is like "yeah whatever girls don't know hockey" hilarious right i can laugh at that because i'm pretty sure the person knows otherwise.

say i'm refereeing a high school boys game now. i call a penalty, one of the coaches disagrees (because they pretty much always do). so same exact comment, different context, not so hilarious. i'm getting paid to do a job and solely because of my outward appearance i'm being marginalized. or hell, just even say i'm watching the game with people who i don't really know that well and the same comment is made. or i'm talked over or ignored. these are things that really happen. and they are because of the exact same pervasive attitude that is conveyed in the joke that a friend of mine might have made earlier. and if i'm annoyed or upset about it, it's because i must be on my period. or because i'm being a typical over-emotional woman. or i have an inferiority complex. cool.
 
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nyanko said:
and if i'm annoyed or upset about it, it's because i must be on my period. or because i'm being a typical over-emotional woman. or i have an inferiority complex. cool.
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:laugh::laugh:
 
and for the record, i find the "most women do this but not ME, I'M DIFFERENT" attitude absolutely repugnant. so we're coming at it from different perspectives i think.

i used to be one of those girls who was all "oh i'm not like THE OTHER GIRLS" and it was pretty much because i had a serious case of craniorectal impaction.
 
StartingoverVet said:
Maybe because I am in a mixed race/culture/nationality marriage, but it seems silly not to laugh at those things whether it is sex, race, religion, culture, nationality, state origin, or being a vet students, etc etc.
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What are the nationalities in your marriage, if you don't mind me asking? You don't have to answer though..
 
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