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Good to know 🙂 Similar to cats; I think my cats would do well singly if I was home more but since I'm away during the day I think they do better together.
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I think I have a gnarly cold. I have to fly on Sunday for an interview Monday. My sinuses and ears are totally clogged, and the lymph nodes in my neck are swollen. Flying is going to hurt.
In the words of Dr Horrible: "Balls."
In the words of Dr Horrible: "Balls."
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I really really really dislike this class. It's mostly the professor. We started the morning with an awesome lecturer and then immediately followed her up with the worst lecturer in the school.
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6 minutes left. Not that I'm counting.
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Now I wanna know who you are talking about...
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My favorite local rescue had their mail boxes lit on fire last night. Who would do that? What is wrong with people?
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We went from horse lady to "two thumbs up"
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This is seriously eating my up. I must vent.
Last night my very tight knit community lost a 19 year old kid due to a HEART ATTACK! He was a good kid, stayed out of trouble and was always willing to help. His useless **** of a mother though drank, partied an did hard drugs throughout her pregnancy and he was born with FAS and serious heart and brain defects. He grew into a relative normal boy (after countless surgeries) who was liked by all. However, his mother's disgustingly selfish actions dealt their final hand last night. At least that's how I see it. It sickens me and I feel terrible for his grandmother and uncle that raised him.
Last night my very tight knit community lost a 19 year old kid due to a HEART ATTACK! He was a good kid, stayed out of trouble and was always willing to help. His useless **** of a mother though drank, partied an did hard drugs throughout her pregnancy and he was born with FAS and serious heart and brain defects. He grew into a relative normal boy (after countless surgeries) who was liked by all. However, his mother's disgustingly selfish actions dealt their final hand last night. At least that's how I see it. It sickens me and I feel terrible for his grandmother and uncle that raised him.
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This makes me feel a lot better! I hoping that it works the same way for me next year 🙂
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Urgh 🙁
I spent part of my life in a sketchy trailer park. There was a kid living there with FAS who was famous in the community because of his delinquency. I ran into him at a hockey game a few years back. He kicked the back of our seats and then got kicked out by security.
My babysitter knew the family so I ended up at their house once. Now that I think about it, it was very sad. The rooms were bare. His little sister was so sweet. But the mother was an alcoholic that was far gone.
People suck. 🙁
I spent part of my life in a sketchy trailer park. There was a kid living there with FAS who was famous in the community because of his delinquency. I ran into him at a hockey game a few years back. He kicked the back of our seats and then got kicked out by security.
My babysitter knew the family so I ended up at their house once. Now that I think about it, it was very sad. The rooms were bare. His little sister was so sweet. But the mother was an alcoholic that was far gone.
People suck. 🙁
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My SO's brother has FAS. I try to forgive his mom for the mistakes she made 30 years ago, but it's hard sometimes. Especially bc she's still a piece of trash (separate from the FAS issue) and I just can't like her. Not a single person in their family can be in her presence. But I digress.
Sorry to hear that 🙁
Sorry to hear that 🙁
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Mebbe... mebbe... mebbe... vell I dun know.
I want to hug him sometimes, but his lectures are mostly SDN time for me.
Wait, we are talking about different people - woops.
I would probably hug that one too. He'll be good during clinics, I bet...
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I don't think we are talking about the same people. You don't really see him in clinics.
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Piggies are social creatures and I'm sure most prefer to have a companion. I adopted Rosie through a rescue as an adult and apparently they tested her with a few other piggies and she doesn't play nice! Rosie has seemed to do fine on her own ... though I make sure to give her attention daily so she doesn't get lonely all by herself 🙂
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as a general rule more piggies = more happiness, but some of them for sure prefer to be only pigs. i have a pig who prefers to be an only piggie - she bit and tortured the pair of fosters i had a few years ago (and those girls were housed separately and completely out of sight!). i think they can also do just fine if they get plenty of love and attention from their pet parent(s)
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It's a good thing I already got into vet school and my undergrad GPA doesn't matter anymore because my calculus class is STUPID. I got an 11/20 on this last quiz, but I should have done a lot better than that. Multiple choice is a stupid way to test math. There were about three problems where I worked it out correctly but the answer was formatted differently (and non-intuitively) so I got it wrong. Also, he's making us use Mathematica for our homework without teaching us anything about it. I haven't actually tried yet, but it looks really complicated and is going to take way too much time.
And I have to start actually writing my thesis...why do we have to start by writing 15 pages? Wouldn't it make more sense to start with shorter drafts, like 5 pages, to make sure we're on the right track? But no, the 5-page drafts come later.
All the classes I actually have to take suck. The other ones are awesome except that they give me work which takes time from this nonsense.
And I have to start actually writing my thesis...why do we have to start by writing 15 pages? Wouldn't it make more sense to start with shorter drafts, like 5 pages, to make sure we're on the right track? But no, the 5-page drafts come later.
All the classes I actually have to take suck. The other ones are awesome except that they give me work which takes time from this nonsense.
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What are you doing your thesis for?
I did a thesis for a 6-credit course that gave me the fancy title of Honours after my BSc. That's basically how it went for me. I would write until my advisor wanted to see it, make a bazillion edits and keep on going.
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It's a senior seminar in psychology. We meet once a week and have several drafts due throughout. The first one is two weeks after we turned in our paragraph describing our topic, one week after we got that back, and is 15 pages. The rest are like 5 pages each. I need one more 300-level credit in psych and I need a capstone for honors forum, so I have to do this class.
In other news, I HATE mathematica and I hate my calc professor. I never learned this, I do not speak this language and I haven't had a chance to start my thesis yet because I've spent all night trying to figure this out. I can tell it would be super easy if I'd actually LEARNED it!
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Floating on cloud nine with its silver lining and all 🙄, finance just brought that all crashing down in a fire ball.
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Boyfriend never wished me a happy Valentine's day today. And he very nearly forgot about my birthday too. It wouldn't be a big deal, except that he prides himself on being able to remember all his friends birthdays without ever writing them down. So the fact that he had to be reminded about mine stung a bit.
He did, however, take the time to text me today to inform me that he ate a lot of Mexican and Cajun food while I was away this week, and to apologize in advance for his farts. 🙄
He did, however, take the time to text me today to inform me that he ate a lot of Mexican and Cajun food while I was away this week, and to apologize in advance for his farts. 🙄
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That's pretty bad. Did he at least wish you good luck on your interview?
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Sort of? He texted me good luck as I was boarding the plane Tuesday morning, but that was it. Not really surprised about that though, considering he's not exactly thrilled about the possibility of me going off to vet school and leaving him behind.
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Even if he isn't too happy about that, he should still hope for the best for you since that's your dream. Someone doesn't have to be as happy about something as you are to still be supportive.
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Yes! SO said the other day that he's fine with me neglecting him for 4 years as long as I am doing what I love (said he prefers that to me living in a cardboard box...). That made me
Side rant: Classmate who joined my year midway called the new grad students stupid and insulted them, saying their comments on the science papers are stupid and how he wishes he was taking journal club class with my year. Some/most of the things he says makes me want to smack him but I need to stay cordial as I will probably need to teach with him...😡
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Yes! SO said the other day that he's fine with me neglecting him for 4 years as long as I am doing what I love (said he prefers that to me living in a cardboard box...). That made me
Vet med... where you can both do what you love AND live in a cardboard box 😛
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does that part exist? I'm sooo ready to be done and graduate
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Just kidddingggg he knows.. I don't think he's thought about it much though. You know how boys are 😉 Hoping the income he pulls in will bring us to the storage container range though.
I should soooooo be studying.
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My face is getting raw from having to blow my nose so much. Ouch. Also cannot fall asleep because of irritation in my throat and random bouts of nose-fauceting.
Perhaps I'm living in a dream world, but I don't think so.There are supportive, courageous guys willing to go that extra mile for someone they care about. They're not easy to find, yet they do exist. However, what I'm reading here and seeing with many classmates, is that strong and confident women are settling for guys that are far beneath them, and it's disheartening.
Your SO should remember your birthday because he enjoys celebrating YOU and he should acknowledge you on valentines day because there isn't a female on this planet that makes him as happy with himself as you do. A guy that ignores you on either "holiday" is a guy that doesn't deserve to have awesome you! 😍
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I don't think it does...
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I spent 3.5 years with a guy who never got me a present (or anything) on my birthday.
He also refused to tell me when he was coming home from being away at school. I'd text him to see when I can expect him back and he'd be back in town, at his friend's house playing video games.
There are better guys out there!
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Yeaaahh, mine never got me anything for Christmas this year. He didn't know what to get me, so he just didn't do anything. At all. I mean, I'm not a materialistic person, I would have been thrilled with a nice home cooked meal. 🙄 Even worse, it was the first time we were exchanging gifts with each other, and I went waaaaay out of my way to find the perfect gift for him. I'm not holding on to any hopes for a nice birthday/valentine's surprise when I see him tonight, either.
I know he genuinely cares about me, I see it in the little day to day things he does. But on those special occasions when it would be nice for him to go the extra mile, he doesn't. 🙁
Agreed. 👍 He was very supportive . . . until I actually started applying. Now the further I get into the admissions process, the more uncomfortable the subject gets between us. Which sucks because, as we all know, this process is incredibly stressful and it helps to have someone to rant/vent/cry to when things get overwhelming, and I can't do that with him. But that's why we have SDN.
I feel like I've painted my boyfriend as this absolutely horrible human being because of the way I tend to rant about things on here. He really does truly care about me. He definitely has his faults, and our relationship could certainly be better, but he is a good guy at heart. 🙂
BlackDog17, no, you're a good girl at heart. He, on the other hand, doesn't deserve you. Are you going to allow yourself to think that there is not a single item in a store that you wouldn't have appreciated and enjoyed? Vet students notoriously do without while they're getting their DVM that it's simple to buy them something. If you're not a jewelry person, you hate clothes, dispise art, don't enjoy scents, there's food - glorious food. A truly GOOD guy would have searched to find something special to give you. It's not the dollar amount, it's the thought that counts. He failed when he gave up and gave you nothing. I'm sorry, but it's impossible to rationalize that you don't enjoy anything and there's absolutely nothing you can use. I degress.
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Yeaaahh, mine never got me anything for Christmas this year. He didn't know what to get me, so he just didn't do anything. At all. I mean, I'm not a materialistic person, I would have been thrilled with a nice home cooked meal. 🙄 Even worse, it was the first time we were exchanging gifts with each other, and I went waaaaay out of my way to find the perfect gift for him. I'm not holding on to any hopes for a nice birthday/valentine's surprise when I see him tonight, either.
I know he genuinely cares about me, I see it in the little day to day things he does. But on those special occasions when it would be nice for him to go the extra mile, he doesn't. 🙁
Agreed. 👍 He was very supportive . . . until I actually started applying. Now the further I get into the admissions process, the more uncomfortable the subject gets between us. Which sucks because, as we all know, this process is incredibly stressful and it helps to have someone to rant/vent/cry to when things get overwhelming, and I can't do that with him. But that's why we have SDN.
I feel like I've painted my boyfriend as this absolutely horrible human being because of the way I tend to rant about things on here. He really does truly care about me. He definitely has his faults, and our relationship could certainly be better, but he is a good guy at heart. 🙂
This may seem silly, but have you brought up your feelings on this to him?
I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years in March or April, we've never given gifts for holidays, anniversaries, or birthdays. Neither of us want to celebrate our relationship that way, and we're happy with that. If you do want to celebrate your relationship that way, you may just need to give him a heads up...he needs to know he can't take you for granted, good girls don't stay around forever!
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BlackDog17, I'm sure he is a nice guy but to flake out on TWO holidays and your birthday. If he didn't want to buy you anything because Valentine's Day is too materialistic, he could have at least made you something saying that you were awesome. Alternatively, like parula said, if you didn't make it clear what was good for your relationship maybe the lines just need to be colored in a bit.
As for me, I totally failed on the V-Day front this year. I didn't send my boyfriend anything, not even a card and he made me cookies from scratch.
As for me, I totally failed on the V-Day front this year. I didn't send my boyfriend anything, not even a card and he made me cookies from scratch.
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👍 BF and I are the same way (and almost 5 years, too) - we just don't really do gifts or holidays that way. It's something we discussed from the get-go, though, so a conversation is definitely in order!
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I agree with this. I personally don't desire gifts, but I appeciate some acknowledgement, even if its just a sweet text message. A dinner or just special time together is prefered!
I think the difficulty of gifts is that I don't want to GET something. I want to MEAN enough to him that he wants to show me that me I'm special. And if I make a big deal about gifts, then I will just feel like he is getting me something because I want him to get me something.
I agree though, BlackDog, its not worth being with someone who doesn't encourage you to be all you can be and celebrate your greatness. This process is so hard and soul eating... and can be really straining on relationships as well. You need what you need to make you successful at your goals and not have someone whose not supportive weighing you down.
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Urm... I've been with my partner 2 years... I know he thinks im the most amazing woman on this planet... but guess what?! HE DIDNT EVEN SAY HAPPY VALENTINES DAY TO ME!!!! 😱😱😱😱
Clearly I should dump his sorry ass cuz doesnt he know he should buy me ****?!
Sorry bulldog, both your posts come off as materialistic and high maintanence. I couldnt give a rats hairy behind whether or not he buys me something for valentines day... or my birthday... or christmas... and he knows this. Its our style. I would much rather he recognise that he should put some cider in the fridge for me when im on my way home from surgery rotation at 8pm. And he does. The point im making is everyone has different expectation for how relationships should play out, and those expectations need to be communicated. I don't think its good enough that you should just expect to be bought something because the calendar hit a certain date. And whats more, I think it means so much more when he buys you something when its NOT a certain date.
Valentines day isnt even actually a holiday FFS.
Blackdog, I would be far more worried about him not really supporting your vet school endevours than not getting you something for valentines day. But thats just me 🙂
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I'm devastated for my mom and her dog (who is very much "the family's dog"). I love veterinary medicine and it's the only career I've ever wanted to have, but her vet has done some horrific things over the past two weeks to this big loving pup. Simple surgery left him looking like his face was stuck in a blender and a week of "monitoring" at the clinic left him worse off than ever (no pain meds, no antibiotics, incisions infected and necrotic).
After having some terrible experiences with that vet, I took my personal dogs elsewhere. Out of some sense of loyalty, she stayed and now her baby (the sweetest dog you'll ever meet) is FUBAR. Basic standards of patient care and maintenance were ignored over and over again. :cry:
Thankfully she finally let me take him in to the vet school on Thursday, and now he's on the road to recovery. His incisions dehisced, which have required multiple procedures to debride and close, and he will need corrective surgery for the initial procedure as well. This vet has reminded me of the doctor I NEVER want to be. I hope the big pup gets to go home today to his very worried momma.
After having some terrible experiences with that vet, I took my personal dogs elsewhere. Out of some sense of loyalty, she stayed and now her baby (the sweetest dog you'll ever meet) is FUBAR. Basic standards of patient care and maintenance were ignored over and over again. :cry:
Thankfully she finally let me take him in to the vet school on Thursday, and now he's on the road to recovery. His incisions dehisced, which have required multiple procedures to debride and close, and he will need corrective surgery for the initial procedure as well. This vet has reminded me of the doctor I NEVER want to be. I hope the big pup gets to go home today to his very worried momma.
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Overreaction much?
I think the whole point of the post is that if a guy not acknowledging you on special occasions bothers you enough that you have to let everyone else around you know about how crappy you feel, maybe you should think about why you are dating that guy.
I used to rant about the same things, but it went much deeper than presents and cards. He was super naive. He lacked empathy over why anything like that would upset me. He would never look at my side of things. It ended up carrying over into bigger things and ultimately ruining our relationship. It got to the point where he refused to comprehend why it bothered me that he stayed up playing video games until 3am and and never ever went to bed with me.
It is not relevant to you because you don't get acknowledgement on Valentine's day but you both don't care. Kudos to you for making that choice about not caring and then not letting it bother you.
I hated that I was always the one doing the acknowledging. I went on eHarmony stating that I was looking for more romance. I found a guy who got me a Valentine's Day card and planned my birthday for me. I'm happy. He's happy. My friends are happy because am I not ranting about how I spent 3 hours hand-drawing him a birthday card and he responded by not even offering to pay for dinner on my birthday.
Wanting to be acknowledged does not make me shallow. Just like you not wanting to be acknowledged does not make you a settler. People value different things in relationships.
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Personally, I don't like most holidays, but I sucked it up and learned how to play the game with my last girlfriend. Even though I did take her out frequently and did a lot of things for her to make her life easier from help with car troubles to helping her with her work, she seemed to appreciate gifts more than the little things. Being someone who doesn't enjoy things as much as he enjoys people and doing things together like cooking, traveling, or starting projects, it was a reality check to learn the art of "gifting". What I never understood was the idea that getting someone a gift like jewelry was a sign that you thought of them and chose something for them personally, but doing other things like cooking a big meal, baking a cake, or driving her 2 hours away to take her to see one of her favorite bands on a surprise road trip aren't considered as personal?
Ok, I'm done. That's my rant.
Ok, I'm done. That's my rant.
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See? People are different.
I love homemade gifts. You don't have to buy me something. Make me a card. Make me dinner. Make me cookies. Take me to do something special that we will both enjoy.
I am a poor university graduate. Because of that, I can understand that money is not everything.
I love homemade gifts. You don't have to buy me something. Make me a card. Make me dinner. Make me cookies. Take me to do something special that we will both enjoy.
I am a poor university graduate. Because of that, I can understand that money is not everything.
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👍 Don't assume all girls are like her (Don't we like to keep things complicated 😉 ). I would much rather a home cooked dinner or seeing I band I like than some necklace I'll rarely wear or flowers that die. For me (and it sounds like a lot of other girls on the board), gift items are way over rated and thoughful gestures are much more appreciated!
Its nice to hear a male perspective! And you also emphasize what some others have pointed out- its important to have a conversation on what you expect on these types of occasions. If neither party cares if they acknowledge it, great. But if you really hope for something, it should be communicated that you want to celebrate the holidays so that your partner knows what you expect.
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