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Swimming can definitely be tough on you from a cardio standpoint. I used to swim competitively and some of those events would leave me winded for quite a while.

But this whole ordeal has made me wish human med was more like vet med. I still have never seen a cardiologist and that's the next step. A radiology tech/nurse did my echo, which is totally fine but I wish we had a discussion about results the same day. I just think it's dumb. Goodness knows when I'm actually going to get a chance to see a cardiologist with my schedule.
Yeah, human med is so frustrating sometimes! I've heard of doctor to doctor courtesy when it comes to appointments...they might be willing to talk to you during their lunch hour or something (if you actually get one)? When a vet I worked with was having health problems, she used to eat her lunch during her appointment while her doctor was also eating his lunch with her 🤣
 
Yeah, human med is so frustrating sometimes! I've heard of doctor to doctor courtesy when it comes to appointments...they might be willing to talk to you during their lunch hour or something (if you actually get one)? When a vet I worked with was having health problems, she used to eat her lunch during her appointment while her doctor was also eating his lunch with her 🤣

Hahahaha lunch. I get an actual lunch break every couple of weeks when I'm on electives but that's about it. Anytime I actually try to sneak away to eat lunch when I'm on in patient ER, they seem to sense it and call me directly to take something off the board.
 
Tired of the daily headaches. Wondering if I should start printing out my notes and studying from those instead... maybe not having to stare at my computer screen for 10+ hours/day would help.
 
My school mailed my transcripts in to VIRMP on October 25th and they're still listed as "not received" on the portal. I contacted them and they said it can take 3-5 business days between arrival and updated portal. I'm just stressed about it because if it's lost in the mail I need to overnight another copy like today for it to arrive on time for the November 6th deadline. But I can't include the cover letter if I do it that way because the system is stupid. Plus I don't want to have to pay for it again. Ugh!

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My school mailed my transcripts in to VIRMP on October 25th and they're still listed as "not received" on the portal. I contacted them and they said it can take 3-5 business days between arrival and updated portal. I'm just stressed about it because if it's lost in the mail I need to overnight another copy like today for it to arrive on time for the November 6th deadline. But I can't include the cover letter if I do it that way because the system is stupid. Plus I don't want to have to pay for it again. Ugh!

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You're talking about lab animal right? I just had a total heart attack and I don't see anything about November 6 anywhere, except for some lab animal listings.
 
Tired of the daily headaches. Wondering if I should start printing out my notes and studying from those instead... maybe not having to stare at my computer screen for 10+ hours/day would help.
I used to get headaches constantly due to stress and tension. To try to get some relief, I 1) went to a doctor who gave me a medication (which ultimately didn't help), 2) got my eyes checked and it turned out my prescription had changed, and 3) tried relaxation strategies for facial muscles to relieve strain. Also, if you're taking any NSAID often, be careful because you're at high risk to developing an ulcer. And yes, I know that from experience unfortunately. Ultimately though, I learned to not let every little thing stress me out so much and my headaches are rare now.
 
Yeah haha sorry. The lab animal deadline is a month earlier just to keep my adrenaline levels high

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Thank goodness. I ordered mine anyway, since my third year grades are finally posted. Do you guys still find out in February?
 
My family is going to Disney World without me next week ... I have to unfollow my mom on facebook so I don't have to look at all of their pictures 🙁

I guess a little backstory: my mom is remarried and has a 9 & 7 year old with my step dad. She has a "new family" of sorts. I'm 23 so it's kind of an awkward situation looking from the outside in. They could have easily waited until next month to go (there was really nothing stopping them from doing so, no schedule conflicts), but apparently they REALLY didn't want me going, so they chose a time while I was still in school. thx mom +pity+
 
My family is going to Disney World without me next week ... I have to unfollow my mom on facebook so I don't have to look at all of their pictures 🙁

I guess a little backstory: my mom is remarried and has a 9 & 7 year old with my step dad. She has a "new family" of sorts. I'm 23 so it's kind of an awkward situation looking from the outside in. They could have easily waited until next month to go (there was really nothing stopping them from doing so, no schedule conflicts), but apparently they REALLY didn't want me going, so they chose a time while I was still in school. thx mom +pity+

I know that feeling. Here, have this.
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My family is going to Disney World without me next week ... I have to unfollow my mom on facebook so I don't have to look at all of their pictures 🙁

I guess a little backstory: my mom is remarried and has a 9 & 7 year old with my step dad. She has a "new family" of sorts. I'm 23 so it's kind of an awkward situation looking from the outside in. They could have easily waited until next month to go (there was really nothing stopping them from doing so, no schedule conflicts), but apparently they REALLY didn't want me going, so they chose a time while I was still in school. thx mom +pity+
I feel your pain, my parents have gone on three cruises without me. One of which was during my birthday.
 
I have a dairy allergy that causes my esophagus to tighten, so I obviously avoid it as much as possible. Well, on Monday, I got a hot chocolate and totally didn't realize it was made with milk until I was almost finished with it. I didn't even think to ask to make it with soymilk. My throat tightened and it's just now getting back to normal. Allergies are dumb.
 
My school mailed my transcripts in to VIRMP on October 25th and they're still listed as "not received" on the portal. I contacted them and they said it can take 3-5 business days between arrival and updated portal. I'm just stressed about it because if it's lost in the mail I need to overnight another copy like today for it to arrive on time for the November 6th deadline. But I can't include the cover letter if I do it that way because the system is stupid. Plus I don't want to have to pay for it again. Ugh!

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Man, sounds just like VMCAS! 😛

They could be doing what some of the schools I applied to, and not do anything like updating the portal until the due date. Sucks for everyone applying and worried about getting their stuff in alright, but it might be easier for whoever is in charge of that to do it all at once.
 
I feel your pain, my parents have gone on three cruises without me. One of which was during my birthday.
Lol there was that one time my entire family (sister's boyfriend included) went to DC while I was interning at a zoo and asked me to watch all of their animals. It stung a little extra because they never actually asked if I could rearrange my schedule so I could go, and it was something I definitely could have done.

Let's all just go on vacation now.
 
My dad lived three hours away from me and he, my stepmom, my younger sister, and two of my brothers came up for a weekend in my city to visit my other sister and didn't tell me.

I found out because my stepmom accidentally sent pictures to my mom instead of her friend (same first name).

They've done that twice more and called me the day they were leaving.

I feel you guys in being left out of family trips.
 
Sister is trying to set up a big extended family vacation. She posted a potential spot on Facebook (big cabin on a lake) and I checked it out and on the website it states "pets considered." As in, it's possible I could bring the dogs, which would just be a blast. So I commented on her post "Pets considered?! 😀", indicated I was excited about this prospect and hoped she would look into it further. Of course this sister doesn't have a dog or any pets, and her reply to my comment was "I personally vote no, I think having dogs there would just be too crazy." I'm so mad. I wasn't asking for a vote. She took zero consideration for how much it would make it easier for the dog-owners in the family to go on the vacation without having to board or find sitters, plus how fun it would be for the dogs. She would have zero responsibility for their care and my family is full of responsible dog owners who wouldn't let them "get crazy" in any sort of meaningful way.

I am so pissed right now. I had an argument with her in messenger about it and now it's well past midnight, I still haven't made my lunch for tomorrow, and I know I'm going to have trouble falling asleep now.

The bright spot of the day is that my transcripts were updated to "received" on VIRMP so at least I don't have to stress about that anymore.
 
My dad lived three hours away from me and he, my stepmom, my younger sister, and two of my brothers came up for a weekend in my city to visit my other sister and didn't tell me.

I found out because my stepmom accidentally sent pictures to my mom instead of her friend (same first name).

They've done that twice more and called me the day they were leaving.

I feel you guys in being left out of family trips.
What the heck.
 
Lol I'm just thinking of all of the things people in my family do without telling anybody else. After my grandma showed up to my mom's first wedding in full-blown funeral attire my mom elected to elope the other times she got married. My dad told his mother that he had gotten married by mailing her a coconut. There are tons of family trips that we all found out about on Facebook after the fact, or the couple of times I was told that I was the designated house/petsitter while they went on a vacation or something.

I'm not even close to bitter about it because it's their money and I'm never offended when my mom and my stepdad (or any other close relatives, for that matter) have the chance to have a fun time together regardless of whether I'm included. I'm old enough to watch out for myself and to recognize that my family isn't trying to actively exclude me from fun things even if they're doing fun things without me. Of course not every family is the same way (and my heart goes out to people whose families are maliciously keeping them out of activities), I'm just talking about mine specifically.
 
My family doesn't go on vacations ever, but my birthday is the most overlooked. My mom always makes dinner for our birthdays, I'm vegetarian and this year my mom forgot to make my dinner. As she was serving up the beef and Yorkshire pudding (which she put animal fat in) I asked "where's my dinner?" She just said "omg! I forgot!" Gee... thanks.
 
When good ol' Facebook inadvertently reveals that your sister has been trashing your family in 'New Mother' FB groups for not doing anything for her during her pregnancy/new baby time, but you actually cleaned her whole house, painted, and even just kept her company while you had one arm in a sling. I even spent each day for the first few weeks watching the baby so she could sleep. I talked to her and just said, "Hey, what I saw was pretty hurtful..." and received a slew of expletives and was told to take *my* stress out on someone else :eyebrow:. And to think she says my dad is the only toxic one in our family. For frick's sake. I do not need this right now. I can't shake the feeling that I can't do anything right, and this just added to that.

Why is it that relationships get rocky, family stuff comes up, and life is just generally more crappy when an exam is just around the corner? It'll be a miracle if my life comes out of vet school intact, it seems. 🙁
 
Glad it's not just me with the family drama. I took an extended nap since we got out of class so early yesterday, during which time my mom texted me asking me to call her. I did as soon as I woke up a few hours later, and everything seemed fine. she texts me 10 minutes later saying thanks for nothing, she's done with me, if I need anything better call someone else. she declinedid all of my calls and my dad had to text me to tell me to leave her alone. I asked him, my brother, anyone who had talked to my mom in the past hour and they all said she was literally fine 10 minutes ago and to just give her time. she still hasn't talked to me or answered me. FWIW this is what lead to my now deleted Facebook rant yesterday.

I'm pretty sure it's because I said I was going grocery shopping to which she responded, "I sure wish I could do that." oh boy.
 
Glad it's not just me with the family drama. I took an extended nap since we got out of class so early yesterday, during which time my mom texted me asking me to call her. I did as soon as I woke up a few hours later, and everything seemed fine. she texts me 10 minutes later saying thanks for nothing, she's done with me, if I need anything better call someone else. she declinedid all of my calls and my dad had to text me to tell me to leave her alone. I asked him, my brother, anyone who had talked to my mom in the past hour and they all said she was literally fine 10 minutes ago and to just give her time. she still hasn't talked to me or answered me. FWIW this is what lead to my now deleted Facebook rant yesterday.

I'm pretty sure it's because I said I was going grocery shopping to which she responded, "I sure wish I could do that." oh boy.
Seriously, message me anytime you need to vent. I've been through what you seem to be going through, and it's not easy. I really hate saying this, but sometimes cutting ties, even if temporarily, is best...not that I follow my own advice. You will make yourself physically and mentally sick trying to fix everyone else's problems while neglecting your own priorities and health. Honestly, just looking back on how things have been since I can remember (literally), sometimes a group (or pair) of toxic people just decide to pick one person to put the blame on. That one person is left running themselves ragged trying to fix everyone's ****. It's not your ****, rocky.
 
In case you decide to delete this I'll just edit it out now

I'm seconding the give it some space. You have enough going on without trying to deal with this on top of it.

That is horrible. The level of passive-agressive attitude being shown is immature, and so destructive It is not your job to look after your parents. Yes, family should try and help each other out at a hard time, but you are not individually responsible for them, and she should know that. You are also NOT the only person in that family. You are currently in school putting yourself into a lot of debt, a lot of debt with known difficulties paying it back. Asking you to put yourself into a even harder financial situation knowing that, and then being so cruel when you refuse, is emotionally abusive.

I'm sorry, but a mother telling her child "she's done with them" because they won't give them money shocks me. That is not okay. Honestly, a lot of the family situations people have shared on here have. As a few other people have said, if you need someone to talk to feel free to message me.
 
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Glad it's not just me with the family drama. I took an extended nap since we got out of class so early yesterday, during which time my mom texted me asking me to call her. I did as soon as I woke up a few hours later, and everything seemed fine. she texts me 10 minutes later saying thanks for nothing, she's done with me, if I need anything better call someone else. she declinedid all of my calls and my dad had to text me to tell me to leave her alone. I asked him, my brother, anyone who had talked to my mom in the past hour and they all said she was literally fine 10 minutes ago and to just give her time. she still hasn't talked to me or answered me. FWIW this is what lead to my now deleted Facebook rant yesterday.

I'm pretty sure it's because I said I was going grocery shopping to which she responded, "I sure wish I could do that." oh boy.
Some things to consider:
  • Your mother's concern about her financial situation is reasonable. Expecting you to be in charge of fixing it and then refusing to speak to you/sending you nasty text messages when you don't is not reasonable
  • Texting you those things is incredibly passive aggressive and hurtful on her part
  • Love, care, and concern are not and should not be conditional
  • Don't let your mom's family try to clear things up for her. This is her doing and apologies through the grapevine are not the apologies you want or need
  • I'm sorry you're dealing with that garbage right now
But seriously, there's nothing like quality family drama to really ruin a day. Speaking from experience it can really be productive to limit contact for a while when people act up like that, though of course that's all very context dependent.
 
🤣As expected, my mom later texts me with "What did you do now? Why is she so mad?" This has been my life. My entire life. It's always my fault. How is it possible to train a kid to manipulate her parents without realizing it? Even though my mom is finally starting to 'get it,' she still just lets it happen.

As a fed up sister would, I sent her screen shots that directly conflicted with the story my sister fed my mom. At least I'm 6 hours away so I don't have to worry about physical retribution...but it's really sad when she starts using her newborn daughter as a pawn to get her way and to get people to walk on eggshells around her. She's banned my dad from ever seeing her and she's already threatened my mom and I.

I have to wonder if she is completely aware of what she's doing, or if she really is that mentally foggy that she truly doesn't see it.

Fun times. Family is great, guys.
 
😱

I separated myself from toxic family life long ago. As soon as things start to go sour, I take a step back and focus on other things until it blows over. I'm still there for my brother and sister if they need me, but as far as my parents go, our relationship is pretty minimal.

It just makes me that much for thankful for my fiancé and good friends - the family I get to choose.
 
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I actually had a long talk with my older brother last night. His wife's pregnant and he didn't want my mom to know, so us siblings kept hush. She found out trough my grandma yesterday and he's trying to deal with figuring out how to keep my mom at arm's length. And I had to remind him that her behaviors aren't okay. That we as the family have shrugged it off for years because we were the only ones affected. But when us kids get married and have kids, it's our responsibility to protect those we care about.

And that "No" is a complete sentence.
 
I actually just got the new fancy RFID ones. Expensive but worth it to keep the monsters from eating each other's food 😀

Would you be able to send me a link? I have ones that are just timed and if they don't line up perfectly when they rotate, mayhem insues...lol
 
Would you be able to send me a link? I have ones that are just timed and if they don't line up perfectly when they rotate, mayhem insues...lol
Sure! It's this one.

ETA: Of course with this one, you do still have to provide the food (no big storage thing like some of them have). I refill them at night so I don't get woken up in the morning, and I think using the rotating feeders for a while somehow trained Cindy not to scarf all her food down at once and make herself sick, so that's no longer a problem for me at least. Obviously if you have kitties that need meal feeding this isn't the best option. I think there is another one out there around the same price that does that kind of thing, but I can't remember what it was called.
 
Ah, here's the other one. Honestly the only thing I didn't like about it was the size of the collar tag lol Plus if you feed wet food, which I will be doing soon, I'm not really sure how well this one would work. You wouldn't be using it to its full potential at least.
 
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I hate that my property management company didn't remove the stump from my patio. It was over a year ago that the tree split in two and they chose to cut it down. They didn't kill the stump so now every few weeks I have to remove the suckers that shoot up from the stump.... and throughout the flower bed....... and the cracks in the concrete.

If I wait too long (like I did recently because I was working long hours and having lung issues) the suckers get too thick to pull up or break down.

To make things even worse, it's a thorn tree.
 
Some things to consider:
  • Your mother's concern about her financial situation is reasonable. Expecting you to be in charge of fixing it and then refusing to speak to you/sending you nasty text messages when you don't is not reasonable
  • Texting you those things is incredibly passive aggressive and hurtful on her part
  • Love, care, and concern are not and should not be conditional
  • Don't let your mom's family try to clear things up for her. This is her doing and apologies through the grapevine are not the apologies you want or need
  • I'm sorry you're dealing with that garbage right now
But seriously, there's nothing like quality family drama to really ruin a day. Speaking from experience it can really be productive to limit contact for a while when people act up like that, though of course that's all very context dependent.

Well, it wasnt that she was texting me for money, but rather to vent. I did. she acted like everything was fine. she asked me what I was about to do and I told her, and she said bye and hung up. and then I got the text. I texted my dad at lunch and told him maybe it was best if we cut ties, and that I was willing to take on expenses. it was probably a bit emotionally charged and a little rude, but no one ever apologizes for doing it to me. my mom called me and made me feel bad for everything, leaving me to cry my eyes out in the parking lot. now I don't know what to do. my parents no longer want a relationship with me basically. they're sending any bills they help me with tomorrow. I'm on my own now, but honestly I think I like it better this way.
 
Well, it wasnt that she was texting me for money, but rather to vent. I did. she acted like everything was fine. she asked me what I was about to do and I told her, and she said bye and hung up. and then I got the text. I texted my dad at lunch and told him maybe it was best if we cut ties, and that I was willing to take on expenses. it was probably a bit emotionally charged and a little rude, but no one ever apologizes for doing it to me. my mom called me and made me feel bad for everything, leaving me to cry my eyes out in the parking lot. now I don't know what to do. my parents no longer want a relationship with me basically. they're sending any bills they help me with tomorrow. I'm on my own now, but honestly I think I like it better this way.

I think you are better off taking additional loans for any bills they help with and being 100% self-sufficient rather than having them try and guilt you into taking out loans to lend them money. At least the bills are limited by you and under your control, and won't whine for more money in a couple months, or hang **** over your head, or whatever. Bills are bills.

Take your parents out of the equation. Maybe they can be a part of your life eventually, but right now they are toxic. Cut out the crap and deal with what matters right now - focus on YOUR future. It's time for that.
 
Well, it wasnt that she was texting me for money, but rather to vent. I did. she acted like everything was fine. she asked me what I was about to do and I told her, and she said bye and hung up. and then I got the text. I texted my dad at lunch and told him maybe it was best if we cut ties, and that I was willing to take on expenses. it was probably a bit emotionally charged and a little rude, but no one ever apologizes for doing it to me. my mom called me and made me feel bad for everything, leaving me to cry my eyes out in the parking lot. now I don't know what to do. my parents no longer want a relationship with me basically. they're sending any bills they help me with tomorrow. I'm on my own now, but honestly I think I like it better this way.
I'm really sorry you are going through this right now. 🙁
 
I'm not even close to bitter about it because it's their money and I'm never offended when my mom and my stepdad (or any other close relatives, for that matter) have the chance to have a fun time together regardless of whether I'm included. I'm old enough to watch out for myself and to recognize that my family isn't trying to actively exclude me from fun things even if they're doing fun things without me. Of course not every family is the same way (and my heart goes out to people whose families are maliciously keeping them out of activities), I'm just talking about mine specifically.
Oh same, I am/was slightly bitter about them going off to Alaska during my birthday (mainly just a little sad that it was the first time I didn't get to see my parents at all on my birthday), but I wasn't really mad about it. I also give them a hard time about taking me with them to Europe when I was a year and a half old, so I don't remember it. 😛 All three cruises they've been on have been with other family members that happened to find a good deal, and I probably wouldn't have had a ton of fun if I'd gone anyway, because I would have been the only one my age there. (My siblings are much older than me and have their own families, so they go on their own vacations) During their first two cruises I was in school at the time, so I really couldn't have gone. And yeah, by now I'm old enough and financially independent enough that I'd feel a little guilty if they paid for me to go along on a big trip for no reason. Plus this summer I went on a three-week roadtrip without them, so there. 😛

Sorry for those of you going through family drama right now. 🙁 I'm really hoping my sister doesn't start drama at Thanksgiving or Christmas this year. Honestly I wouldn't be all that sad if she's not coming to Thanksgiving dinner. She got drunk and yelled at me over stupid nonsense during the 4th of July, and I haven't spoken to her at all since. Not that we talk much in general, but it would have been nice to get an apology at some point... She always tends to be the one to stir the pot in my family, but she's never screamed at me like that before, so it really hurt.
 
Hugs, @rockatiel. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this 🙁 that's so manipulative and not okay. If you ever need to talk, feel free to message me <3
 
@rockatiel hang in there. that's rough 🙁 you have lots of support on here though!
 
UGH. I have had the most awful past 6 weeks. Here goes a long rant.

I do something for myself for once- stand up to an ongoing workplace bullying issue, which entails me leaving my job. I've had random pet-sitting jobs here and there since then, but nothing steady so that's been a huge stressor.
My SO and I have been together for 8 years now, and the 7-8 year itch is REAL y'all. It's been rough anyway and add to that a financial stressor. He is supportive but there are definitely more stressors than there would be if I'd had a steady income.
Also began fostering for a local canine rescue. First 2 foster dogs were angels. The 3rd one we have currently and my own dog have gotten into 2 fights in the past couple days, resulting in an emergency vet visit for a cut eyelid, and a rDVM visit for puncture wounds.. I've cried so much. I feel like a horrible foster mom and an even worse dog mom. I don't know who or what is starting the scuffles, so I've had to keep them completely separated.
I know everyone who's past this stage will say, "oh don't worry, relax" but being in limbo re: vet school acceptances is insanely stressful. I am very much a planner and it is really bothering me not knowing where we will be going, assuming I even get in. My SO will be finishing his Masters and having to job hunt, but can't do much searching until we know where/if I get in. I feel like I'm being pulled in so many different directions- my family is pressuring me to come down to see them for every damn upcoming holiday, as it may be the last time we can do a 6-7 hr drive to see them in a long time. It's really not that easy to say, "ok sure, let me let all my job interviewers know i'll need Thanksgiving, Christmas, AND New Years off." I get where my mom is coming from but come on. Plus we'd have to find a pet sitter for the bearded dragon and turtle. Another thing to do and another expense.
At the wildlife sanctuary, the director backed into our relatively new vehicle, damaging the rear bumper. She has a multitude of personal issues and I'm trying to be sensitive to that, so I agreed to not go thru insurance to get it fixed. It's going to cost a few hundred to fix it at minimum which I know she doesn't have. I know it's not my problem, but I still feel guilty.

Anyway, things are finally starting to look better. I was able to find another foster to take Charlie, so no more foster dog fights to deal with.
I just got a job offer at animal control.
My SO and I went on a much needed date and talked over some drinks and calzones. The things a little communication will do!

Sorry, long rant full of complaints but I needed to vent!
 
to everyone going thru the toughs: HUGS!!!!!

I always have a free shoulder to cry on...

But hang in there.
 
🤣As expected, my mom later texts me with "What did you do now? Why is she so mad?" This has been my life. My entire life. It's always my fault. How is it possible to train a kid to manipulate her parents without realizing it? Even though my mom is finally starting to 'get it,' she still just lets it happen.

As a fed up sister would, I sent her screen shots that directly conflicted with the story my sister fed my mom. At least I'm 6 hours away so I don't have to worry about physical retribution...but it's really sad when she starts using her newborn daughter as a pawn to get her way and to get people to walk on eggshells around her. She's banned my dad from ever seeing her and she's already threatened my mom and I.

I have to wonder if she is completely aware of what she's doing, or if she really is that mentally foggy that she truly doesn't see it.

Fun times. Family is great, guys.

I'm a little late to this, but I can relate to this on so many levels. It's been my fault for my entire life. My mom has even gone so far as to blame me for ruining her life plans (she had me at 21, oops?). Some random person could jump off the empire state building and she'd find a way to twist it into my fault--it's that ridiculous.
 
I'm a little late to this, but I can relate to this on so many levels. It's been my fault for my entire life. My mom has even gone so far as to blame me for ruining her life plans (she had me at 21, oops?). Some random person could jump off the empire state building and she'd find a way to twist it into my fault--it's that ridiculous.
Glad I'm not alone. Message me whenever you want to have a mutual vent fest
 
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