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its so lonely moving thousands of miles away all by yourself.

my poor coping mechanisms are back in full swing and i need to learn better coping skills because i cannot..

revert back to binge eating. it ruined my life and kept me in a negative spiral for years. i cannot go back. i cannot go back.
Vamp, please feel free to PM me anytime. I just recently made a big cross-country move too, and it has been very hard on my mental health. Giving you a big hug.
 
Absolutely ridiculous. Hopefully they’ll recall the rest of that batch and provide you with a new bag or two free 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

Unfortunately, EVEN THOUGH I KNOW BETTER, I threw the damn bag away when I put it in their food container (metal, not plastic). There’s no way to identify the lot. Thankfully, we’re in the process of switching them to RC HP satiety so a refund would be sufficient. Makes me wonder though if the sudden bloody poop he had again was so much random colitis or if it was really an allergy reaction…
 
Absolutely ridiculous. Hopefully they’ll recall the rest of that batch and provide you with a new bag or two free 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼
Please make sure to reach out to your hills rep! We can help you with potentially getting a refund

I have the Minnesota’s rep contact if you need it
 
Please make sure to reach out to your hills rep! We can help you with potentially getting a refund

I have the Minnesota’s rep contact if you need it
Even if I’ve already reached out to Hill’s directly?
 
Update to my Hill's saga from earlier this month:

I just found a piece of unidentifiable kibble in my cat's *checks hand* novel protein allergy diet. He's been so much itchier recently and I think we just found the reason why. If they can't even keep their pet allergen food uncontaminated, I don't know how they think their pecan shells aren't contaminated.
i'm sorry that your cat is itchy :/ it's really frustrating all around.

i meant to reply to your update and totally forgot. the shells could still affect me. my allergies are kind of weird to the point i've thought of seeing a fancy specialist but haven't been able to afford it. basically i have classic allergy for cashews/pistachios (show up on skin test), but then i have oas (oral allergy syndrome) for most other nuts, which works a little different than standard allergies and won't show up on a skin test. it's more that my body confuses certain nuts for their tree/plant pollens; i also react to cucumber and melon. many folks with oas don't need an epi-pen and have somewhat mild reactions, and food is often considered safe once it's processed. i'm one of lower percentage of patients that has more severe reactions and requires an epi-pen, processed food is not much safer (except pickle soup seems okay?) and i'm particularly sensitive to when dust from nuts/particulate matter go airborne. i react to 'non-allergenic' allergens all the time.. like i'll still get hives with moisturizers/lotions that sneakily included nut shells. heck when i worked as a barista i used to have to go into the basement when someone ordered an almond milk latte to avoid the steam. it seems to have decreased in severity now that i'm in my 30s - particularly fruits/veggies - but the nuts are still pretty intense. and not for nothing, both melons and tzatziki sauce caused contact reactions bad enough that i had to quit two different waitressing jobs. so yeah, i'm kind of worried about pecan shells.

and disclaimer, i am kind of the grown-up kid that still eats reeses cups because i'm (magically) not allergic to peanuts so i certainly take my fair share of risks with cross-contamination, much to the concern of others around me. but this is one that i'm gonna be very wary about. i would contact hills to voice some concerns, but between two jobs and two countries and moving, i'm pretty spent. it'll be on my list though. i suspect they'd say that it's safe for the vast majority of people with allergies, which might be true, and that they can't make it safe for everybody, which is also probably true. but they could at least choose something that isn't more or less a byproduct of a top 10 allergen.
 
Unfortunately, EVEN THOUGH I KNOW BETTER, I threw the damn bag away when I put it in their food container (metal, not plastic). There’s no way to identify the lot. Thankfully, we’re in the process of switching them to RC HP satiety so a refund would be sufficient. Makes me wonder though if the sudden bloody poop he had again was so much random colitis or if it was really an allergy reaction…
Maybe they have the lot number on their end from when they sent it? Sometimes invoices have it?
 
i react to 'non-allergenic' allergens all the time.. like i'll still get hives with moisturizers/lotions that sneakily included nut shells. heck when i worked as a barista i used to have to go into the basement when someone ordered an almond milk latte to avoid the steam.
This is why I'm shook that they seem to think it's a non-issue. I grew up around people who had severe, life threatening allergies. I knew how to use my friends epi-pen in an emergency by the time I was seven. I was always taught to take allergies like that deathly seriously, because they are. I'm the kind of person who uses the same utensils we eat off of and measure with to serve our cats their food. Of course they get washed in between but all it takes is one time. And now with my cat's food not even being allergy safe for my cat, ugh. Hill's was my ride or die. Their food is really palatable and affordable compared to RC and Purina, but these two situations have given me serious pause.
Maybe they have the lot number on their end from when they sent it? Sometimes invoices have it?
I *might* have the invoice somewhere? I definitely don't see it in the online order receipt.
its so lonely moving thousands of miles away all by yourself.

my poor coping mechanisms are back in full swing and i need to learn better coping skills because i cannot..
I'm sorry I derailed things a bit this morning. I just want to reinforce and validate that moving cross country is hard. I had the support of my spouse and said multiple times that I could not imagine doing this on my own. You're doing something that a lot of people are never brave enough to do. I would take Battie and anyone else up on just hanging out; I got to spend some time with my classmates before school and meeting new people, while very intimidating, was very helpful. I'm someone who has struggled with both ends of the eating spectrum in my lifetime, so if you need an ear or a buddy, I can be one ❤️
 
l Hill's was my ride or die. Their food is really palatable and affordable compared to RC and Purina, but these two situations have given me serious pause.

Fwiw I have my picky old man cat on RC gastrointestinal hydrolyzed and he loves it. The price shook out about the same as Hills with their feeding program and buying the big bags.
 
Finally decided to find a new job and I'm super sad. But we're at the point where we can't practice safe medicine and I can't do this.
I’m really, really sorry. I’ve been following your situation and hoping it wouldn’t come to this, but have no doubt you’re making the right choice for you and your family. I’m still really sorry though. 😔
 
I always get migraines on Sundays. 🙁 I chill out a little on Saturdays from my stressful weeks and then get a migraine on Sundays. I think it's the stress because I always have an awful migraine the entire weekend after finals every semester.

It's a problem because I end up missing a whole day that needed to be spent studying. My insurance has been a pill (pun intended) about covering my triptan and this ibuprofen and caffeine I have used as a substitute just isn't cutting it.
 
just gotta make it to Washington, just gotta make it to Washington...

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Feeling blah and like I want to give up. Tore my acl last October. Had sx in dec. Stopped pt for 6 weeks after having the baby. Restarted pt. Now have painful plantar fascitis. Tried running 3 weeks ago and then i couldnt walk for 2 days after because of my foot. Just feeling like I'll never get back to a playing soccer/skiing/etc level at this rate. Feeling old. Feeling like maybe just having full rom back is good enough. Bleh. Off to pt I go.
 
Starting to lose sleep over moving for vet school. I hate packing, I hate moving. I'm grieving the life I could have had if I just got into my IS school.
The grief of moving is real. Embrace it and let yourself be sad, and remind yourself it’s not forever. Make a list of things you’re excited about for your new home and school, it won’t make it easy but it’ll help. Once you’re there, keep yourself busy and find little ways to beautify your new place!
 
Starting to lose sleep over moving for vet school. I hate packing, I hate moving. I'm grieving the life I could have had if I just got into my IS school.
There are a few of us on this forum affiliated with your program in one way or another who would be more than happy to welcome you to the area once you're here 😊 :biglove:
 
The grief of moving is real. Embrace it and let yourself be sad, and remind yourself it’s not forever. Make a list of things you’re excited about for your new home and school, it won’t make it easy but it’ll help. Once you’re there, keep yourself busy and find little ways to beautify your new place!
Will definitely do the list thing in between procrastinating my packing 🫡 it's hard when I am genuinely excited to start vet school things, but not wanting to leave behind childhood pets and friends that are moving back home from their undergrad
There are a few of us on this forum affiliated with your program in one way or another who would be more than happy to welcome you to the area once you're here 😊 :biglove:
Will definitely keep that in mind once I'm settled into cbus 🥹
 
Starting to lose sleep over moving for vet school. I hate packing, I hate moving. I'm grieving the life I could have had if I just got into my IS school.
This part is so real 🙁 It’s heartbreaking having to move 13 hours away from home when my IS school would have been a 30 minute commute. I’m trying to see this as a fun opportunity to live somewhere new for a few years but it’s so hard.
 
Will definitely keep that in mind once I'm settled into cbus 🥹

I'm also going to tOSU as an OOS! I've had to move across the country twice for school with no support/ connections and boy is it tough. I don't know if we're already connected on other socials but feel free to reach out if you want to meet up in the city or need any help settling in the meantime
 
Will definitely keep that in mind once I'm settled into cbus 🥹
another tOSU OOSer here 🙂 currently struggling to pack all of my things but without packing anything i’ll still need before i leave (like clothes for the next few days 😬). would also be happy to meet up once in cbus!
 
So I just came across this video and it enraged me to my core as it hit close to home. Given recent events such as the passing of the BBB I’m sure these issue will only continue to worse 🙃
 
There are a few of us on this forum affiliated with your program in one way or another who would be more than happy to welcome you to the area once you're here 😊 :biglove:
This offer goes for all of you tOSU people :biglove:
 
Currently realizing how alienating it is to be going through pregnancy as a moderately plus-sized woman, and I'm only 5 weeks in. My social media has been taken over by everything baby/maternity/post partum and I feel like I'm 15 again trying to find jeans I like that also come in my size.

I've found a few TikTokers that are being honest about their plus size pregnancies so that helps. It's just already challenging going into this with a body I've always hated and wanted to change, that is only going to get bigger and won't look like the cutesy 'baby bumps' everyone goes nuts for (and that maternity clothing is designed around). Some of the questions these influencers have been asked are insane ('Will you even show?' 'Does ultrasound even work on you?') so while seeing their clothing recommendations has been helpful, it's also given me a bit more to stress about.
 
This offer goes for all of you tOSU people :biglove:
Not me, wishing I’d chosen tOSU so I can hang out with Shorty 😉😉

In all seriousness, and since we’re ranting, Ohio State was one of my dream schools and I’d have been likely to choose it had the world gone another path in November. I even had a mentor I’d worked with who after my admission assumed I’d be accepting and asked “how’s my traitorous Buckeye?!” ….

He’s a bit of a disconnected white guy so he hadn’t connected the dots but was understanding nonetheless. He’s also a Penn Stater (like me), and said “yay Ohio State” through gritted teeth - hence the “traitorous”.🤣🤣🤣🤣

I suppose for me, it’ll forever be a white whale of sorts, screw the political landscape of this country for forcing my hand. Don’t get me wrong, I love UMN and I’m happy with my choice, but it doesn’t mean it doesn’t set my teeth on edge.

Also, please know I’m not implying for anyone going there that it’s unsafe, only that it felt unsafe for me, as an LGBTQ+/disabled person. I’m pretty risk adverse because that kind of stuff would quickly eat away at my health. Maybe life will be less scary in four years and I can meander there for internship or residency. 🥲

All this to say, ending my self-soothing rant …… and all my tOSU peeps, you’ve got an amazing school and I’m so excited to hear all about it!!!

From the last few posts alone, sounds like you’ve already got a great support network to fall into here. If you’re interested in end-of-life care/grief work at all, the Honoring the Bond Initiative is really cool. Check it out for Indy. 🥹
 
I cannot express enough how much worse social media was for me as a mom. Not just the actually pregnancy stuff, but then baby and toddler stuff. Now all I use for socials is SDN, Snapchat, and a few times per week Instagram. My mental health is significantly better.
I’m not a parent myself, but several close friends have experienced similar issues and gone your same route. For two separate close friends, one experienced miscarriage and the other had significant health anxiety, the algorithm was completely diabolical and would literally show them horrific content that magnified all their fears. Searched something on the internet? Well, now the algorithm is showing your fear. Stopped to read a sad story? Read about allllllll the stories now. They had to stop.

Social media can be a tool for good and for evil. As you’ve said, it’s important to know that nothing presented on there can be 100% trusted if posted by an influencer. Their job is to literally look like they have a perfect life - and they do NOT. It’s all fake.
 
I cannot express enough how much worse social media was for me as a mom. Not just the actually pregnancy stuff, but then baby and toddler stuff. Now all I use for socials is SDN, Snapchat, and a few times per week Instagram. My mental health is significantly better.
I deleted Twitter and Reddit bc I was being spammed with antivax content and people insinuating getting an epidural / c-section was “cheating” and hospitals are evil places.
 
I’m not a parent myself, but several close friends have experienced similar issues and gone your same route. For two separate close friends, one experienced miscarriage and the other had significant health anxiety, the algorithm was completely diabolical and would literally show them horrific content that magnified all their fears. Searched something on the internet? Well, now the algorithm is showing your fear. Stopped to read a sad story? Read about allllllll the stories now. They had to stop.

Social media can be a tool for good and for evil. As you’ve said, it’s important to know that nothing presented on there can be 100% trusted if posted by an influencer. Their job is to literally look like they have a perfect life - and they do NOT. It’s all fake.
There’s also a crazy amount of triggering m********** content and fear mongering that would drive anyone insane. A lady posted on Twitter ultrasounds contribute to m*********** bc “radiation” and I had to delete it.
 
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I'm also going to tOSU as an OOS! I've had to move across the country twice for school with no support/ connections and boy is it tough. I don't know if we're already connected on other socials but feel free to reach out if you want to meet up in the city or need any help settling in the meantime
another tOSU OOSer here 🙂 currently struggling to pack all of my things but without packing anything i’ll still need before i leave (like clothes for the next few days 😬). would also be happy to meet up once in cbus!
We'll have to have a big ol' SDN meet-up in cbus 🫶🫶 would love to make some new friends who are also moving further from home ^^
 
In all seriousness, and since we’re ranting, Ohio State was one of my dream schools and I’d have been likely to choose it had the world gone another path in November.

I know everything is relative for everyone and I don't blame you for choosing to stay up north (MN sounds lovely), but I will say that I have felt safer in columbus as an openly masc lesbian than most places I've lived, if that helps you feel more comfortable if life takes you here in the future.

Granted, I have also lived in rural areas of some of the reddest states in the lower 48 (ID, UT, WV and GA), so I have a high tolerance for contrasting politics, but my experience with cbus has been better than my experience in western/upstate NY. Ohio is purple by population and the people really don't reflect the state level politics, but the policies themselves are understandably a concern.
 
I know everything is relative for everyone and I don't blame you for choosing to stay up north (MN sounds lovely), but I will say that I have felt safer in columbus as an openly masc lesbian than most places I've lived, if that helps you feel more comfortable if life takes you here in the future.

Granted, I have also lived in rural areas of some of the reddest states in the lower 48 (ID, UT, WV and GA), so I have a high tolerance for contrasting politics, but my experience with cbus has been better than my experience in western/upstate NY. Ohio is purple by population and the people really don't reflect the state level politics, but the policies themselves are understandably a concern.
I appreciate your perspective, and it’s absolutely something I’ve heard before! I believe Columbus is great, and I know that no state is homogeneous.

Generally, my concerns are more about state policies and thus ongoing safety as a NB and autistic person. It’s more just me being incredibly cautious, and wanting to avoid any potential for bad actors at the state level to affect my education.

But again, I am also absolutely a risk-adverse person with this kind of stuff, and I made decisions more on the fact that the worry about state-level intrusion would significant harm my mental health, and thus vet school performance.
 
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and that maternity clothing is designed around
Slightly side topic but my coworker was always complaining about her generic nursing bras not being great. So just coming by to put in a plug for kindered bravely line of clothes. I found them on Amazon originally because I wanted a sports bra like bf/pumping bra. I love their stuff and they have a variety sizes including a plus size line and have a variety of top options. A little on the pricier side but imo totally worth it.
 
Slightly side topic but my coworker was always complaining about her generic nursing bras not being great. So just coming by to put in a plug for kindered bravely line of clothes. I found them on Amazon originally because I wanted a sports bra like bf/pumping bra. I love their stuff and they have a variety sizes including a plus size line and have a variety of top options. A little on the pricier side but imo totally worth it.
That's a brand I keep seeing! The size inclusivity alone had me sold. Nothing worse than seeing a size range of XXS-L, especially if that 'large' is not actually a 'large'
 
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That's a brand I keep seeing! The size inclusivity alone had me sold. Nothing worse than seeing a size range of XXS-L, especially if that 'large' is not actually a 'large'
I would say bras are pretty true to fit. I did get some of the bamboo nursing tank tops and would recommend sizing up 1 if you do any of those. My regular size fits fine but just hangs a little tighter than I personally prefer. But I'm sure they'll fit just fine as I continue to slowly drop baby weight. Plus I wear them under my scrubs so it doesnt matter. I haven't tried any of their regular shirts or pants though.
 
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