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But sometimes one of those 1-2 lecture people were specifically the ones I wanted to comment on. 😱
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My dog's in kidney failure 🙁 We just rushed her to the ER cuz she stopped eating and has been lethargic. Her BUN was off the charts so they had to dilute the sample, and it was still > 130. She's 14.5 years old and I know she's had an awesome life, but I wasn't prepared for this at all. I'm not ready yet 🙁 W e took her home to see if we could get her to eat and if she would perk up after some SQs. Hopefully we can turn her around and make her comfortable for a while longer.
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SO sorry to hear this 🙁. I will be thinking of you and your pup. I'm sure you will take great care of her and make her comfortable. Keep us informed 😕
Sorry about the dog NStarz. We had a similar situation with our old golden retriever last year. I just remember feeling stressed being so responsible for her well-being and having to make the big decision on putting her down (which we eventually did). I hope you get a little more time together. Why do these things always happen in the holidays? (We just put our cat down last week).
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So sorry, NStarz. Something like this is never easy, especially when it happens so suddenly.
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🙁 Too many sad pet stories this time of the year.
(My rant? I very suddenly feel like crap. I think my stomach is trying to tie itself into knots. Ow. ow. ow.)
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OW. OW. OW. :C
(My rant? I very suddenly feel like crap. I think my stomach is trying to tie itself into knots. Ow. ow. ow.)
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OW. OW. OW. :C
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Sorry to hear about your dog Nstarz 🙁.
My rant: I am so sick of waiting on OSU, why won't they just send the acceptance or rejection already? Each morning I get excited that maybe today will be the day, but then the day comes to an end and still no news. Today is day 48 of waiting since my interview! 48 days! That's gotta be a record or something. And today is Friday, so unless something comes in the mail tomorrow, that means that I have to wait until Tuesday at the earliest to hear anything. I am so sick of waiting! I know I know, no news is good news, but at this point no news is torture! I was as patient as I could be but I never in a million years expected to have to wait into the new year. And that has left me to mull over my interview like a million times in my head, which is not fun. By this point I bet they have forgotten all about my interview. I'm starting to think maybe they really do have that sticky note somewhere that says call squirrelsrule and have forgotten all about it! They took the time to update the site to welcome the class of 2016, that is not really very welcoming when most of us are still in limbo wondering if we're accepted or not!
End of rant, sorry, had to let it out, it's been a long week off work!
My rant: I am so sick of waiting on OSU, why won't they just send the acceptance or rejection already? Each morning I get excited that maybe today will be the day, but then the day comes to an end and still no news. Today is day 48 of waiting since my interview! 48 days! That's gotta be a record or something. And today is Friday, so unless something comes in the mail tomorrow, that means that I have to wait until Tuesday at the earliest to hear anything. I am so sick of waiting! I know I know, no news is good news, but at this point no news is torture! I was as patient as I could be but I never in a million years expected to have to wait into the new year. And that has left me to mull over my interview like a million times in my head, which is not fun. By this point I bet they have forgotten all about my interview. I'm starting to think maybe they really do have that sticky note somewhere that says call squirrelsrule and have forgotten all about it! They took the time to update the site to welcome the class of 2016, that is not really very welcoming when most of us are still in limbo wondering if we're accepted or not!
End of rant, sorry, had to let it out, it's been a long week off work!
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After years of perfect behavior, my parents' dog has developed separation anxiety and is taking it out on our house. The whining and hyperactivity was almost cute. Digging through the trash was apparently forgivable. But chewing through the power cords for my sister's laptop and iPhone in one day? Not cute. And while we're out replacing said power cords, the little twit roots through a stocking full of candy, leading my poor parents to panic about her chocolate consumption. Honestly, her fondness for electrical cords worries me more than a couple of Hershey's kisses. The little idiot is six years old! WTF?
Needless to say, Little Dog will be crated whenever they leave the house from here on out.
Needless to say, Little Dog will be crated whenever they leave the house from here on out.
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Just drove over an hour out of my way and through my least favorite midwestern state to get to Missouri because Iowa and Wisconsin had nasty freezing rain and my dad was flipping out. SO it took me longer to get home.
And I get home. And my cat pukes at my feet. Then my neighbors blow up in a crazy domestic dispute. Another neighbor asks them to be quiet, so crazy girl threatens to beat up said neighbor. I lose my ****, call the cops. Boyfriend leaves with buddies. Cops come. Girl whines that everyone is always reporting her and YEAH THEY WERE SHOVING BUT HE DON'T BEAT ON HER.
Cop calmly suggested she get a new boyfriend, my eyeballs almost rolled out of my skull.
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With paying off my cat's vet bills so far (may increase if his issues don't resolve) as well as all my other bills, I will be left with less than $50 per month for food, gas, kitty litter, shampoo, etc. The good news is that this does not take into account any money that I may make once school gets out in May. The bad news is, I'm not sure how much of a difference it's going to make at that point.
I've been trying to lose weight, what better way than to be so broke that you can't afford to feed yourself?
I've been trying to lose weight, what better way than to be so broke that you can't afford to feed yourself?
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Not well. I'm not a happy camper. She was very restless and wouldn't settle for more than a few minutes at a time. I'm gonna try some SQs at home for a bit to see if that'll help. Poor baby girl 🙁
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Sorry, NStarz. Hang in there, sweetheart! I hope things improve but I know you're doing your best in the situation. That's all you can do sometimes.
I live in the woods (literally). When people ask to describe where I live/my region, I say gangs of New York meet redneck/mountain/coal crackers.
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I live in the woods (literally). When people ask to describe where I live/my region, I say gangs of New York meet redneck/mountain/coal crackers.
Where I live isn't actually that bad! I live in the "crappy" part of Columbia, MO... but it's a small college town, so the bad part really only consists of young families and mild poverty. But it's all relative, right?
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NStarz: I'm so sorry for your loss. 🙁 :hug:
😀 S'all relative 😉 I remember that was one of my first interview questions last year. "So, we see you're from X. Tell us about that." "It's located in northeastern PA. It started off as a small, coal mining town. We're known for illegal immigrant scandals." 😳
😀 S'all relative 😉
I remember that was one of my first interview questions last year. "So, we see you're from X. Tell us about that." "It's located in northeastern PA. It started off as a small, coal mining town. We're known for illegal immigrant scandals." 😳
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😀 S'all relative 😉
It's not Orveston PA is it? lol
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SO very sorry to hear it NStarz. It goes without saying that she is finally without pain, but it is never easy. I hope all of your fond memories help you through this tough time.
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So sorry NStarz.
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So sorry, NStarz.
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🙁 Sorry to read about this. While this year may be ending on a sad note, I hope the new year brings you much more happiness.
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So sorry for you loss NStarz 🙁. Try and remember all the good times you had together and smile.
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My pony has been going under saddle beautifully for the past few weeks. For a three year old with less than a dozen rides on him, it's been amazing. Nice quiet WT in a frame and everything. Canter still coming along, nice departures to the right, unbalanced and messy to the left. Overall, I've been happy.
Until today.
Stepped on my foot, kicked my bad knee in the process of moving said foot because I apaprently scared him when I shoved him off of me. I sucked it up and rode after that anyway. Nearly got my arms yanked out of their sockets, muscles of my right leg went numb from trying to keep stupid baby horse from falling in on the turns (srsly? the right is usually his good side), repeat arm yanking x 50 + one rather spectacular crow hop.
I am SO FREAKING SORE.
Bailed on my new year's eve plans because I couldn't move out of bed after my nap. Inhaled some codeine, broke out the heating pad, and went back to bed for a bit.
Now I'm just plain old cranky. Instead of drinking myself to oblivion, I spent the evening attempting to make an online photography portfolio. Not nearly as much fun.
Until today.
Stepped on my foot, kicked my bad knee in the process of moving said foot because I apaprently scared him when I shoved him off of me. I sucked it up and rode after that anyway. Nearly got my arms yanked out of their sockets, muscles of my right leg went numb from trying to keep stupid baby horse from falling in on the turns (srsly? the right is usually his good side), repeat arm yanking x 50 + one rather spectacular crow hop.
I am SO FREAKING SORE.
Bailed on my new year's eve plans because I couldn't move out of bed after my nap. Inhaled some codeine, broke out the heating pad, and went back to bed for a bit.
Now I'm just plain old cranky. Instead of drinking myself to oblivion, I spent the evening attempting to make an online photography portfolio. Not nearly as much fun.
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My horse has apparently decided it's a fun game to paw at and remove the lower levels of green electric tape separating his paddock from the horse's next to him, who is his friend. I found this out yesterday when the barn manager called me because we "had to talk" when I came out to the barn, as said horse has now broken said fence. So now I get to pay for and help install new wood fencing in between their paddocks. Hooray.
Horse, you are being even more expensive than usual. Did you want to continue being able to eat? Because I'm broke. Please stop breaking things. Like your face, since you now apparently have a HUGE Roman nose thanks to whacking your head on god knows what.
Horse, you are being even more expensive than usual. Did you want to continue being able to eat? Because I'm broke. Please stop breaking things. Like your face, since you now apparently have a HUGE Roman nose thanks to whacking your head on god knows what.
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Here's to hoping the worst day of 2012 was the first one :-/
I can't wait to start this new chapter in my life (vet school hopefully
), and leave the old one behind... including my 28 year old boyfriend that I moved from FL to NY for, who drinks like an 18 year old frat boy, tries to jump out of my truck at 50mph (he was mad we left the bar at 1am 
), keeps me up playing loud music until 6 this morning (until I had to get up to go to WORK), and then passes out on the stairs where he proceeds to piss himself as the dogs lick his face... and then I'm supposed to find him attractive later. 😍 Guarantee he won't wake up in time to put my traditional New Year's dinner in the oven, and there will be 15 hungry people showing up at my house later... when I get home from WORKING ALL DAY AFTER BEING KEPT UP ALLLLLL NIGHT! My life = AWESOME!🙄 👎 Time to get out! COME ON VET SCHOOL!!!!!
I can't wait to start this new chapter in my life (vet school hopefully
), and leave the old one behind... including my 28 year old boyfriend that I moved from FL to NY for, who drinks like an 18 year old frat boy, tries to jump out of my truck at 50mph (he was mad we left the bar at 1am ), keeps me up playing loud music until 6 this morning (until I had to get up to go to WORK), and then passes out on the stairs where he proceeds to piss himself as the dogs lick his face... and then I'm supposed to find him attractive later. 😍 Guarantee he won't wake up in time to put my traditional New Year's dinner in the oven, and there will be 15 hungry people showing up at my house later... when I get home from WORKING ALL DAY AFTER BEING KEPT UP ALLLLLL NIGHT! My life = AWESOME!🙄 👎 Time to get out! COME ON VET SCHOOL!!!!!- Joined
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Here's to hoping the worst day of 2012 was the first one :-/
I can't wait to start this new chapter in my life (vet school hopefully
Yeah... sounds like he has to go!!!
Just remember there ARE plenty of awesome dudes out there who would never do **** like this. I can't believe how little respect some people have for strangers - it boggles my mind that people show that much disrespect for their PARTNER! My god.
If i were you, i wouldnt be waiting til vet school to get out! His stuff would have been on the curb that morning lol.
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I think I'm going to have to get my head shrunk. I know I've been super stressed and had a ton on my mind, and that brings me down but I can probably handle it. It's the constant nightmares that are really messing with me. It seems like almost every night I'm having some horrible dream and so then I wake up and don't want to go back to sleep because I'm almost certainly going to go right back into the nightmare. I never understood why when you wake up from good dreams you can't just fall back asleep and start where you left off, but nightmares are going to stay with you all freaking night.
On top of that, last night sucked. Not that I expected any less. I had the opportunity to sit at home with my parents... When I was little, New Year's Eve was the best night of the year and my best friend's family and my family would get together and have the greatest time. Since we've moved away from each other, there haven't been any really fun or memorable New Year's Eve celebrations.
My now constant negativity is so obnoxious. I miss myself.
On top of that, last night sucked. Not that I expected any less. I had the opportunity to sit at home with my parents... When I was little, New Year's Eve was the best night of the year and my best friend's family and my family would get together and have the greatest time. Since we've moved away from each other, there haven't been any really fun or memorable New Year's Eve celebrations.
My now constant negativity is so obnoxious. I miss myself.
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Well unfortunately HE owns the house, and my closest family is 2000 miles away lol. The problem is that he is (and I know everyone says this) really an amazing person... until he drinks. He is more than I could ever ask for in a man and a best friend, until he drinks. And to me, the good times just aren't making up for the bad anymore. It's such a shame because even his closest friends have stopped asking him to come hang out because they know how he gets. He has pretty bad PTSD from his combat tours in Iraq, and he has been going to counseling. I have definitely seen a HUGE improvement in our 4 year relationship, but its times like this that I he literally disgusts me. He said some pretty hurtful things to me last night that he can really never take back, and I'm just trying to stay sane until I can pack up basically our entire house (and 3 animals
) and just go. I have no where to go for now, so I am waiting to here from schools and leave it all behind. If I don't get into school this year, I am planning on moving back to FL this summer. Such a shame, because he is such an amazing person when he doesn't have the alcohol to make him crazy. And he doesn't drink very often, but when he does, he more than makes up for it! 🙁
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Well then that can be your resolution... finding the positive in everything! 🙂
You could have been out in a crowded, dirty, bar with rude people, spending money and yawning until the ball dropped. 😴
Or you could have been preventing the person you love from jumping out of your vehicle at 50 mph lol.
You can look at your evening as a way to be thankful for even still having your parents around. Some people aren't that lucky and would LOVE to spend one more day with their parents. Cherish those moments.
I just found myself confused at what I'm writing, because I tend to be quite the pessimist myself lol. Just thought I would try to help 😀
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I know everyone says this too, and it's hard to hear but you need to take a hard line with him about the drinking. If he gets this way and hurts you verbally and through his irresponsibility, such as not getting the food going that he is supposed to today that is NOT HEALTHY and you are hurting yourself by staying.
Can you only stay with family? Do you have friends in NY who you could room with or couch surf? Is the only thing keeping you in NY him? If it were me, and he didn't follow up with a huge apology, got the dinner in on time, made up for what happened the night before and promised to turn over a new leaf/work on his drinking I'd be gone. I'd stay at a friends while I considered whether I still wanted the good with the horrendously bad. And even if he did make up for it, I'd have a frank talk with him about what he was doing and that it was going to cost him the relationship if it didn't improve drastically.
You deserve better. You have done so much for yourself in prepping and applying to vet school, don't shortchange yourself!
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He does always "make up for it" and apologize, but does an apology mean anything if you let it happen again? No. He knows what he does hurts me and I know that he genuinely cares that it does, but it is like a switch once he has one too many drinks. And like you said, all it does is end up hurting me. If that food is not ready I will throw a major fit, especially since its a dinner for HIS family! And the fact that he kept me up ALL night with loud music when he KNOWS I had to work this morning at 6am (Seems like I'm working hard doesn't it 😉), come home, have people over for dinner and a football game, just to wake up again at 5am tomorrow morning????? Come ON dude! Not to mention I am trying to take classes and keep myself sane through vet school decisions.
I do have a few friends here, but no one that will allow me to bring my dogs and that is a huge deal to me. His Aunt and Uncle actually offered to let me stay at their place and bring one of my dogs so I am thinking about taking them up on the offer. His family loves me and knows how he gets and they are very supportive so that's helpful. The main reason I have been staying is money though. And believe me I know money isn't everything, but when you are able to pay your bills every month, it makes life so much easier! I have a great job here and the thought of leaving that is daunting. Like I said, if I wasn't waiting for vet school decisions, I would have been gone already. But I do not have the resources, time, or mental capacity lol to move two times within a few months.
Luckily for me, everything is beyond wonderful when he doesn't drink, so it is a once in a while thing that I have to deal with it. So I am hoping to just get through it for now and start my life fresh in vet school 🙂. I have a feeling I will end up at his Aunt and Uncle's between now and vet school. I was in a GOD AWFUL relationship before this (Yes, 10,000 times worse... he ended up in jail after stealing and totalling my truck into a tree with the girl he was cheating on me with, on their way to buy cocaine with MY student loan money he stole). So I learned the hard way once, and won't let it happen again. My boyfriend now is nothing like that btw. I know I sound like one of those brainwashed bimbos, but he really is such an awesome person 99% of the time.
Thanks for your concern everyone, I wasn't expecting everyone to care lol... just wanted to get it out of my system. You guys are awesome, thanks!
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I am so tired. I haven't been sleeping well for the past month, my relationship with my BF is on the rocks, my bedroom and living room still have water damage, and my betta is dying 🙁
Last night was not fun. BF and I went to his friend's for a small house party. I didn't want to go because I was exhausted and cranky. I went anyway and it made me more sad. The 3 other couples there seemed to have such good relationships and they seemed to work together as a team. Not the case with mine. It is like we live 2 separate lives but sometimes our paths cross. I've tried to talk to him, we've been to counseling and a couples group but it is not getting better. I'm tired of being the only one trying. He tries for like a week when I threaten to leave and then it goes back to the same. I'm tired of it.
So when we get home last night I'm already not in a good mood and then my poor little betta, Merlin, takes a turn for the worse. He has been bloated for a couple of weeks now. I've tried everything but he is not getting better. He developed SBD 6 days ago and now has some grey around his gills. I've tried everything the vet suggested but nothing is working and I'm so frustrated. I will probably have to euthanize him 🙁
Finally, my bedroom and living room still have extensive water damage from the Christmas Day incident. Contractors will fix it by the end of January. In the mean time what furniture wasn't destroyed is in the dining room and it is crowded.
Thanks for reading my rant, hope it made sense I'm working on 2 hours of sleep. 2011 was not my year and 2012 is not starting off well. Maybe the apocalypse will brighten things up 🙄
Last night was not fun. BF and I went to his friend's for a small house party. I didn't want to go because I was exhausted and cranky. I went anyway and it made me more sad. The 3 other couples there seemed to have such good relationships and they seemed to work together as a team. Not the case with mine. It is like we live 2 separate lives but sometimes our paths cross. I've tried to talk to him, we've been to counseling and a couples group but it is not getting better. I'm tired of being the only one trying. He tries for like a week when I threaten to leave and then it goes back to the same. I'm tired of it.
So when we get home last night I'm already not in a good mood and then my poor little betta, Merlin, takes a turn for the worse. He has been bloated for a couple of weeks now. I've tried everything but he is not getting better. He developed SBD 6 days ago and now has some grey around his gills. I've tried everything the vet suggested but nothing is working and I'm so frustrated. I will probably have to euthanize him 🙁
Finally, my bedroom and living room still have extensive water damage from the Christmas Day incident. Contractors will fix it by the end of January. In the mean time what furniture wasn't destroyed is in the dining room and it is crowded.
Thanks for reading my rant, hope it made sense I'm working on 2 hours of sleep. 2011 was not my year and 2012 is not starting off well. Maybe the apocalypse will brighten things up 🙄
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I feel your pain. Do what is best for YOU. I'm pretty sure every man changes when you threaten to leave and then a few weeks later it's back to the same old thing. But the problem is that we threaten to leave and never do it. To them, they are empty threats and they don't have to worry about you leaving because you never have. Sometimes one person is trying more than the other and it just never gets better. I hope it's not the case for you, but don't sell yourself short either.
As for your beta 🙁🙁🙁. I'm sorry to hear he is not doing well. Sounds like you are doing your best to make him better. Take it one day at a time. Maybe he is just tired of your BF's crap too 😉
EL - Please get your boyfriend to agree to a rehab program while he's being sober and wonderful so that you never have to go through one of these situations with him again. People can and do become reformed drinkers/alcoholics. With the PTSD he really needs professional help on that score, too. Are you anywhere near the Corning area? If it gets really bad again and you need to leave quickly, you can come here (with dogs).
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That is very kind of you. Thank you. I am about 2 hours away (Syracuse area). He is currently in a program with the Veterans department here. It's weird because he doesn't drink often, but once he starts for the night, he won't stop until he's passed out somewhere. I am at my whits end with how else to help him. He will even watch terrible youtube videos of war casualties and chant cadences. I feel so helpless and sad when I see him hurting on the inside. I am planning on talking to him today when I get home from work. We've had the discussion in the past and every time it has gotten longer between incidences but I am always living on pins and needles wondering when the next time will be. And I have tried every way I can think of to stop him while he is in the middle of drinking like crazy, but it only makes him drink more and get insanely mean. It really breaks my heart to see him that way, and unfortunately he is always way too drunk to even remember how he acts.
I have thought about trying to get it on video so he can see what he acts like. He is usually humiliated the next day when he knows he acted that way, but I think a video of it would really hit home. Just debating how to get one without him freaking out even more at me. He is very aware it's a problem, but I feel like he doesn't take the necessary steps to avoid it. If I turned into a completely different person and hurt people I cared about when I drank alcohol, I would never pick up another drink as long as I lived.
Leaving the dogs bothers me so much because I worry he won't take care of them when he is wasted. Right now I am worried sick about them because he is still passed out on the stairs I'm sure, and they are probably needing to go out. My one dog is a bait dog rescue 🙁 who gets freaked out if a pine needle falls off the Christmas tree lol and he gets soooo frightened when my BF gets drunk and angry. He just pees everywhere and jumps into my arms (he is a mastiff mix at 90 lbs lol).
Anyway, I really do appreciate everyone's concerns and suggestions. I hope for his sake he can get it figured out soon.
It hurts me to see him like this. Seriously, thank you everyone. I really needed some support, sometimes I feel totally lost in this.
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Hi Emiloo,
If he is in a program, is there an emergency contact number for someone in the that he could share with you? It might be worth talking directly to the people in the program, too. While they won't discuss specific details of patients in their treatment, they may be able to give you some advice about what to do in such situations, and to provide some support for you too.
If he is in a program, is there an emergency contact number for someone in the that he could share with you? It might be worth talking directly to the people in the program, too. While they won't discuss specific details of patients in their treatment, they may be able to give you some advice about what to do in such situations, and to provide some support for you too.
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That is a really great idea. I know his psychiatrist's name and that he has called her a few times when he needs to talk outside appointments, but I have never thought about that! Thanks for the idea! I will look into that for sure! 4 years of this has not only worn on our relationship, but me as a person as well. You guys are the best! 🙂
EL - In my family of origin (the one I grew up in) there was alcoholism. I can say from experience of living with my alcoholic relatives that you are in a bad situation. I know it's very hard, but I would talk to him today while he's sober and remorseful and get him to agree to going to an alcohol program by a certain day (say, end of next week). Say you will go with him to support him. Say that you will leave if he doesn't straighten himself out with a professional program. If he says he'll go and doesn't go, then you should leave. You can PM me and I'll give you my phone number so you can call me and have a place to go that is 2 hours away by car (do you have your own car). I have room for your dogs to come with you. You can then take it from there. I'm serious that you are in a downward spiraling situation. It can go on for years and years. I know you are attached to him and have a life together, but you are young and can move on from here. If he does what he should, all the better and you can stay and work on this together. He needs to know, while he's sober, that this is his last chance or you're gone. You will be okay if you leave (actually, way more okay than if you stay without his getting help).
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You are very right and I am thankfully not blinded by the situation like so many people tend to be in their relationships. I have very much so made the decision (and I stick to my decisions) that this is definitely his last chance to get help. I'm not the person that wants to "save" people and it is not something I intend to do. My self worth is more important than our relationship and I am strangely ok with the fact that this is most likely ending. It's been a wonderful 4 years and I will always wish him the best, but there is nothing more I can give to this relationship. I have nothing left, he took it all. Some people will see me as "running away" from something I couldn't handle (his PTSD), but those people have NO CLUE what I have been through. He forgets that I had to sit through the 13 month Iraq deployment too. He isn't putting in the effort that HE needs to put in, and after 4 years, enough is enough. You can't help someone who doesn't want to help himself.
I know that I will be ok (eventually) if I leave, because I have been through much worse, and I consider myself a strong person in my ability to handle these things. It is never easy but I learned the hard way that the most important person is me, and my happiness has to come before anything else. I will keep your offer in mind and can't tell you how appreciative I am of a perfect stranger offering me (and my babies) their home. I just hope to hear some good news soon and be on my way to the life I've been dreaming of since I was 8! 🙂
Thank you thank you thank you. COME ON VET SCHOOL!
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I cannot reschedule my GRE test. I just got the confirmation number via email this morning but I need 3 days notice in order to reschedule OR cancel. I do not know what to do! I will try calling the number but it was closed for the holidays when I tried again. I am also sick. I don't even know if I can make it out of the house in two days time to write it. I am freaking out.
I cannot get a hold of anybody because of the darn holiday. I do not know whether it is worth emailing them or not.
I cannot get a hold of anybody because of the darn holiday. I do not know whether it is worth emailing them or not.
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